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The “Bachelor” Juan Pablo Recap Including My Thoughts on His Statements Regarding Gays

Quite a few of you emailed me yesterday asking where was my recap regarding Sunday night’s “Bachelor: Love Stories” episode. Ummmm, what was there to say? It was a bunch of couples holding hands walking along in parks talking about how great their relationship is. That’s great for them, but I didn’t think there was a whole hell of a lot to dedicate a column to. We know the show loves trotting out all their success stories to keep fans with that hope that this show ultimately works, when in reality, those couples are the exception rather than the norm. Here’s what I’ll say for all five of the couples: I think a major part of their success was moving out of LA and not getting caught up in the Hollywood aspect of it. I think they’d all agree that played a part in them lasting. Not saying it’s a guarantee if you move away you’ll succeed, but it does a play a big role. Hence the reason Juan Pablo and his girl are going to fail. He loves every minute of the spotlight, wants to be in it, wants to be famous, wants to move to LA, and wants be involved in Hollywood. Not to mention other factors, but that is definitely a major role. Lets just say his girl is being played and there’s almost a part of me that feels sorry for her. Almost.

Get your “Reader Emails” and “Dr. Reality Steve” emails in for this Thursday to I’m gonna try and stay away from all emails concerning Juan Pablo’s comments last weekend. Sure, I’ll throw a few emails about it in there, but we could literally talk all day every day about it if we wanted to. There is so much I could write about the Juan Pablo situation that broke over the weekend, but I’m going to keep it pretty short since I spent all weekend talking about it. Trust me, this first page was waaaaaaay longer before I decided to go this route. If you’ve been living under a rock and haven’t heard what he said, listen to this clip:

One thing worth pointing out. At the :28 second mark, Juan Pablo says, “I respect Peter right there…he’s my boy right there…he spend every day with me and he has his partner and I respect that 100%.” The guy he’s referring to is producer Peter Geist who was his main producer during the filming of the show essentially with him at all times & was with him at the event on Friday – and who happens to be gay. He’s dating one of the other producers on the show, Marco Franzitti, and neither of them hide the fact they are together.


So before anyone says, “Why wasn’t there someone at the event making sure he didn’t say something stupid,” just know someone was pretty close to him. How close? I don’t know. But close enough for Juan Pablo to acknowledge him in the clip. ABC then immediately came out and released a statement essentially distancing themselves from what he said and putting it all on Juan Pablo. Then, as expected, Juan Pablo released an apology (obviously written by someone else), basically because he had to. Lets not forget, ABC has received awards from GLAAD just this past year for being one of the most gay friendly networks on TV. Of course Juan Pablo had to apologize immediately. The story was on the cover of four major entertainment websites Saturday afternoon. This was a big deal to people or else it wouldn’t have been covered by everyone. Whether you agree with his take or not, you cannot dispute this was a major story. He’s the lead on a network television show watched by millions of people a week. It’s a big deal when you say something, caught on tape nonetheless, that offends a certain group.

I literally had 13 paragraphs written about what I wanted to say, and now I’ve basically narrowed it down to three. No point in going on and on since, in the end, it didn’t really have much effect on the show. It’s not like the show would get cancelled over it, or ratings would plummet. Please. Either you’re going to watch or you’re not. Yeah, maybe a few people here and there got pissed and decided not to watch last night because they thought what he said was insensitive, but it had ZERO effect on the ratings like I figured it would. Last week they drew 7.88 million viewers, ratings last night drew 7.82 million. We can debate all day long whether or not you agree with his view on gay parents raising a child. That wasn’t “taken out of context.” He made it clear how he felt about that. Some people agree, some don’t. Whatever. The problem was him throwing in the “gays are more pervert” line. Now, the Spanish word for “pervert” is “pervertido,” so blaming the language barrier seems a little hollow, but again, whatever. The fact is he said it, it most definitely was him struggling to find the word he was looking for, and now it’s just another thing I can make fun of him for. Do I think he hates gay people? No. Do I think he’s ignorant and should’ve deflected the question and never answered it in the first place? Absolutely. He should’ve known not to answer the question or to dodge it, and the second he started to go off on a :90 rant, you knew there was trouble. His own fault. He made his bed, and now he must lie in it. And if you don’t think that him calling gays “more pervert,” whether that’s what he meant to say or not, isn’t gonna be brought up numerous times in my column the rest of the season, well, then you haven’t read me for the past 10 years. It’s what I do. He said it, not me. So I’m going to make fun of what he said.

So rather than keep those 13 paragraphs I had written in the column, I’ll give you a cliff notes version of everything that popped into my head when this story broke Saturday, along with my short answers to them:

1) How could ABC not think that SOMETHING like this could happen this season with as bad as his tweets have been, and the fact he admits he struggles with the language? Lets be honest. NO ONE should be surprised something like this came out of his mouth. ABC is just as much to blame here as anyone for casting someone like him. And they know it.

2) Why wasn’t anyone more stern with him about avoiding questions regarding anything religion, race, or sex based? I’m sure they were. He either chose to ignore it, thought he had a good answer, or maybe (and this is the one I’m leaning toward) he had no clue what he said offended anyone until he was told. You think JP walked away from that interview saying, “Crap. If that gets out I’m in deep sh**.” I certainly don’t. He only realized it was bad once it got out. I firmly believe he still doesn’t understand why what he said was wrong.

3) Did the reporter ask the question in hopes to maybe get a controversial answer? I absolutely think so. I think the second that reporter didn’t hear, “No comment,” or, “Oh, I don’t know. I never thought about that,” he knew he had gold.

4) His apology? Obviously written by someone else. Ummm, we’ve seen his tweets and his Tuesday blog on He doesn’t write like that.

5) His tweets since the apology? This is where he’s going about it all wrong. He’s STILL trying to defend himself. You don’t think? Then why is he saying stuff like the first one, or retweeting the other three?


All that is is him saying, “Look everyone! See! I don’t dislike the gays! I have gay friends!” Worst PR move he could’ve made. The more he retweets stuff like that, the more hollow his apology sounds. You don’t apologize and then CONTINUE to try and state your case. Your apology falls on deaf ears now.

6) Now he’s going to meet with the Latino Director at GLAAD for counseling? Damage control.

7) Does this affect his DWTS chances? I think so. I’d be surprised now if he’s on it.

8) So is he sorry for the calling gays “more pervert” or is he apologizing for his stance on gays? Sounds like he was just apologizing for using the phrase “more pervert” to describe the gays, which he had to do. I truly don’t think he thinks he said anything wrong, and that’s where the ignorance comes in. In this day and age, where gay marriage is becoming legal in more and more states, and television is so much more accepting of gays on TV than they used to be, you CANNOT say what he said. No matter how strongly you feel towards it. It was a stupid statement to make, he got his slap on the wrist, and we move on.

I wanted to dive deeper into each of those topics, but ultimately in the end, I decided it doesn’t matter. It didn’t affect the show at all last night, he apologized, and we move on. But to say “We shouldn’t even be talking about this. It’s not a big deal” is about as close minded as you can get. Is it a big deal in the grand scheme of things? No. Is it a big deal within the “Bachelor” bubble? Of course, so yes it’s worth talking about. Once this story broke on Saturday, do you know how many emails, tweets, and texts I got asking my opinion on it? Of course it’s an issue and of course I’m gonna talk about it. My opinion of the guy is he’s ignorant, not the sharpest knife in the drawer, and his statements did nothing but strengthen that opinion. Actions speak louder than words written by someone else. His tweets since the apology aren’t doing him any favors. Lets see how he actually responds when he has to speak about this on camera for the first time without the help of anyone guiding him. I’m going to continue to make fun of him for a bunch of things, but can now add “more pervert” to the list. Oh Juan Pablo, you silly little rascal you.

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  1. xxxx

    January 21, 2014 at 11:09 AM

    “Grizzlied” veteran?
    And why would Andi be uncomfortable at an ASPCA meeting? Because she was uncomfortable getting naked in public?

    The amount of mistakes in your column on a weekly basis is almost as prevalent as the failed attempts at humor.

    Yep, I’m sure Grantland will be banging down your door any second bud…hold your breath and do us all a favor

  2. Dianne

    January 21, 2014 at 11:33 AM

    Wow, xxxx, you sure are negative, aren’t you? If you don’t like what Steve puts out on a weekly basis, please, feel free to go far, far away..honestly, you won’t be missed.

  3. lcs85

    January 21, 2014 at 12:13 PM

    Uh.. there are still like 13 paragraphs up there about the Juan Pablo fiasco.

  4. skylerm

    January 21, 2014 at 1:46 PM


    A few points actually. 1) If you dislike Steve and his “humor” then why come to his blog?

    2) If you hate him so much, why go through the trouble of even creating an account, JUST to comment on the column about how much you hate it?

    3) If you hate it so much, why come here and put money in his pocket? You realize … you taking the time out of your day to create an account, post on his page is putting money in his pocket and supporting him.

    So really, you posting your nonsense was completely pointless and not backed up at all. You only showed your support for him by coming here and commenting. I’m sure he appreciates your “negativity” .. keep it coming.

  5. rob22

    January 21, 2014 at 1:54 PM

    There may quite a lot of people that feel the same as Juan Paco about gays. Still, almost all of them know not to say so in an interview. Only JP and Phil from Duck Dynasty seem to have missed a clue on that one. Clearly neither one of them will be giving a lecture on nuclear physics…. nor will they be highly sought after for teaching the English language.

    When we started talking about what a train wreck this season would be, I was thinking JP would tweet a selfie of his junk, or something. Or, as was shown last week, sportin’ wood in the hot tub. I never considered the possibility that he’d go on a politically incorrect rant.

    So, in that way, JP is exceeding expectations. Go JP! We’re only three weeks in and you’re batting a thousand on the nimrod meter.

  6. Sunnyside422

    January 21, 2014 at 4:01 PM

    RS: “Juan Pablo…a lighthouse on the shores of ignorance”. Just one of many chuckles this blog. Way to go Steve. Since The Bachelor show is so lame, I come here to read and reflect, while laughing.

    I have never watched any of the Bachelor/ette weddings and don’t plan to waste my time on goofy, giggly Catherine and the dullard she plans to marry.

    Have listened to Jason & Molly’;s pod cast all along. Interesting observations on the many manipulations and downright lying taking place by producers to the cast of fools. Anyone who feels they were wronged…shame on them for being stupid enough to sign up for this show.

  7. bigfatwoman

    January 21, 2014 at 5:51 PM

    Sharleen thinks her sheet don’t stink….but clearly it does. She’s trying sooooo hard to be cool, and let’s face it Steve, if she were really that cool and aloof, she wouldn’t have signed up for this show.


  8. xxxx

    January 21, 2014 at 6:17 PM

    I doubt my one click is really putting too much money in RS’ pocket but if I can do anything to let everyone what a BS artist he really is, it will be time well spent.

    His “knowledge” is pretty laughable and I find it ironic how he blasts producers of the show for having no morals then goes and costs some poor crew member his job and a possible law suit by putting him on blast on his site. Not saying the producers are any better than him, but based on his actions here, they certainly aren’t any worse. And it’s a toss up who lies more.

    Want a bach recap with actual writing ability and cleverness, try LostAngeles. Puts this hack to shame.

  9. kasey31

    January 21, 2014 at 7:40 PM

    Another great recap, Steve. Don’t know how you do it, given the short amount of time between when the episode airs, and the column goes up, but you never disappoint.
    Agree with everything you said regarding JP. In the end, the blame truly falls on ABC for not seeing this coming a long time ago.

  10. batata25

    January 21, 2014 at 8:04 PM

    I agree that many people agree with Juan Pablo on the gay topic, but its neither here nor there.

    I have a few comments/frustrations. Thank you Steve for pointing out yet again the girls ages…… Hello!?!?!? Why aren’t the producers getting older women AND does it seem strange to anyone that they did NOT get,one,NOT ONE fully bilingual girl? WTH? Finally, out of all the seasons this is by far the MOST boring, least dramatic. I think partly its because there are,children on the show. And yes, unless he chooses Renee or someone more mature, there is no way it “will work”

  11. rob22

    January 22, 2014 at 6:38 AM

    Not sure why xxxx is getting so much crap. This is the same crowd that, every season, starts getting on RS for his arrogance and condescension. He often writes humorous blogs and seems to dig up (mostly) true spoilers and other unknown background that others do not. But, in his free wheeling style, he does make rather large gaffes and can grate on the nerves. There’s a difference between calling RS on his BS and being a troll who’s just trying to get a rise out of everyone.

  12. mariet

    January 22, 2014 at 7:42 AM

    Kristen Baldwin’s recaps on are great!

  13. dingding

    January 22, 2014 at 10:44 AM

    Hi Steve, I hope you will keep your promise by sending a wedding gift to Catharine and Sean because you said before that you don’t think they will get married. The reality proofs you wrong!

  14. goose

    January 22, 2014 at 1:45 PM

    … yeah Steve, the reality “proofs” you wrong!

    Sorry, I had to.

  15. gailer

    January 22, 2014 at 1:50 PM

    Has Christy ever spoken on the show? Why does this show do,that to some contestants?

  16. rob22

    January 22, 2014 at 2:28 PM

    Galiler, they don’t show people on the show for one reason. Because they’re not interesting. We know this because Juan Paco didn’t get any airtime during The Bachelorette, and he’s proven to have the personality and intelligence of a hair ball.

  17. gemsnob

    January 22, 2014 at 4:31 PM

    Great column Steve! I hope you are right that he ruined his chances for DWTS. I can’t stand the thought that he will profit at all from being on this show. I also hope ABC is re-thinking ever casting another lead who does not speak English as their primary language. I wonder who is writing his columns on since we all know it is not him. My last comment is about Sean “skipping” across the lawn at the Four Seasons! Why on earth are these 2 acting so juvenile yet they keep saying on every talk show, etc “We want everyone to see our “sexy, romantic grown-up” side! What a joke. I also can’t believe he wore a plaid shirt, jeans, sneakers to check out their multi-million dollar wedding venue. Who does that? If they want to act like teenagers do that in private not on camera. I hope Mike Fleiss has some regrets about all of them.

  18. lbjj

    January 22, 2014 at 4:33 PM

    You had me at “Sleestack” and “marina in Long Beach”. I live in Belmont Shores.

  19. mariet

    January 22, 2014 at 8:13 PM

    After all the recaps and blogs I’ve read about this episode, not one mention of the women wearing eye black for the soccer game? OMG. Seriously? Oh, and I Hate Green Beans is a great recap also. So funny this week— she shows how all the blondes and then the brunettes look alike. Juan’s head has to be spinning!

  20. serapa

    January 23, 2014 at 6:04 AM

    To say that a couple won’t make it if they stay in L.A. is short sited IMO. For example, my university friend moved to L.A. to be a successful journalist and married someone who was success driven like her…a well known Hollywood producer. Now my girlfriend is happily married in L.A., with 2 beautiful girls and they are multi-millionnaires. Just because someone wants fame and fortune, doesn’t mean they are shallow or unable to make a relationship work. Being a narcissist will make a relationship fail however. There are many narcissists in L.A. I’m sure!!!

  21. rob22

    January 23, 2014 at 8:08 AM

    I don’t think LA “causes” relationships fail. I think the issue is that if someone moves to LA to pursue fame, it means that their main focus for going on The Bachelor had little to do with finding a spouse. So, they really have little interest in anything besides more fame and fortune. Their “relationship” is merely a tool in that endeavor, and once it’s tapped out of it’s potentia for enhancing fame, it’s over.

  22. serapa

    January 23, 2014 at 8:33 AM

    Rob, yeah I agree and that’s where narcissism comes into play. If JP is a narcissist, it will show really soon, just like it did with Jake after his season was over. He came off as this nice guy and once the Bachelor was over, his true colors stepped out into the spotlight. My girlfriend is now a very successful journalist interviewing A-list stars and working at the Oscars, etc. I’m so proud of her and L.A. was the best thing she ever did. Then again, my friend is not a shallow person.

  23. xxxx

    January 23, 2014 at 11:03 AM

    Or they come to LA for the taping and realize it is way cooler than the god forsaken tiny town they grew up in and want to move to chase the beach and the sunshine rather than fame…maybe

  24. iheartvino

    January 23, 2014 at 12:06 PM

    lbjj- I live (somewhat) near there too, and recognized all the spots they kept showing during the water date. I love Belmont Shore- Domenico’s is the best!

    I think Rob’ point 3 comments up from this hit the nail on the head about when and why most of these Bachelor LA relationships fail.

  25. iheartvino

    January 23, 2014 at 12:07 PM


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