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Dr. Reality Steve

“Dr. Reality Steve” & a Boatload of “Reader Emails”

So as I watch tonight as they are in Barcelona, I am realizing that Chris Harrison is there, (I notice some seasons he isn’t on the out of town dates), but he is hardly on screen so how is this handled, does the show fly him in and out or is he there the whole time, I mean what does he do???

Comment: Unless he has some prior engagement, Chris travels to every location and basically gets a free vacation. Even if there is another engagement, he’ll at least be there for the end of the trip since he has to be for the rose ceremony.

Just a thought. Is it odd that the girls from Sean’s season are still so close and hang out? Especially Catherine. I mean, her now-fiance was macking on all of them too.

Thank you!

Comment: Not really. We see that almost every season. I’m guessing when Catherine hangs out with girls from her season (like this past weekend for Daniella’s birthday), they don’t all sit around and talk about their “dating” experiences with Sean. What’s interesting to me was not realizing how many of Sean’s girls live in Southern California. Lindsay, Sarah, Leslie H., Daniella, Desiree, Selma, and Lesley M. Couple others too that I’m forgetting, but those 7 were all hanging out this weekend based on the pictures tweeted out. Forgot about that.

Do people still use the word “macking?” Holy crap. I don’t think I’ve used that since 8th grade.

Hi Steve!

You have always said that it doesn’t matter who the lead is, as long as they have a good group of girls/guys. Have you changed your mind now that Des is so boring as the lead?

Thanks so much!

Comment: No. I think this season has been a combination of a rather bland lead, and not the greatest casting job they’ve done in terms of the group of guys. First time in 10 seasons they’ve whiffed on that.

Hi Steve,

Thanks for all your insight and hilarious comments on this ridiculous show for that you are a gentleman and a scholar and a goonie for life.

No disrespect coming from this at all, but I’ve never have had a more gay vibe coming from any other guy before than I have with Drew. Realizing the guys that make it all the way to the final four, I’m confused as to how Desiree thought she was interested in sean. Is it just me or are Brooks and Sean almost polar opposites.

Secondly, please tell me you’ve seen the next karate kid with Hillary swank. The final fight scene when she fights him with sand in her eyes was seriously one of the coolest things ever to me growing up.

Anyways, thanks for all your work!

Comment: “Drew is gay” reference #3.

I never watched “The Next Karate Kid” and never will just because I want to remember the first three for what they were. The one with Hilary Swank and the re-boot with Jackie Chan and Jaden Smith I’m just pretending never happened.

Hey Steve,

Yes, this season is the most pathetic ever. Lets talk about Brooks for a moment.

Lets not avoid what can’t be avoided and talk about the obvious here. I am not sure how anyone can not notice that Brooks is gay. I personally have no problems with any gay people and as a girl have some gay guy friends. I talked about the Bachelorette with them and the two gay guys I am friends with even said how they know for sure that Brooks is gay.

I have some very good intuition on these things. On the gaydar scale of 1 to 10 (with a 10 being Elton John), I would say Brooks is a strong 9.8.

You can see it in everything about Brooks. It is the way he handles himself, his mannerisms, the way he sits, the way he walks, and not to mention how I notice him even checking out the other guys in the house. When he is lounging around the house with the other guys, it is as if he is more comfortable being around the guys in a gay kind of way, then when he is around Des. I am sure he likes Des, but even his conversations with her seem like they are uncomfortable in a way like a gay guy who is being forced to come on TV and pretend that he is into a girl and force his feelings when he is really playing on the other team.

I know that some people won’t believe it and say how could a gay guy be on a show where he is trying to find a woman to marry. Gay guys come on this show to try to convince their families or even themselves they are not gay. It has happened before. In addition a lot of them get nominated by girls they are friends with or their sisters.

This first rule for any girl should be not to fall in love with a gay guy. It will not work. Des is setting herself up to get hurt. Gay guys can be great to be FRIENDS with, but Des has to wake up to some reality. I am not sure if she is in denial or if she may sense Brooks is gay but somehow think she can change him. Des, it isn’t going to happen.

Brooks is not doing a good job convincing anyone that he is not gay.

The questions I have for you Steve are the following:

How is it that everyone who watches this season sees so obviously how Brooks is gay, but Des can’t see the obvious and is so oblivious to it?

Is she in denial?

If a girl wrote you a question as Dr. Reality Steve, and was like Des falling for an obvious gay guy, what advice would Dr. Reality Steve have for the poor girl?

Thanks again for making a mockery of another season and all of the spoilers!

Comment: Wow, a very strong case for “Brooks is gay”. Drew is still leading 3-1.

All I can say is there’s no way this show is openly casting gay men to compete for a wife on this show. That makes no sense. So either your gaydar is off, or, these guys are just REALLY good at faking out the producers.

Dear Steve,

First of all, a massive hello from the Netherlands and thanks for writing such a great blog and the spoilers.

Secondly, quite frankly, I don’t really get why everyone is b*tching about this season. I mean there’s no Tiara drama or Courtney drama but for ones I kind of like that. I watch the show just to relax and enjoy other peoples happiness and the fairytale dates, and all that. I’m a very down-to-earth person so I know 90% of it might be fake but still it doesn’t hurt to watch the show. I major in Telecommunications and know what goes on behind the screens of a television production, but I wouldn’t mind meeting Drew ;-). It’s the first time I actually really really like a contestant and might be jealous of the girls on his season if he becomes the next Bachelor. Although I would never apply to be on the show (honestly I don’t really believe in a scripted relationship and an almost 100% guarantee of failure, plus the would never ever cast an I-don’t-live-in-the-USA-person) I don’t blame people for doing so. People are being so rude about the contestants on the show and them being boring, but the truth is they are just like you and me, relatively normal people.

The only question I have regarding the show is whether the bachelor or bachelorette has to get engaged in the final episode or could they also ask the winner to just be their boyfriend/girlfriend?

Keep writing the great blogs!!

Comment: Sweet. Netherlands is in the house.

Could they ask the final person to be their boyfriend/girlfriend at the end? Sure. Will that ever happen again? No. People don’t want to invest 11 weeks into a show to see an unsatisfying ending. And although saying to your final choice at the end, “I choose you and lets keep dating to see where this goes” is the most realistic ending this show could possibly have, it doesn’t make for good TV. Every person who makes it to the end is STRONGLY encouraged to propose, and since we’ve seen it now 9 consecutive seasons after Brad 1.0, I expect it to continue.

Hi Steve,

Love your column – only reason I watch the show.

Not to continue what seems to be an ongoing topic, but these guys are lame! First, they were all anti-Ben, now James. Yes, James put his own spin on things but in the end he was somewhat honest in that he was looking ahead beyond the show. She chose not to send him home right away – get over it boys! Then they start with they are worried about James being violent. Again, lame! If he got violent Michael, the sorry excuse of a prosecutor, could take him to court. (Joking – figures this guy works for the govt)

My question is do you think there is any chance of there being a tape of the conversation that Drew and Kasey say they heard that they may make available at ATFR, or would they have included that on this week’s episode? Without something like this, I think ATFR is just going to be more whining about the same crap.


Comment: You bring up an interesting point in that this show constantly talks about “these people are being taped all the time, we don’t’ miss anything,” yet in the past two seasons, we never actually saw Tierra fall down the stairs, we only saw the end result. And then last night, they focus a whole episode pretty much around this conversation that took place between James and Mikey, yet we don’t hear that either. There are other instances in past seasons as well where the focal point of the episode is based around something someone said, yet, we never hear it. Sounds pretty convenient to me.

I highly doubt that Mikey/James conversation will be played at the MTA.

Awesome recap as usual! I’m glad to see I’m not alone in thinking this season is a complete snooze fest. I honestly don’t think having Drew as the next bachelor will boost their ratings- he reminds me of jake pavelka and will probably cry A LOT. I know you say they’ll never have Jef as the next bachelor but wouldn’t it make sense to have him for ratings sake? No matter how douchey the guy is I feel like more people will be interested in another attempt to be fake engaged for a few days. When Sean sent Des home the entire bachelor fan base was rooting for her because they felt bad for her and look how well that turned out. No matter how bad we’ll feel for Drew when he leaves he’s still boring as hell. Am I right. I totally am. Thanks for the laughs! Enjoy your trip!

Comment: Casting Jef would be strictly stunt casting and I just don’t see the show going that route. Not gonna happen.

Hey Steve,

Have you noticed that Desiree is a total “forehead-toucher” this season? Any time she cries or gets stressed out, she touches her forehead with one hand. Last night’s promo was a forehead-touching extravaganza.

Random, but check it out.

Comment: I will watch for that next time. I’m an eye rubber. I do it constantly.

Hi RS,

I love your site. You’re funny and never had such a great spoilers about a show before.
I just have a comment in regards to the James situation. I don’t have a problem with what he said, I just think he was stupid for sharing his thoughts with another contestant while two others were “sleeping” next to him. The fact of the matter is, he’s just one guy out of 25 trying to make a connection with one girl on a stupid reality show. His chances of ending up with her are very small and when he made that comment, he had only been on one date with her! I know this show wants everyone to just fall madly in love with her, but that’s just not how it works in reality. You date someone and you see where it goes. Not everyone knows after one date that that’s the person they are going to marry. I think you can be on the show and be there for the right reasons and still think “hey, if it doesn’t work out, there is a chance i could be the next bachelor”. It’s not a bad gig and frankly I think most of those guys think the same way, they just don’t say it outloud. Another issue I have is that, he doesn’t really owe her anything. She hasn’t picked him, she hasn’t commited to him and in fact, is going around dating/making out with a bunch of other guys. Don’t get me wrong, I think James is a total player and was definitely not that interested in her, but it really doesn’t bother me that he wasn’t head over heels in love with her after one date and hoped to at least become the next Bachelor. And I am so sick of other guys sitting around talking about this crap over and over an over. It’s such a turn off! I was really hoping she would send Drew, Michael and Kasey home and keep James. But I knew better because of your spoilers!

Keep up the good work!

Comment: Couldn’t agree more. He’s not thinking what any other guy who signs up for this show is thinking. He was just stupid to verbalize it, whether he thought someone was listening or not.

-When the producers asked Des what kind of guy she wanted did she say the slightly classier versions of those guys from the show “Jersey Shore”? I mean seriously-almost every guy in the top 8 looks greasy. What is with the hair gel and fake tans? It’s nasty.

-Drew is a poor-mans Jef Holm. Or maybe it’s the other way around. At least he doesn’t seem to be as much of a jerk.

-What is with Zak’s face every time Des says anything remotely exciting?

He reminds me of that girl who does the insanely awful “stalker versions” of pop songs.


Some Questions:

1. When will we learn about the “Brooks, Brooks, Brooks” statement? I’m sure you addressed it before, but I’ve forgotten (sorry).

2. Do you know why Des eliminates Zak?

3. I know you probably don’t care, but out of the top (5? 6? What are they down to?) who do you think would work best with Des?

4. What are your favorite TV shows currently? I took your advice on FNL a while back and I loved it. Almost every episode was amazing. Any other shows that you feel are at that level?

5. Do you think that James said the things that the other guys said he did? Do you think that they read into it too much?

6. Any idea why Des deals with all of the gossip? Most of the other leads say that they want to know everything but then they do the opposite/freak out/don’t believe the “tattler” (Sean, Ashely, BEN).

7. I know that Drew is probably the best contender for the next bachelor, but I just don’t think that it’d be interesting, but out of anybody in the past couple of seasons who would you pick?


Comment: 1) I’ve decided it will be in next Tuesday’s column, and there are reasons behind as to why I had to wait that I’m not going to get into. But it will be addressed in next Tuesday’s column.

2) No.

3) You answered the question for me already: I don’t care. That’s not why I watch this show.

4) Right now I’m not watching much. “Homeland” is excellent. That starts up again in the fall on “Showtime.” First season is on DVD (13 episodes) and I believe you can get season 2 On Demand right now since the DVD won’t come out til September. Very good show, but I’m biased because it’s from the creators of “24” so they can’t do much wrong in my eyes.

“Couples Therapy” on VH1 is always interesting just because I’m fascinated with other people’s relationships. Also watching “Catfish” since it’s such a train wreck.

I like “Nashville,” “Modern Family,” “Parks and Rec,” and “Shark Tank.” Looking forward to “Black List” on NBC when it premieres in the fall.

Glad you took my advice on FNL. It’s the best drama I’ve seen on TV in the last 20 years. I think anyone who enjoyed high school will absolutely love that show, not to mention, it’s a show that both a guy and a girl can watch together. You don’t get too many of those anymore.

5) I think he did say it, and the guys completely overreacted because they were on a television show.

6) No idea

7) I’d have to think about that because no one jumps out at me as someone I’d care to see.


Hi Steve,

My husband and I are huge fans of the Bachelor franchise….watch religiously every week. A few years back I got into reading your blog and I just find it incredibly funny and love reading your recaps. This season, my husband begged me to not read so that he could be “surprised” by the ending. Needless to say…RS withdrawls ensued….but I complied.

However, after last night’s episode, I just HAD to come read your blog. My “gaydar” has been going off this whole season. In particular towards Drew, Brooks, and Kasey. I know others have said this and this is no new news….however last night’s episode really put it all out there. The neon deep V shirts, drinking from a phallic-shaped nozzle, male nudes, the comment Drew made about being so close to Kasey when he left, etc. Then those spliced scene teasers at the end was the icing on the cake. I was SURE I would come to your blog to find that you had spoiled weeks ago that several of these dudes are gay. (Insert “not that there’s anything wrong with it” Seinfeld reference here.) I was shocked to find no mention (that I can find anyhow) of what I am suspecting and that you are actually predicting Drew will be the next Bachelor? If so, do you think it will be the first gay season of the Bachelor? With the gay rights laws changing recently, perhaps this was just an editing spin to mess with us? But I really don’t think so. I have several guy friends that are gay and I’m sure the following of the Bachelor franchise includes many gay men….so I don’t think it’s out of the realm of possibility in this day and age….what do you think?

Comment: “Drew is gay” reference #4. No, there will not be a gay “Bachelor” or “Bachelorette” anytime in the foreseeable future. Just not gonna happen.

Hi Steve,

Ok, so I’m not sure if you’ve ever seen Jake and the Neverland Pirates but it’s a cartoon that my 2 year old likes to watch. I know you have nieces and nephews so again, not sure if you’ve ever seen the show. When the bachelorette started I couldn’t place my finger on who Zak looked like. I kept thinking, gosh, he really looks like someone and I just couldn’t figure it out. Low and behold one of the Jake and the Neverland Pirate shows comes on and it dawned on me!! Zak and Jake are twins!! Google it, you’ll see the resemblance. It’s hilarious. Now I can’t see Jake without seeing Zak and vice versa. Kind of a weird little comparison but thought I’d share.


Comment: I guess I’d have to see Zak in a pirate suit to see the resemblance.


I know you are totally over the whole Jef Holm interest out there – but I do believe that Sean was fishing for Bachelor support for Jef on Twitter. The subject comes up a lot on Twitter – and I find it ridiculous because Jef Holm has proven himself to be a player before his Bachelorette season, during his time with Emily, and after his time with Emily. How can the producers ever take this guy seriously? I think people initially bought into his do-gooder act with his much publicized business ventures for his “for profit” company – he was a good talker & actor. His followers still defend him tooth and nail as being such a great guy. The question is – what has become of his business ventures? Why does Peoplewater no longer have him in their website – as a founder or as anything to do with them? Could it be that they could no longer support his playboy lifestyle? Is he now just hanging out & waiting in the wings to be the next Bachelor? Why can’t people see that the jig is up with him?

Comment: They aren’t taking him seriously. Any talk you hear whatsoever on the internet regarding Jef as the Bachelor is being thrown out there by Jef himself. I’m sure he wants the gig and would take it in a heartbeat, but it’s not going to happen despite anything you may hear.

Hi Steve,

This season of The Bachelorette has certainly been lackluster, and I realized why. Well, I’m sure there are many reasons, but here’s one. Desiree just doesn’t seem to need saving. She comes across as very happy-go-lucky, where one guy could be just as good as the next for her because ultimately she’s very independent and is going to take care of herself. In contrast, Emily Maynard had this tragic backstory and did a good job of playing the part of demure little Southern lady. She was often portrayed as a wounded little bird who would benefit from a strong man who could come swoop in and save her and her daughter. Viewers were more invested in that classic story: Will the damsel in distress be saved by a handsome prince?

Desiree does not seem to be at all in distress, despite the producers trying to cram down our throats that Des and her family used to live in tents, dumpster-dive or whatever. She seems just fine with her life, which is surprisingly not at all an appealing story. I’m not invested in her because she doesn’t come across as needing this “process.” She may be a really nice person, but she’s not pathetic enough. That’s my take. And it doesn’t help that so many of the guys are bizarre and off-putting in their own special ways. I laughed when I read your line about James lactating through his shirt, because that’s exactly what I said when I saw that. And I’m sure that plenty of other people said the same thing. And I’m really sure that when James saw himself like that on TV he probably freaked out. Hee hee.

Comment: Interesting take that I agree with. She also just doesn’t have a personality that flies off the TV screen either, and that’s definitely not registering with viewers. Like I said, doesn’t make her a bad person, just hasn’t made for great TV.

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  1. bigfatwoman

    July 3, 2013 at 8:56 AM

    So many letters….my gosh. I got through about 3 pages and had enough.

    I am happy that the general consensus is that Jef Holm turned out to be a total tool. I liked him a lot, like your first writer said, but the guy is on some sort of delusional rock star trip.

    It is amazing what visions of celebrity grandeur this show seems to provide (Sean, Jef, Arie). It’s embarrassing enough that you were on the show but even more so when you try to milk your G List celebrity for another 15 minutes.

  2. MAC

    July 3, 2013 at 12:26 PM

    Drew and Brooks do seem gay. Especially seeing those pics that a reader sent in of Brooks!

    The destination wedding girl is worse than a bridezilla! When did getting married become about getting gifts? How selfish that she would even bring up that subject! Did you invite people because you want them there or because you want their gifts?? Wow!

    That’s a total red flag…

  3. canpov

    July 3, 2013 at 2:25 PM

    To the girl getting the creepy text messages – why do you still have these kept if you don’t want the attention from the guy? Makes me think that even though you might not like the guy, you like having these texts to show others. If they truly bother you, delete them and tell him to stop, that it makes you uncomfortable.

  4. rob22

    July 3, 2013 at 2:28 PM

    Wow… the homo pics of Brooks are hysterical!!! Boy is Des barking up the wrong tree. If that’s what she likes, she might as well go all the way and date one of the Queer Eye cast. I’ve been debating why they have so many effiminate/gay guys on the show. Is it just random, or has the show been on so long that we don’t realize that this is what 20-something guys are like these days? Maybe it’s not them, it’s us. We’re just old and out of it and just haven’t caught up to the new reality. We’re a long way from the Jesse Palmer era…. although now that I think about it, he had a sort of metrosexual thing going on too. But since he was a QB, maybe we overlooked it.

  5. rob22

    July 3, 2013 at 2:31 PM

    I thought the Dr. RS email from the girl talking about the creeper as a “nice guy” was bizarre. I would have thought she would have obtained a restraining order on the guy or at least asking you whether she should, rather than asking what she did. His texted lines had kind of a Jef Holm, pulled off the internet kind of ring to them…. although I have to admit that it would have been off a very creepy website for that to be true. Ick. I think I need to take a shower.

  6. rob22

    July 3, 2013 at 2:38 PM

    Oh, and one more vote for Drew being gay. Very gay. And what was with James crying? I thought he was supposed to be the “balance the cast out” straight, macho Jersey Shores meathead guy. Now he’s ruined it. Look, I don’t mind guys crying once in a while, but crying because some effiminate/gay guys were giving him a hard time?? Really?? I would have so loved it if he would have said something along the lines of, “OK girls, talk about it all you want. I’m going to have a beer with the men.” That may have redeemed the entire show! But alas….. he weenied out, back peddled, changed his story and then cried to Des. Oy vay.

  7. mariet

    July 3, 2013 at 2:53 PM

    Definitely add Michael to the gay list. My daughter graduated from NYU. She is not gay, but her gaydar is pretty much spot on. A guy does not need to be effeminate for her to know. She found her BFF (male- not effeminate) at NYU, but no love interest.

  8. linnyleo

    July 3, 2013 at 3:52 PM

    I can definitely see how most people would label Brooks as being gay… I don’t think he’s gay at all, he’s just very “Utah Mormon”. It’s a thing. I’ve known plenty of Mormons from his area of Utah and they all pretty much act like that and give off the “gay” vibe. Didn’t Jef get accused of being gay too at one point?

    However, I can’t speak for Drew…

  9. elizabeth82

    July 3, 2013 at 5:40 PM

    I thought Drew was gay from only seeing his picture! How he is on the show has only affirmed what I already thought. (I also find it interesting how he’s been compared to Jake Pavelka–who I always thought was gay, one reason why I didn’t watch his season; the other being that he seemed overall like he was fake and just trying to be famous.) One can only hope ABC doesn’t make him the next Bachelor. Doesn’t anyone on staff have a gaydar? Someone’s got to!

    Brooks is trickier. He’s effeminate, for sure–girly voice, mannerisms . . . but maybe he’s bi? I guess I hope so for Des’ sake. I’d be surprised if he weren’t at least bi, I’ll say that!

  10. jessica1

    July 3, 2013 at 6:42 PM

    On huffingtonpost there is the story that Sean and Catherine have postponed their wedding….maybe already talked about here and I missed it?

    But my favorite line from the short story was this: “Now that they’ve both freed up a little, they just want to enjoy each other this summer… ”

    Enjoy each other? They’re abstaining. hahahahaha! What could this mean? Feed each other food a’la 9 1/2 weeks?

  11. nora j

    July 3, 2013 at 11:22 PM

    To the person who wrote the first letter posted about Jef……bhahahahaha…what do you mean Jef had everyone fooled….like half the people watching couldn’t stand him and weren’t surprised at his actions after the show. I think you’re the one that was blind. Jef NEVER had EVERYONE fooled…not even close.

  12. kjopo84

    July 4, 2013 at 8:09 AM

    Has anyone been watching Whodunnit? It’s completely ridiculous, but also totally entertaining. Recommend. FINGER SANDWICHES!

  13. elizabeth82

    July 4, 2013 at 9:13 AM

    @kjopo84: I have! It is kind of ridiculous–that it’s a reality show where people who lose have to participate in the staging of their elaborate “deaths” and one of the contestants at least is an actor–but entertaining! So many people thought Adriana was the killer . . . nope!

  14. kjopo84

    July 4, 2013 at 5:24 PM

    Agreed! I really liked the first two weeks and will continue watching. The cool thing about this show is that if you lose, you get to “die” in a totally crazy way! I think the killer will end up being someone who has been neither in the top or bottom: Cris, Lindsay, Deno, Malina (? Can’t remember if that’s her name!), Ronnie or the Hispanic guy whose name I forget.

  15. elizabeth82

    July 4, 2013 at 8:37 PM

    I’m thinking Cris or Gino but who knows! I’m trying to figure out who’s being an actor more than the others and who hasn’t been singled out yet as best or worst, as you said. Also who hasn’t shown extreme emotion like tears–as that would be harder to fake (such as Melina and Dana). I wonder if there will be some big twist re. identity of the killer.

  16. rob22

    July 5, 2013 at 5:26 AM

    So, let’s go over the options for the next Bachelor:

    Jef-Douchey duplicitous little boy
    Brooks-Taken and Gay

    Possible 2.0 options:
    Sean-Taken, for now
    Brad-Had his chance. Twice.
    Ben-No, No, No!!

    The Bachelor is toast

  17. elizabeth82

    July 5, 2013 at 9:12 AM

    What about Zak?

  18. kjopo84

    July 6, 2013 at 7:04 AM

    I think of the guys who are left, Zak would make the best bachelor. He’s outgoing and so funny and seems like a genuinely nice guy. With Drew shopping for twitter followers and with his tragic backstory, I think it’s much more likely to be him. But maybe ABC will learn from this season and pick someone with energy and real personality like Zak. I doubt it, however, I WILL still watch if it’s Drew. Who am I kidding? I will ALWAYS watch no matter who it is.

  19. Kali

    July 6, 2013 at 9:25 PM

    People, come on. Whatever happened to doing a little research? Jason Mesnick is an account executive in the field of estate and legacy planning (he’s a financial planner). He is originally from Cleveland, Ohio, but moved to Washington at the age of eight. He is also a “big brother” for the Big Brothers/Big Sisters of America.

  20. karynr

    July 7, 2013 at 6:25 AM

    I’ve never said I won’t watch it, but if Drew is the next Bachelor, I have no interest. I’ve watched since Andrew Firestone, but this is the first time I can wholeheartedly say I won’t waste the time. Can’t we have Juan Pablo with subtitles??!! Bring me manly and sexy, not someone with a stick up their you-know-what.

  21. bigfatwoman

    July 7, 2013 at 6:44 AM

    Totally agree with @karynr……Drew as the next Bachelor would be about as sexy, exciting and manly as watching Ben Flatdick with his hard on for Courtney. Please no thank you.

  22. karynr

    July 7, 2013 at 6:56 AM


  23. rob22

    July 7, 2013 at 7:02 AM

    Zack? Really? Admit it people, that would be a really desperate choice.

  24. bigfatwoman

    July 7, 2013 at 8:44 AM

    Since the ratings can’t get much worse than Des’, ABC really needs to take this as a signal to change things up a bit….I think they would be wise to try a new formula and NOT recycle an old contestant. There have certainly got to be some dynamic single male personalities out there that would be fun to watch.

    I would be all for a smokin’ hot African American male or a divorced 40 something guy with kids.

  25. Athena

    July 7, 2013 at 9:07 AM

    I agree with everyone else about the need to change things up. For me, it’s not necessarily about the “lead”, though of course that does matter too. We really don’t know who has the kind of spunk and charisma needed to pull off being the lead until we see them in action. For example, Emily was a totally b o r i n g white bread Barbie Doll on Brad’s season, and while she’s certainly not my cup of tea in lots of ways, she sure had plenty of stage presence and personality when she was the Bachelorette. Same with a lot of the others. Unfortunately, Desiree just doesn’t seem to have it, and they aren’t giving her anything all that exciting to work with either. The same old tired dates, the same old formulas re: rose ceremonies, the same lack of real conversation/interactions, etc. are just as, or even more, old and tired, IMO. They either need to make more of a mockery of the formula, ala Burning Love, or go back to the drawing board with the script.

  26. Athena

    July 7, 2013 at 9:10 AM

    The aforementioned comments about how we really don’t know how much personality someone has from their time as a contestant is why I will reserve judgment on who they choose for the next Bachelor. (Jeez, that’s what I started out wanting to say before I segued onto something else.)

  27. oyoung1117

    July 7, 2013 at 3:28 PM

    I think they should totally change up the formula for the next bachelor and inject some fresh meat . Maybe a g-list celebrity like Jesse Palmer or something. They could use this as an opportunity to give a couple twists to the rest of the formula. Add the “spy” contestant back in, have them change some bigger rules, set it in an exotic city again, etc. see what works and what doesn’t and after using this as a way to get a ton of viewers intrigued they can go back to the old formula the next season and take with them the best parts.

  28. Athena

    July 8, 2013 at 3:15 PM

    oyoung1117: I like your ideas. You’re the kind of person they need on their script-writing team, or whatever they call it in reality tv,

  29. rob22

    July 8, 2013 at 6:58 PM

    Not watching tonight and its quite liberating. Come and join me. Free yourselves from boring Monday nights!!

  30. elizabeth82

    July 8, 2013 at 9:37 PM

    So much to make fun of this ep . . . Steve should have a field day. Pretty much all they show Des saying every date is “so cool” and “oh . . . my . . . God.” Get a vocabulary, lady. And Brooks continues to be effeminate and boring along with pretty much all these guys. Chris and his STUPID poetry. I just about threw something at the TV when they already composed a poem together earlier in the date and here he is reciting a poem as the way to drop the L-word over dinner. And then Des says she’s in love with Brooks. Maybe this show wants to show it can spoil itself.

  31. jessica1

    July 8, 2013 at 11:59 PM

    For the 2-on-1 date w/ Zak and Drew, was Desiree wearing…..jeggings? Horrors.

  32. Athena

    July 9, 2013 at 4:58 AM

    About those jeggings…even on her cute young slender body they didn’t look so good. I guess I’ll stick with my mom jeans after all.

  33. rob22

    July 9, 2013 at 6:34 AM

    Gay guys, fashion faux pas, stupid repetitive date scenarios, OMG. Maybe they could mix it up on the 2 on 1 dates and really have a 2 on 1. I’d watch that…. as long as the guys don’t completely ignore Des. Ugh. On second thought…. nevermind.

  34. oyoung1117

    July 9, 2013 at 8:06 AM

    Thanks Athena!
    And has anyone else noticed how often Des feels the need to say “I like that” or alternately “I love that”? I seriously want to go watch an episode of a previous bachelorette season and pin point what exactly it is Des is lacking conversationally the other girls have had. If I remember correctly the edited and generic seasons ABC feeds viewers are usually pretty one dimensional and chock full of conversations about how “amazing” and “awesome” everything is. So I’m not sure what makes Des’s conversations like that seem so much more shallow and bleak. Maybe it is the way whenever they do start having a potentially deep and important conversation she seems to almost purposefully shut it down by responding with “I like that! Me too!” Instead of pushing further with deeper questions. Either way, I LOVED Des on Sean’s season and she has truly turned out to be the lamest ever.
    And I hate to be the grammar nazi because I generally do not care in the least, but come on! You give out a list of four “adjectives” and not a SINGLE word is an actual adjective? Those are verbs and a noun. Ughhh.

  35. addicted2rs

    July 9, 2013 at 8:25 AM

    Earlier in the season, after episode one or two I made a comment that the guys seemed like total duschebags. (spelling?) But I have to take it back somewhat because four of the final five seem pretty good now that we’ve seen more. I am leaving Brooks off the list though because he doesn’t seem like as good of a catch and future husband. Besides, I suspect he likes guys better.

    I admire Des for saying she is not afraid of getting hurt.

  36. vessel

    July 9, 2013 at 9:07 AM

    That “adjective” conversation bugged me, too. Really? Neither one of you know what an adjective is? If they actually do get married, which they won’t, I hope the next generation is a little more educated!

  37. rile9995

    July 9, 2013 at 5:57 PM

    Since I am only 3 years from being really, really old – I find your comments about a 51 year old very insulting. While 1-2 sentences would have been “ok” – to go on and on about it was troubling. It was New Year’s Eve, probably midnight, alcohol…. I can’t believe you said “self-respecting men” – seriously? Like a 51 year old is so disgusting. Do you have any idea the average age of your readers? You might not have meant to be so offensive, but you were. Might want to post an apology or clarification before this turns into a “Paula Deen” situation. ABC execs probably read this column and cheered – finally, something to stop viewers from reading your column and they didn’t have to pay any lawyers.

  38. sunshiny

    July 9, 2013 at 7:47 PM

    I was an avid reader of your blog, have been following you from day one and always found you to be quite amusing , but after reading today’s blog I am no longer interested in what what you have to say and will not be reading your reviews.
    What you said about Brooks and the older woman was highly offensive, judgmental and extremely narrow minded. Your reaction to younger men/older women was REALLY surprising and I was shocked that you would think this way. Take it from me, you have no idea what you’re missing.

  39. Amy

    July 10, 2013 at 5:23 PM

    Ok, so I thought Steve emphasized the age difference a little too much, but the comments here are carrying it too far. I was more appalled by the adjective/adverb thing. I knew that Steve would catch it, but no one else cares that the 20 somethings don’t know the difference?

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