-Chris then introduces the guys from Desiree’s season, half of which we never heard a word from last night. Zack K., Will, Brad, Nick M., and Bryden were ones I know we never saw speak on camera last night. It was interesting to see Nick M. and Jonathan there for the sole reason they got eliminated on night one. The only reason anyone who got eliminated on the first night is ever invited to the “Tell All” episode is because they did something memorable. Obviously, Jonathan did with trying to bed down Desiree all night. But Nick M.? Did someone owe him a favor or something? Hey, I guess he isn’t gonna complain about a free trip for a few days, but I’m guessing if Nick M. wasn’t there, the show would’ve still been able to continue. And before you ask, no, that wasn’t Diogo stuck outside in a knight in shining armor suit. That was ABC’s bad attempt at humor. Some P.A. or intern was probably forced to dress up in that suit to perform those bits that weren’t the least bit funny. It actually would’ve been more interesting to actually have Diogo up on the panel last night if for no other reason than they would’ve needed two translators to distinguish what some of the guys were saying.
-When they showed a clip recapping some of the drama this season, it was interesting to catch Michael in a lie. Remember on his conference call after he was eliminated he made it a point, twice, to say that he was attacking Ben for being a hypocrite and not for his faith or his parenting skills. In case you forgot, here was the question and answer condensed a bit. To read the full interview, click here:
You mentioned that looking back on things, you felt you were maybe a bit too aggressive in the two-on-one date with Ben, and I saw that Chris Harrison maybe thought that Des had kind of made up her mind after that date that you weren’t the one for her. Do you regret that date?
Michael Garofola: I don’t regret what I was doing. I mean, let me make this clear. I mean, I think there’s been some confusion about this, is that, you know, I was not attacking Ben for his faith or for his parenting skills. What I was trying to show is that Ben was, from what I thought, Ben was misrepresenting who he truly was and his words were not matching his actions.
And there was no better example of that than on that two-on-one date at dinner when Des asked the question, “What is most important to you?” — a very open question she asked. And she didn’t ask about faith or church or whatever, and Ben affirmatively said, “The most important thing to me is going to church every Sunday.”
He didn’t say, “Practicing my faith;” He didn’t say, “God;” He didn’t say, “Religion.” He said, “The literal act of going to church every Sunday is what is most important to me and what I want to do with my family every Sunday.” And I just saw the hypocrisy in that because on the biggest day of holy obligation… in all of Christianity, he was the only member of the house not to go to church and not to attend church.
[So] let’s go back to this conversation in Munich, because I think that this is important and this is something that I do want to sort of clarify. And so in a sense, you know, I guess this is the quid pro quo here of my answering your questions and also having an opportunity to clarify something that I want to make sure is clear.
And that is that — and I’ll repeat this one thing — what I was not doing was attacking Ben’s practice of his religion or his faith or his parenting skills. What I was doing was trying to show the contradiction and hypocrisy and inconsistencies between his actions and his words.
Pretty clear to me he’s saying he never attacked Ben’s parenting skills right? Well the clip they play last night clearly had Michael saying, “Ben is an absentee father who uses his son…” Call me crazy, but I’d say that’s attacking someone’s parenting skills, don’t you? Or am I completely out of the loop now and “absentee father” is somehow now become a compliment to someone?
-Of course Brian Jarosinski wanted no part of the “Men Tell All” last night for the sole reason he’s been back together with Stephanie for a while now and would look about as stupid as one can if he would’ve appeared. I mean, I don’t know what’s worse: the fact that he took a chick back who came and embarrassed him on national television, or her for being so insecure, she went running back to a guy who left her high and dry, lied to her, told her he was going on a business trip only to show up on a dating show on network television. These two publicity whores deserve each other I guess. Publicity whores is probably the nicest thing I can say about them. Funny that Brian deleted his Twitter account just days before the “Men Tell All” airs, yet there’s Stephanie tweeting twice since Thursday about how her and Brian are so happy. As I’ve always said, the more a couple wants to tell me how much they are in love on social media platforms, the less I believe them. If you have to keep telling us what a great relationship you’re in, means you’re probably trying to convince yourself of it as well. What a delusional couple this is. I wish you guys nothing but the worst:
One suggestion: Can we do away with Throwback Thursdays? Who came up with it, what’s the point of it, and when will it leave? If you want to post an old picture of yourself, go ahead. Just don’t need the alliteration to go along with it. Hopefully it’ll run its course sooner or later like it’s fellow brethren #FollowFriday. Uh-noy-ing.
-Ben was up first in the hot seat, and a few things stood out to me. The fact that Michael never said anything directly to him makes me think Michael learned his lesson from being a pompous a**hole on the show. Or maybe he did attack Ben again and they chose not to show it, which is highly unlikely. If Michael went after Ben, you can bet your ass it would’ve been shown. So I guess since Michael didn’t go after him, they needed a new guy to step up to the plate and go after Ben, and since the “Tell All” episodes are a good way to make yourself stand out in hopes for a future casting on “Bachelor Pad” next summer (most likely), Dan decided to take the producers bait and go after him with some pretty serious allegations. Most notably, he said that Ben’s son’s mother, Stevie, “tracked him down” in Las Vegas, told him Brody was conceived as a result of Ben cheating on his girlfriend, and that Ben abandoned Stevie and Brody. Well, the “Men Tell All” episode wasn’t even over yet before Stevie went to WetPaint with an interview that basically blasted what Dan said. Her response:
“None of it’s true. Here’s what happened: me and my friend Taylor were in Vegas and we met up at XS [at the Wynn] for my sister’s bachelorette party. Taylor and Dan have a mutual friend, and so we went to say hi. We spoke for barely two minutes, not even.”
Ok, so sounds like Dan made the part up about her tracking him down. What about those allegations that Brody came about because he cheated on his girlfriend with Stevie?
“None of that. None of it was spoken about. We never discussed that. We literally talked for two minutes and then me and Taylor basically ditched him. Basically, he’s just trying to make up some bullsh*t. It’s all lies. I’m so mad. None of it is true, and why would I talk to some random stranger about any of that?!”
Is Ben a bad dad?
“He’s not a bad dad at all. I don’t even understand what he was talking about. I didn’t say any of that. Ben as a father and Ben and my relationship was never discussed [when I met Dan]. Ben’s in Brody’s life a lot. He sees him every week, more than other fathers see their kids. He’s been financially involved 100%, more than most fathers, no matter how much they make. He helps with everything Brody needs.”
I would think if Stevie had any problems with Ben’s parenting skills, any lack of financial support for Brody, or anything to say to pile on Ben, last night would’ve been the perfect opportunity to do so. Or even just give a “no comment.” But she didn’t. In fact, she went the opposite route and vehemently denied everything Dan said. Seems to me if she wanted to destroy Ben, she could’ve last night and since she didn’t, I gotta think there’s more truth to her story than Dan’s.
-Obviously none of us were in Vegas to know what their conversation entailed. However, Dan got his point across because now it’s out there. Stevie did the right thing by trying to set the record straight and tell her side of the story, but honestly, whether she’s telling the truth (which I think she is), Dan set out to accomplish what he wanted to, and that was to paint Ben in the worst light possible and he succeeded. You think people who don’t read WetPaint, or follow along with this show on the internet (a lot of them don’t) are going to care to see if what he said was true? Of course not. They’ll just assume because he said it on TV, it must be true. Here’s why I think I’d tend to believe Stevie’s side in this situation. If the dispute were between Ben and Stevie, and one side had one story, and one side had another, then you could say there’s probably some truth to it. Like if Ben was saying, “I’m a great dad,” and Stevie was saying “No you’re not and here’s why,” then Dan’s story might have some validity to it. But Ben and Stevie are both calling Dan out, and Ben and Stevie have continuously defended their parenting of Brody ever since he appeared on the first episode. If Ben was a horrible father, or didn’t help out or whatever, I’m guessing Stevie would be the first to be pointing that out because it would hold a hell of a lot more water. But the fact that Ben even said on the first episode he has a great relationship with Brody’s mom, tweeted about it again last night, Stevie has echoed Ben’s words AND came to his defense before the show even ended last night makes me think the producers put Dan up to exaggerating a story about Vegas.
-Guess we’ll never know the true story of what was said in Vegas, but knowing what the producers say to these people before the “Tell All” tapings, and knowing that this show can be used as somewhat of an audition for “Bachelor Pad,” you tend to believe Dan was completely exaggerating a Vegas conversation he had with Stevie. I can’t tell you how many countless stories I’ve heard in the past from contestants talking about what it’s like before the “Tell All” taping. The amount of alcohol they provide for them, the producers pulling people aside telling them things they should say, who they should attack, etc. That’s why it’s really hard to take any “Tell All” show seriously. Then again, it’s why I don’t take anything this show does seriously. I don’t know Dan from Adam, but I’m willing to bet he was put up to that by a producer behind the scenes. Why else would a guy who had zero impact on this season, and probably no one could pick out of a police lineup if they had to, come out with such accusations? For attention, for ratings, to appease producers, etc. Happens every season at the “Tell All” and this is no different.
-The other thing that was quite obvious last night was the agenda the show had trying to attack Ben. Obviously having him in the hot seat was a given due to the reactions most guys had to him, but all they showed was Dan’s comments, Mikey attacking him, even Des calling him insincere, yet no one had comments in support of him, even though there were. Chris Harrison specifically even pointed out, “Hey, we’ve got a couple guys on the panel with kids (Brad and Juan Pablo),” yet we didn’t hear from either of them. I can tell you for a fact that Brad jumped to Ben’s defense during that taping, yet none of it was shown for whatever reason. Well, we know the reason. It’s because that wouldn’t have gone along with their “storyline” for Ben last night. Just know that it happened. Just a horrible editing job all around during that whole segment with Ben in the hot seat. You could clearly see what was happening there. At least I hope you could. If you didn’t, hope these last few paragraphs cleared it up for you.