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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” & Which Former “Bachelor” Lead is Now Trolling Tinder?

It’s been a rough couple days for me, I have to admit. No, not feeling the effects of another birthday passing. Everything is fine health-wise, Maddie is fine, and things are great with the site despite the lackluster ratings Desiree’s season is pulling in. I found out I’m suffering from what is known in the medical world as I-Can’t-Believe-That-Dude-Knocked-Up-Jennifer-Love-Hewitt-So-They-Decided-To-Get-Married Syndrome. Not sure how many others in this world are affected by it, but it hit me hard on Tuesday when the news first broke that she was pregnant. Then to follow it up the next day with the cover story in US Weekly that they got engaged, well, that was just the icing on the cake. Because we all know, the smartest thing to do when finding out you’re pregnant, is to get engaged because, well, that’s the right thing to do. Considering how unlucky in relationships she’s been her whole career, this makes zero sense. I’m guessing this is not the way she planned it to go down considering how wife/baby crazy she’s been forever. After I post today’s column, it’s back to balling up in a fetal position through the weekend. At some point, I’ll get over it. Gimmie time.

Hey, whaddya’ know? Melissa Rycroft and I finally agree on something. She did this interview the other day with Yahoo! and I can honestly say, I don’t disagree with one thing she said in it. Granted, this is all stuff I’ve been telling you for years when it comes to this show, but, it’s always nice when people who went through it admit the same thing. Not to mention, this is someone who got engaged at the end, which is completely ridiculous. Enjoy…

A lot has been made about Desiree’s guys this year, and plenty of you have expressed your disappointment in the lack of quality guys her group seems to have. Well, fear no more. We’re only two weeks into the season, and the tabloids are just getting ramped up trying to dig out all the dirt they can on these guys. Lets take our good friend Brandon for instance. Apparently dude likes calling in bomb threats in his spare time. Brandon claims it was all a misunderstanding, but if the “National Enquirer” is reporting it, I firmly believe it. Usually the police aren’t too fond of it when you do that. I got an idea Brandon. Next time you’re at the airport, when you’re going through the security line, just start chatting up the person in front of you telling her you have explosives in your bag. TSA gets a kick out of stuff like that and they’ll probably join in. If they were able to dig that up about Brandon’s past, I can’t wait to see what’s next for some of these other guys. Or even Brandon for that matter.

I think it was in last week’s “Reader Emails” where someone asked me about doing a “Where Are They Now” for previous contestants. As I mentioned, I’m not really all that interested in these people once the show is over unless they happen to become acquaintances, so finding out what they’re up to doesn’t interest me much. If someone wants to know something that bad about what a guy or girl from episode 3 back 10 seasons ago is doing, I’d suggest a Google search. Have any of you been wondering what former “Bachelor,” Captain America, Doctor, and all around Humanitarian of the Year Andy Baldwin was up to and how his love life is going? Well, check out this email I got the other day:

From: <******>
To: “”
Sent: Tuesday, June 4, 2013 4:40 PM
Subject: Andy Baldwin on Tinder

Thought you might find this amusing.


Yes, I find that incredibly amusing. Maybe I’m just getting old, but I had no idea what Tinder was until about 2 months ago. If Andy Baldwin has to resort to Tinder to start trolling for some strange, then that makes me feel better about my single self. Is there anything more superficial, low brow, and just seedy than Tinder? So hey, if you’re in or near the DC area, go join Tinder and see if Andy Baldwin “accepts” you. And oh yeah, Jef Holm is on Tinder as well. At least he was for a while. I rest my case. Please ladies, anyone of you on Tinder, if you ever come across any former “Bachelor” contestants during your “search”, send them my way like this woman did. Hilarious.

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  1. bigfatwoman

    June 6, 2013 at 7:57 AM


    Sorry to hear your dream girl is off the market (for now). I hope you find the strength and resolve to find something to live for.


  2. randais

    June 6, 2013 at 10:23 AM

    Hahahahhahhaaahahhaa…good one BFW

  3. bzliteyear

    June 6, 2013 at 11:01 AM

    dude, JLH may have pretty face/upper body, but her lower body (esp legs/ankles) matches that of a 200 lb women(not being mean, but it’s accurate). importantly, as you highlighted, this woman’s known to be a head case w/ lots of baggage…good luck to her, but glad you’re better off for holding out 🙂

  4. JovisMom

    June 6, 2013 at 11:11 AM

    @ The last Dr Steve emailer – I am your boat exactly! My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 yrs, are talking marriage, and have never had a fight and when we do disagree it’s about silly things and doesn’t effect anything. I had the same reservations as you before but now I’m over it. Exactly what Steve said is the advise I gave myself. I had a past relationship where we fought like cats and dogs and that was no fun. This relationship is perfect! 🙂 Be greatful you have such a wonderful man. You have been through some trying times with him as well, if that didn’t start a fight then I think you are good. Good luck to you!

  5. lexie

    June 6, 2013 at 11:32 AM

    OMFG… that letter from the girl about the boyfriend in Reno had me tears from laughing so hard.

  6. mcchic

    June 6, 2013 at 1:41 PM

    Loooong (like years!) time lurker – first time commenter. To the person who sent the last Dr Steve email- I was in the exact same situation and we sound like we’re around the same age. I met my (now) husband and we dated very very seriously for a year before we got engaged. 8 months in he had already bought the ring (I had no idea) and he surprised me by proposing on our 1 year anniversary – married a year and a half later. I grew up with a very strict volatile father and my parents fought constantly and still do to this day. H and I.. never. We disagree on stuff – we’re not push overs. We get frustrated sometimes about minor things.. always seems to happen in a parking lot when we can’t find parking (he has the worst sense of direction) or deciding on what to make for dinner (he basically can only cook hot dogs lol). But a big blow out fight or even just yelling at each other? Nope. Not even during the stressful wedding planning days. We’re just very compatible. Also my H is extremely easy going, calm and non-confrontational. He was in 2+ year relationship before we got together and one of his ex’s issues was that he wouldn’t get mad at her!

    If your BF is the same – you should count your lucky stars that he is as I’ve seen both sides of the coin. I’d pick no fighting any day. Fighting does not = passion or normalcy. I think so often our in society we think if we’re not fighting the world is ending or the passion is gone! Quite the opposite! I KNEW from when I first met him that he was my lobster so maybe your worries about the lack of fighting stem from something deeper. If you have been living together and It. Is. Bliss. as you stated and you’re STILL on the fence? Maybe he is not “the one” and you’re too afraid to admit it! Good luck

  7. goose

    June 6, 2013 at 2:47 PM

    Again, to the person who sent the last Dr. Steve email – don’t worry about it!! I would have to say my situation is identical to @mcchic’s. My fiancé and I have been dating for three years and got engaged this past March. We have never had a fight. We are incredibly similar (our ‘myers-briggs’ personality types are identical, let alone they’re the most uncommon type) and I truly believe I would never find ANYONE that ‘gets’ me as much as he does, and vise versa. There are small things we disagree about – ie: which way the toilet paper roll goes on the holder and how many times a day the dishes need to be done – but we have never had a ‘fight’ and I really don’t believe we ever will. Sure we both get angry sometimes but it’s usually just a small issue and we never take it out on each other. I have dated guys in the past who will push my buttons or I’ll push theirs, and we just don’t do that! We know when to say something and when to back off, and we are happy as could be! Maybe there are other reasons why you’re having reservations, but if the lack of fighting is the only thing holding you back.. you should be grateful that ‘not fighting’ is your only ‘issue’ – embrace it (and him)!!!!!!!!! 🙂

  8. karynr

    June 6, 2013 at 3:05 PM

    goose……the toilet paper goes under not over.

    Turbulent relationships are not healthy. Been there, done that and never again!

  9. goose

    June 7, 2013 at 6:29 AM

    karynr – YES! Try telling my fiancé that!!

  10. pthepro49

    June 7, 2013 at 9:09 AM

    RS-Why on Gods earth would you post that Reno story on your website?? That was the most boring story I have ever read in my life!! Do your readers a favor and don’t post long ass boring stories like that ever again! What a waste of time! Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh

  11. JovisMom

    June 7, 2013 at 10:46 AM

    Toliet paper goes over!!! That is how they do it at fancy hotels! So they can make it to a point at the bottom and put that gold round (Hallmarkish) sticker on! 😉

  12. iheartvino

    June 7, 2013 at 10:58 AM

    I’m with Jovi- toilet paper goes over!! Not necessarily because that’s how hotels do it, but because it’s more sanitary. Have you ever looked at the wall behind the TP at places/homes where they put it under? Gross. That being said, I consider it a small victory whenever anyone else besides me puts on a new roll, regardless of which way they put it. #whyamItalkingaboutTP haha

  13. jamiefsu9

    June 7, 2013 at 2:12 PM

  14. crushonspivey

    June 7, 2013 at 2:21 PM

    I’d say Robert looked more like Chad Lowe than Rob Lowe.

    Just sayin.

  15. chefmom3

    June 7, 2013 at 4:28 PM

    Hahahahaha The Notebook this isn’t – how are you still single??? There must be some smart single women out there for you!!

  16. Sunnyside422

    June 8, 2013 at 8:38 AM

    Had to comment on the toilet paper rolls. Always the over in my girlhood home and now in mine. Easier to tear off for sure. Under makes it harder to tear and just darn uncomfortable grabbing the paper that way. Try it over some time and see.

    Robert is definitely a Rob Lowe lookalike. I kept looking at him wondering where I had seen a similar face…waaa laaa! Thanks for the observation.

    I don’t find Des boring…just very uncomfortable in her roll as the lead. I think she will become more outgoing and relaxed as the weeks go by. After all, she is in command and should realize that.

  17. rob22

    June 10, 2013 at 6:48 AM

    Regarding the “Reno” story. I don’t think it’s uncommon to sort of “pine” for someone we chose not to have at the time. Maybe a lot of of us fantasize about our High School or College sweetheart. But, that’s all it is. It’s not reality, and those relationships ended for a reason. Not to mention that the significant others in question were 20+ years younger at the time. They’re different people now. But given the full story, what we have here is a woman who has a series of failed relationships, including at least, a couple of failed marriages. Basically, she’s screwed up every relationship she’s been in, and is now getting wistful for a relationship that never was a relationship. I’d point out all the drama that has gone on with this “couple” even though they’ve only actually seen each other a few times. Play that out over a marriage. Wow!! Look, she rejected the relationship several times in the past when she could have rekindled. She chose not to. If this was “destiny” then she would have made sure to have made it happen far before now. The reality is, whoever this woman is with, she will screw it up. She has the crazies going on in that head of hers, and no guy is going to fix that. My suggestion would be to get some therapy before launching into another failed relationship. It seems she is just repeating patterns that are going nowhere. This guy is not the answer. Get help soon!

  18. sarah771978

    June 10, 2013 at 3:05 PM

    Steve needs to always link Sara Herron’s Bach Chat to his posts, if only for more comments like this…

    “The only thing worth pointing out about the date was the “antique” journal Zak W gave Des. This would be a very kind gesture if I wasn’t sure Zak trained his penis to hold a pen and write the message inscribed. Such a creep.”

    Who knew that meek little thing that had no self esteme on Sean’s season was so freaking funny!

  19. randais

    June 10, 2013 at 6:25 PM

    OOOH I watched tonight, no reason to watch again, except maybe to see if RS got anything else wrong…Zack, in fact, did NOT win the preview date with Des, Juan Pablo did….!

  20. fordsc

    June 10, 2013 at 8:39 PM

    Also on Tinder: Reid Rosenthal. He always comes up for me when I’m around the Philly area – his hometown

  21. elizabeth82

    June 10, 2013 at 8:50 PM

    @randais: Totally noticed that too. So then I was thinking, OK then Zak must get the rose on the date . . . but no, that went to James (pity rose IMO–she’s taking after Sean that way!).

    Brandon should be in therapy if he isn’t already. Des was so not feeling the “I have a secret” kiss–looked to me like she was almost going to not go along with it. And telling her he’s falling in love with her? Yeesh, guess the false environment of the show was really getting to him.

    The Brian girlfriend drama went on too long. And was totally the Stephanie show–both Chris and Des kept trying to get a word in edgewise with little success. Funny how Brian was like, “I came here to find love” and then a little while later Chris basically says, “So did you sleep with Stephanie two days before you came on the show?” “Yes . . .”

  22. elizabeth82

    June 10, 2013 at 8:55 PM

    Check out Steve’s Twitter for a bunch of thoughts on this episode already. Re. his error: “Oops. Thought it was Zak that got the movie. Guess it’s Juan Pablo. Oh well. Shoot me.”

    I don’t care about the error (little), kind of like last season when he had said that Sarah eliminated herself in the episode where Sean cut her before the rose ceremony.

  23. jackie22

    June 11, 2013 at 5:12 AM

    Anyone else notice last night that in Mikey’s ITM during the dodge ball game, that he was clean shaven, but when he was playing dodge ball he was all scruffy? Oh the editing.

  24. rob22

    June 11, 2013 at 8:39 AM

    So, Brooks pulls a Tiara by completely coming apart at the seems because he broke his finger? Wow. Look, I’ve had broken fingers, so I know they’re no picnic. But I was never half passed out on a gurney. In fact, I was driven to the emergency room where I received no pain killer and was outiftted with a splint. The doctors were none to careful with my finger as they moved it around either. It would never even occurred to me to even lie down during the whole event. Could this guy be any more of a wimp? And with the stringy hair, high pitched voice, and dog teeth, what exactly to we have here? It’s hard to explain, but it’s not attractive.

  25. Dianne

    June 11, 2013 at 9:31 AM

    Rob22 – everyone’s different, and everyone reacts to pain differently. There’s NO WAY Brooks should be compared to Tiara..she was one of a kind, and all of her so-call ailments were fake. Brooks’s injury was not.

  26. Sunnyside422

    June 11, 2013 at 9:58 AM

    Didn’t watch the whole show, but did see Brooks and his widdle finger injury. Please remember folks that this whole show is about drama and angst. For sure his “injury” was played up to the hilt. Really…lying down for a broken finger!! Common…not believable and I bet when he sees the playback, probably wants to hide!

    As for Ben…nothing new in the portrayal this season of the bad boy getting on everyone’s nerves. Done every season. A standard element of this show. Obviously, the few men who find him annoying are not gonna advance and probably know it as they are very unattractive in every way.

  27. randais

    June 11, 2013 at 10:24 AM

    NOOOOOOO twitter for me. Tried it, hated it, and now I avoid it like the plague. Nice that RS acknowledged his blunder, I suppose ;).

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