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Reader Emails

A Very Interesting Batch of “Reader Emails”

You know what’s funny, but not the least bit surprising? I actually got more negative reaction on Twitter than I did sent to me in emails. It was all coming so fast and furious on Monday night, I guess I was lumping them in together when I said it was running 80/20 in favor of “Who cares if you got the ending wrong.” Of course people are much more bold over Twitter than email. That’s a given. Sure, there are some brutal emails this week, but Twitter had the most negative attacks. I made sure in this week’s “Reader Emails” to include every negative email sent to me since Monday night. I don’t think I missed any because I was sure to save all of them. Definitely some harsh ones, but it’s just words. If I can generate that much response out of people then I guess I’m doing something right.

Usually I print every “Reader Email” I get from Thursday morning through Wednesday night. Today’s is a little bit different since all anyone basically wants to see is what people said after Monday night aired, so all these emails came in after 9:00pm CST Monday night up through this morning. Also, I received exactly 356 emails since Monday night and there was no way I was printing all of them. All the negative ones are in here, but as for the others, they were randomly chosen based on, well, no criteria whatsoever. Plenty of you just emailed to say nice things, don’t worry about the wrong spoiler and that you’ll continue to read. Basically over 100 of them sounded exactly the same, so I didn’t need to print every single one of them. But know that I saw them and I appreciate the support.

Did you see the post show interview Chris Harrison gave during his weekly visit with This answer is pretty telling I’d say:

Looking back, how would you rate the season?
It was an OK season. It wasn’t great, and I put that on us. I don’t think we performed our best. All I can take my cue from is the ratings, and the ratings weren’t great. To put it in sports terms, it’s not a good game, but you score a couple of runs in the bottom of the ninth. It’s not one of those wins you celebrate, you just go straight to the bus and go home. But we’ve been doing this for 11 years and you’re not going to be spectacular every time. The fact is, you can have an off season, but the ending was phenomenal, so we ended in a high note. Again, you don’t always have you’re A-game, but it doesn’t mean you lose and it doesn’t mean you’re done. We’re far from being irrelevant.

Wait, weren’t they promoting Des all season as the best “Bachelorette” they’ve ever had. This is hilarious. So basically moving forward, anything these producers feed you on Twitter before and during the season is complete horsesh**. Juan Pablo will get the same treatment once they start promoting his season, hyping it as the best season yet, and ultimately it won’t be. Way to backpedal, Harrison. Geez. Throw Des under the bus why don’t ya? Now, on to your “Reader Emails.” Enjoy…

Dear Reality Steve,

To continue my tradition at the end of each season I wanted to send you a thank you note. I am sure you are getting bombarded with hate mail but I still wanted to say congratulations. You had this season mostly right and that counts to me. You still gave good and accurate spoilers (ending aside). So thank you. You will always have a reader and fan in me. And all the assholes yelling at you via twitter or email will continue to read too.

And Juan Pablo????? Are you kidding me? Its going to be a long season!!! Thank god I’ll have your blog to keep me watching. Lol

All the best!

Comment: Thanks. I printed this email because I believe it was the first one that came in after the show ended.

Hey man,

I feel you indeed affected the season. You know that choosing Juan Pablo was the one-finger salute to you haha, even though it also happens to be the bet pick for the show. Also I bet they had someone mislead you as regards Brooks. And then actually built it up (the possibility of a return) based on you when perhaps they otherwise wouldn’t and in retrospect it was pretty inconceivable based on what he said (even though we know about the Jason-Molly storyline).

Hey, they got you. Go spoil it completely next season and get em back. Keep up the good work. I enjoy watching the show, and I also enjoy reading your spoilers. You also got a lot accurate as well this season up until this disastrous week, but of course all that really matters is the end and also the bachelor pick.

In my opinion, do what you are doing in terms of not making any excuses. Take the criticism, definitely defend your record, etc. But don’t make an excuse for being wrong. As for that, be humbled by it, and move on. LATER!

Comment: I still don’t think the casting of Juan Pablo had anything to do with me.

Do I think some of the show was edited because they knew the wrong spoiler was out there? Of course. However, what if I would’ve found out two weeks ago or a week ago, or whenever for that matter, that it WAS Chris in the end and the spoiler was changed? They’d already made their schedule of this season so they had to have known there was a possibility in the last 3 months that the correct ending might have gotten to me, so then all their changing up wouldn’t have meant anything, right? Hell, it DID come to me when that Twitter conversation a fan had with Nate was passed on to me about 3 weeks ago. I just didn’t put enough stock into it because it was really the only place the “Des is with Chris” was coming from.

I fully plan on spoiling next season, and every season this show is on the air. As long as they put out seasons, I will spoil them. It’s become what I do, along with making fun of all the ridiculousness. The recap was around looooong before my spoilers will, so that’s not going anywhere either.

Absolutely will not make any excuses for what happened this season. I think that was pretty evident in Tuesday’s column. Got bad info this season. It happens, and now I move on Juan Pablo’s. Simple as that.


Long time reader of your blog – a few thoughts and questions from Monday’s finale.

1) Have you noticed how the relationship that Des has with her parents and brother seems so estranged. She said what her family thinks is so important to her yet they don’t seem to have that close connection you would think she would have. She has mentioned repeatedly that she left home at 18 years old and how hard her life has been. Then she admitted that she had not spoken to her brother since the Sean conversation but yet still says she cares about what her brother thinks and says. Do you have any insight on this.

2) What was that conversation about between Drew and Des on the beach where he says “I just don’t think this will work” (from the promos) They never showed it on air in the finale.

3) Did her family not know that she had already let Drew go since they obviously didn’t meet Drew. I thought for sure her brother would be more than happy to blab that tidbit to Chris. But instead he asked Chris how he would feel if Des picked Drew. What happened there.

4) During the live finale, Chris Harrison says, “what will Chris think when he finds out how Des really felt about Brooks?” I loved the way Chris Harrison, Chris purposely did not answer that question. There was one contestant and even Sean and Catherine stated the obvious and said they would send Des packing.
Definitely don’t see this relationship lasting, PURE HUMILIATION is all I can say.

5) Sorry your info fell through this season and your prediction of the next Bachelor was off too…I actually like the choice of Juan Pablo over Drew. I wish Juan Pablo didn’t take this though, he and his daughter deserve better than some of the trashy fake girls they cast on this show.

I love reading your blog – keep up the good work and delete all the hate emails.

Comment: 1) No insight on her family relationship other than I agree that it seems very estranged. The admittance after Sean’s season that she talked to Nate once in the last year, then barely talking to him from the end of that season to the beginning of this one, along with her mom not getting any ITM time when Chris met the family, etc. Definitely is a bit suspect. They don’t live anywhere near her, she’s now bolting for Seattle which makes her even farther away, Nate’s down in San Antonio, yeah, I’d say she’s kinda off doing her own thing.

2) One of many things they tease and never show. I’m guessing it was about them not working out if she doesn’t feel it.

3) The whole last episode couldn’t have been any more bizarre if they tried. Impossible to try and explain it away since I didn’t understand it, nor did I see it coming.

4) Hey, Des and Chris have already started in with their incessant tweeting about where they are, the selfies, the “I’d marry him right now” statements and how much they’re in love. Every couple ever on this show has done it. Three have made it. Time will tell.

5) The single dad thing will most certainly be interesting since we’ve only seen it once with Jason. Because as I said at the beginning of that season, it’s not like they’re going to cast 25 women who are hell bent on being with a guy who already has a kid and a hot ex-girlfriend whose the mother of his child. So lets set the over/under on how many girls utter the, “I don’t know if I’m ready to be part of someone else’s family yet” line at 5.

Hey Steve…people need to relax and remember it is only a tv show…if u got 99% on an exam everyone would be cheering for u. so congrats on the 99%…great job Steve!! Can’t wait for more spoilers in the future 🙂

Comment: That’s the way I’ll look at it from now on. I’ll continue to give myself an “A.” And a scratch-n-sniff sticker. Watermelon.

I am sure you are getting a lot of sh8t right now so I just wanted to send you this email to let you know that I think you are so cool!!!! I’d like to know what Jimmy Kimmel and everyone else who runs with your spoilers but never gives you any credit has to say now!!

You singlehandedly shaped the show’s edit this season because I am sure if it was not for your Brooks spoiler the story would not have gotten the edit it did. Once they found out you were wrong they really ran with it so kudos to you. You have so much power, its amazing!

Oh man Desiree is smarter than she let on, Chris is probably a better fit for a fiancee than Brooks.

Also, thank you for adding the only excitement to this boring season. If you had correctly predicted Chris was the final one, it would have been an even bigger snoozefest. WHATTHEF**KNOWJUANPABLOISTHENEWBACHELOR?? What is going on today.

Comment: Pure speculation at this point, but as I mentioned earlier, what if I changed the spoiler at some point if I had found out it was Chris? Would the edit still have stayed the same? Will Chris Harrison still have asked the audience 700 times during the live show, “Hey, who here thinks Brooks is coming back?” I think that was the one obvious take from the live show that was a direct shot at the spoilers. The constant mentioning of Brooks, continuing to ask the audience if they thought he’d come back, and then to even have people in the audience convinced he was coming back. Well played by them. Looking back on it now, they definitely played it up knowing it’d be a surprise to everyone there when it didn’t happen.

Hi Steve,

I’m a high school teacher by day, reality fan junkie by (most) DVRed weeknights. Although I used to be a rose ceremony devotee -I even kept a light-hearted blog during Ashley’s season- the show quickly lost its luster as it became more and more trite, while Chris Harrison’s polka-dotted tie wardrobe became more and more eclectic. I couldn’t stand watching one more person lean against a balcony as their scripted voice over somberly read off the same “Journey/fairytale/insert cliché” lines. However, a friend of mine referenced your blog and after casually clicking on it, I was hooked. Your wry writing is hilarious and spot-on, and as a 30 year old, I appreciate the 90’s show shout-outs!

Anyways, on a night that I’m guessing brings a barrage of attacks from the cat-lady crazies, who believe the show is actual sincere, this is just a quick note that your blog is the BEST reason to still watch an otherwise tired format. The people that are ferociously tweeting you need to get their own reality check; please keep up the commentary and pay no attention to those who enjoy tearing others down.

Have a great week,

Comment: Thanks. I like the “cat lady crazies” line the best, so that’s enough to make your email get posted today.

I hate you

Comment: I love you too.

You’re “credbility” is F**kin’ gone…
Thanks for nothing…ONLY to think that Brooks was gonna come back. You f**king sell 0ut.

Comment: I think you lost credibility in the second word of your first sentence when you couldn’t spell credibility. And you used the number zero to spell “out.” You are a bright one.

So… best part of tonight’s episode, frankly, was Chris Harrison trying to make the night even more dramatic by telling the audience that the bachelorette has never left without choosing someone. That is a complete lie. Jennifer Schefft left without choosing someone.

Most. Dramatic. Mistake. Ever.

Comment: Technically Jen did choose Jerry during their final episode, but that season also had a live finale where she didn’t accept his proposal. Its since been revealed that from the time taping ended til the time the live show finale aired, Jen barely even talked to the guy and I don’t believe they even saw each other, so Jerry kinda knew what was coming.

Of course, it’s bitter sweet. Love proving the haters wrong with your spoilers but wth, this publicity is great. I watched your twitter followers go boom tonight.

Did you feel it??

I honestly felt at every turn, the show was doing whatever they could to turn the opposite direction you had guided all your fans. They are literally playing your game. And, that is all the satisfaction you’ll ever need

AND, Chris and Des won’t last long…if its even real. No man PATS his woman’s shoulder. Des was a wreck emotionally, she literally looked like she was ready to jump into Brooks arms if he would have said that he loved her.

There wasn’t a single word about wedding between the two of them

Des looked sooo painfully uncomfortable sitting next to her “fiancé”

Juan P spilled the beans when he said, “there’s so many more ppl here than last week… I mean the last couple of weeks.” It’s not live, it’s never live.

Is ABC seriously, honestly telling me, Des was in love with Brooks this entire time, and 1.5 days goes by and amazingly she figured out she could love Chris too? I feel more confident in believing they are actors.

I’ll keep following you, and clicking on the adds. It’s the least I could do.

Comment: Well Monday’s audience show was definitely live. I just think Juan Pablo screwed up what he was saying. Something I expect a lot of next season.

Des will convince you she needed Brooks to leave so she could see who she was truly in love with. Some people buy it. Most people don’t. I personally don’t see how all that went down and it makes zero sense to me, but then again, I don’t buy any of these couples.

Bump in the road. Stick with me and this site and everything will be back on track.


Comment: Booty head.

Hi Steve

I know you’ll be getting buttloads of emails, most of which proclaiming that you suck, but I just wanted to let you know that, as a first-time reader of your blog, I’ll definitely continue to read in the future, because you’re awesome. Honestly, I don’t understand the stick up people’s asses. It’s a TV show. You get it wrong once or twice out of like twenty seasons and people go apesh*t.

Anyway, this will probably get brought up a lot, but wow. That ending. Was just. I’m shaking my head, because there’s not a snowball’s chance in hell that you can be in love with someone and then get engaged to someone else a few days later. I thought at the very least if Brooks wasn’t returning, that she would decline Chris’ proposal but continue dating him after the show. The whole finale doesn’t make sense to me. A lot more emphasis was put on Brooks’ departure than it should have. I know it was meant to mislead us or be the doom and gloom before the clouds part for Desiree or some sh*t, but all it ended up doing was souring what could have been a touching proposal.

Here’s my question, though. Kind of off-topic, and I’m sorry if you’ve been asked this before, but who would be your ideal bachelor/bachelorette from any of the previous seasons?

Comment: Pretty cool that a first time reader to the site isn’t jumping ship so soon. Thanks. Glad you’re aware of the track record.

The thing is, it’s not like I’m invested into any past character in hopes that they find the loves of their life, so I don’t really know who I’d want to see as the lead from previous seasons. Sure I have some that I’d consider friends, but I’d tell every single one of them (a few of them I have) to stay away from going on this show again. Some have listened. Some haven’t. Their call.

Hey Steve!

Blah blah blah…great blog…blah blah blah…check it 4 times a day…blah blah blah…you’re a genius…let’s cut to the chase:

I was thinking as I was watching this finale “oh man this is a tough night for Reality Steve” and then I realized we were in America where you get the most attention for being wrong or being dumb. Of course you are not dumb, but you were wrong and I’m sure your site’s traffic is through the roof! Congrats because I really do enjoy your blog and you very much enhance my Bachelor/Bachelorette viewing experience. In fact I will go on record to say that I would NOT watch this show if it wasn’t for your blog. Why ABC doesn’t recognize this or celebrate this is beyond me…

As for the finale, I actually really enjoyed it and they actually edited in a way that made sense to me. So many women fall in love with the wrong guy and there is some guy in the background who is there to pick up the pieces. I have been “that guy” who picked up the pieces of a brokenhearted woman after she was dumped by the bad boy. Now is Brooks really the “bad boy”? No not really, but he’s definitely the wrong choice. Women’s hearts are an anomaly to me because they bend and shift in so many directions in short periods of time.

Now don’t get me wrong, of course this is still a TV and they need to create the “story” to make us think that it all makes sense, but in the end I did shed a small tear when Des told Chris that Brooks blinded her from the man who was always there from the beginning. I think that was more from personal experience than anything else. Anyways, I think ABC actually did a good job in fooling all of us thinking Brooks was coming back and that there was no WAY Des would pick either Chris or Drew. Well done and congrats to you because I’m sure your traffic was through the roof…until next season…

Comment: Wow. A dude emailing me. And admitting to shedding a tear during the finale. What is this world coming to?

As for my traffic? Things are just great. It was exactly what I was expecting it to be after what happened Monday. No complaints here.

Hey – Sell Out Thanks for misleading US… Tell Fleiss I Said “Hi”. Go AWAY STEVE….I Got IT – YOU WIN>> Gee, Desiree and Brooks are together RIght:??? Hope your stupid sight makes it… Oh,yeah, it will, with the backing of Fleiss.. Hope you can sleep at night…

Comment: Wait, did I mislead “us” as in the viewers? Or “US” (capitalized) as in the “the whole United States?”

Your incessant capitalization of words that have no business being capitalized I think pretty much sums up the intelligence level I’m dealing with here.

Conspiracy theorists out in full force again. Now it’s Mike Fleiss backing the site and we were in on this together. Couldn’t be farther from the truth and utterly ridiculous. Not that that answer matters. If someone is stupid enough to believe that, their response to what I just said is, “Well of course you’re gonna deny it.” And if I don’t say anything, I’m guilty as well because I avoided it. I’ve got zero reason to lie. If there are people out there who honestly think this was a set up, I’m an ABC plant, I work for Mike Fleiss yada yada yada, they are completely delusional. They don’t know half the stuff that’s gone on behind the scenes the last 18 months or else that wouldn’t even be a thought in their head.

Steve, not only were you given wrong info about the ending, you missed the boat on Juan Pablo being the next bachelor. I’m not so sure I’d put my eggs in your source basket again!

Comment: I would.


Never written before because frankly I have nothing to offer really….just enjoy the entertainment value of your site.

Holy crap are you getting our ass handed to you tonight! And why am I enjoying it so much? It’s because I know you realize how pathetic it is that people are SO upset about a reality show and you could care less!

Will you spoil again next and probably be right? Yes.

Will all the people who say they aren’t going to ever read your site again be back next year to read your spoilers? Yes.

I admit for me it’s better when you are wrong!

Sleep well…I know you will because YOU HAVE A LIFE!!!

Comment: I’m shocked at how many people have said it was a good thing I was wrong because it added excitement to the show. Maybe it is ok to be wrong every once in a while. I sure don’t want to be and I hope I never am again, but a lot of people said it made the finale more interesting. Guess I never looked at it that way because I was pissed I was wrong.

Ha ha you were wrong!!!!’ I don’t mean to sound so Jr. High about it but you are so cocky and so sure of yourself that it’s great to knock you down a few pegs once in awhile. Maybe you’ll will stop being so cocky and rude but I doubt it. I started reading your spoilers in Emily season (she was my favorite bachelorette). Each week I read your articles and watch your videos. You eventually got really rude and totally turned me off. (and no I’m not one of those crazy Jef or Arie fans). Anyway for Sean and Des I just read the spoilers no articles or email questions because I just can’t stand your rudeness especially when I new person to your site ask you a question you feel you already answered a million times. Well it would seem to me that you always would want more readers to build up your website so why you are rude to them and don’t answer their questions I’ll never get. I will probably still check spoilers from time to time although I won’t be so sure you are right anymore, but you have definitely lost a avid reader to your posts. It’s not because you were wrong this one time but because of you cockiness and just being a jerk to your readers.

Comment: Ok, so lets recap what this person called me: cocky, sure of myself, rude (400 times) and a jerk. Yet in the same breath also stated “each week I read your articles and watch your videos.”

Case closed.

I don’t even understand how people could be mad at you. it’s not like they are forced to read your blog, and to believe everything you post. I’m more mad at abc because they edited a certain way, and set up a certain plot and they just didnt end with it. I come to watch a love story. I don’t care if it’s real or fake. yesterday’s episode was far from it. on a scale of 1-10 how annoyed are you. I’m about a 12.

Comment: To everyone out there who is bothered by the beating I was taking on Twitter from fans, don’t be. If the person they are directing their hatred towards doesn’t care, you certainly shouldn’t. Maybe 4 years ago when I started spoiling it would’ve bothered me, but I’ve been doing this too long and I know exactly what this job entails – plenty of criticism. Let them. If I let all criticism get to me, I certainly still wouldn’t be doing this job.

I provide a free service to people who have a choice whether or not they want to read what I write. I’ll never understand why anyone would take the time to verbalize how upset they are with me or something I said by a tweet, email, or whatever. I guess I’m just wired differently than most. I’ve never tweeted or emailed any author of anything in my life so upset by something they wrote and I guarantee I never will. There’s been plenty of horses**t articles I’ve read in my life. Even some I thought were dead wrong, factually incorrect, or just completely biased and not objective in the least bit. But never gotten riled up so much to the point to personally attack them. So ridiculous. But hey, different strokes for different folks. Obviously there are people out there that do, as evidenced by the reaction Monday night. Is what it is, and that’s why I just laugh at it.

Seriously smalls-

A reminder to all those freaking out at you

1) it’s just a show
2) Des / Brooks / Chris are not actually their friends
3) they are watching a tv show
4) they need to read spoilers at all times with a filter
5) if they are going to get angry every time they are spoon fed something wrong, life is going to suck big time.
6) don’t bite the hand that feeds you
7) public lynchings are illegal
8) guarantee they will come back-they always do

I have read your blog since Deanna’s season…I will continue reading it. So this season is wrong-you will get ABC next time

Comment: Good advice. Plenty of which none of the crazies will adhere to. But hey, at least you tried.

I have a question in which I am only half seriously about.

Are you by any chance employed by ABC?? If you aren’t, you should be. They should be paying you for that wrong spoiler. Do people realize they based their entire finale around YOUR incorrect “spoiler”?

If it hadn’t been for you they would have showed the rose ceremony after Brooks left and began a new episode with the two remaining men. Everyone thought Brooks would be back to win her back and that is what brought in the viewers. Your spoiler brought the viewers.

By the way the twitter reaction was pretty outrageous. People really get that mad at you? Absurd. I thought it made the finale even better myself. Sometimes I wish I knew who didn’t win but I can’t not read your site.

So seriously, does ABC secretly pay you?

Comment: No, they don’t. I’ve built from the ground floor by myself, along with my webmaster. We are the only two involved in the day-to-day operation of the site.

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  1. rollingeyes

    August 8, 2013 at 9:42 AM

    Ha! “Booty Head” made me laugh out loud!

  2. sarald00

    August 8, 2013 at 9:48 AM

    Twitty is like the old AOL messages boards were…nasty free-for-all, anonymous vicious people! Crazies!

  3. sarald00

    August 8, 2013 at 9:49 AM

    Oops…I meant Twitter….

  4. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 11:00 AM

    I find it odd that Steve kept making a point to say he would publish all of the negative emails in today’ column, but then he didn’t. I doubt mine was the only negative email that didn’t get published. And before anyone says it, no I wasn’t cursing him out or calling him name. My questions weren’t even asked in any of the other emails published, so it wasn’t one of the 100s of repeats.

    Typical that the reader emails are mostly made up of those praising Steve, with a few negative ones thrown in so it doesn’t look as fake as the reality shows he covers.

    Now I wonder how much of the reader emails actually were negative, since its unlikely to be the 80/20 that he claims it to be.

  5. kjopo84

    August 8, 2013 at 12:05 PM

    @lcs85 — I don’t care about the spoilers myself and didn’t email Steve, but like you I agree that he isn’t being honest. He said he printed all of the negative emails. I counted. There were 12. Plus 57 positive ones.

    So 356 emails and only 12 were negative? Please.

  6. locondcoco

    August 8, 2013 at 12:10 PM

    2 things-

    1) love how there are SO many negative ones. had to read through like 5 which were blowing smoke up his butt before we got to a negative one.

    2) for the one that spelled “credibility” wrong and said “sell 0ut”- Of course the biggest offense in that sentense was the use of the wrong “you’re”. In the words of Ross Gellar: “Y-o-u apostrophe r-e means ‘you are’, y-o-u-r means ‘your’!”

  7. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 12:25 PM

    I mostly just emailed him after he kept claiming he would post all the negative emails if he was wrong. These reader emails are all the same week after week with people telling Steve how amazing he is, or how they read his recaps religiously even though they’ve never watched the show. He will only post negative emails if the person doesn’t have anything intelligent to say (like the I hate you and jerk emails above), or if he can make fun of their spelling. I wanted to see if he was actually going to post the negative emails that weren’t from complete idiots, and that he would have to give an actual response to.

  8. vessel

    August 8, 2013 at 12:40 PM

    I hope he moves beyond this whole support of him/bashing him emails regarding the incorrect spoiler very soon. I’m so over it, and over Desiree in general and her stupid 11th hour declarations of love. It’s all such utter baloney. But hey Des, whatever, move to Seattle temporarily like Jef moved to North Carolina to try to briefly lend some credibility to what is obviously a sham engagement. (Hmmm, I wonder if ABC throws them some moving $ to make it all seem at least a teeny bit real to the public?) In any case I wrote RS an email on Monday before the finale aired that had nothing to do with Desiree’s season, it was about the confidentiality contracts. Maybe a boring question, but still something I hope he gets to in a future “Reader Emails” post.

  9. matchmaker

    August 8, 2013 at 1:18 PM

    How does one delete their RS WordPress account?

  10. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 2:27 PM

    @vessel The show just ended on Monday, 3 days ago! This is the first reader email that has been posted since the finale. So of course all the emails are going to be about Des’ season and how it ended. Its silly to say you’re over it when you knew that is what was going to be discussed. Wouldn’t it have been odd if the finale aired and Steve just moved on from Des’ season without talking about it for at least that week? I could understand if this was September, and every post was about the ending, but come on, it just happened.

    If you want answers to questions that have nothing to do with what is going on right now, I would try emailing him your question again in a few weeks. Steve claims that the emails he posts are only from that week, so I don’t think he’ll post ones from weeks ago. Although who knows what really goes on with Reader Emails…

  11. Athena

    August 8, 2013 at 3:09 PM

    Can someone please let me know what a “selfie” (related to Juan Pablo) is? Thanks.

  12. rob22

    August 8, 2013 at 3:23 PM

    I liked Steve actually trying to answer the negative emails with funny quips. Typically his answers are pretty much not that funny. It spiced up the emails even if most of the emailers were boot lickers writing repetitive nonsense.

    I agree with RS that Juan Pah-blow will lose his luster quickly. He’s already WAY too into himself and is just basking in all the attention he’s getting. Wow, what a surprise that a professional athlete is so self focused and vain. Maybe he can put out 10,000 more selfies in advance of the next Bachelor. I think it’s clear that by the middle of the show people will be pretty over him…. but I’m sure the show is hoping that by then people will be invested in their favorite girls. I’m imagining that they’re going to try harder to have likable girls instead of those that are obviously just there to get their pie holes on camera.
    I fully expect that Steve will be on his game next season…. and with an english challenged, ex-jock, ego-maniac, boring, douche (yeah, that’s what you’ll be saying in about four months) like Juan Pah-blow, it should be a target rich environment for RS.

  13. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 3:34 PM

    @Athena a selfie is a picture that someone takes of themselves, often with their camera phone, and usually posts on twitter, facebook, and/or instagram.

  14. vessel

    August 8, 2013 at 5:42 PM

    @Ics85, yeah I know it just happened. I guess i meant “over it” in the larger sense. I want to forget this horrible season with it’s absolutely ridiculous ending even happened. Desiree pretending to be in love and ready to marry someone she obviously had no serious romantic feelings for is just so forced it kinda sickens me. I don’t want to see her face on magazines, read people nauseatingly say she and Chris are so “meant to be” etc. But yeah you’re right, I made my choice to read what would obviously 100% be about what went down at the finale. I will re-ask him my question in a few weeks. Thanks.

  15. Athena

    August 8, 2013 at 7:15 PM

    Thanks Ics85.

  16. bigfatwoman2

    August 8, 2013 at 7:27 PM

    Steve is incorrectly stating that Des and Chris have “already started the incessant tweeting and selfies.”

    That’s actually not true at all. I have been following both Chris and Des on Twitter since the beginning of the show and Des tweets seldom and Chris has just started tweeting since the show ended. They post very few selfies and they have sent out less than 5 tweets about themselves as a couple.

    Juan Pablo on the other hand, tweets something out at least every hour and oftentimes it’s a selfie. I agree with @rob22, the guy is very pleased with himself.

    Beneath all Steve’s bravado (and there’s a lot of it) is a guy who seems to very much want love for himself. We just don’t get to see his sweetness cuz he’s too caught up in being da’ man.

    Contrite and humble is sexy Steve. You should try it.

  17. justforfun

    August 8, 2013 at 8:52 PM

    What negative emails? Where were they? I read the first couple, and nothing but praise. I guess RS left most of them out so he could show everyone that yes, people still love his blog, and will read no matter what. That’s fine if he needs to self validate, it’s his blog.

    As for Juan Pablo posting selfies, and tweeting a lot. So what? He’s promoting himself, like any smart person should do that is going on this show just for promotion. Let’s face it, this show is a farce, and the best someone can hope for is to get some promotion that will launch or help their career.The chances of finding real love on this show are the same as winning the lotto.

    Next thing you know we’ll have someone posting that Juan Pablo isn’t going on the show for the right reasons. DUH!

  18. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 8:56 PM

    @vessel you’re pretty much describing every season of the Bachelor(ette). If the show sickens you then don’t watch it. Like Steve says, there is always going to be a proposal at the end. They are never going to be in love when the proposal happens, because people don’t fall in love with someone they’ve spent a grand total of 24 hours “alone” with over a six week period all while dating other people. They’re always going to end up on the tabloid covers and do the talk shows. They’re always going to have their fans that think they are “so in love” and “meant to be”. Thats just how the show is.

  19. vessel

    August 9, 2013 at 7:58 AM

    @lcs85, Yes I get all of that, and I think you are mistaking me for some cat-lady fan living in la-la land. I couldn’t be further from that type of viewer. I know there is pretty much zero reality in this stupid show. TRUST ME… I am not one of the morons that watches it because I think there is any kind of actual true love fairytale story unfolding before my very eyes. I watch it for the accidental humor and the idiotic over the top way many contestants act, and also because I read Steve’s column, and coupled with his sarcastic recaps (and Jen Frase’s and a few others) it’s amusing to me. Desiree’s season (and Emily’s) just annoyed me WAY more than anyone else’s season has, and it’s just my personal opinion. Desiree’s because in the end she came off as a complete nitwit a$$hole choosing someone in the 11th hour and pretending she felt something… and then the general public actually buying it and embracing this sham of a couple to me is just gross. Is it true that she couldn’t do a Brad 1.0 and say “Nope, not doing it, I am as graciously as possible declining to accept a proposal, and after what I said about Brooks I should think the viewers would respect me in this”? I mean does ABC have that in her contract that under NO circumstances can she choose no one? I am aware that they push, HARD, and bully and all that for an engagement, but does she literally have no choice? In any case no other Bachelor/ette has annoyed me nearly as much, and I totally do not mind hearing about other past ones and seeing them in magazines, etc. after their season ends. In fact I like hearing updates and enjoy the Jason and Molly podcast. Not true with Desiree. I’d be thrilled to never see her ugly cry face again.

  20. Sunnyside422

    August 9, 2013 at 8:30 AM

    It is true that Des lost all credibility as the season progressed. I think deep down, she is probably a very nice person really wanting to find someone to love and be loved. This show is not the place to do that.

    Juan is laughable! His prancing around the stage practically jumping into the laps of the drooling females will be gold for his season! He is out douche all the other bachelors as he wades his way through all the big boobed babes!

  21. locondcoco

    August 9, 2013 at 9:35 AM

    I’m a little surprised at the Juan Pablo “hate”. Granted, i’m not following him on twitter or anything, but he generally comes across as a good guy to me. Perhaps I’m being naive or something. Seems like a nice guy that genuinely loves his daughter (which actually, is the only I thought might get annoying after a whole season- him wanting to “find a step-mom for Camila”). Yes, there is a llittle male bravado in him, but nothing out of the ordinary. We’ll see I guess.

  22. Athena

    August 9, 2013 at 12:06 PM

    @locondococo – my concern about JP is exactly the same as yours – I heard him say more than once how much he wants to find a stepmother for his daughter. That doesn’t exactly sound like the sexiest come on to a prospective mate, even one who would embrace the role. Seems like he needs to focus more on finding a true love for himself. I’m sure he’ll be coached to shift what he says before the season begins, but deep down, I may still wonder. And, if our concerns about this are correct, then I wonder if he’s one of those guys who has the one kind of woman he’ll “date” (fun, sexy, etc.) vs the other kind he’d “marry” (more reserved, less “promiscuous”, etc.) I hope he’s not a chauvanist of this sort.

  23. rob22

    August 9, 2013 at 2:50 PM

    The issue with Juan Pah-blow is not that he’s a bad guy or a bad father. The issues are:
    1.) He can only speak understandable English when he’s going from a script. Once off script, he starts babbling in some form of Spanglish.
    2.) He has a daughter, which will be a turnoff for some… though not a huge deal overall.
    3.) He had a total of about 10 minutes of air time all season… mostly one liners or ITMs (that he could memorize) plus a surprising five minutes of time on Men Tell All. At the time, I thought many of us thought it was a sure sign that he was being pimped for The Bachelor… I’m not sure why RS stubbornly refused to see that.
    4.) Once he got the gig, on ATFR, he started to do his best impression of a male stripper…. smiling and preening & having to hold himself back from performing lap dances on the entire audience. I was just glad he kept his pants on. I wasn’t sure where he was headed & I was fully prepared to avert my eyes, if necessary.
    5.) All the Twitter selfies. OK, I get that he wants to promote himself…. and that may have helped land him the gig…. but does anyone want six months of selfies from this guy?

    All this points to a guy who is essentially James. He promoted himself for Bachelor & didn’t have the “negatives” that James did, because Juan Pah-blow wasn’t on the show enough for people to dislike him. He didn’t get a bad edit, like James, he the almost completely cut out edit.

    You see this in politics where someone with an established record (which invites hate from those that disagree with them) loses an election to someone without a record, or at least a short record without too much to really hate…. until they get elected & start to put together a record.

    So… we’ll see. I’m sure The Bachelor will edit out a lot of his ego driven shenanigans to help reduce the hate…. but all that will leave is what we just got in Des’ season. A bunch of pre-programmed sound bites in voice overs & ITMs, along with a lot of “amazing”, “I love that”, and other canned responses. If they leave in the ego crap, you’ll get another Ben Flatdick, bad hair and all, and nobody wants that.

  24. liz123

    August 9, 2013 at 6:01 PM

    @rob22 in regards to the constant use of “Juan Pah-blow” may I refer you to:

    It’s only funny like the first 48 times.

    Also, at what point on ATFR did he act like he was about to strip? Totally missed that (if it indeed happened). I don’t get the dislike people have of him. He doesn’t seem any more self-centered or egotistical than anyone else who agrees to be the Bachelor or Bachelorette. I personally wasn’t falling over myself for this guy, but by the same token, I don’t see any reason to despise the guy either.

    Oh & for those of you who don’t want to see his selfies, how about not following him on Twitter? Is someone forcing you? I think some people just have to have somebody to hate. It must fill some kind of emptiness or anger they have inside. I, personally, like to reserve my hate for people who deserve that kind of energy- people like Ayatollah Khomeini & Westboro Baptist Church members. <—- There's my psychological musings for the day. You're welcome. 😉

  25. rob22

    August 9, 2013 at 6:12 PM

    Ha Liz, I’m using Juan Pah-blow because Juan Pah-blo is very picky about how his name is pronounced. I wouldn’t want to offend him with my too-American pronunciation of Juan Pablo. I’m just being sensitive to his feelings.

    As for his stripping, I was merely reading his mind. The girls were going wild for him and he was soaking it in so much and smiling at the girls and mugging for the cameras…. that I thought for a second he was going to dance into the crowd, disrobe, mount a soccer mom while yelling “Lucy! You’ve got com-pany-yyyyy!!”. I don’t know. Maybe you saw it differently.

    Oh, and I don’t hate Juan Pah-blow. But I suspect many of the ladies will before the season is over. For me, it’s great. The mocking opportunities appear to be endless.

  26. elizabeth82

    August 9, 2013 at 8:37 PM

    Wow, I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t read the Reader E-mails column anymore. It was just getting to be a bunch of BS (and too long and repetitive BS at that). Only came here for the comments.

    Of people I know IRL, only one is excited about Juan Pablo (my aunt, and she loses points; at least my mom and work friends–none of my close friends watch this crap–who watch are on my page). My mom somehow roped my dad into watching the last couple seasons (male perspective–yay) and he thought the only interesting contender was Brooks because of all his squishy feelings (no thanks!). He thought Zak was too weird.

  27. peteb

    August 11, 2013 at 9:09 AM

    Regarding everyone who is surprized that RS is “not being honest” about publishing all negative emails, come on….

    The guy has been misleading the blog readers for years and you expect him to take this like a man. Obviously MF thought that this time RS should be wrong, and since RS likes his paycheque, he had to oblige. All this is just damage control (as are the various comments here that it’s time to “move on”). And frankly, there aren’t too many strategies to handle this other than “move on” and hope that the “Bachelor Nation” will forgive and forget” once he successfully “spoils” JP’s season (which I think now is a given unless MF wants to lose all the investment he made in RS).

  28. peteb

    August 11, 2013 at 9:18 AM

    A very quick comment on JP as TB. The choice is obviously solely motivated by the realization that Latino audiences are not watching this show. This is the fastest rising consumer market segment and the show needed to get them “hooked”. Since they could not quite put it like that, they had to quickly “build up excitement” at the MTA episode and online.

    Mind you, I don’t think that JP will be any better or worse than an average Bachelor, but it is pathetic how MF suddenly “found” diversity, after so many seasons. Note that this is a show that never cast African Americans in the lead, and the few African American contestants over the years were only tokens.

  29. finalrose2013

    August 12, 2013 at 10:39 AM

    Am I the only one thinking this is alarming?? The new Bachelor Juan Pablo’s 15 plus tweets on the weekend have been about the Backstreet Boys, how much he LOVES them, their moves and dances, and all related stuff. Anyone? Anyone?? #RedFlag This season can be embarrassing, guys!

  30. shouldbeworking

    August 14, 2013 at 11:55 AM

    Just read on E! that Gia Allemand passed away.
    So sad. So young.

  31. bigfatwoman2

    August 14, 2013 at 12:00 PM

    So an announcement of Gia’s death is made and within minutes Sean Lowe and RS are tweeting out condolences. I love Twitter…..but man that seems in such poor taste. Couldn’t you wait till tomorrow? Or wait to make sure all of her close friends and family know? Seriously, tweeting condolences? WTF? Am I being overly critical? Someone rationalize this to me cuz I don’t get it.

  32. locondcoco

    August 14, 2013 at 2:08 PM

    BFW2, i think you are being a touch overcritical. I’m sure those who needed to know (family, close friends), already did, before the announcement.

  33. jazzmine

    August 14, 2013 at 2:35 PM

    Gia Allemand….oh my goodness. That is sadder than sad. That poor girl.

  34. kasey31

    August 14, 2013 at 10:19 PM

    BFW2- Overcritical.. if you read the article, which I assume you didn’t, the family actually released the statement. And I would venture to say that had RS NOT tweeted out his condolences, people would be upset about that, too. As much as he pokes fun at the contestants on the show, I am sure the news hurt him.

    Her death really had an impact on me for some reason. So young, so much potential, and from all accounts, so sweet to everyone she came into contact with. I always believed she never belonged in the “Bachelor” Franchise, I remember her devastation from the betrayal of her friends on “The Bachelor Pad,” and she ultimately left because she said she didn’t belong on a show that was full of so much manipulation and back-stabbing.. she always seemed to have such a good head on her shoulders, and always stuck to her convictions and morals.

    I didn’t know where else to come when I heard about the news, so I thought I would come here. Such a beautiful person, but obviously broken and hurting. Still, suicide is never the answer. Never, ever. RIP, Gia.

  35. Nobody

    August 15, 2013 at 1:57 AM

    @ BFW2: Yes, you are being way over critical. The family knew (or should have known) about the death long before the media got wind of then death. Names aren’t released until after family notification has been made first. At least that’s the way it is supposed to work.

  36. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 7:37 AM

    Thanks for the input.

    My criticism was not so much of RS since he is a news source. I have it out for Sean Lowe because I don’t like him.

    When I heard news of Gia in the hospital, one of her friends was quoted in several of the articles. I started following that friend knowing she would tweet updates as well as started following Gia’s publicist.

    Gia’s friend that I was following tweeted out yesterday morning that she was still hopeful Gia would make a full recovery. Almost at the exact same time Sean Lowe tweeted his condolences. At this point the news was not on People, Radar or mentioned by her publicist. In fact, several people said it was misinformation and she was still alive.

    My point isn’t that Sean or RS wouldn’t express condolences. Of course they would and should. My point is that Sean Lowe jumped on the news so fast that to me it seemed unnecessary and self-serving. Normally not a big deal, but when you are thought of as an ego maniacal douche bag, then this behavior falls right in line with who I think you are.

    That’s all. Just my opinion. I feel sad for all who knew and loved Gia and I admire those who knew her and yet didn’t feel the need to go to Twitter to express grief.

  37. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 9:27 AM

    @BFW..stfu already. Who the heck are you to be judge and jury regarding what Sean Lowe did or didn’t do? Just because YOU’VE got a hard-on for him, doesn’t give you the authority to say what he did was right or wrong. Self-serving? Please BFW..take a shake. A woman, that was a friend of his, just passed away. He’s saddened by the news, and is just saying so. He’s asking his God to pray for her and her family. Is that so bad? Who cares if he jumped on it quickly? Quite obviously you do, and that’s really a shame. So, I suggest you take a step back, and look at the whole picture. You can take this any way you like, I could care less. I’m just horrified that you actually posted what you did about Sean Lowe. You should be ashamed.

  38. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:05 AM


    1). My last paragraph said, “just my opinion.”

    2). “Could” care less means just that…you could. Next time try “couldn’t.”

    3). You are “horrified” and I should be “ashamed.” That’s some pretty heavy stuff.

    4). Just what do I do in order to “take a shake?” If it involves chocolate shakes, sign me up!

  39. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 10:17 AM

    @BFW: Definition from Urban Dictionary:

    ‘I care so little about this topic that my level of caring is at its utmost minimum’

    And that is exactly how I feel about you and your Sean Lowe hard-on.

    And if chocolate’s how you roll, then go for it. I could care less.

  40. iheartvino

    August 15, 2013 at 10:43 AM

    @BFW, you said above ” I have it out for Sean Lowe because I don’t like him.” Question for you:
    Then why in the hell are you following him on Twitter?

    I agree with others that you are being overcritical. It’s just the world we live in now- word travels fast these days with social media being at everyone’s fingertips. Also, regarding BeautyBroker (if that’s the friend you were referring to that you started following) I saw some tweets from Gia’s close friends claiming that BeautyBroker wasn’t a reliable source and there people were alluding to her not being as close to Gia as she claimed she was. If that’s true then I’m not surprised that she wasn’t one of the first few people to be made aware that Gia had passed.

    Obviously all of this is pretty irrelevant in the big picture but I thought I’d point it out anyway. What happened with Gia is devastating and I feel very sad for her boyfriend (ex or not), friends, and family. A huge loss indeed and she was one of the few people I liked a lot from the franchise.

  41. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:54 AM


    I follow lots of people on Twitter that I don’t like…’s the love to hate phenomenon.

    Anyway, it’s just an opinion. Yes, I read the same stuff about @beautybroker and she was the one I was following.

    Thanks for not jumping down my throat. I have strong opinions, not everyone is going to agree with me and vice versa.

  42. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:58 AM


    It really is “couldn’t care less”…..I don’t think Urban Dictionary should be your go to source.

    I have plenty of hard-ons for plenty of people and I have now added you. I love you. I love all of your snitty ways when anyone differs from your opinion. It definitely turns me on.

  43. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 11:02 AM

    Whatever you say, BFW, whatever you say.

  44. vessel

    August 17, 2013 at 8:05 AM

    Sorry to butt into this debate, but “couldn’t care less” is correct. Millions of people every second get this mixed up, but if you actually take a sec and think about it, if you say “I could care less” you are saying you do care.

    THIS is actually what the Urban dictionary says about “Could are less”:
    used by confused individuals with a poor grasp of written english.

    Urban dictionary is a place to go to see how people have basically made up their own lingo, it’s not actually a dictionary to use if you care about being right.

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