Reality Steve

Reader Emails

A Very Interesting Batch of “Reader Emails”

Dear Reality Steve,

I have been reading your reality blog for years! It’s awesome. I just felt like I finally had to write you after so many years of reading specifically due to this year’s ending and the fact the ABC screwed it up. Every year you tell us the ending early on, sometimes even before the season airs, and every year ABC seems to get it right… for the most part. This year you posted all the spoilers for ABC well in advance; granted you did not tell them exactly how they were gonna bring Brooks back, but they had plenty of time to sort out any logistical issues. I just can’t believe they screwed up the ending. They had one job to do. My husband asked me if I was going to stop reading your blog due to the fact the you “got the ending wrong.” and I told him, “of course not, Steve did not get the ending wrong.” This is on ABC. Seriously, they should have known better that viewers/Bachelornation would freak out when they saw the finale and that Desiree chose Chris and not Brooks, who wasn’t coming back after all. My point is, you read a good book and then go to the movie and expect to see one thing and are always pissed off when the director gets all “creative” and changes the ending, cuts stuff out, or adds their own twist. Same thing here. So needless to say I will continue to read your blog, but I am no longer watching the Bachelor or Bachelorette. We all know Fleiss and Harrison read your blog, and they still can’t seem to get the endings right when it comes to the final rose? First Ali, then Brad, thank god you changed your mind right before the episode aired. Anyways, all Harrison had to do this season was say, “Hey Des, you might wanna rethink not asking me to bring Brooks back, you know that guy you said you are crazy about? You made yourself look all Des-perate on National TV throwing yourself at him as he tells you he’s just not feeling it. Do you really think viewers are gonna believe you got over him a few days later and are madly in love with this other guy?” Yeah, I don’t believe it either. So Steve, your ending was better if you ask me. Which is why I am only reading your blog from now on and not watching the show that is clearly loosely based on the blog. I can’t wait to read what you come up with next season.

PS: I wrote this email because I believe you will get a good laugh out of it and will understand my messed up sense of humor. You’re welcome.

Comment: Ha ha…I like that. My ending was better. Yeah, I agree. But I guess Des didn’t. If only she would’ve played along.
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Steve, LOVE your site! Screw the haters. I find your negative tweets hysterical. I CAN NOT believe ABC has sued u! Just goes to show the power you wield over them! What scumbags. I wouldn’t even watch the stupid show if it wasn’t for your site, so HA! (or as Juan Pablo says JA!) ABC, they SHOULD be paying you. As for who ended up being engaged to Des…who really gives a sh*t…makes no difference to my life what-so-ever. As for these haters being so hostile to u, I mean really? Get a friggin life already.

This may help u to understand why Juan Pablo is the new bachelor….the man is sex on a stick. Who cares that his English is poor, makes him even sexier, if that is at all possible. This is one seriously hot individual, a true man, not one of those metrosexual guys they keep shoving down r throats. Guaranteed JP isn’t gonna show up in a lavender shirt.

Well, I’m gonna go grab a Popsicle and dream of Juany baby. Keep up the awesome site.

Comment: A female reader talking about popsicle sticks and Juan Pablo simultaneously. Wouldn’t that be a little cold?
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First – these fools who are all bent out of shape for you not getting the ending right need to get a grip! This is a (fake) reality tv show, not life or death. Good for you for accepting your were incorrect in your info and not just hiding behind closed doors. They need to cool their jets. Onward and upward… I have no doubt you’ll get it right next season, and the seasons(s) after that.

Second – had a question. Ok so the lead and final choice always fly from LA to NYC to head to GMA the following morning. Do they fly private? Reason I ask – if they are flying commercial, how are they able to book their tickets in advance without being on record as purchasing tickets? Couldn’t the airline conceivably figure it out weeks in advance if they booked early like the rest of the population does?

Comment: It’s not so much that I thought people were treating it as life and death, but moreso that they were acting like somehow I conned them out of something when it’s their decision to whether to read my site and believe what the spoilers are. Sure, I haven’t given them much reason to doubt the spoilers given the track record, but on the occasion something is wrong, I just figured the reaction would be, “Damn, well that was surprising” and just move on.

I’m assuming the tickets are either booked as late as possible, or, you purchase nameless tickets that are filled in later. Kinda like what they do during the season. No different than Juan Pablo, Kasey, and James getting sent home in Spain and being on a plane the next day headed back to the states. Obviously those tickets were either purchased late or nameless that are filled in later. Don’t know if I explained that all that well but I remember asking someone who did this exact same thing for a different business and that’s what I was told. Tickets are purchased in advance with names going in later. Didn’t know you could do that but I guess you can.
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Loser Steve,

How do u even live with yourself after what happened Monday night? Must be pretty embarrassing to be who you are and to do what you do. I have zero respect for you and what you do. I hope your site gets shut down for its stupidity and you are never heard from again. Your 15 minutes are up.

P.S. – I think you’re a total f*g. Why don’t you just come out of the closet or make an appearance on “Glee?” Looks like they need a new character now.

Comment: Never heard of a website getting shut down for stupidity. That’d be a first.

Actually it’s not embarrassing at all being me. In fact, I kinda enjoy it. But thanks for the love.

“Glee” bombs? Too soon.
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Hi Steve,

I find it completely ironic that I want to tell people to “get a life” when they get upset about a reality show spoiler site. I will continue to read your blog regardless if your spoilers are correct because it is just pure entertainment. The fact that you were wrong….whoops, sorry, didn’t say with enough venom…. THAT YOU WERE WRONG, YOU WORTHLESS PIECE OF HUMAN SPECIES….

Nope…I just can’t do it… The fact that you were wrong just makes the whole series and your site even more entertaining.

Keep up the good work YOU LOW LIFE LOSER!… Dammit, I try, but I just can’t be that ridiculous.

Comment: It does sound pretty ridiculous, but hey, some of these people need to direct their anger towards somebody, I guess it might as well be me.
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Hey! I can’t believe I still pay attention to this franchise, but thankfully these last few seasons seem to have successfully helped me overcome the addiction. The last season I was really invested in was Ashley’s and I’ve been progressively losing interest ever since (not that my viewership is crucial one way or the other). Based on the reaction to this season it doesn’t sound like they will be bringing much of a built in audience to next season with Juan Pablo.

Anyway, I noticed one of your reader emails in the last batch asked whether you thought there would ever be another season ending without an engagement. I agree with you that it’s unlikely ever to happen. Jason and Molly talked a little about the end of their season on their podcast (nothing groundbreaking, but a fun listen nonetheless). I thought it was interesting that Jason essentially admitted that he really was not intending to propose when the finale came around. He also acknowledges that although he was not forced to propose, he basically had an onslaught of producers all night before that last day who ultimately wore him down and talked him into it by playing up the romance. So bottom line, I imagine that if any bachelor/ette is hesitant to propose/ accept a proposal, the producers may not force them into it, but clearly they have their ways of making it happen for the sake of the romantic story. They might allow a deviation from the script every once in a while for shock value (Most. Dramatic. Season. Ever.), but as has been said over and over again on your site – most of these season are going to play out in exactly the same way. You’d think eventually America would get bored, no??

Comment: It’s been 10 seasons since Brad’s double rejection, and there has been a proposal at the end every time. Expect it to continue. Nothing that Jason said in that podcast surprises me in the least bit. It’s what I’ve heard for years and have relayed to my readers time and time again.
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Dear Steve,

I know people often wonder why The Bachelor continues to cast leads from previous episodes. I do understand that we are somehow emotionally invested in them to some degree.

However, I’m thinking the only way the show could get the audience excited about a new Bachelor that was not a previous contestant is if they had, like…every woman’s dream man. He’d have to be someone like Andrew Firestone….good looking, rich, something unique to offer, someone with a catchy life story, etc….and then they could introduce us to him and tell us his story to get us emotionally invested in him.

Honestly I feel less invested in these “Regular Joe’s” from previous seasons than I would in a man cast like some rich, prince charming/fantasy guy.

I find this idea similar to the Real Housewives franchise. People are intrigued by the women’s lives that seems foreign to them but they know it exists. They want that “dream life” and they are curious about it. I think if they found some “prince charming” then I know they’d have me watching every season! (I only watch some seasons occasionally now).

What do you think? I think casting those types of leads of the sexy rich man sweeping a woman off her feet would make better tv than the virgin bachelor, the runner-up bachelor, the bachelor that everyone felt sorry for, etc. It may spice up the seasons and bring back more of that corny “fantasy guy/super hot guy chooses ordinary girl/takes care of her forever/shows her a perfect life” storyline that this show used to have (as unrealistic as it may have been, it certainly was more exciting.)

What are your thoughts?

Comment: I understand your reference to the “Real Housewives” and on the same level the Kardashians in that most people who watch those shows are fantasizing about a life they’ll never have. However, those shows are different in that they’re not dating shows and no one’s getting married for going on it. I think if you cast a lead with the qualities you mentioned above, I think it’ll be harder to sell to the audience because they’d think the person chose is just into them for their money. What they’re doing now works perfectly fine and has for years. Remember when they cast a prince? Look how that turned out.
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Hi Steve — Love your site and having the spoiler be WRONG makes me want to read more. Kept things exciting. 🙂

My question has to do with the “type” of women they choose for the show. Do you know if they encourage the women to stay in a particular weight range during filming or restrict their calories? Sometimes they have some butterfaces on, but never a woman larger than a 6.

Comment: I think if you lined up every female contestant whose ever been on this show, you’ll pretty much see a very similar quality that each of them has. So yes, it’s safe to say they are definitely looking for a particular size on this show and will never go above it.
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Stupid Bachelorette ending – perfect for everyone? What do you think Steve?

1. Great for haters.
Steve was wrong. Hate! Hate! How could he do this, he owes me 100% perfection (dont these people realize that they are owed what they pay for?)

2. Great for the show.
They revived a sh***y season with a surprise ending.
They have a formula for future spoiler-killing. Dont even try to hide what happens before hometowns, who cares anyway? Focus on final 3 where the show is in control and they can surprise everyone.
They tricked the great Steve!
The saps that buy that this is real think that they got a romantic ending.

3. Great for Reality Steve fans like me and anyone else with half a brain.
The show hit a new low and is scared of spoilers.
How else do we buy that Desiree professed love for Brooks, stated that Chris and Drew were nowhere close and a few days later (maybe even the next day) is willing to marry Chris?

No worries Steve, we dont expect perfection, you are entertaining me for free which is more than I get from most of my expensive Cable Channels.
Nate, the voice of reason? LMFAO
Juan who?

Comment: 1) Haters loved Monday’s show. We’ve clearly seen that the last few days.

2) Chris Harrison’s answer posted on page 1 was very interesting. Admitting to a season that wasn’t up to their standards, yet all season all we heard about was how Desiree was the best bachelorette yet. I love it when they talk out of both sides of their mouth. And let me guess, when Juan Pablo’s season gets closer, we’ll hear that it’s the best season yet and we’ll all love it. It’s the boy who cried wolf with these people. Same thing every year in terms of hyping the season. Just funny that Chris came out an openly admitted this wasn’t a good season until the end.

3) I’ll never understand it since the show is well aware what I do is basically free publicity for them and if anything, only encourages people to watch and find out to see if I’m right or wrong.
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Hey there, Mr. Steve,

I enjoy your writing. I’m not a regular reader by any stretch because I don’t like spoilers, but I’ve always enjoyed your stuff when I’ve gone there after the fact. My wife alerted me to the fact you apparently got the spoiler wrong last night. I have an honest (not a leading) question:

What is it about spoiling that appeals to you? I’m naturally curious, too, but I make a point of not seeking out any Bachelor/ette-related stuff during the season because I’d just like to enjoy the train wreck as it’s happening. I know, different strokes, and all that. And I’m not intending to judge. This is an honest-to-goodness query. I appreciate the sticking-it-to-the-man aspect (which is why I enjoy your stuff after the fact), but don’t quite get the appeal of knowing ahead of time what’s going to happen. It’s like when I go to a movie, I like to know as little about it as possible.

Anyway, I do like how you’re a thorn in their side. And I’d read more regularly, and certainly during the season, if you were just sticking it to them in other ways, like with their manipulative editing.

Comment: I only spoil this show and I imagine it’ll stay that way. The site has gotten big enough to the point where people want to give me info about it. I spoil this show because I don’t care about the outcome. Survivor? I never read the spoilers. Or any other show for that matter, scripted or reality. I don’t want to know. I’ve never been one who reads the end of the book first or wants to know the end of a movie before I see it. I hate it, actually. But for this show? It’s mindless entertainment, so it doesn’t bother me. Not to mention, their track record of producing a married couple is awful anyway, so there’s no reason to hold out and be surprised until the end since it’s probably not gonna work out anyway.
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Hi Steve,

Not really a question, more of a head scratching comment — Announcing Juan Pablo as the next Bachelor six weeks early will give him the time to check out the girls, if he reads your site, and does a little digging when you start posting their names. That should help him weed out ahead of time the ones that “aren’t there for the right reasons”; those with boyfriends back home, with something to promote or who just want a lot of TV time. It would/could also prejudice his feelings going into the opening night in that he’ll already have a good idea of each girl’s background, picture, and character, and who appeals to him and who’s a turn-off. Somehow, that doesn’t seem fair to the women. I’m just perplexed as to why ABC would announce him so early, and how that could be advantageous to them?

Comment: I know, awesome isn’t it? Absolutely Juan Pablo will know who some of his girls are before he goes on the show, because whether or not he reads the site, someone in his inner circle will and I’m sure they’ll run it back to him. Why wouldn’t they?
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Hi RS,

First of all, feel bad for you for all the people thrilled you were in the wrong about the ending. Most seasons you nailed it, and nailed it most of the times in the last few years, so I don’t see a reason to gloat. But people seem to love it when you are down…

I have been watching since the beginning, minus a few seasons (Jesse, Meredith, Jillian) and it’s been much more fun since I started reading your witty recaps (I am following you since Ashley’s season).
Just wanted to say it doesn’t seem too odd to me that Des picked Chris. It’s true she was more invested in Brooks, thought she loved him (in the moment) and loved the chase (she said so herself), because she seems to be in the habit of loving men who don’t reciprocate. That’s why I was so happy she came to her senses and out of that schoolgirl’s crush and saw a good man whom she clearly has much more in common with, who clearly loves her and wants her. She didn’t just go for whatever man was there- with Drew she never had that connection, that attraction, the shared humor. Chris was a different story, and only when Brooks was out of the picture did she see their relationship for what it is and really gave it a chance, letting her guard down. What is weird is that it happened in a few days, but it reminded me a lot of Ashley only seeing JP clearly after Bentley left, because she was so distracted. In the long term, Bentley/ Brooks made no sense, it was just a crush that seems like love in the fantytale of Bachelorette world. When dating more than one man, it can get confusing, especially accelerated in Bachelorette time. Each relationship has its own chemistry and flow to it. But when one man is out, it is possible to fall for the other (happened to me…)

A quick question: how can you maintain your relationships with former contestants after ABC filed the suit against you? Is that allowed as long as you don’t try to get information (spoilers) from them? I remember you said you are in touch with a few (Molly, for example), and went to Michelle Money’s charity, so you meet these people here and there. How you came to be in contact and do you still maintain these relationships? Can you still be friends with recent contestants?

Comment: The lesson was learned when I attempted to get a couple of Ben’s girls to talk once they returned from filming before their season aired. The lawsuit came and I stopped. Haven’t contacted a contestant since. Don’t need to. I spoiled Emily and Sean’s seasons without talking to contestants, so it obviously can be done.
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Hi, Steve!

First off, dunno why people are invalidating everything you do over one missed pick. The fact is that you give us the casts before they’re made public, give almost all of the episodes & eliminations before they happen and provide really funny commentary on the Bachelor/Bachelorette shows. Not to mention all the behind-the-scenes glimpses on how this show really works.

Sure, you got one wrong but no one else even TRIES to reveal what you do long before it airs.

I guess haters will be haters, but keep on doing what you’re doing. It enriches our experience of these shows greatly.

Meanwhile, a question about Juan Pablo’s casting. Do you suppose that because

a) Desiree’s season did so poorly ratings-wise . . . (until the end, cliffhanger shows)

b) Sean’s season did so well and he was considered “hot” by many women watching Emily’s season before being cast

that they’re going back to the Sean formula in casting Juan Pablo? I know a lot of female bloggers were swooning over J.Pablo so perhaps this is the reasoning behind their departure from the usual in casting him. Now, a lot of female bloggers are going nuts, so just thinking maybe they’re trying to recapture the Sean ratings gold.

What do you think?

Comment: You don’t know why people are invalidating everything I do over one missed pick? It’s because that’s what trolls do. They can’t help it.

If they’re casting Juan Pablo based on the swoon factor, I mean, that can only last so long right? Lets be honest, we have no idea about this guy’s personality or much about him because we never saw it. If they’re banking on a 5 minute sit-down during the MTA to convince everyone in America JP is the greatest human alive, they’re sorely mistaken. Sure, the hype for his season will be huge heading into the premiere episode, but my prediction is, as the season wears on I think people will be like, “Ok, enough already. Does this guy have any substance beyond his looks?” Outside of his friends and family, no one knows the answer to that right now because we never saw it. If the amount of selfies he takes is any indication, I’d say the answer is no.
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RS, I think they were really out to get you this season, and they won a small battle. You have been winning the war for many seasons, which indicates to me that you will change some battle strategies and continue to win the war.

Some people are saying you aren’t being humble, blah blah blah. I want you to realize that anyone with common sense can see this is human nature. You have big corporate douches currently getting the last laugh at you, and many of your dedicated fans are on “suicide watch” because they feel like you somehow stabbed them in the heart, Dexter style. Not to mention the droves of people calling you out on social media. ANYONE would be defensive and try to come to their own rescue by reminding people of the MANY seasons of amazing detective work.

I also want to point out that people have no idea of what they are asking you to be. They want you to be a go-getter. You must have confidence, even an ego, to be able to go out there and get the info they so desperately need to fulfill their lives. It takes a certain type of a-hole personality to be able to do that. 99% of these whiners have no guts to do what you do. However, you get something wrong, and these people want you to change your personality and become a humble mouse. A lion is not a lamb, and you made a great apology for a lion.

Keep up the good work.

Do I need a question for you to post this? Question: why are you so awesome?

Comment: Tuesday’s column was nothing more than eating crow. I never blamed it on anyone else other than myself. Sure, my info comes from other people, and I could’ve easily said, “Hey, I didn’t get it wrong, they did” but that’d be about the stupidest thing I can say. It’s “Reality Steve” for a reason. I’m the one who puts myself out there, not them. So if they’re right, I’m right and take the credit. If they’re wrong, I’m wrong and take the full blame. But I would never throw them under the bus like that. You write a column all season, and for the last 24 seasons, the finale plays out and it’s wrong from what I’d been preaching the last 3 months. Of course I’m gonna come back the next day and explain what happened. Anything less would’ve been chicken sh**.

Has there ever been a better question asked of me than “Why are you so awesome?” I think not.
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Can you start spoiling episodes of Catfish??
But seriously, I’ll keep reading because you made the Finale exciting as hell. Thanks and keep looking up…’cause that’s where it all is!

Comment: Perfect example of what I was talking about a few questions earlier. How less exciting would Catfish be if before every episode, you knew who the person doing the Catfishing was? Hell no I don’t want to know ahead of time. That’d ruin it for me. This show? It doesn’t really matter.
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Hi Steve:

This is the first time I’ve written to you, but I just couldn’t let this one slide. Yes…you got the ending wrong. Yes…you got the next Bachelor wrong. BFD. Anyone with more than a few brain cells working understands that your decisions are only as good as the information you have with which to make that decision. Your guesses were wrong…move it along.

Juan Pablo as the next Bachelor? REALLY?? Granted, as a woman, I concede the man oozes sex appeal; however, during his brief interview with Chris Harrison at the end of the ATR, I picked up on some major red flags.

First of all, I understand the language barrier and some things don’t translate accurately, but he struck me as the type that whatever he’s thinking comes out of his mouth before his brain has a chance to filter it. I think ABC is going to have their hands full trying to rein this guy in. Hell, Harrison had a hard time controlling him during that brief interview.

Secondly, he’s a single parent. I have no problem with that (there are a lot of us out there) but he made it very clear that his daughter comes first in his life. Very commendable…BUT he also made it clear that he maintains a close relationship with his Ex, his child’s mother. Again, very commendable because it speaks highly of his sense of responsibility as a parent. But let’s have a reality check here. He didn’t become the Bachelor without checking in with her first. It came across as an inability to make a major decision without her input. YIKES! Any woman would have to be nuts to enter into a serious relationship, let alone a marriage, with a man like that. Talk about major baggage. She would have to understand, going in, that there will always be three people in that marriage. Herself, Juan Pablo and his Ex. Who the hell wants to deal with that knowing that you’ll always come in third? It’s emotional suicide. I can’t believe they’ll actually find 25 women that are oblivious to this.

It should be an entertaining season watching this guy continuously removing his foot from his mouth. The editing people are sure going to earn their paychecks. I wonder at which point they’ll have his Ex come on to “counsel him” and give her opinion on the women? Final four?

Comment: Oh trust me, they’ll find 25 women oblivious to it and they’ll all get sucked right in.

I think the biggest problem with Juan Pablo’s season will be the fact that Camila’s mother is smoking hot. So not only are you possibly entering into a family that’s already established, but you’re dealing with an ex that’s hotter than you, which most women are completely uncomfortable with. Women hate women. Women judge other women all the time. And knowing that JP’s ex is a walking sex pot, an actress and model, they have a great relationship apparently, AND she’s the mother of his child? Good luck with that. I hope they put Carla Rodriguez on the show just so these women will start to feel self-conscious. Yeah, THAT Carla Rodriguez…

Carla1Carla2Carla3
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Hi Steve,

Insert my obligatory comment about how I love your blog here. I really do enjoy all aspects to your blog. You give great advice – how are you so wise?

On to my questions:

1) When do you think we’ll hear the breakup announcement of Chris & Des?

2) What is your opinion of the Insanity fitness program? Are you continuing with it or another Shaun T one?

3) Do you happen to know who is the Whodunnit? killer? I’m dying to know.

4) PC or Mac?

5) Not a question – but I noticed the following picture of James on Twitter and thought it was too funny not to share. He wasn’t kidding about not wasting time going on boats with attractive women (even though I assume this is Ryan’s girlfriend, Ana). Hope you get a kick out of it.

James&Ryan

Comment: 1) Never know with those things. I just don’t think they’ll ever get married.

2) Well, since I own Insanity, Asylum 1, Asylum 2, and T25, I’ve basically just started doing a hybrid. 3-4 days a week I do a video from any one of those 4 programs. I’m kinda all over the place now. Today I’ll be doing “Gameday” from Asylum 1. Probably the hardest workout on any of the 4 programs. It’s a bitch. 60 minutes of pure hell, but fun.

3) Never seen the show.

4) PC

5) James is on a boat trolling for women. At least he’s a man of his word.
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I have to say I’m happy for Des…that she picked the only not-gay dude left. Oh, wait. The LEAST gay person. Chris said he felt “vibrant” with Des and thanked her when she called him “adorable.” My husband was in the next room and literally yelled out “WTF?” What guy feels “vibrant”. Or “adorable”?

Anyway… on GMA, which I sadly tuned into to see if Chris and Des would talk about the brutal fights they must’ve had over Brooks, Chris said that he and Des, before the season started, agreed to have him watch only the parts that had him and Des in it. So I guess he only kind of knows what happened with the Brooks and Des thing from all the chatter. Though I doubt he knows the whole story. Thoughts?

Comment: Completely bizarre to me that Des told Chris to avoid that episode. Even more bizarre was that he agreed to. These two don’t make any sense to me, but hey, I guess they’re happy so whatever.
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Hi, Steve,

I’ve been a long time reader and never have emailed you before.

A couple of things:

1) Why are you being so harsh at Des, Chris and Juan Pablo? They’re all great people.

2) Do you think that Des and Chris will go out on a double date with Jason and Molly sometime soon? Since Kirkland is only like 15 miles from Seattle and Des is moving there this weekend, why don’t they go out on a double date. Des and Chris said that they would be willing to go out on a double date with Sean and Catherine.

http://hollywoodlife.com/2013/08/07/desiree-hartsock-chris-siegfried-double-date-sean-lowe-catherine-giudici/

3) If Des decides to start up a jewelry line/ bridal gown thingy, do you think that she’ll just sell the products in Seattle ONLY?

4) Des and Chris should go on Jason and Molly’s podcast to clarify things up.

5) Do you know who Jason Mesnick’s ex-wife is?

6) Why is Jason Mesnick and Molly Mesnick so popular these days?

7) You owe an apology to Des, Chris and Juan Pablo for calling them mean names.

8) You owe us an apology for leading us on to thinking that Des chooses Brooks.

Comment: One question – should I give Jason and Molly a heads up on the restraining order they should file against you or just let them figure it out on their own? Wow.
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Send all emails to: steve@realitysteve.com. To follow me on Twitter, it’s: www.twitter.com/RealitySteve. Instagram name is “RealitySteve,” or join my Reality Steve Facebook Fan Page. Talk to you next week.

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  1. rollingeyes

    August 8, 2013 at 9:42 AM

    Ha! “Booty Head” made me laugh out loud!

  2. sarald00

    August 8, 2013 at 9:48 AM

    Twitty is like the old AOL messages boards were…nasty free-for-all, anonymous vicious people! Crazies!

  3. sarald00

    August 8, 2013 at 9:49 AM

    Oops…I meant Twitter….

  4. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 11:00 AM

    I find it odd that Steve kept making a point to say he would publish all of the negative emails in today’ column, but then he didn’t. I doubt mine was the only negative email that didn’t get published. And before anyone says it, no I wasn’t cursing him out or calling him name. My questions weren’t even asked in any of the other emails published, so it wasn’t one of the 100s of repeats.

    Typical that the reader emails are mostly made up of those praising Steve, with a few negative ones thrown in so it doesn’t look as fake as the reality shows he covers.

    Now I wonder how much of the reader emails actually were negative, since its unlikely to be the 80/20 that he claims it to be.

  5. kjopo84

    August 8, 2013 at 12:05 PM

    @lcs85 — I don’t care about the spoilers myself and didn’t email Steve, but like you I agree that he isn’t being honest. He said he printed all of the negative emails. I counted. There were 12. Plus 57 positive ones.

    So 356 emails and only 12 were negative? Please.

  6. locondcoco

    August 8, 2013 at 12:10 PM

    2 things-

    1) love how there are SO many negative ones. had to read through like 5 which were blowing smoke up his butt before we got to a negative one.

    2) for the one that spelled “credibility” wrong and said “sell 0ut”- Of course the biggest offense in that sentense was the use of the wrong “you’re”. In the words of Ross Gellar: “Y-o-u apostrophe r-e means ‘you are’, y-o-u-r means ‘your’!”

  7. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 12:25 PM

    I mostly just emailed him after he kept claiming he would post all the negative emails if he was wrong. These reader emails are all the same week after week with people telling Steve how amazing he is, or how they read his recaps religiously even though they’ve never watched the show. He will only post negative emails if the person doesn’t have anything intelligent to say (like the I hate you and jerk emails above), or if he can make fun of their spelling. I wanted to see if he was actually going to post the negative emails that weren’t from complete idiots, and that he would have to give an actual response to.

  8. vessel

    August 8, 2013 at 12:40 PM

    I hope he moves beyond this whole support of him/bashing him emails regarding the incorrect spoiler very soon. I’m so over it, and over Desiree in general and her stupid 11th hour declarations of love. It’s all such utter baloney. But hey Des, whatever, move to Seattle temporarily like Jef moved to North Carolina to try to briefly lend some credibility to what is obviously a sham engagement. (Hmmm, I wonder if ABC throws them some moving $ to make it all seem at least a teeny bit real to the public?) In any case I wrote RS an email on Monday before the finale aired that had nothing to do with Desiree’s season, it was about the confidentiality contracts. Maybe a boring question, but still something I hope he gets to in a future “Reader Emails” post.

  9. matchmaker

    August 8, 2013 at 1:18 PM

    How does one delete their RS WordPress account?

  10. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 2:27 PM

    @vessel The show just ended on Monday, 3 days ago! This is the first reader email that has been posted since the finale. So of course all the emails are going to be about Des’ season and how it ended. Its silly to say you’re over it when you knew that is what was going to be discussed. Wouldn’t it have been odd if the finale aired and Steve just moved on from Des’ season without talking about it for at least that week? I could understand if this was September, and every post was about the ending, but come on, it just happened.

    If you want answers to questions that have nothing to do with what is going on right now, I would try emailing him your question again in a few weeks. Steve claims that the emails he posts are only from that week, so I don’t think he’ll post ones from weeks ago. Although who knows what really goes on with Reader Emails…

  11. Athena

    August 8, 2013 at 3:09 PM

    Can someone please let me know what a “selfie” (related to Juan Pablo) is? Thanks.

  12. rob22

    August 8, 2013 at 3:23 PM

    I liked Steve actually trying to answer the negative emails with funny quips. Typically his answers are pretty much not that funny. It spiced up the emails even if most of the emailers were boot lickers writing repetitive nonsense.

    I agree with RS that Juan Pah-blow will lose his luster quickly. He’s already WAY too into himself and is just basking in all the attention he’s getting. Wow, what a surprise that a professional athlete is so self focused and vain. Maybe he can put out 10,000 more selfies in advance of the next Bachelor. I think it’s clear that by the middle of the show people will be pretty over him…. but I’m sure the show is hoping that by then people will be invested in their favorite girls. I’m imagining that they’re going to try harder to have likable girls instead of those that are obviously just there to get their pie holes on camera.
    I fully expect that Steve will be on his game next season…. and with an english challenged, ex-jock, ego-maniac, boring, douche (yeah, that’s what you’ll be saying in about four months) like Juan Pah-blow, it should be a target rich environment for RS.

  13. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 3:34 PM

    @Athena a selfie is a picture that someone takes of themselves, often with their camera phone, and usually posts on twitter, facebook, and/or instagram.

  14. vessel

    August 8, 2013 at 5:42 PM

    @Ics85, yeah I know it just happened. I guess i meant “over it” in the larger sense. I want to forget this horrible season with it’s absolutely ridiculous ending even happened. Desiree pretending to be in love and ready to marry someone she obviously had no serious romantic feelings for is just so forced it kinda sickens me. I don’t want to see her face on magazines, read people nauseatingly say she and Chris are so “meant to be” etc. But yeah you’re right, I made my choice to read what would obviously 100% be about what went down at the finale. I will re-ask him my question in a few weeks. Thanks.

  15. Athena

    August 8, 2013 at 7:15 PM

    Thanks Ics85.

  16. bigfatwoman2

    August 8, 2013 at 7:27 PM

    Steve is incorrectly stating that Des and Chris have “already started the incessant tweeting and selfies.”

    That’s actually not true at all. I have been following both Chris and Des on Twitter since the beginning of the show and Des tweets seldom and Chris has just started tweeting since the show ended. They post very few selfies and they have sent out less than 5 tweets about themselves as a couple.

    Juan Pablo on the other hand, tweets something out at least every hour and oftentimes it’s a selfie. I agree with @rob22, the guy is very pleased with himself.

    Beneath all Steve’s bravado (and there’s a lot of it) is a guy who seems to very much want love for himself. We just don’t get to see his sweetness cuz he’s too caught up in being da’ man.

    Contrite and humble is sexy Steve. You should try it.

  17. justforfun

    August 8, 2013 at 8:52 PM

    What negative emails? Where were they? I read the first couple, and nothing but praise. I guess RS left most of them out so he could show everyone that yes, people still love his blog, and will read no matter what. That’s fine if he needs to self validate, it’s his blog.

    As for Juan Pablo posting selfies, and tweeting a lot. So what? He’s promoting himself, like any smart person should do that is going on this show just for promotion. Let’s face it, this show is a farce, and the best someone can hope for is to get some promotion that will launch or help their career.The chances of finding real love on this show are the same as winning the lotto.

    Next thing you know we’ll have someone posting that Juan Pablo isn’t going on the show for the right reasons. DUH!

  18. lcs85

    August 8, 2013 at 8:56 PM

    @vessel you’re pretty much describing every season of the Bachelor(ette). If the show sickens you then don’t watch it. Like Steve says, there is always going to be a proposal at the end. They are never going to be in love when the proposal happens, because people don’t fall in love with someone they’ve spent a grand total of 24 hours “alone” with over a six week period all while dating other people. They’re always going to end up on the tabloid covers and do the talk shows. They’re always going to have their fans that think they are “so in love” and “meant to be”. Thats just how the show is.

  19. vessel

    August 9, 2013 at 7:58 AM

    @lcs85, Yes I get all of that, and I think you are mistaking me for some cat-lady fan living in la-la land. I couldn’t be further from that type of viewer. I know there is pretty much zero reality in this stupid show. TRUST ME… I am not one of the morons that watches it because I think there is any kind of actual true love fairytale story unfolding before my very eyes. I watch it for the accidental humor and the idiotic over the top way many contestants act, and also because I read Steve’s column, and coupled with his sarcastic recaps (and Jen Frase’s and a few others) it’s amusing to me. Desiree’s season (and Emily’s) just annoyed me WAY more than anyone else’s season has, and it’s just my personal opinion. Desiree’s because in the end she came off as a complete nitwit a$$hole choosing someone in the 11th hour and pretending she felt something… and then the general public actually buying it and embracing this sham of a couple to me is just gross. Is it true that she couldn’t do a Brad 1.0 and say “Nope, not doing it, I am as graciously as possible declining to accept a proposal, and after what I said about Brooks I should think the viewers would respect me in this”? I mean does ABC have that in her contract that under NO circumstances can she choose no one? I am aware that they push, HARD, and bully and all that for an engagement, but does she literally have no choice? In any case no other Bachelor/ette has annoyed me nearly as much, and I totally do not mind hearing about other past ones and seeing them in magazines, etc. after their season ends. In fact I like hearing updates and enjoy the Jason and Molly podcast. Not true with Desiree. I’d be thrilled to never see her ugly cry face again.

  20. Sunnyside422

    August 9, 2013 at 8:30 AM

    It is true that Des lost all credibility as the season progressed. I think deep down, she is probably a very nice person really wanting to find someone to love and be loved. This show is not the place to do that.

    Juan is laughable! His prancing around the stage practically jumping into the laps of the drooling females will be gold for his season! He is out douche all the other bachelors as he wades his way through all the big boobed babes!

  21. locondcoco

    August 9, 2013 at 9:35 AM

    I’m a little surprised at the Juan Pablo “hate”. Granted, i’m not following him on twitter or anything, but he generally comes across as a good guy to me. Perhaps I’m being naive or something. Seems like a nice guy that genuinely loves his daughter (which actually, is the only I thought might get annoying after a whole season- him wanting to “find a step-mom for Camila”). Yes, there is a llittle male bravado in him, but nothing out of the ordinary. We’ll see I guess.

  22. Athena

    August 9, 2013 at 12:06 PM

    @locondococo – my concern about JP is exactly the same as yours – I heard him say more than once how much he wants to find a stepmother for his daughter. That doesn’t exactly sound like the sexiest come on to a prospective mate, even one who would embrace the role. Seems like he needs to focus more on finding a true love for himself. I’m sure he’ll be coached to shift what he says before the season begins, but deep down, I may still wonder. And, if our concerns about this are correct, then I wonder if he’s one of those guys who has the one kind of woman he’ll “date” (fun, sexy, etc.) vs the other kind he’d “marry” (more reserved, less “promiscuous”, etc.) I hope he’s not a chauvanist of this sort.

  23. rob22

    August 9, 2013 at 2:50 PM

    The issue with Juan Pah-blow is not that he’s a bad guy or a bad father. The issues are:
    1.) He can only speak understandable English when he’s going from a script. Once off script, he starts babbling in some form of Spanglish.
    2.) He has a daughter, which will be a turnoff for some… though not a huge deal overall.
    3.) He had a total of about 10 minutes of air time all season… mostly one liners or ITMs (that he could memorize) plus a surprising five minutes of time on Men Tell All. At the time, I thought many of us thought it was a sure sign that he was being pimped for The Bachelor… I’m not sure why RS stubbornly refused to see that.
    4.) Once he got the gig, on ATFR, he started to do his best impression of a male stripper…. smiling and preening & having to hold himself back from performing lap dances on the entire audience. I was just glad he kept his pants on. I wasn’t sure where he was headed & I was fully prepared to avert my eyes, if necessary.
    5.) All the Twitter selfies. OK, I get that he wants to promote himself…. and that may have helped land him the gig…. but does anyone want six months of selfies from this guy?

    All this points to a guy who is essentially James. He promoted himself for Bachelor & didn’t have the “negatives” that James did, because Juan Pah-blow wasn’t on the show enough for people to dislike him. He didn’t get a bad edit, like James, he the almost completely cut out edit.

    You see this in politics where someone with an established record (which invites hate from those that disagree with them) loses an election to someone without a record, or at least a short record without too much to really hate…. until they get elected & start to put together a record.

    So… we’ll see. I’m sure The Bachelor will edit out a lot of his ego driven shenanigans to help reduce the hate…. but all that will leave is what we just got in Des’ season. A bunch of pre-programmed sound bites in voice overs & ITMs, along with a lot of “amazing”, “I love that”, and other canned responses. If they leave in the ego crap, you’ll get another Ben Flatdick, bad hair and all, and nobody wants that.

  24. liz123

    August 9, 2013 at 6:01 PM

    @rob22 in regards to the constant use of “Juan Pah-blow” may I refer you to:

    http://www.picsweb.net/images/Beating_a_dead_horse

    It’s only funny like the first 48 times.

    Also, at what point on ATFR did he act like he was about to strip? Totally missed that (if it indeed happened). I don’t get the dislike people have of him. He doesn’t seem any more self-centered or egotistical than anyone else who agrees to be the Bachelor or Bachelorette. I personally wasn’t falling over myself for this guy, but by the same token, I don’t see any reason to despise the guy either.

    Oh & for those of you who don’t want to see his selfies, how about not following him on Twitter? Is someone forcing you? I think some people just have to have somebody to hate. It must fill some kind of emptiness or anger they have inside. I, personally, like to reserve my hate for people who deserve that kind of energy- people like Ayatollah Khomeini & Westboro Baptist Church members. <—- There's my psychological musings for the day. You're welcome. 😉

  25. rob22

    August 9, 2013 at 6:12 PM

    Ha Liz, I’m using Juan Pah-blow because Juan Pah-blo is very picky about how his name is pronounced. I wouldn’t want to offend him with my too-American pronunciation of Juan Pablo. I’m just being sensitive to his feelings.

    As for his stripping, I was merely reading his mind. The girls were going wild for him and he was soaking it in so much and smiling at the girls and mugging for the cameras…. that I thought for a second he was going to dance into the crowd, disrobe, mount a soccer mom while yelling “Lucy! You’ve got com-pany-yyyyy!!”. I don’t know. Maybe you saw it differently.

    Oh, and I don’t hate Juan Pah-blow. But I suspect many of the ladies will before the season is over. For me, it’s great. The mocking opportunities appear to be endless.

  26. elizabeth82

    August 9, 2013 at 8:37 PM

    Wow, I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t read the Reader E-mails column anymore. It was just getting to be a bunch of BS (and too long and repetitive BS at that). Only came here for the comments.

    Of people I know IRL, only one is excited about Juan Pablo (my aunt, and she loses points; at least my mom and work friends–none of my close friends watch this crap–who watch are on my page). My mom somehow roped my dad into watching the last couple seasons (male perspective–yay) and he thought the only interesting contender was Brooks because of all his squishy feelings (no thanks!). He thought Zak was too weird.

  27. peteb

    August 11, 2013 at 9:09 AM

    Regarding everyone who is surprized that RS is “not being honest” about publishing all negative emails, come on….

    The guy has been misleading the blog readers for years and you expect him to take this like a man. Obviously MF thought that this time RS should be wrong, and since RS likes his paycheque, he had to oblige. All this is just damage control (as are the various comments here that it’s time to “move on”). And frankly, there aren’t too many strategies to handle this other than “move on” and hope that the “Bachelor Nation” will forgive and forget” once he successfully “spoils” JP’s season (which I think now is a given unless MF wants to lose all the investment he made in RS).

  28. peteb

    August 11, 2013 at 9:18 AM

    A very quick comment on JP as TB. The choice is obviously solely motivated by the realization that Latino audiences are not watching this show. This is the fastest rising consumer market segment and the show needed to get them “hooked”. Since they could not quite put it like that, they had to quickly “build up excitement” at the MTA episode and online.

    Mind you, I don’t think that JP will be any better or worse than an average Bachelor, but it is pathetic how MF suddenly “found” diversity, after so many seasons. Note that this is a show that never cast African Americans in the lead, and the few African American contestants over the years were only tokens.

  29. finalrose2013

    August 12, 2013 at 10:39 AM

    Am I the only one thinking this is alarming?? The new Bachelor Juan Pablo’s 15 plus tweets on the weekend have been about the Backstreet Boys, how much he LOVES them, their moves and dances, and all related stuff. Anyone? Anyone?? #RedFlag This season can be embarrassing, guys!

  30. shouldbeworking

    August 14, 2013 at 11:55 AM

    Just read on E! that Gia Allemand passed away.
    So sad. So young.

  31. bigfatwoman2

    August 14, 2013 at 12:00 PM

    So an announcement of Gia’s death is made and within minutes Sean Lowe and RS are tweeting out condolences. I love Twitter…..but man that seems in such poor taste. Couldn’t you wait till tomorrow? Or wait to make sure all of her close friends and family know? Seriously, tweeting condolences? WTF? Am I being overly critical? Someone rationalize this to me cuz I don’t get it.

  32. locondcoco

    August 14, 2013 at 2:08 PM

    BFW2, i think you are being a touch overcritical. I’m sure those who needed to know (family, close friends), already did, before the announcement.

  33. jazzmine

    August 14, 2013 at 2:35 PM

    Gia Allemand….oh my goodness. That is sadder than sad. That poor girl.

  34. kasey31

    August 14, 2013 at 10:19 PM

    BFW2- Overcritical.. if you read the article, which I assume you didn’t, the family actually released the statement. And I would venture to say that had RS NOT tweeted out his condolences, people would be upset about that, too. As much as he pokes fun at the contestants on the show, I am sure the news hurt him.

    Her death really had an impact on me for some reason. So young, so much potential, and from all accounts, so sweet to everyone she came into contact with. I always believed she never belonged in the “Bachelor” Franchise, I remember her devastation from the betrayal of her friends on “The Bachelor Pad,” and she ultimately left because she said she didn’t belong on a show that was full of so much manipulation and back-stabbing.. she always seemed to have such a good head on her shoulders, and always stuck to her convictions and morals.

    I didn’t know where else to come when I heard about the news, so I thought I would come here. Such a beautiful person, but obviously broken and hurting. Still, suicide is never the answer. Never, ever. RIP, Gia.

  35. Nobody

    August 15, 2013 at 1:57 AM

    @ BFW2: Yes, you are being way over critical. The family knew (or should have known) about the death long before the media got wind of then death. Names aren’t released until after family notification has been made first. At least that’s the way it is supposed to work.

  36. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 7:37 AM

    Thanks for the input.

    My criticism was not so much of RS since he is a news source. I have it out for Sean Lowe because I don’t like him.

    When I heard news of Gia in the hospital, one of her friends was quoted in several of the articles. I started following that friend knowing she would tweet updates as well as started following Gia’s publicist.

    Gia’s friend that I was following tweeted out yesterday morning that she was still hopeful Gia would make a full recovery. Almost at the exact same time Sean Lowe tweeted his condolences. At this point the news was not on People, Radar or mentioned by her publicist. In fact, several people said it was misinformation and she was still alive.

    My point isn’t that Sean or RS wouldn’t express condolences. Of course they would and should. My point is that Sean Lowe jumped on the news so fast that to me it seemed unnecessary and self-serving. Normally not a big deal, but when you are thought of as an ego maniacal douche bag, then this behavior falls right in line with who I think you are.

    That’s all. Just my opinion. I feel sad for all who knew and loved Gia and I admire those who knew her and yet didn’t feel the need to go to Twitter to express grief.

  37. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 9:27 AM

    @BFW..stfu already. Who the heck are you to be judge and jury regarding what Sean Lowe did or didn’t do? Just because YOU’VE got a hard-on for him, doesn’t give you the authority to say what he did was right or wrong. Self-serving? Please BFW..take a shake. A woman, that was a friend of his, just passed away. He’s saddened by the news, and is just saying so. He’s asking his God to pray for her and her family. Is that so bad? Who cares if he jumped on it quickly? Quite obviously you do, and that’s really a shame. So, I suggest you take a step back, and look at the whole picture. You can take this any way you like, I could care less. I’m just horrified that you actually posted what you did about Sean Lowe. You should be ashamed.

  38. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:05 AM

    @MyLoverDianne,

    1). My last paragraph said, “just my opinion.”

    2). “Could” care less means just that…you could. Next time try “couldn’t.”

    3). You are “horrified” and I should be “ashamed.” That’s some pretty heavy stuff.

    4). Just what do I do in order to “take a shake?” If it involves chocolate shakes, sign me up!

  39. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 10:17 AM

    @BFW: Definition from Urban Dictionary:

    ‘I care so little about this topic that my level of caring is at its utmost minimum’

    And that is exactly how I feel about you and your Sean Lowe hard-on.

    And if chocolate’s how you roll, then go for it. I could care less.

  40. iheartvino

    August 15, 2013 at 10:43 AM

    @BFW, you said above ” I have it out for Sean Lowe because I don’t like him.” Question for you:
    Then why in the hell are you following him on Twitter?

    I agree with others that you are being overcritical. It’s just the world we live in now- word travels fast these days with social media being at everyone’s fingertips. Also, regarding BeautyBroker (if that’s the friend you were referring to that you started following) I saw some tweets from Gia’s close friends claiming that BeautyBroker wasn’t a reliable source and there people were alluding to her not being as close to Gia as she claimed she was. If that’s true then I’m not surprised that she wasn’t one of the first few people to be made aware that Gia had passed.

    Obviously all of this is pretty irrelevant in the big picture but I thought I’d point it out anyway. What happened with Gia is devastating and I feel very sad for her boyfriend (ex or not), friends, and family. A huge loss indeed and she was one of the few people I liked a lot from the franchise.

  41. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:54 AM

    @iheart~

    I follow lots of people on Twitter that I don’t like…..it’s the love to hate phenomenon.

    Anyway, it’s just an opinion. Yes, I read the same stuff about @beautybroker and she was the one I was following.

    Thanks for not jumping down my throat. I have strong opinions, not everyone is going to agree with me and vice versa.

  42. bigfatwoman2

    August 15, 2013 at 10:58 AM

    @MyLove…..Dianne

    It really is “couldn’t care less”…..I don’t think Urban Dictionary should be your go to source.

    I have plenty of hard-ons for plenty of people and I have now added you. I love you. I love all of your snitty ways when anyone differs from your opinion. It definitely turns me on.

  43. Dianne

    August 15, 2013 at 11:02 AM

    Whatever you say, BFW, whatever you say.

  44. vessel

    August 17, 2013 at 8:05 AM

    Sorry to butt into this debate, but “couldn’t care less” is correct. Millions of people every second get this mixed up, but if you actually take a sec and think about it, if you say “I could care less” you are saying you do care.

    THIS is actually what the Urban dictionary says about “Could are less”:
    used by confused individuals with a poor grasp of written english.

    Urban dictionary is a place to go to see how people have basically made up their own lingo, it’s not actually a dictionary to use if you care about being right.

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