Reality Steve

Reader Emails

A Very Interesting Batch of “Reader Emails”


Wrong about Brooks, wrong about Juan Pablo…DONE with RealitySteve!!! Why would I continue to follow someone who’s 0 for 2 for the entire season? Batting 000.0, Steve! I’ll watch and enjoy the show from now on, like everyone else.

Comment: I only had 2 spoilers for the entire season? And I was wrong about both? Wow. That’s about as factually incorrect as you can get. Nice try though. Keep reading.

First I want to say I love your column and screw all the the haters. You’re only human.

Okay so last night it was so awkward when Brooks came out! Did you see her face? He was so uncomfortable. It was pitiful. She was teary eyed and he was getting emotional. Can you explain to me how she could be engaged to Chris after her saying she saw Brooks as her future? How can you be in love one day and engaged to someone else a few days later? On GMA they asked her if Brooks had not left Antigua would she have been engaged to Chris? She said yes that she just knew! She is so full of shit! It would have been Brooks up there and not Chris. It won’t last she will want to kill him from all the poetry he is going to write her!

Anyway you do an awesome job! Keep
It up! Looking forward to Juan Pablo spoilers!!

Comment: At the time it was airing Monday night, I didn’t really pay attention to the Brooks and Des conversation. I was too busy texting people asking me what the hell happened. I went back and watched it though and it was rather uncomfortable. Why did it seem like he was the Bachelor and he’d dumped her so she was looking for answers? That was completely bizarre from every angle.

And I don’t buy for a second that until that moment, Brooks had no idea what the end result of the show was. Total bullsh*t.

Hi Steve,

My mother, who is 72, loves you and your spoilers. (I give her the
highlights). Anyhow, she asked me to email “RealitySteven” to let you
know that she loves you and that if you were right about everything,
all the time, it would be no fun. She is also looking forward to your
spoilers about “Juan Pollo’s” season. No, I don’t think she realizes
that she’s effectively calling him “Juan Chicken”. I’m just going to
let her have that one, but I thought it might bring you a chuckle.

Anyhow, keep your chin up, we adore your blog!

Comment: Actually, it’s Stephen with a “ph.”

I think I may have to work a “Juan Pollo” into the column at some point next season. I guess it’s better than the person on Twitter who yelled at me all while calling him “Juan Carlos.” Is that any relation to Carlos Danger?

Hi Steve,

So now that we know what happened on the finale, why do you think that brooks isn’t the next bachelor? He would have been my first choice. Do you think they offered it to him and he turned it down? I’m happy with Juan Pablo but would have definitely preferred Brooks.

Comment: Why? Well, probably because the guy is awful at breaking up with women.

Not to mention, hey I did get one thing right this season when I told you back in April that Brooks was not ready to get married anytime soon. Maybe I should’ve listened to my own info. He did nothing to dispel that image of him at all this season. I think therein lies your answer.

Never in a million years would I expect to think about your website while in church, but in fact I did have a chuckle when our preacher started his sermon Sunday by “recapping” this season. His sermon was titled “Chosen” and asked the congregation if we would “accept” a rose from God. I do think the show is complete silliness, but for whatever reason I get sucked in every season…. as do a lot of people obviously… but never thought it was worthy of a Sunday sermon! Just thought you might also find it funny & whispered to my husband that I had to send you an email to tell you about it. At the end he announced that he would have to tune in on Monday for the end result. Who knows…maybe God even tuned in to see who won :).

Comment: Your preacher talked about the “Bachelorette” during a sermon? I think I’ve heard it all now.

Maybe I should strengthen my relationship with God to get next season’s spoilers. I mean, he’s all knowing, right? Think he could throw me a bone and fill me in on who Juan Pablo picks?

I, like many of your readers, was seriously upset your spoilers were wrong. However, I wasn’t upset with you, I was pissed because I wanted Brooks to win! I was holding out hope Brooks would return last night and Chris would be the next Bachelor…a girl can dream.

But, that being said, haters gonna hate and you’ll bounce back. Even if your spoilers were wrong, I always enjoy your recaps if nothing more than for comic relief.

Keep on doing what you do!

…and good for you for retweeting some of those awful comments. Just goes to show you have a good head on your shoulders!

Comment: The retweets were done for pure comedy because I’m guessing most of my followers weren’t gonna do a search of my name to see what everyone was saying, so I figured I’d make it easy for them. There were some beauties, no doubt.

Reality Steve,

This was my first season reading your site – and it was fun regardless if you were right or wrong with the ending. I think the crazy that ensued made it all the more fun! So I wouldn’t beat yourself up too much! My friend, J, who told me about your site said she secretly hopes you get it wrong some seasons just because it’s fun to have the twists! So the people who are mad out there, I think secretly they enjoy how crazy the last week was!


1. WTF did they pick Juan – I know every season there are probably people who do not want the lead to be the lead, but Juan I really do NOT want to be the lead. I would have rather Brooks or Drew. Someone said that it wasn’t either of them b/c too many people thought they were gay. Can you update us on the feedback you get on people who actually like Juan vs those that do not?

2. HOW THE EFF did the Brooks thing happen?! I was shocked – totally shocked – did NOT see that coming. I can’t tell if it’s because all season I thought it was him and so I didn’t pick up on red flags – but to me it was SO obvious she wanted him from day #1. Looking back, I can now pick up on “tricks’ that the bachelor pulled on us – letting her talk SO much about Brooks and reveal how much she likes him etc. She basically created a story line on her to show desperate girl loves guy who doesn’t love her – in a way I feel bad for her and how they made her look. They didn’t really give us a view on her liking Drew or Chris all that much – I wonder if this was editing?

3. Did you see Ari’s message on FB letting everyone know he was not picked to be the next Bachelor – um DUH! Did he really think he would be picked. This guy is so annoying – he needs to move on and stop talking about Bachelor and acting like he’s the second coming of Christ!

4. Do you think Catherine and Sean will get married in the next 12 months?

5. Side note, I think Juan would be a good contestant on Dancing with the Stars – i’m 100% sure he’ll be cast for that!!!

Have a great summer Reality Steve, I’m glad you will be writing more through the summer – i’d love to get more behind the scenes stuff – that’s the best!

Comment: As I mentioned, if the show wants to do a cliffhanger like the 2nd last episode every season, that’d be fine by me. My column on July 30th had the most page views of any column I’ve ever written in 10 years.

1) Just like any other person whose been cast as the lead, he’s got a fan base of people who love him, and those that are scratching their heads wondering why a guy who got basically no air time in six episodes is suddenly the lead based off a 5 minute appearance in the hot seat of the MTA.

2) Most certainly was the editing.

3) Yeah, that was hilarious. Thanks for the heads up Arie. I let out a big sigh of relief since exactly zero people in America thought you were gonna be it. Amazing what some of these people think of themselves.

4) According to them, they’re getting married next spring.

5) Definitely someone I can see transitioning in to the Spring season of DWTS.


I don’t follow you on twitter because I don’t have a twitter, but I do “like” you on Facebook and when I went to look last night it was very entertaining to see some of the things people were saying. How does it make any sense for ABC to be paying you?? Also, to think people actually believe you spoiled it wrong on purpose to get more traffic to your site? Sure, that would work for the day after it airs, but I wouldn’t think that’s going to help you with repeat traffic. And right or wrong, you’re going to have plenty of traffic on Tuesday no matter what. People’s stupidity amazes me. I do enjoy reading the things people say though. I read someone on your facebook comment and say you’re always wrong and not to believe anything you say, yet they still go out of their way to check your page, how does that make any sense? If people hate you as much as they say they do it doesn’t make any sense for them to be following you, only to complain about you. Anyway, I was actually happy you were wrong because I really like Chris and was not a fan of Brooks. Just like every other couple, I’m sure they won’t last, but I’m secretly holding out a tiny bit of hope that they make it. Thanks for your columns, I read them every week and enjoy them!

Comment: It doesn’t make any sense for ABC to paying me. People just like a good conspiracy theory, that’s all.

You’re preaching to the choir on all your other points. They’re trolls. They have nothing better to do.

Well, I’m not too shook up about a blown spoiler this season, I’ll keep reading RS as always. With this lame ass season, a little excitement was welcome. I’m going to go conspiracy theory on you. If I was going to try to take down Reality Steve, I’d wait for a few weeks until the lead could definitely identify the favorite. Then I’d go to the lead, the favorite and another contestant and start negotiating and planning. In this case, I’d go to Brooks, tell him he’s not the guy and offer him extended time and airtime on the show, maybe a little money, and that he’s going to be part of the screw Steve team. Then, Dez and Chris just rock along and do some acting while we’re setting the hook in America. We film the fake finale with the regular crew, arrange for some leaks and let everyone think Brooks is the guy. Then I send everybody home that I can, but I’m a TV guy and remember how to film and direct and all that TV crap, and we film the real proposal with Dez and Chris and keep it secret until the last possible moment. That’s why there was very little info on what happened in Antigua, nobody knew. That’s why Chris wasn’t too broke up about the Brooks thing. NO WAY they are still together if he found out all this Brooks crap after the proposal. Honestly, I would have expected more emotion out of Drew than we got, so I think he was in on it too. My only hesitation on this is that Dez would have to have been a really, really good actress for the Brooks break-up scenes. Brooks was a terrible actor, but they had to go with it at that point. That’s why we got the Brooks going to see his mom scene, they had to shore it up a little bit knowing the break up scene wasn’t that great. But Dez was either genuinely upset, or she is very, very good, and I’m a little doubtful about that. Otherwise, I think my plan would work, and did. And don’t underestimate the Nate factor. Letting that idiot Nate tweet that Steve was wrong was about as big an eff you to Steve that they could have come up with. No way in the world that little leak wasn’t carefully planned. Thank you Huanpablo! I’m a dude and a whole season of Drew would have just made me puke. Ok, Steve, they gave you a headstart. Go get ‘em.

Comment: Quite an elaborate conspiracy theory, but as is the case in almost every season, any talks about re-shooting the ending, or telling people to act out a crying/break up scene just isn’t the case. Didn’t happen.

I’m curious of your thoughts on the Des – Brooks interaction last night?? They both looked SO nervous. Do you think he seemed relieved or disappointed she was engaged? It was all so awkward I was having trouble reading it!!

I also was wondering if maybe he really liked her but being Mormon (even a social Mormon) was one of the reasons holding him back?? And if he had wanted to say, hey I’d like to date you but I just don’t want to be engaged next week, would the show have allowed that?? I also wonder if she had ended up with nobody if he would have wanted to date her again.

I read most of your spoilers but actually enjoyed the show more last night because they were off this time – so thank you 🙂

Comment: Yet another vote for someone who enjoys the spoilers but didn’t mind me being wrong for once.

There is no contractual obligation that says you have to propose at the end. The producers basically just bully you into doing it to where you just give in and do it whether you want to or not. Go listen to Jason and Molly’s podcasts. They have no problem talking about it.

Why do you talk so much? Your column today could’ve easily been about a paragraph long, but instead you went on and on and on for 3 pages about nothing. What a bunch of hot air. You’re nothing without your spoilers and no one will ever read you again. Such a loser. Get a real job.

Comment: So let me get this straight. I’m the guy that everyone comes to for answers about this show, I’ve written a column for every episode in 24 of the 26 seasons that are usually pretty wordy, I’ve been telling people for the last 3 months Des was engaged to Brooks, the finale airs which proves the spoiler to be wrong, and you expect me to come out the next day when everyone is looking to me for answers and give them a paragraph or two? You’re kidding, right? You know how bad that’d make me look? It’d be like I was running from the fact I was wrong. I owned up to being wrong. I tried to cover all the issues involved with being wrong. I feel like I did that as well as I could. No way would I have given some half ass one or two paragraph column after what happened Monday night. That’d have been such a cop out.

Hi Steve,

First of all, it’s not a big deal at all to me that you got the spoiler wrong. It actually made it more entertaining for me, since I was constantly thinking, “Where’s Brooks? How can he still show up when Chris is already (meeting the parents, picking a ring, etc)?”

Just a few comments/ questions for you:

1) ABC’s intro to the finale episode said “You think you know what happens? You have no idea.” This would make sense if Brooks came back, but what was so exciting or unexpected about Des sending Drew home? Was that what the intro was referring to?

2) On Des & Drew’s date, Des said in her ITM something to the effect of, “I don’t feel the way I think I should feel with Drew.” Um, obviously! You just went through a big breakup with someone you had your heart set on completely. Of course anyone else is going to seem sub-par.

3) Did you catch when Chris Harrison was talking to the live audience about how much Des had fallen for Brooks and how the guys didn’t know, he said, “And what do you think will happen when Chris (long pause) or, for that matter, Drew, finds out how strong her feelings for Brooks were?” So he basically revealed the name of the winner. Whoops, you slipped up there, Chris.

4) I started to question the Brooks spoiler when Chris H. asked the audience, “Who thinks Brooks could come back tonight?” I doubt if that were going to happen that they would plant any seed in the viewer’s mind to suggest it.

5) Do you think Des was forced to stop Chris from getting down on one knee the first time? I get that she thought she had to say those things before the joy of the proposal took over, but gosh, why give the guy a heart attack and bring up an ex-boyfriend during a proposal? It kinda spoiled the beauty of the moment for me.

Thanks again for a great season. I will continue to read your blog through Juan Pablo’s season (I, for one, am glad he’s the Bachelor! Now to go find my Spanish to English dictionary…)

Comment: 1) There was nothing exciting or unexpected about that last episode with Brooks not returning. They were playing into the spoilers that were out there.

2) Which is funny because a day earlier, she gave Drew and Chris roses because she wanted them to stick around. 24 hrs later she goes on a date with Drew and immediately dumps him. I have a feeling Des is a little confused about what she wants.

3) I guess looking back on it now that could be the case. But at the time, I didn’t think much of it.

4) The more he kept asking it, the more I thought “Well they are really ruining the surprise. Why do they keep planting it in their heads if they want the audience to be surprised?” Well played by them.

5) Nothing about that final episode seemed natural to me. Final two episodes actually. It just doesn’t make sense.

I just wanted to let you know that not many people in today’s world could do what you do. To admit to being wrong to yourself, much less the whole world (aka the bachelor nation cra-cras), takes a lot of courage. If we all would just own up to our mistakes and forgive others for their mistakes, then the world would be a much better place. You admitted that you were wrong, you are closing the door on it, and moving on. You really got it all figured out Reality Steve. Yeah you might lose a few crazies, cause let’s face it most of your readers are probably female and we women are crazy. We put too much emotion into things that really don’t matter in life and then our world crashes when something doesn’t turn out the way we expected. (BTW, my favorite tweet I read last night said something like “@realitysteve is the reason why I have trust issues”…come on people!) But the facts are that 1. this season was the worst ever and 2. you being wrong made it a lot more interesting.

Stand tall for what you have done and keep doing the right thing. Karma is a bitch and Mike Fleiss and his followers will get theirs one day. Thank you for making this girl from Alabama’s Tuesdays more enjoyable.

Comment: All I could do on Tuesday was do what I did. Anything less would’ve seemed insincere. What was I gonna do? Not write a column? Lie? The second the spoiler was wrong, I knew what I had to do. Not to mention, I do four radio interviews on Tuesday and ate crow in all of them. I’ve got no problem admitting when I’m wrong. I’ve done it quite a few times on the site throughout the last 10 years.

Just wanted to thank you for the spoilers.

I watch the bachelor, bachelorette, and bachelor pad every season. I have read your spoilers most seasons. I like to read them, and then watch the show and read them again to see how many details you got right. I knew about your past errors and your last several successful spoilering. I thought you were right this time clear up until she said yes.

Watching the show and reading your spoilers is just entertaining. I don’t have to think too much. No one dies. Sometimes I laugh, Sometimes I cry.

The big question I have is Why do you write spoilers? I hope the hateful few who are mad you got it wrong don’t drive you away. The spoilers have become part of watching the show. I would miss them if you stopped.

So thanks again. Right or Wrong I enjoy the spoilers. Those that are mad at you need to get a life and stop watching the show if they can’t put it all in perspective.

Comment: Why? Because I have them. And I’d be an idiot not to use them considering the audience it attracts. They are an added bonus to the column I’ve been writing for the last 10 years. Anyone else in my shoes who had the information I’ve been given over the years would be a complete idiot not to capitalize on it. I have information that A LOT of people want to know about, so I give it to them.


Not even going to bother touching on spoilers from last night. So you were wrong? What gives…I’m not right in what I say 100% of the time either.

Anyway, being that I too am a numbers person…does Juan Pablo count as a 4 letter name (Juan) or do we have to include all Juan Paaaaahblo has to offer? I know you wanted Drew for statistical reasons, but I’m thinking we can still make this work 🙂

Comment: Ha ha awesome. Someone remembered my fascination with 8 of the 17 previous bachelors having 4 letter names. And so I can satisfy my obsession with numbers, yes, I will count Juan Pablo as a four letter first name so we can have an even 50% of the bachelors now who have had that. This is not debatable. Let me have my even split.

I hate spoilers but love reading your blog. Since I can’t have one without the other, your blog wins out. So, I’m happy you got it wrong, because from now on, though you’ll probably be right, there will be just enough doubt that the season won’t be totally spoiled. Thanks for being wrong every now and again 😉

Question 1:
You said that you might be able to tell us after the finale how you knew it was Brooks but you didn’t know what went down in Antigua. Is there anyway you can still tell us that now? I totally understand if you can’t.

Question 2:
Two peeps from wetpaint were on Jason and Molly’s podcast the other day. They said that they knew for sure that there were two proposals. I know you don’t know for sure and you aren’t into these big conspiracy theories but do you think they could have filmed a Brooks proposal just to throw you and others off?

I know you’re just a ‘Texas blogger,’ but I really think you have more pull than you’re allowing yourself to believe.

Comment: Answer 1: Since the spoiler was wrong, it’s irrelevant now.

Answer 2: WetPaint reported the other day that Drew actually got a ring but it was never shown. They were wrong about the two proposals, as was I.

I don’t know if “pull” is the right word. I understand I’m public enemy #1 to them as evidenced by two lawsuits filed against me. I mean, you don’t sue people who don’t matter. I just don’t think my “pull” is as big as some think.

Reality Fraud,

I hope the house that you’re moving into burns to the ground. You’re a sorry excuse for a writer and no one’s gonna ever pay attention to anything you say anymore. I laughed so hard when it was Chris my sides hurt.

There isn’t a single person who will believe anything you say anymore especially when you can never get anything right. F**k off loser.

Comment: Please, tell me how you really feel. My house burns down? Really?

I’m guessing people will still believe spoilers in the future. Just a hunch.

Putting yourself on the line takes a lot of will. The only caveat is saying “I’m 100% sure.” That’s a line that has a lot riding on it that one doesn’t get to use many times in a career. But I’m sure the information was significant.

Regardless, the fine line between making a guess and saying something with conviction is a world apart so props to you for the hard work.

Comment: I guess, but what am I supposed to say? “Eh, I don’t know. Not really sure on this one. Could be…maybe…sort of…here’s your spoiler for the season.” Of course I’m 100% sure every season. I said the same things on the seasons I was right and no one said anything. The second I hem and haw about being iffy on a spoiler is when people won’t believe it.

I will specifically say if something is rumored, or I’m not sure of, or if I’m still working on details. If I don’t, then it’s something that happened.

Hey Steve

I am sooo excited about Juan Pablo being the next bachelor. I’m Colombian and 24 yrs old! Is it too late to audition for his season? I think i have what it takes to be on “The Bachelor”!


Comment: I believe so, despite what producers tweeted yesterday about getting your applications in.

Hey Reality Steve,

First, I feel almost obligated to say that the Bachelor/ette “crazies” as you call them are completely out of line – as is to be expected. It doesn’t at all concern me that one event out of however many (large number) total seasons you’ve spoiled turned out incorrect at all. I think people complaining about it are just craving attention. So with that said, I’m actually more satisfied with this ending than I would be with a Brooks proposal (though that is not to say that it in any way impacts my life, as it appears to do so for a lot of these fans).

Anyway, onto a few things I’d like to get your take on:

1. An obscure moment I noticed last night when Chris Harrison was engaging the fans (which, to me, is a way to fill up the 2-hour finale when there isn’t enough footage, but who knows?) was the discussion where a women said something to the effect of, “The reason Brooks received bad advice is because he went to two women, and not a man.” There didn’t seem to be any sort of outrage at this remark at all, and obviously because the show was live, there wasn’t a way to edit it out. Are you surprised at how nonchalantly this comment was taken?

2. I’m not sure if anyone has ever touched upon this, so I thought I’d ask it: Is there any hope of you restarting your live video blogs? I found them extremely entertaining, especially when the show was still airing (though the offseason blogs were fascinating, too!)

3. Though I recalled your reasoning that – given the fact that the Bachelor was to be announced at the ATFR, it would be nearly impossible for Drew/Chris/Brooks/whoever was rejected to be given the role – I was almost convinced during Drew’s appearance that the role was going to be his. And why? Well, Chris Harrison began asking him how he felt in the present moment, and upon the (alleged) affirmation that he was no longer in love, said “I have a feeling you’re going to be fine,” which I thought he would follow with “because Drew is going to be our next Bachelor!” But I guess I was wrong. Am I completely crazing in even suggesting this, or do you think there was any hint in the way he was speaking? I tend to think a large portion of the audience was composed of Drew fans.

4. Did you notice a moment in Des’s initial discussion with Chris Harrison that seemed almost deliberately fake? That is, she was smiling, said everything was fine, and then on Chris’s queue of “No, you’re not,” she began crying. I just couldn’t buy into it, and felt there was more to it.

Thanks so much for your insights and the spoilers, and please know (and I think I speak for a large majority of your readers in saying this) that one mistake out of 8 or however many seasons will not keep us from reading. Looking forward to your spoilers for next season for sure.

Comment: 1) I didn’t even hear it, so that shows how much I was paying attention.

2) I’ll be back with the video blogs next season. Won’t be every Thursday, but I’ll definitely bring them back.

3) It never could’ve been Drew, Chris, or Brooks for the sole reason they were in that final episode. Would’ve been completely unrealistic to have Drew and Brooks talk about the breakup then turn right around and be announced as the Bachelor.

4) Desiree cried a lot the last episode. And an ugly cry at that. I have a hard time believing anything that happened the last two episodes, so yeah, just throw that onto the pile.

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  1. rollingeyes

    August 8, 2013 at 9:42 AM

    Ha! “Booty Head” made me laugh out loud!

  2. sarald00

    August 8, 2013 at 9:48 AM

    Twitty is like the old AOL messages boards were…nasty free-for-all, anonymous vicious people! Crazies!

  3. sarald00

    August 8, 2013 at 9:49 AM

    Oops…I meant Twitter….

  4. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 11:00 AM

    I find it odd that Steve kept making a point to say he would publish all of the negative emails in today’ column, but then he didn’t. I doubt mine was the only negative email that didn’t get published. And before anyone says it, no I wasn’t cursing him out or calling him name. My questions weren’t even asked in any of the other emails published, so it wasn’t one of the 100s of repeats.

    Typical that the reader emails are mostly made up of those praising Steve, with a few negative ones thrown in so it doesn’t look as fake as the reality shows he covers.

    Now I wonder how much of the reader emails actually were negative, since its unlikely to be the 80/20 that he claims it to be.

  5. kjopo84

    August 8, 2013 at 12:05 PM

    @lcs85 — I don’t care about the spoilers myself and didn’t email Steve, but like you I agree that he isn’t being honest. He said he printed all of the negative emails. I counted. There were 12. Plus 57 positive ones.

    So 356 emails and only 12 were negative? Please.

  6. locondcoco

    August 8, 2013 at 12:10 PM

    2 things-

    1) love how there are SO many negative ones. had to read through like 5 which were blowing smoke up his butt before we got to a negative one.

    2) for the one that spelled “credibility” wrong and said “sell 0ut”- Of course the biggest offense in that sentense was the use of the wrong “you’re”. In the words of Ross Gellar: “Y-o-u apostrophe r-e means ‘you are’, y-o-u-r means ‘your’!”

  7. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 12:25 PM

    I mostly just emailed him after he kept claiming he would post all the negative emails if he was wrong. These reader emails are all the same week after week with people telling Steve how amazing he is, or how they read his recaps religiously even though they’ve never watched the show. He will only post negative emails if the person doesn’t have anything intelligent to say (like the I hate you and jerk emails above), or if he can make fun of their spelling. I wanted to see if he was actually going to post the negative emails that weren’t from complete idiots, and that he would have to give an actual response to.

  8. vessel

    August 8, 2013 at 12:40 PM

    I hope he moves beyond this whole support of him/bashing him emails regarding the incorrect spoiler very soon. I’m so over it, and over Desiree in general and her stupid 11th hour declarations of love. It’s all such utter baloney. But hey Des, whatever, move to Seattle temporarily like Jef moved to North Carolina to try to briefly lend some credibility to what is obviously a sham engagement. (Hmmm, I wonder if ABC throws them some moving $ to make it all seem at least a teeny bit real to the public?) In any case I wrote RS an email on Monday before the finale aired that had nothing to do with Desiree’s season, it was about the confidentiality contracts. Maybe a boring question, but still something I hope he gets to in a future “Reader Emails” post.

  9. matchmaker

    August 8, 2013 at 1:18 PM

    How does one delete their RS WordPress account?

  10. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 2:27 PM

    @vessel The show just ended on Monday, 3 days ago! This is the first reader email that has been posted since the finale. So of course all the emails are going to be about Des’ season and how it ended. Its silly to say you’re over it when you knew that is what was going to be discussed. Wouldn’t it have been odd if the finale aired and Steve just moved on from Des’ season without talking about it for at least that week? I could understand if this was September, and every post was about the ending, but come on, it just happened.

    If you want answers to questions that have nothing to do with what is going on right now, I would try emailing him your question again in a few weeks. Steve claims that the emails he posts are only from that week, so I don’t think he’ll post ones from weeks ago. Although who knows what really goes on with Reader Emails…

  11. Athena

    August 8, 2013 at 3:09 PM

    Can someone please let me know what a “selfie” (related to Juan Pablo) is? Thanks.

  12. rob22

    August 8, 2013 at 3:23 PM

    I liked Steve actually trying to answer the negative emails with funny quips. Typically his answers are pretty much not that funny. It spiced up the emails even if most of the emailers were boot lickers writing repetitive nonsense.

    I agree with RS that Juan Pah-blow will lose his luster quickly. He’s already WAY too into himself and is just basking in all the attention he’s getting. Wow, what a surprise that a professional athlete is so self focused and vain. Maybe he can put out 10,000 more selfies in advance of the next Bachelor. I think it’s clear that by the middle of the show people will be pretty over him…. but I’m sure the show is hoping that by then people will be invested in their favorite girls. I’m imagining that they’re going to try harder to have likable girls instead of those that are obviously just there to get their pie holes on camera.
    I fully expect that Steve will be on his game next season…. and with an english challenged, ex-jock, ego-maniac, boring, douche (yeah, that’s what you’ll be saying in about four months) like Juan Pah-blow, it should be a target rich environment for RS.

  13. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 3:34 PM

    @Athena a selfie is a picture that someone takes of themselves, often with their camera phone, and usually posts on twitter, facebook, and/or instagram.

  14. vessel

    August 8, 2013 at 5:42 PM

    @Ics85, yeah I know it just happened. I guess i meant “over it” in the larger sense. I want to forget this horrible season with it’s absolutely ridiculous ending even happened. Desiree pretending to be in love and ready to marry someone she obviously had no serious romantic feelings for is just so forced it kinda sickens me. I don’t want to see her face on magazines, read people nauseatingly say she and Chris are so “meant to be” etc. But yeah you’re right, I made my choice to read what would obviously 100% be about what went down at the finale. I will re-ask him my question in a few weeks. Thanks.

  15. Athena

    August 8, 2013 at 7:15 PM

    Thanks Ics85.

  16. bigfatwoman2

    August 8, 2013 at 7:27 PM

    Steve is incorrectly stating that Des and Chris have “already started the incessant tweeting and selfies.”

    That’s actually not true at all. I have been following both Chris and Des on Twitter since the beginning of the show and Des tweets seldom and Chris has just started tweeting since the show ended. They post very few selfies and they have sent out less than 5 tweets about themselves as a couple.

    Juan Pablo on the other hand, tweets something out at least every hour and oftentimes it’s a selfie. I agree with @rob22, the guy is very pleased with himself.

    Beneath all Steve’s bravado (and there’s a lot of it) is a guy who seems to very much want love for himself. We just don’t get to see his sweetness cuz he’s too caught up in being da’ man.

    Contrite and humble is sexy Steve. You should try it.

  17. justforfun

    August 8, 2013 at 8:52 PM

    What negative emails? Where were they? I read the first couple, and nothing but praise. I guess RS left most of them out so he could show everyone that yes, people still love his blog, and will read no matter what. That’s fine if he needs to self validate, it’s his blog.

    As for Juan Pablo posting selfies, and tweeting a lot. So what? He’s promoting himself, like any smart person should do that is going on this show just for promotion. Let’s face it, this show is a farce, and the best someone can hope for is to get some promotion that will launch or help their career.The chances of finding real love on this show are the same as winning the lotto.

    Next thing you know we’ll have someone posting that Juan Pablo isn’t going on the show for the right reasons. DUH!

  18. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 8:56 PM

    @vessel you’re pretty much describing every season of the Bachelor(ette). If the show sickens you then don’t watch it. Like Steve says, there is always going to be a proposal at the end. They are never going to be in love when the proposal happens, because people don’t fall in love with someone they’ve spent a grand total of 24 hours “alone” with over a six week period all while dating other people. They’re always going to end up on the tabloid covers and do the talk shows. They’re always going to have their fans that think they are “so in love” and “meant to be”. Thats just how the show is.

  19. vessel

    August 9, 2013 at 7:58 AM

    @lcs85, Yes I get all of that, and I think you are mistaking me for some cat-lady fan living in la-la land. I couldn’t be further from that type of viewer. I know there is pretty much zero reality in this stupid show. TRUST ME… I am not one of the morons that watches it because I think there is any kind of actual true love fairytale story unfolding before my very eyes. I watch it for the accidental humor and the idiotic over the top way many contestants act, and also because I read Steve’s column, and coupled with his sarcastic recaps (and Jen Frase’s and a few others) it’s amusing to me. Desiree’s season (and Emily’s) just annoyed me WAY more than anyone else’s season has, and it’s just my personal opinion. Desiree’s because in the end she came off as a complete nitwit a$$hole choosing someone in the 11th hour and pretending she felt something… and then the general public actually buying it and embracing this sham of a couple to me is just gross. Is it true that she couldn’t do a Brad 1.0 and say “Nope, not doing it, I am as graciously as possible declining to accept a proposal, and after what I said about Brooks I should think the viewers would respect me in this”? I mean does ABC have that in her contract that under NO circumstances can she choose no one? I am aware that they push, HARD, and bully and all that for an engagement, but does she literally have no choice? In any case no other Bachelor/ette has annoyed me nearly as much, and I totally do not mind hearing about other past ones and seeing them in magazines, etc. after their season ends. In fact I like hearing updates and enjoy the Jason and Molly podcast. Not true with Desiree. I’d be thrilled to never see her ugly cry face again.

  20. Sunnyside422

    August 9, 2013 at 8:30 AM

    It is true that Des lost all credibility as the season progressed. I think deep down, she is probably a very nice person really wanting to find someone to love and be loved. This show is not the place to do that.

    Juan is laughable! His prancing around the stage practically jumping into the laps of the drooling females will be gold for his season! He is out douche all the other bachelors as he wades his way through all the big boobed babes!

  21. locondcoco

    August 9, 2013 at 9:35 AM

    I’m a little surprised at the Juan Pablo “hate”. Granted, i’m not following him on twitter or anything, but he generally comes across as a good guy to me. Perhaps I’m being naive or something. Seems like a nice guy that genuinely loves his daughter (which actually, is the only I thought might get annoying after a whole season- him wanting to “find a step-mom for Camila”). Yes, there is a llittle male bravado in him, but nothing out of the ordinary. We’ll see I guess.

  22. Athena

    August 9, 2013 at 12:06 PM

    @locondococo – my concern about JP is exactly the same as yours – I heard him say more than once how much he wants to find a stepmother for his daughter. That doesn’t exactly sound like the sexiest come on to a prospective mate, even one who would embrace the role. Seems like he needs to focus more on finding a true love for himself. I’m sure he’ll be coached to shift what he says before the season begins, but deep down, I may still wonder. And, if our concerns about this are correct, then I wonder if he’s one of those guys who has the one kind of woman he’ll “date” (fun, sexy, etc.) vs the other kind he’d “marry” (more reserved, less “promiscuous”, etc.) I hope he’s not a chauvanist of this sort.

  23. rob22

    August 9, 2013 at 2:50 PM

    The issue with Juan Pah-blow is not that he’s a bad guy or a bad father. The issues are:
    1.) He can only speak understandable English when he’s going from a script. Once off script, he starts babbling in some form of Spanglish.
    2.) He has a daughter, which will be a turnoff for some… though not a huge deal overall.
    3.) He had a total of about 10 minutes of air time all season… mostly one liners or ITMs (that he could memorize) plus a surprising five minutes of time on Men Tell All. At the time, I thought many of us thought it was a sure sign that he was being pimped for The Bachelor… I’m not sure why RS stubbornly refused to see that.
    4.) Once he got the gig, on ATFR, he started to do his best impression of a male stripper…. smiling and preening & having to hold himself back from performing lap dances on the entire audience. I was just glad he kept his pants on. I wasn’t sure where he was headed & I was fully prepared to avert my eyes, if necessary.
    5.) All the Twitter selfies. OK, I get that he wants to promote himself…. and that may have helped land him the gig…. but does anyone want six months of selfies from this guy?

    All this points to a guy who is essentially James. He promoted himself for Bachelor & didn’t have the “negatives” that James did, because Juan Pah-blow wasn’t on the show enough for people to dislike him. He didn’t get a bad edit, like James, he the almost completely cut out edit.

    You see this in politics where someone with an established record (which invites hate from those that disagree with them) loses an election to someone without a record, or at least a short record without too much to really hate…. until they get elected & start to put together a record.

    So… we’ll see. I’m sure The Bachelor will edit out a lot of his ego driven shenanigans to help reduce the hate…. but all that will leave is what we just got in Des’ season. A bunch of pre-programmed sound bites in voice overs & ITMs, along with a lot of “amazing”, “I love that”, and other canned responses. If they leave in the ego crap, you’ll get another Ben Flatdick, bad hair and all, and nobody wants that.

  24. liz123

    August 9, 2013 at 6:01 PM

    @rob22 in regards to the constant use of “Juan Pah-blow” may I refer you to:

    It’s only funny like the first 48 times.

    Also, at what point on ATFR did he act like he was about to strip? Totally missed that (if it indeed happened). I don’t get the dislike people have of him. He doesn’t seem any more self-centered or egotistical than anyone else who agrees to be the Bachelor or Bachelorette. I personally wasn’t falling over myself for this guy, but by the same token, I don’t see any reason to despise the guy either.

    Oh & for those of you who don’t want to see his selfies, how about not following him on Twitter? Is someone forcing you? I think some people just have to have somebody to hate. It must fill some kind of emptiness or anger they have inside. I, personally, like to reserve my hate for people who deserve that kind of energy- people like Ayatollah Khomeini & Westboro Baptist Church members. <—- There's my psychological musings for the day. You're welcome. 😉

  25. rob22

    August 9, 2013 at 6:12 PM

    Ha Liz, I’m using Juan Pah-blow because Juan Pah-blo is very picky about how his name is pronounced. I wouldn’t want to offend him with my too-American pronunciation of Juan Pablo. I’m just being sensitive to his feelings.

    As for his stripping, I was merely reading his mind. The girls were going wild for him and he was soaking it in so much and smiling at the girls and mugging for the cameras…. that I thought for a second he was going to dance into the crowd, disrobe, mount a soccer mom while yelling “Lucy! You’ve got com-pany-yyyyy!!”. I don’t know. Maybe you saw it differently.

    Oh, and I don’t hate Juan Pah-blow. But I suspect many of the ladies will before the season is over. For me, it’s great. The mocking opportunities appear to be endless.

  26. elizabeth82

    August 9, 2013 at 8:37 PM

    Wow, I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t read the Reader E-mails column anymore. It was just getting to be a bunch of BS (and too long and repetitive BS at that). Only came here for the comments.

    Of people I know IRL, only one is excited about Juan Pablo (my aunt, and she loses points; at least my mom and work friends–none of my close friends watch this crap–who watch are on my page). My mom somehow roped my dad into watching the last couple seasons (male perspective–yay) and he thought the only interesting contender was Brooks because of all his squishy feelings (no thanks!). He thought Zak was too weird.

  27. peteb

    August 11, 2013 at 9:09 AM

    Regarding everyone who is surprized that RS is “not being honest” about publishing all negative emails, come on….

    The guy has been misleading the blog readers for years and you expect him to take this like a man. Obviously MF thought that this time RS should be wrong, and since RS likes his paycheque, he had to oblige. All this is just damage control (as are the various comments here that it’s time to “move on”). And frankly, there aren’t too many strategies to handle this other than “move on” and hope that the “Bachelor Nation” will forgive and forget” once he successfully “spoils” JP’s season (which I think now is a given unless MF wants to lose all the investment he made in RS).

  28. peteb

    August 11, 2013 at 9:18 AM

    A very quick comment on JP as TB. The choice is obviously solely motivated by the realization that Latino audiences are not watching this show. This is the fastest rising consumer market segment and the show needed to get them “hooked”. Since they could not quite put it like that, they had to quickly “build up excitement” at the MTA episode and online.

    Mind you, I don’t think that JP will be any better or worse than an average Bachelor, but it is pathetic how MF suddenly “found” diversity, after so many seasons. Note that this is a show that never cast African Americans in the lead, and the few African American contestants over the years were only tokens.

  29. finalrose2013

    August 12, 2013 at 10:39 AM

    Am I the only one thinking this is alarming?? The new Bachelor Juan Pablo’s 15 plus tweets on the weekend have been about the Backstreet Boys, how much he LOVES them, their moves and dances, and all related stuff. Anyone? Anyone?? #RedFlag This season can be embarrassing, guys!

  30. shouldbeworking

    August 14, 2013 at 11:55 AM

    Just read on E! that Gia Allemand passed away.
    So sad. So young.

  31. bigfatwoman2

    August 14, 2013 at 12:00 PM

    So an announcement of Gia’s death is made and within minutes Sean Lowe and RS are tweeting out condolences. I love Twitter…..but man that seems in such poor taste. Couldn’t you wait till tomorrow? Or wait to make sure all of her close friends and family know? Seriously, tweeting condolences? WTF? Am I being overly critical? Someone rationalize this to me cuz I don’t get it.

  32. locondcoco

    August 14, 2013 at 2:08 PM

    BFW2, i think you are being a touch overcritical. I’m sure those who needed to know (family, close friends), already did, before the announcement.

  33. jazzmine

    August 14, 2013 at 2:35 PM

    Gia Allemand….oh my goodness. That is sadder than sad. That poor girl.

  34. kasey31

    August 14, 2013 at 10:19 PM

    BFW2- Overcritical.. if you read the article, which I assume you didn’t, the family actually released the statement. And I would venture to say that had RS NOT tweeted out his condolences, people would be upset about that, too. As much as he pokes fun at the contestants on the show, I am sure the news hurt him.

    Her death really had an impact on me for some reason. So young, so much potential, and from all accounts, so sweet to everyone she came into contact with. I always believed she never belonged in the “Bachelor” Franchise, I remember her devastation from the betrayal of her friends on “The Bachelor Pad,” and she ultimately left because she said she didn’t belong on a show that was full of so much manipulation and back-stabbing.. she always seemed to have such a good head on her shoulders, and always stuck to her convictions and morals.

    I didn’t know where else to come when I heard about the news, so I thought I would come here. Such a beautiful person, but obviously broken and hurting. Still, suicide is never the answer. Never, ever. RIP, Gia.

  35. Nobody

    August 15, 2013 at 1:57 AM

    @ BFW2: Yes, you are being way over critical. The family knew (or should have known) about the death long before the media got wind of then death. Names aren’t released until after family notification has been made first. At least that’s the way it is supposed to work.

  36. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 7:37 AM

    Thanks for the input.

    My criticism was not so much of RS since he is a news source. I have it out for Sean Lowe because I don’t like him.

    When I heard news of Gia in the hospital, one of her friends was quoted in several of the articles. I started following that friend knowing she would tweet updates as well as started following Gia’s publicist.

    Gia’s friend that I was following tweeted out yesterday morning that she was still hopeful Gia would make a full recovery. Almost at the exact same time Sean Lowe tweeted his condolences. At this point the news was not on People, Radar or mentioned by her publicist. In fact, several people said it was misinformation and she was still alive.

    My point isn’t that Sean or RS wouldn’t express condolences. Of course they would and should. My point is that Sean Lowe jumped on the news so fast that to me it seemed unnecessary and self-serving. Normally not a big deal, but when you are thought of as an ego maniacal douche bag, then this behavior falls right in line with who I think you are.

    That’s all. Just my opinion. I feel sad for all who knew and loved Gia and I admire those who knew her and yet didn’t feel the need to go to Twitter to express grief.

  37. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 9:27 AM

    @BFW..stfu already. Who the heck are you to be judge and jury regarding what Sean Lowe did or didn’t do? Just because YOU’VE got a hard-on for him, doesn’t give you the authority to say what he did was right or wrong. Self-serving? Please BFW..take a shake. A woman, that was a friend of his, just passed away. He’s saddened by the news, and is just saying so. He’s asking his God to pray for her and her family. Is that so bad? Who cares if he jumped on it quickly? Quite obviously you do, and that’s really a shame. So, I suggest you take a step back, and look at the whole picture. You can take this any way you like, I could care less. I’m just horrified that you actually posted what you did about Sean Lowe. You should be ashamed.

  38. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:05 AM


    1). My last paragraph said, “just my opinion.”

    2). “Could” care less means just that…you could. Next time try “couldn’t.”

    3). You are “horrified” and I should be “ashamed.” That’s some pretty heavy stuff.

    4). Just what do I do in order to “take a shake?” If it involves chocolate shakes, sign me up!

  39. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 10:17 AM

    @BFW: Definition from Urban Dictionary:

    ‘I care so little about this topic that my level of caring is at its utmost minimum’

    And that is exactly how I feel about you and your Sean Lowe hard-on.

    And if chocolate’s how you roll, then go for it. I could care less.

  40. iheartvino

    August 15, 2013 at 10:43 AM

    @BFW, you said above ” I have it out for Sean Lowe because I don’t like him.” Question for you:
    Then why in the hell are you following him on Twitter?

    I agree with others that you are being overcritical. It’s just the world we live in now- word travels fast these days with social media being at everyone’s fingertips. Also, regarding BeautyBroker (if that’s the friend you were referring to that you started following) I saw some tweets from Gia’s close friends claiming that BeautyBroker wasn’t a reliable source and there people were alluding to her not being as close to Gia as she claimed she was. If that’s true then I’m not surprised that she wasn’t one of the first few people to be made aware that Gia had passed.

    Obviously all of this is pretty irrelevant in the big picture but I thought I’d point it out anyway. What happened with Gia is devastating and I feel very sad for her boyfriend (ex or not), friends, and family. A huge loss indeed and she was one of the few people I liked a lot from the franchise.

  41. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:54 AM


    I follow lots of people on Twitter that I don’t like…’s the love to hate phenomenon.

    Anyway, it’s just an opinion. Yes, I read the same stuff about @beautybroker and she was the one I was following.

    Thanks for not jumping down my throat. I have strong opinions, not everyone is going to agree with me and vice versa.

  42. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:58 AM


    It really is “couldn’t care less”…..I don’t think Urban Dictionary should be your go to source.

    I have plenty of hard-ons for plenty of people and I have now added you. I love you. I love all of your snitty ways when anyone differs from your opinion. It definitely turns me on.

  43. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 11:02 AM

    Whatever you say, BFW, whatever you say.

  44. vessel

    August 17, 2013 at 8:05 AM

    Sorry to butt into this debate, but “couldn’t care less” is correct. Millions of people every second get this mixed up, but if you actually take a sec and think about it, if you say “I could care less” you are saying you do care.

    THIS is actually what the Urban dictionary says about “Could are less”:
    used by confused individuals with a poor grasp of written english.

    Urban dictionary is a place to go to see how people have basically made up their own lingo, it’s not actually a dictionary to use if you care about being right.

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