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The Bachelorette 9 - Desiree

The Bachelorette Desiree Recap Including Next Bachelor Talk & A Change to One of the Spoilers

-Since there is no cocktail party, we get a shot of the guys all sitting around talking about James (again) before he walks in the room. I think this was my favorite scene of the whole episode. He walks in, all the little pansies shut up, and James plops himself right in between Juan Pablo and Michael on a couch meant to sit about 2 ½ people, but is now sitting four with his giant 6’2″, 260 lb frame along with that oversized head. So maybe it’s sitting 5 people now since we can count James’ head as that of a midget. Him sitting there with his arms folded squished between those two guys is a hilarious camera shot. I should’ve taken a picture of it. Regardless, Des walks in and says she wants to talk to James again outside. In an ITM, she tells us she’s thought about it, and basically she does not appreciate what James has said and that he has to go, which pretty much guaranteed you knew he was staying. She tells him “I have things the guys have told me that I haven’t seen myself.” Translation: I like them more than I like you, so I believe them. Even though they are being little 5th grade girls right now.

-As Des and James are having this conversation on the steps, you can see some of the other guys looking off the balcony at them and talking about what they think will happen. Now they are SURELY convinced she’s getting rid of him. NO WAY she keeps him at this point, right? Ummmm, wrong. Kasey is convinced that James is a salesman and could sell ice to an Eskimo. Maybe, maybe not. But he sure could sell a line to Des. Between his begging and pleading, his tears, and him lactating through his light purple shirt, Des decides she again needs more time. He’s saved his own ass again this episode and is somehow avoided going home yet again, even though Des told us that was the plan right before she talked to him. James just made it clear to her “Whether you eliminate me or not tonight, just don’t make your decision based on what you heard today.” Uhhhh, ok. So she’ll let you go, say “It wasn’t because of that stuff the guys said,” and you’re gonna believe it? Please. I think at this point if James told Des the sky was bright red, she might believe him. The fact James gets to stick around until at least the rose ceremony sets the guys off again: “If James gets a rose tonight, I think the group is going to collectively sh** themselves.” Well wouldn’t that make for interesting TV. Bring it on.

-Once James gets back to the room after a talk with Desiree, yet ANOTHER talk with the guys regarding what he said. They’re going in circles at this point. James isn’t budging from his stance that he’s just being realistic to thinking about life if he doesn’t win, and the guys think you should eat, sleep, and breathe Desiree Hartsock every second you are on the show. Sorry, but this is not a black and white issue. There is no right and wrong here, and people can argue about this for days. It’s pointless. James is allowed to think about partying with chicks on boats in Chicago if he wants to, he just probably shouldn’t have verbalized around a bunch of guys who were on their periods that week. And the guys most certainly can be offended that James would even entertain the thought of not winning while on the show, as preposterous as that sounds. Guess what? Plenty of guys in this show’s history have thought about not being there while the show was going on. And verbalized it not only to other guys, but to do producers as well, yet weren’t allowed to leave until the producers figured out an exit strategy for that particular person. Has happened in the past, and will happen in the future. That’s how this show works. I personally wouldn’t have been nearly as offended and pissed off as Drew, Michael, and Kasey were about it, but hey, that’s them and not me.

-Des is in the deliberation room just moments before the rose ceremony looking at all the “Pick me!” photos. Of course she picks up James’ to show the audience what a tough decision she had ahead of her, although six weeks ago you knew when he was leaving. Rose ceremony time and Drew and Zak have roses already. Des: “Great week in Barcelona (Really? Could’ve fooled me)…tonight is the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make (until next week of course)…I’m making the best decision for myself and ultimately for you guys too (Translation: Chris, Drew, Brooks, Michael, and Zak – I trust you more than James).”

Chris: I gotta imagine with a 1-on-1 date next week he whips out another poem. Lets see if this one is 10 pages long.
Brooks: Oh Brooks, Brooks, Brooks. Next Tuesday won’t be a good look for you.

“Desiree, Gentleman. It’s the final rose tonight. When you’re ready. We gotta get these Barcelonans in on my At First Sight app. There’s some hotties down here. You think they’ll be into me?”

Michael: Since she had to keep one of the remaining four, and she’s loyal to her gossip police, then I guess Michael had to stay. Until next week.

I was expecting much more of a blow up from James in his limo/van exit. Dammit. It was pretty tame compared to the serial cuss monster he turned into during the show. Just reiterated he couldn’t believe what whining babies some of the other guys turned into. What does he care at this point? I’m sure on Thursday he and Mikey will be on his boat out somewhere in Chicago spraying down bikini clad women with bottles of champagne. Make it rain, James. However, if/when “Bachelor Pad” returns, you can fully expect to see James front and center of that cast. No doubt. Next week, three 1-on-1 dates with Brooks, Chris, and Michael and a 2-on-1 with Drew and Zak (no roses on these dates). UPDATE: The press release for next week’s episode says on the Zak & Drew 2-on-1, one of the guys will be given a rose, thus securing his final four spot, and the other guy must sweat it out til the rose ceremony. My guess is Drew gets it, but we know that Zak is in the final four as well, so he gets his at the rose ceremony. Also, we get to see Catherine, Lesley Murphy, and Jackie Parr visit Des in Madeira for a little girl chat.

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  1. corkystclair

    July 2, 2013 at 9:02 AM

    Ugh. Even the “drama” this season is so boring. They tried to make James out to be a Bentley-sized villain but he actually came off as kind of sympathetic. His crime was speaking the language of the real world instead of bachelor lala land like the other guys. In the real world it would be ridiculous to be so committed to a person you’ve been out with once that you can’t even imagine ever dating anyone else. But in bachelor land you pretend that this is not only reasonable but the noble thing to do (while secretly hoping you’re the next bachelor and end up with hotter girls than Des).

  2. karynr

    July 2, 2013 at 9:23 AM

    Goodbye Juan Pablo, you gorgeous hunk of a man!

    I slept through most of it, waking up right before the rose ceremony. Perfect timing. I’m not even going to bother watching it again. TOO BORING!

    I just wanted meathead James to leave. I could care less how or when it happened.

    RS is right about Drew being the next Bach. CH is pimping him on another blog. He said, “This is the week everyone will fall in love with Drew.” NOT. I have no interest in watching a season of someone who looks like their 12, wearing too much hair gel and possibly wanting a boyfriend versus a girlfriend. I will not watch that season. Dudley Doright is cute in a little boy way, but as a lead… way.

  3. karynr

    July 2, 2013 at 9:24 AM

    they’re not their

  4. Sunnyside422

    July 2, 2013 at 9:55 AM

    James…not attractive at all…sweating through his too tight shirt. Reminded me of Sean last season when he looked like he was about to burst through his short sleeved shirt the night he was eliminated…after thinking “there is my wife” just before Emily axed him for Jeff and Arie!

    Drew is a little girl and this is the best they can come up with as next bachelor! Won’t be a must see season for me if it is true.

    Zak sparkly teeth and those eyes that seem to pop open! He is scary looking.

    Still see nothing even remotely attractive about Brooks in any way shape or form! We all know that relationship will fizzle quickly especially when he discovers all the fun James and Kasey are having with the Chicago chickies!

    Again, didn’t see all the show (preferring my book) so missed some of what Steve recapped. Looks like I didn’t miss much.

  5. elizabeth82

    July 2, 2013 at 10:06 AM

    I enjoyed this recap more than the episode, so thanks for that, Steve. This season is seriously dragging. Des was my fav on Sean’s season but this is a weird group of guys. Why did the James drama have to span the whole episode? It rivaled the Jersey episode with how boring it was.

    I’ve had no problem boycotting previous seasons of “The Bachelor” when I don’t have any interest in the lead (Brad 2.0, Jason, and Jake) and I will probably do so again if Drew is the next Bachelor. He’s gay (with a side of emotional immaturity), so what’s the point? If they have to pick any of these effeminate guys, I can stand Zak the most. I did like Michael but now he’s just annoying me.

  6. jsocial12

    July 2, 2013 at 11:20 AM

    What a bunch of whiny little girls, especially Michael, Kasey and Drew. They get their panties in a twist because meany James says that there is life after the Bachelorette? Gasp! How dare he.

    Also, does it drive anyone else NUTS that Reality Steve won’t tell us the guys who do not like Des, yet he keeps slipping that in left and right in all of his recaps? Hopefully it’s not just me, because it’s annoying. Either tell us or stop talking about it.

  7. kjopo84

    July 2, 2013 at 11:54 AM

    Oh my! Steve you’re a great uncle. Zak in my opinion would make the best bachelor of this group. And I liked how he, Brooks, and Juan Pablo didn’t get involved in the James drama.

  8. kbtlr09

    July 2, 2013 at 11:56 AM

    I agree. Drew is a little girl. I can’t picture him as the next bachelor. He’s too feminine.

  9. rob22

    July 2, 2013 at 12:02 PM

    The wife and I made it to the 45 minute mark before falling asleep this time. Well, she made it about 25 minutes and I was only half paying attention. I thought that maybe as we got to know the guys better it would get better, but it isn’t. I’m trying to see the attraction to the metrosexual Brooks. And, I guess to a certain type of woman, they’re just going to like an effeminate guy with girl hair. I suppose it’s no worse than Emily enjoying a little boy who rides a skateboard and pulls his love quotes off of greeting cards. But, at least Jef (or the editors) hid it a little better…. OK, not that much better.

  10. rob22

    July 2, 2013 at 12:07 PM

    Did anyone notice the decline in Des’s looks? Those dark circles around her eyes are back & she is starting to look a little skeletal. Someone feed that girl a BLT, stat! I mean, she’s nice. But what do you say to her? She doesn’t have anything at all to say…. she just has above average looks, a nice smile and a good back story. Other than that…. nothing. I can see why the guys aren’t into her. With Emily, there was an edgier person inside that southern belle exterior…. and well, the girls were spectacular. They have to do better next time. Too bad we never got Emily O.

  11. rob22

    July 2, 2013 at 12:13 PM

    On James, I don’t think he did anything terribly wrong other than speak freely in front of a bunch of little girls. But James as a type is disgusting. He, like Mikey, would appeal to the girls that like spray tans, gold chains, steroid fed muscles and STDs. Yes, the Jersey Shore groupies. When ugly New Jersey chicks go for that stuff, I can live with it…. but are there really other girls out there that like his type?? If so, wow.

  12. blueice

    July 2, 2013 at 12:50 PM

    Regarding the guys that didnt like Des, I guess as they get eliminated RS will make his reveal. Frankly except for dainty ‘wall kiss wannabe’ Drew I dont see any of the guys being super in to her.
    Meanwhile that WTF preview, shown at the end, was nothing new. Someone leaves mid season and then comes back at the end to claim the rose and lady. Drama and Scene. YAWN.

  13. jsocial12

    July 2, 2013 at 1:04 PM

    blueice, Gotcha. I guess that makes sense…haha. It just seemed like he was teasing us with it.

    I guess the guy who left in Germany, the guy whose GF showed up, Mikey and James aren’t into Des. I’m all caught up then.

  14. oyoung1117

    July 2, 2013 at 1:08 PM

    Rob22–totally agree about Des having nothing to say. That really sums up the entire problem with her as a lead. She really tries, you can just tell she is a boring person to talk to.
    Reality Steve is irritating me again. He is dangling secrets and never telling them for no reason. I get why he gives a hint and then holds off on the big reveal for a long time to drum up interest, but to just not tell things he knows because it’s not his place or whatever is annoying. Also he refuses to ever speculate on the motivation behind the most interesting decisions made on the show and I love speculation. But to his credit he did say how he felt about whether James really had done anything wrong or not which is not usually his style, but I did appreciate.
    I really, really hope he is wrong about them recycling a contestant to be the next bachelor. I’m ready for fresh meat! But I am sure he is right.

  15. wavecatchingmom

    July 2, 2013 at 1:35 PM

    “Drew got furious. Like, so furious to the point where his hair almost un-parted itself. Yeah, that bad. For a second I thought he was gonna haul off and throw his glass of milk across the room, that’s how bothered he was.”
    classic RS quote right there. and brings up the superman image yet again. isn’t superman kinda white toast too? I sort of have some expertise in how archetypes and myths work. 75 years of superman mythology can’t trump thousands of years, so I haven’t seen the show, but perhaps they are going to another source in order to better capture the collective. speaking of that, this week’s theme, and RS unconscious female bashing with references to men “on their periods”, is how reversing the myth (really cinderella is a reversal, in all of known history there’s never been a situation in which women control their romantic destiny) causes role reversal in general. and how that role reversal can get your panties in a bunch apparently (another negative reference to feminine/masculine). I rather enjoyed the men grappling with this situation this episode, minus the 45 minutes of the James vs. boymen. Lets face it men, in this brave new world we are dealing with old archetypes battling a new situation where women have more power than they ever have. Des herself is so confused by this that she can’t help but react positively to a manly man like James, who is actually more in touch with himself and more real than the others. and RS, just to keep it real, being on your period is no joke, and women need men’s support to calm all of these hormones that allow us to carry your seed to its fruition. just sayin…

  16. bigfatwoman

    July 2, 2013 at 1:48 PM

    Count me in as one who had an early crush on James. He has a very handsome face, but he’s all meathead from the chin down….not usually my type, but definitely not my type now.

    It’s not what he said, it’s the fact that he was dumb enough to say it. His pathetic back peddling was a total turn off.

    Des is a nice girl without much personality. She has a pretty face and a nice figure, but the way she walks kinda pigeon toe, bow legs with ankle weights is very un sexy to me.

    I think ABC screwed up on casting her more so than screwing up casting the guys.

  17. mctownse

    July 2, 2013 at 4:11 PM

    I’ve watched every season since Jillian, but this season is unwatchable. Does Des know any words besides “aww” and “yay”? Does she have any interests? Does she know any jokes? Apparently not.

    The guys are a yawn, too, but I wonder if that’s just because they’re bored to tears with the lead. I sure would be.

    I would love to see them cast someone goofy, nerdy, sassy, INTERESTING on this show. I guess all those folks are too smart to sign up for it? Seriously, if they would hire RS to help with casting the show might just be watchable again.

  18. Caroll

    July 2, 2013 at 4:41 PM

    Interesting that they cut out any “good-bye” footage of Kasey this week. Usually the cast-offs get to say a few words!

  19. emerald3358

    July 2, 2013 at 6:39 PM

    You are killing me with the Brooks, Brooks, Brooks stuff!! However…thank you for bringing some anticipation to this season!

  20. rl1991

    July 2, 2013 at 8:41 PM

    About that Brooks, Brooks, Brooks… I have a theory. Maybe, Brooks, Brooks, Brooks is the only thing we hear Desiree saying from the Fantasy Suite. And maybe, there’s the word Oh in front of it. Just my own speculation 🙂

  21. elizabeth82

    July 2, 2013 at 9:13 PM

    @rl1991: No, I don’t think so. Steve hinted that the “Brooks, Brooks, Brooks” moment is next episode and we’re not at the fantasy suite dates yet. Unless your comment was a total joke.

    Brooks is so effeminate, by the way . . . This season is off.

  22. kasey31

    July 2, 2013 at 9:52 PM

    Hi, everyone!!! Hope you all are doing well.. it’s been a while since I checked in, so I just wanted to stop by and say hello : ) I am not watching this season.. I gave it a solid 3 episodes, and I tried my hardest to get into it, but it just wasn’t happening for me for some reason.. and that’s weird bc I have not loved every season, but I always, always watch regardless.. this is the first time I have ever not watched, not even channel surfed by it to get a quick peak..

    Anyway, hope everyone is great.. and for those continuing to tune in, you are all troopers!

    Any other good shows on right now? I tried Under the Dome and thought it was ridiculous..

  23. elizabeth82

    July 2, 2013 at 10:01 PM

    Hi Kasey. I kind of like “Whodunnit,” ABC’s new show on Suns. at 9. Only two episodes so far. If reality show combined with murder mystery appeals to you you might check it out. I prefer books to TV but have actually tuned in for this one. 😉

  24. kasey31

    July 2, 2013 at 11:10 PM

    Hey, Elizabeth! Yes, I have heard of it, but haven’t checked it out yet and wasn’t sure when it was on.. I didn’t know there was a reality aspect to it? I do like murder mysteries, so I might have to give that one a try.. thanks! : )

  25. natasha179

    July 2, 2013 at 11:31 PM

    I don’t understand why so many women drool over Drew and say he looks like a Ken doll. Sure, he has blonde hair and is tall, but there’s something off about his face- his eyes are really close together, and his nose is weird. He’s kind of a butterface. James on the other hand, has a gorgeous face. But I agree he is too meathead-y, if you will, from neck down. Not so impressed by any of the men this season. As for the poster who said Emily Maynard was gorgeous, she had duck lips (injected), thin bleached blonde hair, and fake boobs- they should have a natural beauty, who is accomplished (doctor, scientist, what have you) be the next bachelorette, there are plenty of them.

  26. rob22

    July 3, 2013 at 6:02 AM

    Natasha, for the record, I never said Emily was gorgeous. I said the “girls” were spectacular. (cue laugh track). Anyways, I don’t think anyone would argue that she was far more interesting than Des. As far as looks, on Emily, I agree with you…. she’s pretty fake & not my type at all. I like the poster who stated that the only words Des can say are Wow and Yay! That is hysterical and true, if you throw in the stock “amazing” comment she makes about two dozen times a show.

  27. mcbb

    July 4, 2013 at 6:14 AM

    One thing is now obvious and no longer subject to question. After the Munich and Barcelona episodes the cat is finally out of the bag. Desiree may be a basically good person; but she is not what she’s been advertised to be … a devout born-again Christian with strong convictions and high standards.

    For those of you not wise to the ways of German beer: The average alcohol content of German beer is 18%. The standard 12 oz. can of American beer is 6.5%. You do the math. In Munich, Des took on a half-gallon of local brew and never even blinked. Having a glass of wine at the weekly Rose Ceremony cocktail party is one thing … but what she did in Munich was something entirely different. The gal is an experienced guzzler.

    Then during the Barcelona episode, Des had to be “bleeped” out several times to edit out bad language. And it’s not the first time she’s let her tongue slip. I caught a slip the very first night; after greeting one of the men as he exited the limo she looked squarely at the camera and blurted out a loud and clear “Damn!”

    Any questions I’ve had about Des have now all been resolved; and now I have no doubts at all. Desiree is a fraud and the audience is a victim. Despite anything you hear to the contrary, Desiree is the stereo-typical California fun-in-the-sun Bikini Beach girl and is definitely into the Hollywood lifestyle. I would describe her as being 27 going on 16, with the maturity of a sophomore.

  28. bnfan

    July 4, 2013 at 9:20 PM

    If Steve is correct about Drew being groomed as the next Bachelor, then I think the production is behind the buying of his block of fake followers and maybe even paying for it.

  29. inflighthoney

    July 6, 2013 at 9:43 PM

    James should totally be the next bachelor!

  30. sowrong

    July 6, 2013 at 11:38 PM

    mcbb, I’m sorry, but you are INSANE. The average alcohol content in German beer is from 4,5% to 6%. I have NO idea where you got your 18% from. Oh, and I’ve lived in Germany for 5 years now. Trust me. Anyone can drink as much as Desiree did without blinking. No reason for judging her for that.

  31. natasha179

    July 10, 2013 at 7:54 PM

    rob22, Emily’s “girls” weren’t spectacular, lol. Men in the US are so easily impressed by fake, plastic boobs. If you want to see women with gorgeous REAL curves, much shapelier than her, you should check out Lebanese/Arabic women, Persian women, or the actresses in Bollywood. They are gorgeous, and genetically blessed with real curves, not the fake plastic balls women here get! Nothing compares to real, natural beauty.

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