Reality Steve

Reader Emails

A Very Interesting Batch of “Reader Emails”

As a long-time fan, I haven’t yet had a reason to email (I know, I know, you never call…you never write….), but I finally threw myself into the fray last night. Yep, I tweeted. It was cracking me up how Twitter was blowing up with all the criticism and negativity and suggestions to find a new occupation (really?). Not that you needed it, but I offered a little positive support. About 115 characters worth.
After reading your column today, and watching the show last night, a few things occurred to me.
1. You have adamantly stated “Desiree left Antigua engaged, and is engaged today”. True
2. You told us Brooks was not ready for a relationship or to get married. True
3. You told us Drew, Chris and Brooks were the final three. True
4. You told us Chris and Brooks were the final two. True
5. I think we all agree that Desiree had put Brooks into the “winner” slot, until he decided to leave, and it was going to be really implausible that she decided she loved one of the other two all of a sudden. True

Looks to me like the only thing your source was incorrect about was who the final one was. I can live with that. I have enjoyed your commentary and spoilers almost from day one, and am happy to hear that you will continue to do so. This show has gotten so scripted and contrived, it’s laughable. I enjoy watching how they try to make each week “the most dramatic EVER”, when it’s all re-hashed, planned, poorly edited, and just plain bad acting. It is entertaining to try to guess who will get the biggest career change after appearing on the show (it’s a tie between Travis Stork & Melissa Rycroft).

I know you do this for your own reasons, but I say keep those spoilers coming! Nobody’s perfect and everyone’s entitled to a mistake every now and again. I will keep reading, and enjoying the sarcastic commentary while agreeing with every word. Next time you’re in Southern California, wave….you visit a lot of my favorite hangouts!

Comment: Ha ha. Never really looked at it that way. Damn. I was right about a lot. I give myself an “A-.”

The spoilers aren’t going anywhere. As long as this show is on the air, I will continue to spoil it. One wrong season isn’t going to make me stop.

I really think you are underestimating your influence on all things Bach related! While I don’t believe you are in cahoots with anyone, I’m starting to think they hyped and manipulated the whole Des/Brooks scene just to prove the spoiled outcome wrong. They obviously pay close attention to what you say, and since your spoilers are out long before any of their episodes are shown, they would have plenty of time to edit any way they choose. They needed to find a way to finally live up to their ‘most dramatic episode ever’ B.S.

With your knowledge and expertise at putting the puzzle pieces you receive together, you have educated so many of us to the reality of reality TV. Prior to finding your blog years ago, I half believed everything I saw. Not everything, because I have first hand experience in being manipulated in an interview for a local news broadcast. Nothing major, but enough to know that what is played out on TV is rarely the way things really happen. That being said, I honestly believe it’s possible for them to have chosen their storylines based somewhat on what your blog stated months before the premier episode even aired. They will do anything in their power to discredit you and their pansy ways have proven that!

You may think I’m crazy for thinking you have that much power, but hey you were enough of an annoyance to them that they went after you in two separate lawsuits, and continue their rampage with twitter hates. If you didn’t matter to them why would they continue to mention your name? Not only are you a thorn in their proverbial rose, so is everyone else who uses your info as their own. So it’s not just your site, it’s every site that reports the spoilers once they’ve taken them from you. It’s for those reasons I really think that you are underestimating your importance to them.

I will continue to be a fan as long as you continue to write. Although I thoroughly enjoy finding out the ending in advance, as many others have said, it’s commentary along the way that makes your site so great. I really like being able to go in to each episode knowing what to look out for. It just wouldn’t be the same with out your input!

Comment: I definitely matter to them as evidenced by the things you mentioned. I guess I just don’t think I matter as much as some others do. I’m no doubt a thorn in their side, a guy they’d like to shut up, and someone they wish would go away. I’m pretty amazed looking back at Monday’s episode how much was focused around knowing my spoiler was wrong when, and they would even admit this, there are still more people that watch this show who DON’T know the spoilers than who do. So why cater to the minority of their audience?

Stteeeeeevvveeeee, (to be read à la “Bruce” at a Bruce Springsteen concert)

1. Whoever is complaining about the spoilers being off is looking at it all wrong. This was the first time EVER I was genuinely surprised at a finale (yes, fin-AL-ee, not fin-OL-ee, you’re right.) & it made it that much more fun. As much as I love knowing ahead of time, this was a nice change of pace. Looks like you’re taking it all in stride, though, and seem to have a sense of humor about it.

2. Anywho, Juan Pablo is maybe the worst pick for Bachelor in the history of the franchise. I just don’t get it. I would honestly have preferred anyone, one-eff-Jef, Brad 3.0, Crazy-eyes-Zak, ANYONE over him. I’m in the minority here, but I find Juan Pablo to be very dense, uninteresting, a little pompous and arrogant, and above all BORING. Why, Steve, why? This must be cruel joke. Drew would have been an amazing, sincere, and entertaining bachelor. I’m still in disbelief!

Tell me this is a crazy prank played on us by ABC!

Comment: 1) Of course I have a sense of humor about it. If I didn’t, then I’d be taking myself way too seriously.

2) I will say this for Juan Pablo. He takes more selfies than the previous 17 Bachelors combined. Geez. I thought only chicks did that in the mirror? Ease up on the selfies, JP. Wouldn’t want America to think this gig will get to your head now, would we? Nah, that never happens. Only problem now is it’s starting 6 weeks before he even leaves for the show.

Hi there .. again. 🙂 I just had some questions I wanted to add to my previous email.

1. When your sources are wrong, what happens? Do they call you all like “oops, my bad!” or do you call them all like “dude, WTF?!” Will you ever use that source again?

2. Do you have like a rolodex of sources that you can choose from or do people call you with info and you follow up with “reliable” people with it to see if it’s true or not?

3. I don’t know how much of this info you can/want to share but, I was just curious, as I’m sure allot of your readers are, of the process you go through with the information that you get, whether it’s wrong or right. Inquiring minds want to know! 🙂

Thanks again for being you!

Comment: 1) I don’t like discussing much in detail about my sources. They gave me info that ended up being wrong, I take the blame for it, and we move on.

2) See answer above.

3) Ha ha, if I didn’t answer the first two questions, I’m certainly not diving in to this one. I understand people want to know the who/what/when/where/how/why of my sources, but if I share that, then I’d be throwing people under the bus. And betraying the trust of people. Not gonna happen. Not to mention its bad business. If I blurted out who told me stuff after the fact, then no one would tell me stuff to begin with.


So how much money did they pay you in the settlement to give the wrong ending? I hope it was worth it you piece of sh** sellout. You’re not fooling anybody. It’s clearly obvious you did this on purpose and karma will come back to bite you in the ass. Your career is over.

Comment: That’s an attack on my character to think I would ever get in bed with these people and deliberately do this because I was told to. Please. I don’t like these people and they don’t like me. There is no relationship whatsoever between us. We are on opposite ends every season. Can’t make that any clearer.

I’m guessing my career isn’t over. Nice assumption.

…It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!”

This speech from Rocky Balboa will inspire your comeback!

Comment: Of all the “Rocky” clips to give me, it had to be from “Rocky 6?” Ugh. I pretended that movie never happened. There are so many other great “Rocky” speeches from the other movies. Like the tongue lashing Adrian gives him on the beach in “Rocky 3.” One of the greatest speeches ever. She ripped his balls off and threw them in the ocean. And in case you didn’t know, I’ve seen this movie easily 100 times and could recite this conversation word for word. Both sides. I’m special.

You know what made that scene so great? It was immediately followed by the awesome training sequence with Apollo. How can you beat that? I think I’ll go do Max Interval Plyo on “Insanity” right now. Twice.



Love your site and seeing a glimpse of all the complete maniacs that email you weekly. I have never been on twitter until this morning when I actually made an account just to see what all was on your page given that your blog post hadn’t been written yet covering the finale. As if your reader emails weren’t scary enough with the hypersensitive Bachelor/ette psychos, twitter has made me think twice about the mental stability of the general population. No offense to you or your blog, but this show and everything that goes along with it is just mindless, useless entertainment to distract the normal person from the daily stresses of job, bills, etc. Truly mind boggling the reaction people had towards you.

But in respect of the mindless, useless entertainment the show is, I think Juan Pablo will provide a TON of great material for your blog. I never even saw him on Des’s show because I missed some of the early episodes. But after seeing him on ATFR last night and reading the tweet you posted of his, I have no doubt his season is going to be more ridiculous than ever. Nothing makes for better train wreck TV and built in sarcasm than broken English. It adds a whole new element to our Monday night drinking game.

Also, I think you missing the finale only adds new interest to the show and to your site. Your accuracy has been so spot on in recent seasons that I had kind of stopped following. It’s kind of like Lebron….you can’t hate his talent but sometimes it gets boring watching him dominate all the time.

Look forward to seeing your nutbag reader emails on Thursday.

Comment: I’m a fan of any email that compares my site to the dominance of Lebron James. Greatest email ever.

Hi Steve,

I’ll try to be as short as possible. I also won’t waste time telling you off OR praising you.

1) I have a theory, but it’s not as unrealistic as the ones you posted about people having in today’s blog. Clearly, ABC was playing into the fact that they knew you spoiled it wrong hardcore. The people saying Brooks was an actor or that any of what happened between him and Des was staged are crazy. My theory is simply that after everything happened, ABC had Des go back and record both “ITM” and sit-downs with Chris Harrison where she talked about how much she loved Brooks. Think about it. The only time she gushes about how much she likes Brooks more than everyone else is in ITM’s and with Chris Harrison (besides in their final breakup when Brooks leaves). Like you mentioned after last week, Ali balled in her season when someone left in the final 3, buts still got engaged to someone else in the end. Ali might have said things like Des (i.e. that she loved the guy who left-sorry can’t remember his name), but ABC didn’t show it because that wouldn’t work with their ending for that season. Because Des had a freakout, professed her love for Brooks, but then still was okay with choosing Chris in the end, perhaps ABC saw an opportunity here — either before or even maybe after they knew you had the wrong spoiler — and went back and re-did interviews with Des saying she loved Brooks.

2) Is Bachelor Pad coming back? I know it was canceled, but saw someone tweet about it coming back.

3) I know you can’t reveal any deets about your sources, so not sure if you can answer this. You said that you’re not getting info from the same people every season. So, if its not this consistent relationship back and forth, how do you get connected with these people? Is it always you approaching them trying to get info, or do people approach you and feed you the info.

Comment: 1) I don’t think they went back and re-recorded anything. Especially if you think it was done to add fuel to the wrong spoiler because there was always a chance I could’ve changed the spoiler if I ever got the right info. I didn’t, but there was a chance. And I don’t think they’d fly a whole crew back to Antigua after the fact to tape conversations based on a chance. No way.

2) Looks like next summer it will be.

3) Can’t get in to stuff like that. Sorry.


I sent you an email last night and said you had lost all credibility and asked about your next career move. You fired back an email saying I didn’t know anything and that you had made mistakes in the past and would carry on.

I don’t think you have come to grips with the impact of your 58% accuracy rate. It’s one thing if you predict 10 seasons of a show and you only miss once. But your record is much, much worse than that. I have followed your site since Day One and I knew you had missed other calls in the past. But in this case you staunchly defended your prediction in the face of evidence to the contrary. This was your mistake. Your ego got in the way of the facts.

I suppose you have bird-dogs on retainer, perhaps crew members or observers of the show on location who feed you information. Perhaps you need to find better sources. It is amazing what people will tell your for $100. Brooks told Des he was done, and left the island. Chris proposed to Des and she accepted. How good are your sources if they missed all of this?

The Des “bump in the road,” as you put it in your excuse post, should be a wake-up call for you to do a better job. There are many people out there who will start sites that are better than yours. When the owner of TVTattle said he was quitting, two sites popped up within a week. The site eventually came back on HitFix, but the departure caused lasting damage. You make the mistake of thinking that success is linear. It is not linear, it is cumulative. Just because you were able to continue after previous losses, doesn’t mean you can do so indefinitely. Eventually, people will see you as a fake.

One thing is for sure, if you continue to post and defend false spoilers, your site will disappear and ABC won’t have to sue you. Your site will become irrelevant.

Comment: So yet another person that dislikes me so much, and thinks I’m so bad at what I do, yet still admits “I’ve followed your site since Day One.” Amazing.

No idea where 58% came from. That’s just flat out wrong.

“Many people out there who will start sites better than yours.” Really? This show has been on 26 seasons and not one site has started up that comes on every single season and lays down episode-by-episode spoilers of this show. Please let me know when they do. I’m the only person on the internet putting myself out there every season doing this, so I have no idea what you’re coming from with that. If this was so easy to spoil the show, why aren’t 50 other sites doing it? Hell, I’d take one other site at this point. You’re making no sense.

Hi Steve,

I’ve read your column since Jake’s season (I think) but have never written in before now. I am a huge supporter and even gave a very modest amount (like $10) to your legal fund because I thought ABC was being a huge bully.

Your column is the reason I still watch this show. This season was so boring that I actually couldn’t make it past the 3rd or 4th episode (kept up through your recaps,) but the media narrative ‘Is Reality Steve right about Brooks?” had me watch part one of the finale when I returned from vacation and had me glued to the TV and to your twitter account last night.

ABC really should be thanking you because you provided a tremendous news hook for them that actually made more people tune in (I would predict.) After the first few episodes, I only stayed invested in the show because of your blog.

I watched last night waiting for Brooks to come back (even until the last 10 minutes – thinking this is not going to be enough time) but I also constantly monitored Twitter to see your reaction. What does Reality Steve have to say about all of this?? Without your blog, I would have bailed on this show years ago.

You have a tremendous track record with incredible accuracy (given the volume of details spoiled – even with dates now being tracked during filming on social media) and should tell the haters to f**k off.

I am a 38-year-old working mom with a ton of more important stuff to do, but this show is one of my few television appointments solely because of you.

Comment: The lawsuits were corporate bullying at its finest.

There isn’t a single person in this world that’s universally liked. And there never will be. I know what I signed up for once I became a public figure and the site started getting more and more attention and the readership grew to the levels it’s at now. Let people take shots at me all they want. I’m not going anywhere, I stand by every word I write, and I’m going to keep doing this til the show goes off the air.

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  1. rollingeyes

    August 8, 2013 at 9:42 AM

    Ha! “Booty Head” made me laugh out loud!

  2. sarald00

    August 8, 2013 at 9:48 AM

    Twitty is like the old AOL messages boards were…nasty free-for-all, anonymous vicious people! Crazies!

  3. sarald00

    August 8, 2013 at 9:49 AM

    Oops…I meant Twitter….

  4. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 11:00 AM

    I find it odd that Steve kept making a point to say he would publish all of the negative emails in today’ column, but then he didn’t. I doubt mine was the only negative email that didn’t get published. And before anyone says it, no I wasn’t cursing him out or calling him name. My questions weren’t even asked in any of the other emails published, so it wasn’t one of the 100s of repeats.

    Typical that the reader emails are mostly made up of those praising Steve, with a few negative ones thrown in so it doesn’t look as fake as the reality shows he covers.

    Now I wonder how much of the reader emails actually were negative, since its unlikely to be the 80/20 that he claims it to be.

  5. kjopo84

    August 8, 2013 at 12:05 PM

    @lcs85 — I don’t care about the spoilers myself and didn’t email Steve, but like you I agree that he isn’t being honest. He said he printed all of the negative emails. I counted. There were 12. Plus 57 positive ones.

    So 356 emails and only 12 were negative? Please.

  6. locondcoco

    August 8, 2013 at 12:10 PM

    2 things-

    1) love how there are SO many negative ones. had to read through like 5 which were blowing smoke up his butt before we got to a negative one.

    2) for the one that spelled “credibility” wrong and said “sell 0ut”- Of course the biggest offense in that sentense was the use of the wrong “you’re”. In the words of Ross Gellar: “Y-o-u apostrophe r-e means ‘you are’, y-o-u-r means ‘your’!”

  7. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 12:25 PM

    I mostly just emailed him after he kept claiming he would post all the negative emails if he was wrong. These reader emails are all the same week after week with people telling Steve how amazing he is, or how they read his recaps religiously even though they’ve never watched the show. He will only post negative emails if the person doesn’t have anything intelligent to say (like the I hate you and jerk emails above), or if he can make fun of their spelling. I wanted to see if he was actually going to post the negative emails that weren’t from complete idiots, and that he would have to give an actual response to.

  8. vessel

    August 8, 2013 at 12:40 PM

    I hope he moves beyond this whole support of him/bashing him emails regarding the incorrect spoiler very soon. I’m so over it, and over Desiree in general and her stupid 11th hour declarations of love. It’s all such utter baloney. But hey Des, whatever, move to Seattle temporarily like Jef moved to North Carolina to try to briefly lend some credibility to what is obviously a sham engagement. (Hmmm, I wonder if ABC throws them some moving $ to make it all seem at least a teeny bit real to the public?) In any case I wrote RS an email on Monday before the finale aired that had nothing to do with Desiree’s season, it was about the confidentiality contracts. Maybe a boring question, but still something I hope he gets to in a future “Reader Emails” post.

  9. matchmaker

    August 8, 2013 at 1:18 PM

    How does one delete their RS WordPress account?

  10. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 2:27 PM

    @vessel The show just ended on Monday, 3 days ago! This is the first reader email that has been posted since the finale. So of course all the emails are going to be about Des’ season and how it ended. Its silly to say you’re over it when you knew that is what was going to be discussed. Wouldn’t it have been odd if the finale aired and Steve just moved on from Des’ season without talking about it for at least that week? I could understand if this was September, and every post was about the ending, but come on, it just happened.

    If you want answers to questions that have nothing to do with what is going on right now, I would try emailing him your question again in a few weeks. Steve claims that the emails he posts are only from that week, so I don’t think he’ll post ones from weeks ago. Although who knows what really goes on with Reader Emails…

  11. Athena

    August 8, 2013 at 3:09 PM

    Can someone please let me know what a “selfie” (related to Juan Pablo) is? Thanks.

  12. rob22

    August 8, 2013 at 3:23 PM

    I liked Steve actually trying to answer the negative emails with funny quips. Typically his answers are pretty much not that funny. It spiced up the emails even if most of the emailers were boot lickers writing repetitive nonsense.

    I agree with RS that Juan Pah-blow will lose his luster quickly. He’s already WAY too into himself and is just basking in all the attention he’s getting. Wow, what a surprise that a professional athlete is so self focused and vain. Maybe he can put out 10,000 more selfies in advance of the next Bachelor. I think it’s clear that by the middle of the show people will be pretty over him…. but I’m sure the show is hoping that by then people will be invested in their favorite girls. I’m imagining that they’re going to try harder to have likable girls instead of those that are obviously just there to get their pie holes on camera.
    I fully expect that Steve will be on his game next season…. and with an english challenged, ex-jock, ego-maniac, boring, douche (yeah, that’s what you’ll be saying in about four months) like Juan Pah-blow, it should be a target rich environment for RS.

  13. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 3:34 PM

    @Athena a selfie is a picture that someone takes of themselves, often with their camera phone, and usually posts on twitter, facebook, and/or instagram.

  14. vessel

    August 8, 2013 at 5:42 PM

    @Ics85, yeah I know it just happened. I guess i meant “over it” in the larger sense. I want to forget this horrible season with it’s absolutely ridiculous ending even happened. Desiree pretending to be in love and ready to marry someone she obviously had no serious romantic feelings for is just so forced it kinda sickens me. I don’t want to see her face on magazines, read people nauseatingly say she and Chris are so “meant to be” etc. But yeah you’re right, I made my choice to read what would obviously 100% be about what went down at the finale. I will re-ask him my question in a few weeks. Thanks.

  15. Athena

    August 8, 2013 at 7:15 PM

    Thanks Ics85.

  16. bigfatwoman2

    August 8, 2013 at 7:27 PM

    Steve is incorrectly stating that Des and Chris have “already started the incessant tweeting and selfies.”

    That’s actually not true at all. I have been following both Chris and Des on Twitter since the beginning of the show and Des tweets seldom and Chris has just started tweeting since the show ended. They post very few selfies and they have sent out less than 5 tweets about themselves as a couple.

    Juan Pablo on the other hand, tweets something out at least every hour and oftentimes it’s a selfie. I agree with @rob22, the guy is very pleased with himself.

    Beneath all Steve’s bravado (and there’s a lot of it) is a guy who seems to very much want love for himself. We just don’t get to see his sweetness cuz he’s too caught up in being da’ man.

    Contrite and humble is sexy Steve. You should try it.

  17. justforfun

    August 8, 2013 at 8:52 PM

    What negative emails? Where were they? I read the first couple, and nothing but praise. I guess RS left most of them out so he could show everyone that yes, people still love his blog, and will read no matter what. That’s fine if he needs to self validate, it’s his blog.

    As for Juan Pablo posting selfies, and tweeting a lot. So what? He’s promoting himself, like any smart person should do that is going on this show just for promotion. Let’s face it, this show is a farce, and the best someone can hope for is to get some promotion that will launch or help their career.The chances of finding real love on this show are the same as winning the lotto.

    Next thing you know we’ll have someone posting that Juan Pablo isn’t going on the show for the right reasons. DUH!

  18. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 8:56 PM

    @vessel you’re pretty much describing every season of the Bachelor(ette). If the show sickens you then don’t watch it. Like Steve says, there is always going to be a proposal at the end. They are never going to be in love when the proposal happens, because people don’t fall in love with someone they’ve spent a grand total of 24 hours “alone” with over a six week period all while dating other people. They’re always going to end up on the tabloid covers and do the talk shows. They’re always going to have their fans that think they are “so in love” and “meant to be”. Thats just how the show is.

  19. vessel

    August 9, 2013 at 7:58 AM

    @lcs85, Yes I get all of that, and I think you are mistaking me for some cat-lady fan living in la-la land. I couldn’t be further from that type of viewer. I know there is pretty much zero reality in this stupid show. TRUST ME… I am not one of the morons that watches it because I think there is any kind of actual true love fairytale story unfolding before my very eyes. I watch it for the accidental humor and the idiotic over the top way many contestants act, and also because I read Steve’s column, and coupled with his sarcastic recaps (and Jen Frase’s and a few others) it’s amusing to me. Desiree’s season (and Emily’s) just annoyed me WAY more than anyone else’s season has, and it’s just my personal opinion. Desiree’s because in the end she came off as a complete nitwit a$$hole choosing someone in the 11th hour and pretending she felt something… and then the general public actually buying it and embracing this sham of a couple to me is just gross. Is it true that she couldn’t do a Brad 1.0 and say “Nope, not doing it, I am as graciously as possible declining to accept a proposal, and after what I said about Brooks I should think the viewers would respect me in this”? I mean does ABC have that in her contract that under NO circumstances can she choose no one? I am aware that they push, HARD, and bully and all that for an engagement, but does she literally have no choice? In any case no other Bachelor/ette has annoyed me nearly as much, and I totally do not mind hearing about other past ones and seeing them in magazines, etc. after their season ends. In fact I like hearing updates and enjoy the Jason and Molly podcast. Not true with Desiree. I’d be thrilled to never see her ugly cry face again.

  20. Sunnyside422

    August 9, 2013 at 8:30 AM

    It is true that Des lost all credibility as the season progressed. I think deep down, she is probably a very nice person really wanting to find someone to love and be loved. This show is not the place to do that.

    Juan is laughable! His prancing around the stage practically jumping into the laps of the drooling females will be gold for his season! He is out douche all the other bachelors as he wades his way through all the big boobed babes!

  21. locondcoco

    August 9, 2013 at 9:35 AM

    I’m a little surprised at the Juan Pablo “hate”. Granted, i’m not following him on twitter or anything, but he generally comes across as a good guy to me. Perhaps I’m being naive or something. Seems like a nice guy that genuinely loves his daughter (which actually, is the only I thought might get annoying after a whole season- him wanting to “find a step-mom for Camila”). Yes, there is a llittle male bravado in him, but nothing out of the ordinary. We’ll see I guess.

  22. Athena

    August 9, 2013 at 12:06 PM

    @locondococo – my concern about JP is exactly the same as yours – I heard him say more than once how much he wants to find a stepmother for his daughter. That doesn’t exactly sound like the sexiest come on to a prospective mate, even one who would embrace the role. Seems like he needs to focus more on finding a true love for himself. I’m sure he’ll be coached to shift what he says before the season begins, but deep down, I may still wonder. And, if our concerns about this are correct, then I wonder if he’s one of those guys who has the one kind of woman he’ll “date” (fun, sexy, etc.) vs the other kind he’d “marry” (more reserved, less “promiscuous”, etc.) I hope he’s not a chauvanist of this sort.

  23. rob22

    August 9, 2013 at 2:50 PM

    The issue with Juan Pah-blow is not that he’s a bad guy or a bad father. The issues are:
    1.) He can only speak understandable English when he’s going from a script. Once off script, he starts babbling in some form of Spanglish.
    2.) He has a daughter, which will be a turnoff for some… though not a huge deal overall.
    3.) He had a total of about 10 minutes of air time all season… mostly one liners or ITMs (that he could memorize) plus a surprising five minutes of time on Men Tell All. At the time, I thought many of us thought it was a sure sign that he was being pimped for The Bachelor… I’m not sure why RS stubbornly refused to see that.
    4.) Once he got the gig, on ATFR, he started to do his best impression of a male stripper…. smiling and preening & having to hold himself back from performing lap dances on the entire audience. I was just glad he kept his pants on. I wasn’t sure where he was headed & I was fully prepared to avert my eyes, if necessary.
    5.) All the Twitter selfies. OK, I get that he wants to promote himself…. and that may have helped land him the gig…. but does anyone want six months of selfies from this guy?

    All this points to a guy who is essentially James. He promoted himself for Bachelor & didn’t have the “negatives” that James did, because Juan Pah-blow wasn’t on the show enough for people to dislike him. He didn’t get a bad edit, like James, he the almost completely cut out edit.

    You see this in politics where someone with an established record (which invites hate from those that disagree with them) loses an election to someone without a record, or at least a short record without too much to really hate…. until they get elected & start to put together a record.

    So… we’ll see. I’m sure The Bachelor will edit out a lot of his ego driven shenanigans to help reduce the hate…. but all that will leave is what we just got in Des’ season. A bunch of pre-programmed sound bites in voice overs & ITMs, along with a lot of “amazing”, “I love that”, and other canned responses. If they leave in the ego crap, you’ll get another Ben Flatdick, bad hair and all, and nobody wants that.

  24. liz123

    August 9, 2013 at 6:01 PM

    @rob22 in regards to the constant use of “Juan Pah-blow” may I refer you to:

    It’s only funny like the first 48 times.

    Also, at what point on ATFR did he act like he was about to strip? Totally missed that (if it indeed happened). I don’t get the dislike people have of him. He doesn’t seem any more self-centered or egotistical than anyone else who agrees to be the Bachelor or Bachelorette. I personally wasn’t falling over myself for this guy, but by the same token, I don’t see any reason to despise the guy either.

    Oh & for those of you who don’t want to see his selfies, how about not following him on Twitter? Is someone forcing you? I think some people just have to have somebody to hate. It must fill some kind of emptiness or anger they have inside. I, personally, like to reserve my hate for people who deserve that kind of energy- people like Ayatollah Khomeini & Westboro Baptist Church members. <—- There's my psychological musings for the day. You're welcome. 😉

  25. rob22

    August 9, 2013 at 6:12 PM

    Ha Liz, I’m using Juan Pah-blow because Juan Pah-blo is very picky about how his name is pronounced. I wouldn’t want to offend him with my too-American pronunciation of Juan Pablo. I’m just being sensitive to his feelings.

    As for his stripping, I was merely reading his mind. The girls were going wild for him and he was soaking it in so much and smiling at the girls and mugging for the cameras…. that I thought for a second he was going to dance into the crowd, disrobe, mount a soccer mom while yelling “Lucy! You’ve got com-pany-yyyyy!!”. I don’t know. Maybe you saw it differently.

    Oh, and I don’t hate Juan Pah-blow. But I suspect many of the ladies will before the season is over. For me, it’s great. The mocking opportunities appear to be endless.

  26. elizabeth82

    August 9, 2013 at 8:37 PM

    Wow, I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t read the Reader E-mails column anymore. It was just getting to be a bunch of BS (and too long and repetitive BS at that). Only came here for the comments.

    Of people I know IRL, only one is excited about Juan Pablo (my aunt, and she loses points; at least my mom and work friends–none of my close friends watch this crap–who watch are on my page). My mom somehow roped my dad into watching the last couple seasons (male perspective–yay) and he thought the only interesting contender was Brooks because of all his squishy feelings (no thanks!). He thought Zak was too weird.

  27. peteb

    August 11, 2013 at 9:09 AM

    Regarding everyone who is surprized that RS is “not being honest” about publishing all negative emails, come on….

    The guy has been misleading the blog readers for years and you expect him to take this like a man. Obviously MF thought that this time RS should be wrong, and since RS likes his paycheque, he had to oblige. All this is just damage control (as are the various comments here that it’s time to “move on”). And frankly, there aren’t too many strategies to handle this other than “move on” and hope that the “Bachelor Nation” will forgive and forget” once he successfully “spoils” JP’s season (which I think now is a given unless MF wants to lose all the investment he made in RS).

  28. peteb

    August 11, 2013 at 9:18 AM

    A very quick comment on JP as TB. The choice is obviously solely motivated by the realization that Latino audiences are not watching this show. This is the fastest rising consumer market segment and the show needed to get them “hooked”. Since they could not quite put it like that, they had to quickly “build up excitement” at the MTA episode and online.

    Mind you, I don’t think that JP will be any better or worse than an average Bachelor, but it is pathetic how MF suddenly “found” diversity, after so many seasons. Note that this is a show that never cast African Americans in the lead, and the few African American contestants over the years were only tokens.

  29. finalrose2013

    August 12, 2013 at 10:39 AM

    Am I the only one thinking this is alarming?? The new Bachelor Juan Pablo’s 15 plus tweets on the weekend have been about the Backstreet Boys, how much he LOVES them, their moves and dances, and all related stuff. Anyone? Anyone?? #RedFlag This season can be embarrassing, guys!

  30. shouldbeworking

    August 14, 2013 at 11:55 AM

    Just read on E! that Gia Allemand passed away.
    So sad. So young.

  31. bigfatwoman2

    August 14, 2013 at 12:00 PM

    So an announcement of Gia’s death is made and within minutes Sean Lowe and RS are tweeting out condolences. I love Twitter…..but man that seems in such poor taste. Couldn’t you wait till tomorrow? Or wait to make sure all of her close friends and family know? Seriously, tweeting condolences? WTF? Am I being overly critical? Someone rationalize this to me cuz I don’t get it.

  32. locondcoco

    August 14, 2013 at 2:08 PM

    BFW2, i think you are being a touch overcritical. I’m sure those who needed to know (family, close friends), already did, before the announcement.

  33. jazzmine

    August 14, 2013 at 2:35 PM

    Gia Allemand….oh my goodness. That is sadder than sad. That poor girl.

  34. kasey31

    August 14, 2013 at 10:19 PM

    BFW2- Overcritical.. if you read the article, which I assume you didn’t, the family actually released the statement. And I would venture to say that had RS NOT tweeted out his condolences, people would be upset about that, too. As much as he pokes fun at the contestants on the show, I am sure the news hurt him.

    Her death really had an impact on me for some reason. So young, so much potential, and from all accounts, so sweet to everyone she came into contact with. I always believed she never belonged in the “Bachelor” Franchise, I remember her devastation from the betrayal of her friends on “The Bachelor Pad,” and she ultimately left because she said she didn’t belong on a show that was full of so much manipulation and back-stabbing.. she always seemed to have such a good head on her shoulders, and always stuck to her convictions and morals.

    I didn’t know where else to come when I heard about the news, so I thought I would come here. Such a beautiful person, but obviously broken and hurting. Still, suicide is never the answer. Never, ever. RIP, Gia.

  35. Nobody

    August 15, 2013 at 1:57 AM

    @ BFW2: Yes, you are being way over critical. The family knew (or should have known) about the death long before the media got wind of then death. Names aren’t released until after family notification has been made first. At least that’s the way it is supposed to work.

  36. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 7:37 AM

    Thanks for the input.

    My criticism was not so much of RS since he is a news source. I have it out for Sean Lowe because I don’t like him.

    When I heard news of Gia in the hospital, one of her friends was quoted in several of the articles. I started following that friend knowing she would tweet updates as well as started following Gia’s publicist.

    Gia’s friend that I was following tweeted out yesterday morning that she was still hopeful Gia would make a full recovery. Almost at the exact same time Sean Lowe tweeted his condolences. At this point the news was not on People, Radar or mentioned by her publicist. In fact, several people said it was misinformation and she was still alive.

    My point isn’t that Sean or RS wouldn’t express condolences. Of course they would and should. My point is that Sean Lowe jumped on the news so fast that to me it seemed unnecessary and self-serving. Normally not a big deal, but when you are thought of as an ego maniacal douche bag, then this behavior falls right in line with who I think you are.

    That’s all. Just my opinion. I feel sad for all who knew and loved Gia and I admire those who knew her and yet didn’t feel the need to go to Twitter to express grief.

  37. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 9:27 AM

    @BFW..stfu already. Who the heck are you to be judge and jury regarding what Sean Lowe did or didn’t do? Just because YOU’VE got a hard-on for him, doesn’t give you the authority to say what he did was right or wrong. Self-serving? Please BFW..take a shake. A woman, that was a friend of his, just passed away. He’s saddened by the news, and is just saying so. He’s asking his God to pray for her and her family. Is that so bad? Who cares if he jumped on it quickly? Quite obviously you do, and that’s really a shame. So, I suggest you take a step back, and look at the whole picture. You can take this any way you like, I could care less. I’m just horrified that you actually posted what you did about Sean Lowe. You should be ashamed.

  38. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:05 AM


    1). My last paragraph said, “just my opinion.”

    2). “Could” care less means just that…you could. Next time try “couldn’t.”

    3). You are “horrified” and I should be “ashamed.” That’s some pretty heavy stuff.

    4). Just what do I do in order to “take a shake?” If it involves chocolate shakes, sign me up!

  39. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 10:17 AM

    @BFW: Definition from Urban Dictionary:

    ‘I care so little about this topic that my level of caring is at its utmost minimum’

    And that is exactly how I feel about you and your Sean Lowe hard-on.

    And if chocolate’s how you roll, then go for it. I could care less.

  40. iheartvino

    August 15, 2013 at 10:43 AM

    @BFW, you said above ” I have it out for Sean Lowe because I don’t like him.” Question for you:
    Then why in the hell are you following him on Twitter?

    I agree with others that you are being overcritical. It’s just the world we live in now- word travels fast these days with social media being at everyone’s fingertips. Also, regarding BeautyBroker (if that’s the friend you were referring to that you started following) I saw some tweets from Gia’s close friends claiming that BeautyBroker wasn’t a reliable source and there people were alluding to her not being as close to Gia as she claimed she was. If that’s true then I’m not surprised that she wasn’t one of the first few people to be made aware that Gia had passed.

    Obviously all of this is pretty irrelevant in the big picture but I thought I’d point it out anyway. What happened with Gia is devastating and I feel very sad for her boyfriend (ex or not), friends, and family. A huge loss indeed and she was one of the few people I liked a lot from the franchise.

  41. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:54 AM


    I follow lots of people on Twitter that I don’t like…’s the love to hate phenomenon.

    Anyway, it’s just an opinion. Yes, I read the same stuff about @beautybroker and she was the one I was following.

    Thanks for not jumping down my throat. I have strong opinions, not everyone is going to agree with me and vice versa.

  42. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:58 AM


    It really is “couldn’t care less”…..I don’t think Urban Dictionary should be your go to source.

    I have plenty of hard-ons for plenty of people and I have now added you. I love you. I love all of your snitty ways when anyone differs from your opinion. It definitely turns me on.

  43. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 11:02 AM

    Whatever you say, BFW, whatever you say.

  44. vessel

    August 17, 2013 at 8:05 AM

    Sorry to butt into this debate, but “couldn’t care less” is correct. Millions of people every second get this mixed up, but if you actually take a sec and think about it, if you say “I could care less” you are saying you do care.

    THIS is actually what the Urban dictionary says about “Could are less”:
    used by confused individuals with a poor grasp of written english.

    Urban dictionary is a place to go to see how people have basically made up their own lingo, it’s not actually a dictionary to use if you care about being right.

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