Hey Steve! I really enjoy your columns. I have a few random questions:
1.) I had always read that Kiptyn and Reid turned down the Bachelor when asked to be it by producers because they didn’t want anything to do with it, but didn’t know if that was true. Was that true? I’ve always been unsure especially since Kiptyn appeared on “Bachelor Pad” only one year after his season of the “Bachelorette” aired, and Reid later appeared on the 3rd season of “Bachelor Pad.”
2.) I know you enjoy “Survivor,” and I’m curious as to what you think have been the top 5 “moves” in the show’s history. Whether it be playing immunity idols at Tribal (or even giving them to other people like Parvati did a few years ago), switching votes at the last minute, etc.
3.) It’s clear Ben is getting one of the “villain” edits this year that the producers do every year. Do you think he’s a d-bag who is just using the show for publicity? And would you be open to doing an interview with cast members to discuss their edit like you did with Wes, Rated-R, etc.? I obviously don’t know as much about the contestants as you do, but a friend of mine who lives in the Dallas area has known him for a few years and he says that Ben is a normal, down-to-earth, funny guy.
Comment: 1) No, they were both interested and were talked to about it. They just decided against it for whatever reason. Probably monetary would be my guess.
2) Oh geez. That’s impossible for me to answer. Whereas I’m pretty good at remembering dates and contestants for the “Bachelor/ette” franchise, even though I’ve seen every episode of every “Survivor” season, they all kinda run together for me. With so much switching tribes, and who was on what season, it’s nearly impossible for me to answer that question without going to Wikipedia or something and recapping every season to remember who did what.
3) I’m not contacting any cast member for any interviews, etc. Got burned doing that once and not doing it again. I don’t know Ben, but I’m sure he’s no different than any other contestant. Your friend that knows him says he’s a normal, down-to-earth guy, yet I’m sure there are people in Dallas who would give a completely different description of him. Just like anybody who’s ever been on the show. There’s not a single person on this planet that is universally liked by everyone.
Hi Steve –
Wondering if you have any idea why Desiree is staying at a different “lead house” this season. They’ve all stayed at the same house (near the mansion) for several seasons now. Wondering why they made a change?
Comment: Yeah, I noticed that and I don’t have the slightest idea why she’s in a new house this season. Maybe because she was in it for about 10 days total, they didn’t need the other house? I don’t know.
Though it is still early I don’t see any guys as the next bachelor. Do you think they will pick someone from this season anyways, and if so who are your favorites?
Comment: 9 of the last 10 seasons the lead has finished in the top 4 of their season. Jake was the only exception. I don’t see why this year would be any different. I definitely don’t think it’ll be Zak, and I don’t think we’ve seen enough of Drew or Chris to get a good determination of which way they’re leaning. But I’m assuming it’ll be one of those two guys. Right now, I’d give Drew the slight edge because of his backstory. But hey, maybe Chris has an addict in the family, or a 3 legged dog, or once saved a bunch of children from a burning house. Who knows?
Could it be that the guys are being told to wear clothing from Chris Harrison’s clothing line? I didn’t even know about this venture, but I did notice that the guys dressed remarkably alike last night… same t-shirt in different colors. No?
Comment: Well, if you look at Chris’ clothing line (you’re welcome for that plug, Chris. I’ll only ask for 40% commission on all sales), he doesn’t sell t-shirts. Just the Cam inspired long sleeve dress shirts and suits.
Sheesh! Obviously these guys think that the best sob story will win them a rose or Des’ hand in marriage. Guess they watch too much American Idol.
Here’s my ranking of sad stories starting with one violin playing mournfully in the background to a full symphony:
Bad boob job (Elizabeth)
Death of a beloved pet (Felicity–Burning down the House)
Cheated on (Tenley, Ali, etc etc etc)
Dysfunctional family (Brandon)
Disease/Deformity (Michael, Sarah)
I was a teenage werewolf……ooops… wrong show
Childhood Trauma (AshLee)
Brush with Death (Catherine)
and the winningest ….death of significant other (Emily)
I skipped most of Ben’s season so I may have missed an alien abduction or two.
Thanks for making this show bearable.
Comment: You forgot a couple other bad boob jobs in there, but we’ll keep that to ourselves.
Very impressive list. I’m sure if you thought about it more, you could come up with more categories as well. Or add on to the ones you have.
No questions, just some things I noticed in the first 20 minutes I watched.
– If the shirt Chris H. was wearing when he “explained” how the show works is from his new collection, he needs to try harder. It looked like he was wearing a pajama top with jeans.
– Desiree must not have had a stylist help her with her wardrobe. What was up with the rain boots she wore on her date with Brooks?
– I’m sure he can’t help it, but I can’t stand Brooks’ voice. He sounds like a 10 year old before his voice changed.
I couldn’t get through the entire episode because I kept falling asleep. I usually read your recaps and then watch. This season I don’t think I’ll be able to do it. Thanks for watching the snoozefest for all of us.
Comment: You’re welcome. That’s what I’m here for. For one 2 hour block a week, I can suck it up and take one for the team by watching this utter silliness and making fun of it. You just continue to read, and I’ll try to continue to entertain.
Hey Steve! Love your site and crack up at your recaps.
I have a question, not sure if you’ve answered it before or not. I know you’ve said that the producers will purposefully send someone out on a one-on-one date with the lead knowing that the lead will withhold the rose and send them home. My question is, why do they do that? If the lead wants to send them home, they can simply do it at the rose ceremony. Considering there is a very limited amount of time to get to know the guys/gals, why would a whole day be essentially wasted on a person who will go home? Seems that time would be much better spent with a person the lead is actually interested in. Anyway, just wondering if you have any answers to that. Thanks Steve!!
Comment: Because if every 1-on-1 date was given to people that were staying, there really wouldn’t be much suspense. They HAVE to throw in at least 1 or 2 a season that fail, or else believe it or not, the show would become even more predictable than it already is.
I don’t know if you knew about this, but way back on Andy’s season there was a girl named Kate who made it to one or two episodes before hometowns. Awhile after the season ended I found her blog, where she wrote that she had had a boyfriend while she was taping the show (who she later ended up marrying). He knew she was doing the show and was fine with it, because she was there for the travel and the experience, not for Andy. She said that she didn’t like Andy at all, and everything she said on the show was just what she needed to say to get a rose. She also said that most of the other girls didn’t like Andy either, and a lot of them had boyfriends. She even wrote a post with tips for future contestants on how to keep in touch with boyfriends during the show without producers knowing.
I never found her blog again and I didn’t bookmark it, and I’m sure it doesn’t even exist anymore. But that was the first thing that showed me how fake the Bachelor is. So I’m really surprised that people still make a big deal about contestants who have a boyfriend or girlfriend back home. I don’t think people have ever come on this show for the ‘right reasons’.
An unrelated question: what do you think is the best way for people to meet someone if they want a serious relationship leading to marriage? I met my husband online on eHarmony.
Comment: I remember her and her blog very well. And the second that it started getting passed around, she was told to shut it down and delete it. I’m sure most people who go on this show have their “stand by” back home for the 1-in-25 chance they don’t get picked, they can immediately run back to their ex to show America that at least ONE person wants them after getting dumped on national television. Plenty have come back from the show and gone on to marry that same ex they had before the show. Has happened quite a bit.
If there was a universal “best way,” then everyone would do it. There is no best way to meet someone. It either happens or it doesn’t.
I was wondering if Im the only one that thinks Des isnt the sharpest crayon in the box?
i feel like from all past bachelorettes that Ive watched, she seems……well, dumb- is the nicest word I can think of.
Also, she seems super awkward. Like on the date with Brooks – it was painful to watch some of it. Its like she starts talking a certain way and then remembers the cameras are there and she starts fumbling and talks in a high pitched voice.
I mean, when the shirtless dude gave her that diary he was trying to explain himself and talk and she was just gushing and awkwardly interrupting him.
I feel like Im gonna be an alcoholic at the end of the season if I have to drink through her awkward dates. 😉
HAVE A GOOD ONE!
Comment: To each their own. Plenty of people are enjoying this season, and plenty of people think it’s the worst group of guys ever, Des is boring, and they’ll never watch again. Happens every season.
Been reading your blog for… 6 seasons now? Never laughed as much as lately. I mean, everything you write is just spot on and hilarious!
ANYWAY, if Brooks doesn’t change, I will have to keep a little puke baggie next to me every episode. I mean, seriously?? WHO is like that in real life? Who is ever like that?? He goes “It’s amazing your parents have that relationship, what’s even more amazing, is your ability to look at it and say that’s what i want…” uhmm pointless sentence.
I do enjoy this show as a guilty pleasure and I watch it because it’s funny, but c’mon!
Comment: Seems to be quite the charmer and good with words. Whether or not he’s sincere, well, only time will tell.
Hi Reality Steve!
I’m more of a seasonal reader, so if you’ve answered this in the off-season I apologize. I used to like reading your blog at work during my lunch, since you often post re-caps around noon. At some point within the last year – I don’t remember exactly when, but I think it may have been in the middle of Emily’s season – your website was suddenly blocked at my work. When I try to access it, it says it’s blocked due to “Adult Themes.” I work at a really big company, so I highly doubt they decided to target your site specifically because of my browsing history. Any idea how you suddenly got lumped in to the “Adult Themes” category of websites? I mean, I get that your jokes can be “adult,” but I’m able to access stuff like Facebook, and it’s not like your content is suddenly more “adult” than during previous seasons. Just curious if you knew why or have had other readers notice the same thing.
Thanks for making the show worth watching!
Comment: Sweet. I’m “Adult Themed” now? I guess I should feel honored. I have no idea why I’ve been pigeonholed into that category by your work in the last year, when I’ve pretty much been writing the same crass, sophomoric, and sometimes vulgar material for the last 9 years. If I were you, I’d quit your job just on principle alone. If you can’t read RealitySteve.com at work, then you’ll find some place that will let you. Stand up against censorship!
Am I the only one who thinks Brooks is either gay or a huge p***y? Seriously? Was he joking when he got nervous that Des was driving in that neighborhood and going through a road block sign? And if he was serious, was that not a huge turn off to her? I know this is rhetorical, but man. And the crying on date 1? Really? Switch that. In a real world dating situation if a girl cried on the first date, how fast would the guy be gone? Pretty damn fast. Everything about him screamed gay to me when they were on the bridge. I mean, of course she had fun! He was giddy about how much fun he was having! Oh yay, this has been so great!!
You nailed in when you mentioned the cars with the crew with them. I mean COME ON. Even if they were alone, be a man, dude. Don’t voice that you’re scared. And for the love don’t cry!!
This episode was so boring I couldn’t even get through it all, no wonder the ratings are low.
Comment: Man, Brooks is taking some this week. Do I think he has the most manly of voices? No. Did I find him crying on the first date utterly ridiculous? Yes. Do I think if you killed a great white in the ocean you’d find it had the same teeth as Brooks? Yes I do. But is he gay? I highly doubt it. I find Drew a little more effeminate than Brooks at this point.
First, thank you for your wit and sarcasm. It really helps at the end of a crappy day. Second, I totally agree with you about the tweets along the bottom this season. I guess I missed the memo that Twitter was not for sarcasm, because I also have zero chance of ever being retweeted, even though I tweet for two solid hours on Monday night! I guess I shouldn’t be surprised considering they are all making fun of someone or something, but they should really learn to appreciate a humorous tweet. Anyway, I got totally distracted by the excitement of sending my first “reader email”. On to the purpose of my email. Is it just me, or does it seem like every season the contestants really seem to take it a little further in who can outdo the other in the “oh please listen to my pitiful sob story and love me” department. I know over the years we have heard about previous loves dying and parents divorcing and all the normal stuff, but damn, Dez’s group seems to be pulling out all the stops. I mean sh**, that one guy had a one eyed dog!
So, I have two questions. What is your favorite sob story ever pitched by a contestant to a lead over the seasons? Who do you think has played up their role as “person with a sob story” the best? It can be a favorite legit sob story or a favorite horrible one.
My favorite sob story is currently diabetes. Who feels the need to disclose that they have diabetes to a person they just met? Does she need to give him his shot? If not, why does she need to know? As I tweeted (that of course didn’t get retweeted, shocker) I think its the worst attempt to woo a Bachelorette that I can think of at the moment & unless his dog died during an insulin shot, he should probably move on. As for the best played sob story, I think they really played up Emily’s story, but since that was real, it’s hard to make fun of it. My award has to go to Bryden, war hero. Bringing photos on himself pretty much dead to dinner? Surviving only to realize he was meant to fight for peace? Befriending a kid in Iraq while at war? That shit is genius. Well played Bryden, well played. Anyway, just a few thoughts.
Oh & I am definitely 1 of the 12 who watched the new 90210 and I definitely still have it on my DVR because I refuse to part with it. I still wish Naomi would have found her way back to Max, but what can you do? Ah, young love.
Comment: I’m currently digging Des’ “we used to live in tents” story. I find that fascinating.
As for sob stories, no one can top Emily Maynard’s. Hands down the winner.
I don’t think this is the last we’ll hear of Michael’s diabetes either. Funny he calls Ben out for going to the Brody card early and often, yet this guy is talking about insulin shots at the second rose ceremony. The only reason you’d tell Des that early that you’re a type 1 Diabetic is to play the sympathy card.
Agree with Bryden. Maybe you could bring pictures of your buddies you were in Iraq with, or any interesting shots from overseas, but to show yourself laying in a hospital bed with a face swollen the size of a pumpkin? Who wants to see that?
I don’t have many opinions on the new 90210 series finale other than Naomi’s storyline ending was easily the worst. At least everyone else’s made sense. Naomi getting with a guy that showed up 6 episodes ago did nothing for me. She should’ve been with Max.
I am a complete nerd.
Hi Steve-enjoy the blog. Wouldn’t watch the show without it. Thanks! Also, an even bigger thank you for sharing Sarah’s blog. Who knew she had such a wicked, snarky sense of humor? Maybe the producers made a mistake taking a pass on her.
Speaking of which, it seems a lot of folks perceive that Des is nice, but not particularly fun to watch. Do you know if the producers do any focus groups or other market testing to see how viewers will react to the lead? Thanks for your insight.
Comment: I highly doubt they go to that extent. I think they get a feel by social media and public perception on entertainment sites before deciding their lead. But sitting a group of people down in a room and having them watch episodes of Sean’s season, then giving their thoughts? I’d be surprised if that’s how they came to the conclusion to pick Des.