Dear Reality Steve,
I have been reading your reality blog for years! It’s awesome. I just felt like I finally had to write you after so many years of reading specifically due to this year’s ending and the fact the ABC screwed it up. Every year you tell us the ending early on, sometimes even before the season airs, and every year ABC seems to get it right… for the most part. This year you posted all the spoilers for ABC well in advance; granted you did not tell them exactly how they were gonna bring Brooks back, but they had plenty of time to sort out any logistical issues. I just can’t believe they screwed up the ending. They had one job to do. My husband asked me if I was going to stop reading your blog due to the fact the you “got the ending wrong.” and I told him, “of course not, Steve did not get the ending wrong.” This is on ABC. Seriously, they should have known better that viewers/Bachelornation would freak out when they saw the finale and that Desiree chose Chris and not Brooks, who wasn’t coming back after all. My point is, you read a good book and then go to the movie and expect to see one thing and are always pissed off when the director gets all “creative” and changes the ending, cuts stuff out, or adds their own twist. Same thing here. So needless to say I will continue to read your blog, but I am no longer watching the Bachelor or Bachelorette. We all know Fleiss and Harrison read your blog, and they still can’t seem to get the endings right when it comes to the final rose? First Ali, then Brad, thank god you changed your mind right before the episode aired. Anyways, all Harrison had to do this season was say, “Hey Des, you might wanna rethink not asking me to bring Brooks back, you know that guy you said you are crazy about? You made yourself look all Des-perate on National TV throwing yourself at him as he tells you he’s just not feeling it. Do you really think viewers are gonna believe you got over him a few days later and are madly in love with this other guy?” Yeah, I don’t believe it either. So Steve, your ending was better if you ask me. Which is why I am only reading your blog from now on and not watching the show that is clearly loosely based on the blog. I can’t wait to read what you come up with next season.
PS: I wrote this email because I believe you will get a good laugh out of it and will understand my messed up sense of humor. You’re welcome.
Comment: Ha ha…I like that. My ending was better. Yeah, I agree. But I guess Des didn’t. If only she would’ve played along.
Steve, LOVE your site! Screw the haters. I find your negative tweets hysterical. I CAN NOT believe ABC has sued u! Just goes to show the power you wield over them! What scumbags. I wouldn’t even watch the stupid show if it wasn’t for your site, so HA! (or as Juan Pablo says JA!) ABC, they SHOULD be paying you. As for who ended up being engaged to Des…who really gives a sh*t…makes no difference to my life what-so-ever. As for these haters being so hostile to u, I mean really? Get a friggin life already.
This may help u to understand why Juan Pablo is the new bachelor….the man is sex on a stick. Who cares that his English is poor, makes him even sexier, if that is at all possible. This is one seriously hot individual, a true man, not one of those metrosexual guys they keep shoving down r throats. Guaranteed JP isn’t gonna show up in a lavender shirt.
Well, I’m gonna go grab a Popsicle and dream of Juany baby. Keep up the awesome site.
Comment: A female reader talking about popsicle sticks and Juan Pablo simultaneously. Wouldn’t that be a little cold?
First – these fools who are all bent out of shape for you not getting the ending right need to get a grip! This is a (fake) reality tv show, not life or death. Good for you for accepting your were incorrect in your info and not just hiding behind closed doors. They need to cool their jets. Onward and upward… I have no doubt you’ll get it right next season, and the seasons(s) after that.
Second – had a question. Ok so the lead and final choice always fly from LA to NYC to head to GMA the following morning. Do they fly private? Reason I ask – if they are flying commercial, how are they able to book their tickets in advance without being on record as purchasing tickets? Couldn’t the airline conceivably figure it out weeks in advance if they booked early like the rest of the population does?
Comment: It’s not so much that I thought people were treating it as life and death, but moreso that they were acting like somehow I conned them out of something when it’s their decision to whether to read my site and believe what the spoilers are. Sure, I haven’t given them much reason to doubt the spoilers given the track record, but on the occasion something is wrong, I just figured the reaction would be, “Damn, well that was surprising” and just move on.
I’m assuming the tickets are either booked as late as possible, or, you purchase nameless tickets that are filled in later. Kinda like what they do during the season. No different than Juan Pablo, Kasey, and James getting sent home in Spain and being on a plane the next day headed back to the states. Obviously those tickets were either purchased late or nameless that are filled in later. Don’t know if I explained that all that well but I remember asking someone who did this exact same thing for a different business and that’s what I was told. Tickets are purchased in advance with names going in later. Didn’t know you could do that but I guess you can.
How do u even live with yourself after what happened Monday night? Must be pretty embarrassing to be who you are and to do what you do. I have zero respect for you and what you do. I hope your site gets shut down for its stupidity and you are never heard from again. Your 15 minutes are up.
P.S. – I think you’re a total f*g. Why don’t you just come out of the closet or make an appearance on “Glee?” Looks like they need a new character now.
Comment: Never heard of a website getting shut down for stupidity. That’d be a first.
Actually it’s not embarrassing at all being me. In fact, I kinda enjoy it. But thanks for the love.
“Glee” bombs? Too soon.
I find it completely ironic that I want to tell people to “get a life” when they get upset about a reality show spoiler site. I will continue to read your blog regardless if your spoilers are correct because it is just pure entertainment. The fact that you were wrong….whoops, sorry, didn’t say with enough venom…. THAT YOU WERE WRONG, YOU WORTHLESS PIECE OF HUMAN SPECIES….
Nope…I just can’t do it… The fact that you were wrong just makes the whole series and your site even more entertaining.
Keep up the good work YOU LOW LIFE LOSER!… Dammit, I try, but I just can’t be that ridiculous.
Comment: It does sound pretty ridiculous, but hey, some of these people need to direct their anger towards somebody, I guess it might as well be me.
Hey! I can’t believe I still pay attention to this franchise, but thankfully these last few seasons seem to have successfully helped me overcome the addiction. The last season I was really invested in was Ashley’s and I’ve been progressively losing interest ever since (not that my viewership is crucial one way or the other). Based on the reaction to this season it doesn’t sound like they will be bringing much of a built in audience to next season with Juan Pablo.
Anyway, I noticed one of your reader emails in the last batch asked whether you thought there would ever be another season ending without an engagement. I agree with you that it’s unlikely ever to happen. Jason and Molly talked a little about the end of their season on their podcast (nothing groundbreaking, but a fun listen nonetheless). I thought it was interesting that Jason essentially admitted that he really was not intending to propose when the finale came around. He also acknowledges that although he was not forced to propose, he basically had an onslaught of producers all night before that last day who ultimately wore him down and talked him into it by playing up the romance. So bottom line, I imagine that if any bachelor/ette is hesitant to propose/ accept a proposal, the producers may not force them into it, but clearly they have their ways of making it happen for the sake of the romantic story. They might allow a deviation from the script every once in a while for shock value (Most. Dramatic. Season. Ever.), but as has been said over and over again on your site – most of these season are going to play out in exactly the same way. You’d think eventually America would get bored, no??
Comment: It’s been 10 seasons since Brad’s double rejection, and there has been a proposal at the end every time. Expect it to continue. Nothing that Jason said in that podcast surprises me in the least bit. It’s what I’ve heard for years and have relayed to my readers time and time again.
I know people often wonder why The Bachelor continues to cast leads from previous episodes. I do understand that we are somehow emotionally invested in them to some degree.
However, I’m thinking the only way the show could get the audience excited about a new Bachelor that was not a previous contestant is if they had, like…every woman’s dream man. He’d have to be someone like Andrew Firestone….good looking, rich, something unique to offer, someone with a catchy life story, etc….and then they could introduce us to him and tell us his story to get us emotionally invested in him.
Honestly I feel less invested in these “Regular Joe’s” from previous seasons than I would in a man cast like some rich, prince charming/fantasy guy.
I find this idea similar to the Real Housewives franchise. People are intrigued by the women’s lives that seems foreign to them but they know it exists. They want that “dream life” and they are curious about it. I think if they found some “prince charming” then I know they’d have me watching every season! (I only watch some seasons occasionally now).
What do you think? I think casting those types of leads of the sexy rich man sweeping a woman off her feet would make better tv than the virgin bachelor, the runner-up bachelor, the bachelor that everyone felt sorry for, etc. It may spice up the seasons and bring back more of that corny “fantasy guy/super hot guy chooses ordinary girl/takes care of her forever/shows her a perfect life” storyline that this show used to have (as unrealistic as it may have been, it certainly was more exciting.)
What are your thoughts?
Comment: I understand your reference to the “Real Housewives” and on the same level the Kardashians in that most people who watch those shows are fantasizing about a life they’ll never have. However, those shows are different in that they’re not dating shows and no one’s getting married for going on it. I think if you cast a lead with the qualities you mentioned above, I think it’ll be harder to sell to the audience because they’d think the person chose is just into them for their money. What they’re doing now works perfectly fine and has for years. Remember when they cast a prince? Look how that turned out.
Hi Steve — Love your site and having the spoiler be WRONG makes me want to read more. Kept things exciting. 🙂
My question has to do with the “type” of women they choose for the show. Do you know if they encourage the women to stay in a particular weight range during filming or restrict their calories? Sometimes they have some butterfaces on, but never a woman larger than a 6.
Comment: I think if you lined up every female contestant whose ever been on this show, you’ll pretty much see a very similar quality that each of them has. So yes, it’s safe to say they are definitely looking for a particular size on this show and will never go above it.
Stupid Bachelorette ending – perfect for everyone? What do you think Steve?
1. Great for haters.
Steve was wrong. Hate! Hate! How could he do this, he owes me 100% perfection (dont these people realize that they are owed what they pay for?)
2. Great for the show.
They revived a sh***y season with a surprise ending.
They have a formula for future spoiler-killing. Dont even try to hide what happens before hometowns, who cares anyway? Focus on final 3 where the show is in control and they can surprise everyone.
They tricked the great Steve!
The saps that buy that this is real think that they got a romantic ending.
3. Great for Reality Steve fans like me and anyone else with half a brain.
The show hit a new low and is scared of spoilers.
How else do we buy that Desiree professed love for Brooks, stated that Chris and Drew were nowhere close and a few days later (maybe even the next day) is willing to marry Chris?
No worries Steve, we dont expect perfection, you are entertaining me for free which is more than I get from most of my expensive Cable Channels.
Nate, the voice of reason? LMFAO
Comment: 1) Haters loved Monday’s show. We’ve clearly seen that the last few days.
2) Chris Harrison’s answer posted on page 1 was very interesting. Admitting to a season that wasn’t up to their standards, yet all season all we heard about was how Desiree was the best bachelorette yet. I love it when they talk out of both sides of their mouth. And let me guess, when Juan Pablo’s season gets closer, we’ll hear that it’s the best season yet and we’ll all love it. It’s the boy who cried wolf with these people. Same thing every year in terms of hyping the season. Just funny that Chris came out an openly admitted this wasn’t a good season until the end.
3) I’ll never understand it since the show is well aware what I do is basically free publicity for them and if anything, only encourages people to watch and find out to see if I’m right or wrong.
Hey there, Mr. Steve,
I enjoy your writing. I’m not a regular reader by any stretch because I don’t like spoilers, but I’ve always enjoyed your stuff when I’ve gone there after the fact. My wife alerted me to the fact you apparently got the spoiler wrong last night. I have an honest (not a leading) question:
What is it about spoiling that appeals to you? I’m naturally curious, too, but I make a point of not seeking out any Bachelor/ette-related stuff during the season because I’d just like to enjoy the train wreck as it’s happening. I know, different strokes, and all that. And I’m not intending to judge. This is an honest-to-goodness query. I appreciate the sticking-it-to-the-man aspect (which is why I enjoy your stuff after the fact), but don’t quite get the appeal of knowing ahead of time what’s going to happen. It’s like when I go to a movie, I like to know as little about it as possible.
Anyway, I do like how you’re a thorn in their side. And I’d read more regularly, and certainly during the season, if you were just sticking it to them in other ways, like with their manipulative editing.
Comment: I only spoil this show and I imagine it’ll stay that way. The site has gotten big enough to the point where people want to give me info about it. I spoil this show because I don’t care about the outcome. Survivor? I never read the spoilers. Or any other show for that matter, scripted or reality. I don’t want to know. I’ve never been one who reads the end of the book first or wants to know the end of a movie before I see it. I hate it, actually. But for this show? It’s mindless entertainment, so it doesn’t bother me. Not to mention, their track record of producing a married couple is awful anyway, so there’s no reason to hold out and be surprised until the end since it’s probably not gonna work out anyway.
Not really a question, more of a head scratching comment — Announcing Juan Pablo as the next Bachelor six weeks early will give him the time to check out the girls, if he reads your site, and does a little digging when you start posting their names. That should help him weed out ahead of time the ones that “aren’t there for the right reasons”; those with boyfriends back home, with something to promote or who just want a lot of TV time. It would/could also prejudice his feelings going into the opening night in that he’ll already have a good idea of each girl’s background, picture, and character, and who appeals to him and who’s a turn-off. Somehow, that doesn’t seem fair to the women. I’m just perplexed as to why ABC would announce him so early, and how that could be advantageous to them?
Comment: I know, awesome isn’t it? Absolutely Juan Pablo will know who some of his girls are before he goes on the show, because whether or not he reads the site, someone in his inner circle will and I’m sure they’ll run it back to him. Why wouldn’t they?
First of all, feel bad for you for all the people thrilled you were in the wrong about the ending. Most seasons you nailed it, and nailed it most of the times in the last few years, so I don’t see a reason to gloat. But people seem to love it when you are down…
I have been watching since the beginning, minus a few seasons (Jesse, Meredith, Jillian) and it’s been much more fun since I started reading your witty recaps (I am following you since Ashley’s season).
Just wanted to say it doesn’t seem too odd to me that Des picked Chris. It’s true she was more invested in Brooks, thought she loved him (in the moment) and loved the chase (she said so herself), because she seems to be in the habit of loving men who don’t reciprocate. That’s why I was so happy she came to her senses and out of that schoolgirl’s crush and saw a good man whom she clearly has much more in common with, who clearly loves her and wants her. She didn’t just go for whatever man was there- with Drew she never had that connection, that attraction, the shared humor. Chris was a different story, and only when Brooks was out of the picture did she see their relationship for what it is and really gave it a chance, letting her guard down. What is weird is that it happened in a few days, but it reminded me a lot of Ashley only seeing JP clearly after Bentley left, because she was so distracted. In the long term, Bentley/ Brooks made no sense, it was just a crush that seems like love in the fantytale of Bachelorette world. When dating more than one man, it can get confusing, especially accelerated in Bachelorette time. Each relationship has its own chemistry and flow to it. But when one man is out, it is possible to fall for the other (happened to me…)
A quick question: how can you maintain your relationships with former contestants after ABC filed the suit against you? Is that allowed as long as you don’t try to get information (spoilers) from them? I remember you said you are in touch with a few (Molly, for example), and went to Michelle Money’s charity, so you meet these people here and there. How you came to be in contact and do you still maintain these relationships? Can you still be friends with recent contestants?
Comment: The lesson was learned when I attempted to get a couple of Ben’s girls to talk once they returned from filming before their season aired. The lawsuit came and I stopped. Haven’t contacted a contestant since. Don’t need to. I spoiled Emily and Sean’s seasons without talking to contestants, so it obviously can be done.
First off, dunno why people are invalidating everything you do over one missed pick. The fact is that you give us the casts before they’re made public, give almost all of the episodes & eliminations before they happen and provide really funny commentary on the Bachelor/Bachelorette shows. Not to mention all the behind-the-scenes glimpses on how this show really works.
Sure, you got one wrong but no one else even TRIES to reveal what you do long before it airs.
I guess haters will be haters, but keep on doing what you’re doing. It enriches our experience of these shows greatly.
Meanwhile, a question about Juan Pablo’s casting. Do you suppose that because
a) Desiree’s season did so poorly ratings-wise . . . (until the end, cliffhanger shows)
b) Sean’s season did so well and he was considered “hot” by many women watching Emily’s season before being cast
that they’re going back to the Sean formula in casting Juan Pablo? I know a lot of female bloggers were swooning over J.Pablo so perhaps this is the reasoning behind their departure from the usual in casting him. Now, a lot of female bloggers are going nuts, so just thinking maybe they’re trying to recapture the Sean ratings gold.
What do you think?
Comment: You don’t know why people are invalidating everything I do over one missed pick? It’s because that’s what trolls do. They can’t help it.
If they’re casting Juan Pablo based on the swoon factor, I mean, that can only last so long right? Lets be honest, we have no idea about this guy’s personality or much about him because we never saw it. If they’re banking on a 5 minute sit-down during the MTA to convince everyone in America JP is the greatest human alive, they’re sorely mistaken. Sure, the hype for his season will be huge heading into the premiere episode, but my prediction is, as the season wears on I think people will be like, “Ok, enough already. Does this guy have any substance beyond his looks?” Outside of his friends and family, no one knows the answer to that right now because we never saw it. If the amount of selfies he takes is any indication, I’d say the answer is no.
RS, I think they were really out to get you this season, and they won a small battle. You have been winning the war for many seasons, which indicates to me that you will change some battle strategies and continue to win the war.
Some people are saying you aren’t being humble, blah blah blah. I want you to realize that anyone with common sense can see this is human nature. You have big corporate douches currently getting the last laugh at you, and many of your dedicated fans are on “suicide watch” because they feel like you somehow stabbed them in the heart, Dexter style. Not to mention the droves of people calling you out on social media. ANYONE would be defensive and try to come to their own rescue by reminding people of the MANY seasons of amazing detective work.
I also want to point out that people have no idea of what they are asking you to be. They want you to be a go-getter. You must have confidence, even an ego, to be able to go out there and get the info they so desperately need to fulfill their lives. It takes a certain type of a-hole personality to be able to do that. 99% of these whiners have no guts to do what you do. However, you get something wrong, and these people want you to change your personality and become a humble mouse. A lion is not a lamb, and you made a great apology for a lion.
Keep up the good work.
Do I need a question for you to post this? Question: why are you so awesome?
Comment: Tuesday’s column was nothing more than eating crow. I never blamed it on anyone else other than myself. Sure, my info comes from other people, and I could’ve easily said, “Hey, I didn’t get it wrong, they did” but that’d be about the stupidest thing I can say. It’s “Reality Steve” for a reason. I’m the one who puts myself out there, not them. So if they’re right, I’m right and take the credit. If they’re wrong, I’m wrong and take the full blame. But I would never throw them under the bus like that. You write a column all season, and for the last 24 seasons, the finale plays out and it’s wrong from what I’d been preaching the last 3 months. Of course I’m gonna come back the next day and explain what happened. Anything less would’ve been chicken sh**.
Has there ever been a better question asked of me than “Why are you so awesome?” I think not.
Can you start spoiling episodes of Catfish??
But seriously, I’ll keep reading because you made the Finale exciting as hell. Thanks and keep looking up…’cause that’s where it all is!
Comment: Perfect example of what I was talking about a few questions earlier. How less exciting would Catfish be if before every episode, you knew who the person doing the Catfishing was? Hell no I don’t want to know ahead of time. That’d ruin it for me. This show? It doesn’t really matter.
This is the first time I’ve written to you, but I just couldn’t let this one slide. Yes…you got the ending wrong. Yes…you got the next Bachelor wrong. BFD. Anyone with more than a few brain cells working understands that your decisions are only as good as the information you have with which to make that decision. Your guesses were wrong…move it along.
Juan Pablo as the next Bachelor? REALLY?? Granted, as a woman, I concede the man oozes sex appeal; however, during his brief interview with Chris Harrison at the end of the ATR, I picked up on some major red flags.
First of all, I understand the language barrier and some things don’t translate accurately, but he struck me as the type that whatever he’s thinking comes out of his mouth before his brain has a chance to filter it. I think ABC is going to have their hands full trying to rein this guy in. Hell, Harrison had a hard time controlling him during that brief interview.
Secondly, he’s a single parent. I have no problem with that (there are a lot of us out there) but he made it very clear that his daughter comes first in his life. Very commendable…BUT he also made it clear that he maintains a close relationship with his Ex, his child’s mother. Again, very commendable because it speaks highly of his sense of responsibility as a parent. But let’s have a reality check here. He didn’t become the Bachelor without checking in with her first. It came across as an inability to make a major decision without her input. YIKES! Any woman would have to be nuts to enter into a serious relationship, let alone a marriage, with a man like that. Talk about major baggage. She would have to understand, going in, that there will always be three people in that marriage. Herself, Juan Pablo and his Ex. Who the hell wants to deal with that knowing that you’ll always come in third? It’s emotional suicide. I can’t believe they’ll actually find 25 women that are oblivious to this.
It should be an entertaining season watching this guy continuously removing his foot from his mouth. The editing people are sure going to earn their paychecks. I wonder at which point they’ll have his Ex come on to “counsel him” and give her opinion on the women? Final four?
Comment: Oh trust me, they’ll find 25 women oblivious to it and they’ll all get sucked right in.
I think the biggest problem with Juan Pablo’s season will be the fact that Camila’s mother is smoking hot. So not only are you possibly entering into a family that’s already established, but you’re dealing with an ex that’s hotter than you, which most women are completely uncomfortable with. Women hate women. Women judge other women all the time. And knowing that JP’s ex is a walking sex pot, an actress and model, they have a great relationship apparently, AND she’s the mother of his child? Good luck with that. I hope they put Carla Rodriguez on the show just so these women will start to feel self-conscious. Yeah, THAT Carla Rodriguez…
Insert my obligatory comment about how I love your blog here. I really do enjoy all aspects to your blog. You give great advice – how are you so wise?
On to my questions:
1) When do you think we’ll hear the breakup announcement of Chris & Des?
2) What is your opinion of the Insanity fitness program? Are you continuing with it or another Shaun T one?
3) Do you happen to know who is the Whodunnit? killer? I’m dying to know.
4) PC or Mac?
5) Not a question – but I noticed the following picture of James on Twitter and thought it was too funny not to share. He wasn’t kidding about not wasting time going on boats with attractive women (even though I assume this is Ryan’s girlfriend, Ana). Hope you get a kick out of it.
Comment: 1) Never know with those things. I just don’t think they’ll ever get married.
2) Well, since I own Insanity, Asylum 1, Asylum 2, and T25, I’ve basically just started doing a hybrid. 3-4 days a week I do a video from any one of those 4 programs. I’m kinda all over the place now. Today I’ll be doing “Gameday” from Asylum 1. Probably the hardest workout on any of the 4 programs. It’s a bitch. 60 minutes of pure hell, but fun.
3) Never seen the show.
5) James is on a boat trolling for women. At least he’s a man of his word.
I have to say I’m happy for Des…that she picked the only not-gay dude left. Oh, wait. The LEAST gay person. Chris said he felt “vibrant” with Des and thanked her when she called him “adorable.” My husband was in the next room and literally yelled out “WTF?” What guy feels “vibrant”. Or “adorable”?
Anyway… on GMA, which I sadly tuned into to see if Chris and Des would talk about the brutal fights they must’ve had over Brooks, Chris said that he and Des, before the season started, agreed to have him watch only the parts that had him and Des in it. So I guess he only kind of knows what happened with the Brooks and Des thing from all the chatter. Though I doubt he knows the whole story. Thoughts?
Comment: Completely bizarre to me that Des told Chris to avoid that episode. Even more bizarre was that he agreed to. These two don’t make any sense to me, but hey, I guess they’re happy so whatever.
I’ve been a long time reader and never have emailed you before.
A couple of things:
1) Why are you being so harsh at Des, Chris and Juan Pablo? They’re all great people.
2) Do you think that Des and Chris will go out on a double date with Jason and Molly sometime soon? Since Kirkland is only like 15 miles from Seattle and Des is moving there this weekend, why don’t they go out on a double date. Des and Chris said that they would be willing to go out on a double date with Sean and Catherine.
3) If Des decides to start up a jewelry line/ bridal gown thingy, do you think that she’ll just sell the products in Seattle ONLY?
4) Des and Chris should go on Jason and Molly’s podcast to clarify things up.
5) Do you know who Jason Mesnick’s ex-wife is?
6) Why is Jason Mesnick and Molly Mesnick so popular these days?
7) You owe an apology to Des, Chris and Juan Pablo for calling them mean names.
8) You owe us an apology for leading us on to thinking that Des chooses Brooks.
Comment: One question – should I give Jason and Molly a heads up on the restraining order they should file against you or just let them figure it out on their own? Wow.
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