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Hi Steve-

Love that you are answering questions immediately after that are asked. Much easier to follow.

Couple of questions for you:

1. Do you take the time to read the comments people write after you put up a post? No. I have someone who monitors the email comments just in case trolls decide to get loose. I’m notified if it happens, and that person gets banned. Disagree with my opinion all day long, call me names, have your own opinions, that’s fine. But when personal attacks get made, lies are posted, personal information is given out, or you sign up using an email address of, oh I don’t know,, you’re basically just admitting you’re a troll and you’re on there to do nothing but cause trouble and you will be banned. There’s no point in having other people want to deal with that.

2. Have you come across people posting a spoiler elsewhere and then someone comes upon it and passes it along to you? For example, what if I posted on my Facebook page that I was friends with contestant A (or had seen them) and I knew they had been to New Zealand and I posted photos. Has anyone ever spoiled the “winner” before you’ve been able to spoil it? Like maybe a random hotel guest sees the final two after the proposal. In the past there have been people who will email and say, “Oh, well I saw somewhere where it said this…” That’s great. I don’t post anything until my sources tell me. I do remember during Emily’s season that someone told me a message board had said it was Jef pretty close to finale taping. I hadn’t heard it from my sources, so I waited until I did. When I confirmed it was Jef, I acknowledged there was someone out there who had it back closer to it happening. It rarely happens, but if it does, I have no problem acknowledging it because it doesn’t affect what I do.

There is a much longer answer to this I could give that explains spoilers in general, but it’s basically impossible to say without it coming across as self serving. So I’ll just keep it as short as possible: People know where to come to for all their “Bachelor/ette and Bachelor Pad” news and spoilers on the internet because there’s only one site that has established it’s credibility with their accuracy season after season after season.

3. Do the girls go back after their one-on-one dates and tell the others girls about it? Did the other girls know before the rose ceremony that Nikki had met JP’s family? Depends on the girls. Each girl is different. As for the Nikki situation, no, she didn’t tell the girls that she met Camila.


Hi Steve,

I am at work so I will make this short and sweet. Love the blog and the video chats! I am so glad JP picked Nikki. All the other girls dodged a big bullet.

I would not want to see any of the others hurt which would end up happening. I think JP knew picking Nikki would be easy, especially for the breakup.

From my personal observation, Nikki has a coldness to her and she can play the bachelor game better than most. I do not know her but even with the “good” edit, she is just is portrayed as cruel. One thing I can say is she is a survivor and probably would not create a drama nightmare for him when they breakup.

(The whole recital scene was bizarre. But I loved how Carla and Nikki shot daggers at one another.)

I am glad she wins I hope she enjoys her prize. This is a win win for both of them. Both JP and Nikki can fake “a connection”, score TV time, make some appearances, get a few free things and hopefully book some gigs, then say goodbye. Enjoy your 15 minutes.

Comment: Absolutely Nikki is enjoying being the “winner.” She’ll milk the magazine covers, the photo shoots, the TV interviews, and by summer these two will be done.

Hey Steve,

Huge fan, love your blog and you have made watching this ridiculous show a true pleasure.

Just wanted to let you know: the technical term for Nikki’s face is BRF (Bitchy Resting Face) not RBF (Resting Bitchy Face)

I’m sure you could care less but just trying to help you keep up with your street cred! HAH

Keep on spoiling!

Comment: I stand corrected. Yes, it’s BRF.

I’ve been reading your site for a few years now and feel compelled to write in for the first time after reading your responses to the emails this week regarding the new video ads that pop up over your posts.

I initially had the same reactions as those readers: indignation that I had to sit through a 15-second clip in order to read something (it’s the first time I’ve ever seen a site do that). But your responses provided some great perspective on that, particularly that 15 seconds is really nothing when added on to the rest of the time it takes to read the blog. Hopefully you won’t be given as hard a time about it moving forward.

So anyway, thanks for addressing it and thanks for all of the entertainment value you add to the experience of watching this ridiculous show!

Comment: No problem. Just kind of a head scratcher to me. I’m long winded. For the most part all my columns are 4, 5, 6 pages long. It’s taking you 5-10 minutes to read it. What’s another :15? Anyone else in my position would be doing the exact same thing. If they didn’t, then they wouldn’t be monetizing their site to the fullest. This is my job. This is how I get paid.

Hey Steve,

Thanks for your spoilers. This season has just been a wreck. But I can’t not watch.

1) You mentioned that you’d like to come to one of the featured countries on Bachelor, even though it’s not tropical – come to New Zealand! We have things here that aren’t phallic geysers and extreme sports – I promise. Maybe I will someday.

2) Further to this, I was wondering if Bachelor has certain countries they can/can’t film in? I just thought this as they have been to many places twice, but then haven’t been to others like Australia (at least I don’t think they have) – is this producer choice or are their countries they can’t go to? Well, if they can show up in South Korea and Vietnam this season, sh**, looks like any country is fair game now. What’s next, Afghanistan?

3) Random question, but if you could plan an OTT ‘amazing’ Bachelor date – what would you do and where? I need more time to think of this. It’s late on Wednesday night and I still have a gazillion questions to get to. Sorry.

Thanks, and not just the for the spoilers, but for what happens behind the scenes. Following your website reveals way more then what happens week-to-week, and I think last seasons spoilers were good because it weeded out all the people lying about their ‘predictions’ (KIMMEL) and people in those Bachelor betting pools cheating. You’re just vigilanting. Like Batman.

Looking forward to next seasons airheads going through the loving motions. Lets watch them crash and burn at the helm of the lawyer who reads aloooooooooooooot.

Thank you again!

Hey Steve!

No Bachelor questions for you….your recaps are the only thing keeping this season interesting.

Absolutely loved the Lost Bachelor game! Perfect elimination order. Totally want you to do that with other shows J

Also, your 24 recap was awesome. Makes me want to go re-watch the series now. So many great episodes! You think the movie will live up to the hype?

Comment: Well, there is no movie. It’s a 12 episode season that starts May 5th. I’m anxiously awaiting it because I honestly don’t know how it’s gonna go. We’ve never seen “24” in this form, so the jury is still out.

I don’t pay attention too closely to details like this, but if I notice it then it must be pretty obvious?

Is her top dual purpose bathing suit and blouse? Weird. haha.


Comment: Yeah, I have no clue either.

Hey Steve-

Been meaning to write this because a couple of people have asked about whether a girl has ever been offered a rose and not accepted. During Jesse Palmer’s season two women declined roses. Both were African American (not that that matters). I believe it was the same rose ceremony. I tried to go back and find a clip or information but since it was 10 years ago (fuck I’ve been watching this show for more than 10 years) I couldn’t find any clips.

Anyway, I remember because I was a college senior back in 2004 and I thought Jesse Palmer was the dreamiest bachelor ever and I couldn’t believe anyone would not want to accept a rose from him. LMAO.

Anyway, keep up the good work.

Comment: People remember Jesse Palmer’s season? I sure don’t.

Why are so many people complaining of a pop-up
ad that must be watched before reading your site?
I have never seen one. Why would it happen to
some readers but not to others? Keep it! You need
to pay your bills, so I’m all for it. Good for you.

Comment: Another reason why their complaint falls on deaf ears with me. Not everyone gets it. And even if you do, you don’t get it every time you sign on to the page.

Hey Steve,

thanks for all the spoilers, love them!

Question, and I am not trying to be a smart ass….I’ve read in your comments multiple times why Clare with no I or any other number two would not be cast as the next lead.
Did Ben not get announced on ATFR ? I am probably off on the timing since I had just started watching, but he was a number two….yes, I know, this is the Bachelorette. That’s what I was talking about, the “Bachelorette.” 10 “Bachelorettes” and only 1 finished 2nd and that was the first one, Trista. Diff show back then, and different schedule. With the way the show is shot now, which the “Bachelorette” filming beginning the week of the “Bachelor” finale airing, it’s impossible to cast the final 2 girl on the next season without it coming across as completely insincere.

The last few weeks have been painful. I can’t remember any conversation with any substance. Question number two: have you ever seen Chris Harrison so clearly disliking of a lead while the show is still airing???!!! No, but I’m enjoying it. Only backs up what I’ve been telling people for 4 months.

Question three: Has Juan Pablo and family just completely gone rogue on social media with no regard for his contract with his defensiveness and attempts to blame ABC on editing for not telling the real story? Maybe that’s their way of getting back at him? By allowing practically every girl at the WTA next week talk about how much they disliked him.

Hi Steve…

I was just going through the reader e-mails and so many people are complaining about the ads on your page and I have no idea what they are talking about. I have this program installed on my Safari called Ad-Block and it’s free and I never see ads on facebook, youtube, google, your site, etc. It’s great! I hope you’re still making money though?

Also, while I’m writing, I’ve been wondering how long it takes to edit the show. There has been a lot of talk lately about how ABC changes the edit based on the spoilers, but how much changing could they do? Are they editing the episodes weeks before they air, or is it all pretty much set up when the first episode airs?

Comment: Yes, I’m still making money. It’s my job. The ad does not appear for every single person who arrives on my site.

They edit the show throughout the season. There’s really not much they can do.

Just wanted to thank you!

After several seasons of watching and reading and loving your blog, I took your advice and gotten so hooked on Friday night lights. Just love it!!!!

Good luck with the blog!

Comment: I should’ve started keeping track of how many of these emails I’ve gotten over the years. I’ve been pimping FNL for at least the last 2 years and I’d say that I’ve received close to 25-30 emails of people that I turned them onto it. Good. I hope more start watching.


I always think it is so interesting when people send you emails saying “long time reader, first time emailing.” I would like to be able to say that, however, I sent you so many Dr. Reality Steve emails in high school that one might think I actually had a love life to get advice on (in reality, my chances at dating in high school were slimmer than the chance that Kat and Juan Pablo will have a surprise wedding at Women Tell All). I don’t think Kat will be marrying JP. Just a hunch.

I have participated in a Bachelor bracket type ordeal with the people I work with, and I put “Camilla’s mom” in the winning spot. Let’s see if I get any points for that one. You won’t but you should.

Every time you call Juan Pablo “JP” I think of JP from Ashley’s season. I definitely prefer him to this season’s “JP.” Oops. Already did it this email.

Is there a such thing as a “Bachelor Pad” edit? Who is getting that edit this season? Maybe Chelsie or Kat? Sharleen, is she would actually participate on that show? I don’t think there’s necessarily a “Bachelor Pad” edit. It’s more “Bachelor” and “Bachelorette” edit. If you like to drink, have no problems having sex on camera, and are friends with people in the franchise, you’re automatically a “Bachelor Pad” candidate.

I disagree with something someone put in a reader email. They mentioned that Nikki did not pronounce Camilla’s name in English. Well of course not. The English version of “Camilla” is not her name (it also doesn’t sound as good).

Why and when did the show start letting the contestants tweet while the show is airing/before they are eliminated? Also, why didn’t anyone ask about the wet sidewalk this season? They let them tweet, they just don’t let them tweet anything too revealing. It’s not like they’re gonna say, “I’ve only got one week left on the show!” They tweet mostly insignificant stuff, or pictures with the other contestants every time they see them. Never understood that one.

And thank god no one’s asked about the wet driveway this season. That’s a good thing.

To answer your rhetorical question, people want to know where you get your sources because it is intriguing. It gives people a chance to unleash their inner Nancy Drew/ Hardy Boys/ Boxcar Children. It’s not so much that they ask, because I get that people are intrigued. I guess I’m more surprised that they think they’re actually gonna get an answer. Does a magician reveal his secrets?

If you didn’t have to worry about time constraints managing your website, would you want to be on Survivor? What would be your one outfit you’d wear the entire season? Producers would cast you in a heartbeat, and Mike Fleiss would have a connipsh**. That alone would totally make it worth it.

Comment: No. Favorite reality show of all time and always will be. Zero interest in ever being on it. I’m too comfortable in my surroundings to ever try something like that. Could never deal with sleeping outside, could never deal with the bugs, and frankly, my social game would suffer because of it.

I’ve been a loyal fan for yrs. Due to a tight work schedule, I no longer have time to catch the show during its regularly aired time. I’m actually a few seasons behind, so forgive me for asking a few “out of date” questions. We all know Emily never appeared on the bacholerette to find a husband, that’s a fact, but her choice in the least likely husband ready choice surprised me. First question, was he really her first choice? Of the guys she was given? Yes. Was she ever going to marry someone from that show? No.

Second, Sean seemed her most likely “Christian match”, so any thoughts on why she let him go? It didn’t matter who she chose, it wasn’t going to work out.

And since I stay up to date only via your site, I know how much you dodge any Jef or Arie questions, and like the rest of us you think they are skirt chasers. You mentioned last week that their so called “bromance” is over. I heard via an ABC asst that it had something to do with information regarding Emily. Can you confirm or enlighten your readers what actually took place? These 2, as weird as it would seem, had a ” only for self promotion” type of relationship. As far as I know, it had nothing to do with Emily. Those two bash her privately any chance they can get, so I can’t imagine how it could do with her. I don’t know the details of what happened.

Lastly, I was in Charlotte, NC last week, and was surprised to hear that Emily is now speaking publicly (mainly in her church) about how she believes the show not only once but twice had her making decisions by manipulation of her emotions. REALLY? Not once but twice she went on this show and then suddenly had the light bulb moment that the show wasn’t real…… Sounds a little like a story she has conjured up to make her poor choice of falling for a scripted reality show twice, knowing she would never end up with anyone, easier to swallow for her new fiancé. Also to state that she laid in the fetal position for 3 weeks, is also hog wash. When did this happen? After she banked all the cash she could by making all the public appearances? She was on the front page of most tabloids for months after the finale aired. With several months in between the finish of filming till the airing of the finale, If she truly regretted her making the choice to do the show and it was in her words “her lowest and loneliest point in her life” why the post finale ” fake” public appearances? Why do these wannabe celebrities think that the common folk can’t add 2 plus 2. None of what she is publicly saying now holds up. Is self preservation so much more important then the truth? This show changes people is the best answer I can give you.

Sorry to ramble on, but you are the guy in the know, and I find that it’s getting harder to stomach the spin that the Bachelor program wants us to buy into.

Getting ready to start Sean’s season, although hard not to know the outcome with the wedding just being televised. One season I won’t waste the time on will be JP’s……… 🙂

Keep up the good work…..

Did I read correctly on your site that Bachelor Pad is coming back? Yes.

Hi Steve,

In response to your answer in this week’s Thursday Reader Emails…

“Comment: Tim Riggins would be Charlie O’Connell. Matt Saracen would be, well, any “Bachelor” you found nice, but a little on the bland side. Yes, we know Smash wouldn’t get it. Landry would be Bob Guiney. The unattractive but funny guy that all the ladies talk about they like so much, but really don’t when it comes down to it. My vote? JD McCoy. Pompous ass former football player clinging on to fame.”

What about Luke Cafferty? Cute, nice guy, “wholesome”, but can be secretly funny and confident when he feels like it

Comment: Luke is probably the only guy who could make a legitimate “Bachelor” from FNL, but, he’d never do it. His super freaky over-the-top religious parents wouldn’t allow it.

Hello Steve,

Thank you for your spoiler info. It makes the show more interesting to watch.

What are the rules of the show regarding whether the Bachelor or the Bachelorette can go back and date one of the ones he/she eliminated? That is, if the Bachelor or the Bachelorette does not stay with the finalist that he/she picked.

Thank you.

Comment: There are no rules. It could happen. The only one I remember it happening with was Prince Lorenzo. After he broke up with Jennifer, he went back and started dating Sadie. There may have been others that hooked up after the fact, but no serious relationship ever came from a lead and the person they dumped at the altar. Well, except for Jason and Molly.

Okay, you got me. What is/are Uncrustables? Is it just plain bread or does it have other yummy stuff like cheese on it? Is it in the frozen section? Yes. Frozen section. They are frozen peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.

I’m worried about myself. I cannot stand Juan Pablo, and yet I’m always wondering if it’s Monday yet. Watching this show is the stupidest thing I have ever done. Ever. Well, almost….I couldn’t not watch if I wanted to not watch. What’s wrong with me? I’m choosing to blame it all on you because of your sarcasm and wit, which I totally enjoy. Thank you. You’re welcome. Glad I could contribute to your addiction.

Do you think Sharleen was conflicted because, other than her concert date, she was just plain horny for JP and had some itchy, raw desire to get with him, but then her smarter side kept whispering “no”? If so, what do you think of the possibility of them hooking up a few months down the road late one night, just to get all that saved up frustration out of her system? Only after Nikki is a thing of the past, of course. They wouldn’t need to have intelligent conversation, just raw animal sex, then thank you SIR, and go on with her life as an opera singer. What do you think? And by the way, do you like opera? Not me. I don’t see it. Sharleen I think sees what he’s all about. Hell, I think she saw it during the show and she probably did stay on just for a little action. And no, I wouldn’t say I’m a fan of opera.

You are great. I don’t care where you get your information. Doesn’t matter. I don’t even care if you are wrong occasionally. If that should happen, it’s sort of like a great novel with an unexpected twist at the end. The network should be thanking you. I’m sure I’m not the only one that watches this stupid stupid show only because of YOU. Good job!

Comment: I agree. I only add to the viewership of the show, not detract from it.

First off I wanted to say I understand the ad thing. Unfortunately people are going to complain no matter what. The internet is about instant gratification. Magazines cost money, newspapers cost money, but still, your content is free. You are able to do this because of ads. It’s 15 seconds of your life people…. GET OVER IT.

Anyway here’s my question…. Do you think Emily Maynard has gotten a bad rap for being high maintenance and shallow? In my opinion, her three failed engagements say nothing about her besides she can’t pick men. Ricky, obviously, not her fault… And Brad & Jef clearly weren’t ready to get married, no matter who it was. I see a lot of hate on the internet about her, but I wonder if it’s just jealousy. Wondering what you think?

Comment: She’s no different than anyone else who takes the lead role in this show. There will be plenty of people that hate her, and plenty of people that love her. The ones that hate her you aren’t going to convince to like her, so whether it’s unwarranted or not, it’s doesn’t matter. Nobody in this world is universally liked.

Hi Steve,

Long-time reader here. Regretfully, I spend way more time thinking about this show than I’d ever admit to family/friends/or really out loud, to anyone, ever… But I’m going to continue to throw self-loathing to the wind and ask you a few questions:

· I may have my facts confused, but I remember you saying that the producers know which contestant will be eliminated well before the rose ceremony, which allows them to schedule the “loser’s” plane ticket home in advance. This implies that it is impossible for a contestant to save him/herself at the cocktail party by changing the lead’s mind – the plane ticket is already booked. Has there ever been a situation where someone was going to go home, but at the last moment the lead was convinced to give him/her a rose? Chris Bukowski during Emily’s season comes to mind. Also, Jason mentioned during his most recent podcast that he was supposed to leave before hometowns – even Deanna had told him that. How does that work with the plane tickets? And in general, how “decided” do you think the leads are as they whittle down the final 3-4 contestants? I didn’t say the plane ticket was booked before the rose ceremony starts. I just said the tickets are left open ended, and they fill them in when they know. Whenever that may be.

· Speaking of Jason, thank you for sharing Jason & Molly’s show with your readers. Their most recent podcast is the first one I’ve listened to, and I’m hooked. What were your thoughts on guests Chris & Des? My opinion: they surprised me. Very down to earth, and Chris is funnier than I thought. I wished the group would be more critical of the editing though – I was surprised at how quick Molly & Des were to judge contestants (Nikki, Sharleen) when they KNOW how people are manipulated both on the show and in the editing room. I thought Chris and Des were very good. You can tell still a little guarded because they have a wedding they want paid for, but still gave solid information.

· I saw your tweet – love that America has to keep Bieber (go Team Canada!) Did you watch any of the women’s Olympic hockey game? As a former athlete/sports writer, what is your opinion about the USA’s big choke? I watched one event all winter Olympics and that was the semifinal game between Canada and the US in men’s hockey. That was it. I just can’t get into the Winter Olympics. Summer Olympics? Yes. I’ve never been a winter sport guy so it doesn’t really interest me.

· Also – the ads don’t bother me at all. I open your site, go to a new tab to read a quick news article, and after 30s am ready to read your blog . This is nothing compared to Hulu Plus – which makes you pay AND has 4 minute long commercials (don’t get any ideas, Steve.) But really… Sack up people. I agree.

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  1. shasha

    February 27, 2014 at 11:01 AM

    Steve, why didn’t you post my question??? 🙁

  2. commonsense

    February 27, 2014 at 11:26 AM

    Here’s the problem with the “Argentina ex” email. People today will stereotype/typecast a group of people based on ONE EXPERIENCE. That’s ridiculous. Her ex was likely an introvert based on how intelligent he was. In ANY culture, introverts can be shy and avoid confrontation. Juan Pablo is NOT AN introvert. Regardless of what you think about Andi’s behavior, her calling out JP enforces what Steve has said all along: he only cares about being in the limelight (with a little nookie on the side). The fact he hasn’t brought up religion (in a country as diverse as the U.S.), how the woman view raising a step child (which could be edited out, but unlikely), or what his/her future plans would be (considering he doesn’t have a job) show he 1) has nothing to talk about, 2) doesn’t care what the girls say, and 3) cares only about himself.

  3. angelfish

    February 27, 2014 at 1:01 PM

    I’ve known a few Latino men, and “introverted” is not a term I could associate with them or their families. The shy and retiring types exist in all cultures, as commonsense just pointed out, but as the exception rather than the rule.

    As she also said, he is NOT an introvert.

    I think the producers initially thought JP would be a great bachelor, but when filming proved them wrong, they decided to make lemonade out of the pseudo, artificially flavored, fake and dismissive lemons he gave them.

    Besides, it’s not difficult to throw somebody under the bus if they’ve already jumped out of their seat, charged down the aisle and wrenched open the bus door….

  4. nora

    February 27, 2014 at 1:01 PM

    Hello, I heard you said Andi would be the next bachelorette. You stole that thought from me where I posted that in Yahoo news. I also posted the very night that when The Bachelor started and all the women got out of the limo that Sharleen would leave the show early on her own and it came to past. Then just as soon as Andi left the show that night I posted that she would be the next bachelorette. You couldn’t have posted that before me because that would mean you posted it before she left the show. A woman in Yahoo said I got that idea from you which is a lie seeing I never heard of you until she mentioned you name. Here is what I posted in Yahoo:
    I told you all right here the night all the woman got out of the limo Sharleen would leave the show early on her own and it came to past. I was also the first to post Andi would be the next bachelorette and people are stealing what I said, but remember I said it first.
    Here is what a woman in Yahoo that commented on my post said:
    People are stealing what you said? You are so full of BS. Anybody wants the spoilers on the bachelor go to Reality Steve. Nora is a hack and a psycho.
    So you see you have this woman thinking that was your idea when you got it from me. I don’t appreciate you using my thoughts and acting like they are yours. Try using your own mind from now on.

  5. commonsense

    February 27, 2014 at 1:12 PM

    angelfish on February 27, 2014 at 1:01 PM said:
    I’ve known a few Latino men, and “introverted” is not a term I could associate with them or their families……
    As she also said, he is NOT an introvert.

    Another person basing an entire culture off a select sample. So there are zero introverts in Latin Culture? LOL. And she never said her ex was not an introvert. Read for comphrehension.

  6. angelfish

    February 27, 2014 at 1:40 PM

    An entire culture? I didn’t specify any culture. I live in Florida and have dated men from Cuba, Mexico and Brazil. None were introverted. And I never met any of their introverted family members. I also THEN said that the shy & retiring exist in all cultures. So of course there are introverted Latinos. I have simply never met any. Do they exist? Of course.

    And I was supporting YOUR opinion that JP is not an introvert. That was what I read in your post, and I agreed.

    I don’t believe I have a problem with reading comprehension.

  7. karynr

    February 27, 2014 at 1:45 PM

    Commonsense, Amen with your comments. The guy has no interest in any of them, except for the physical side of things.

    Being Jewish myself, I was thinking about that part of Andi’s life. It’s been a generation or two since a lot of Jewish singles only wanted to date their own faith. Andi’s parents, or at least Hy, might want her to end up with a nice Jewish boy, but Andi probably could care less. That’s one reason I wanted to stand up and cheer for Hy. He reminds me of a few men I’ve known in my life. Very smart and honest.

  8. bigfatwoman

    February 27, 2014 at 2:08 PM

    The first letter painting all people from one culture as this way or that way is just ridiculous. I understand there are customs that are particularly unique to a culture, but I think Juan Pablo is his own unique hot mess.

    Who is @nora and what is her problem? Strange comment above. Is it sarcastic? What am I missing?

  9. commonsense

    February 27, 2014 at 2:21 PM

    angelfish said: “And I was supporting YOUR opinion that JP is not an introvert. That was what I read in your post, and I agreed.”

    Ok, we are on same page.

    karynr said, “Commonsense, Amen with your comments. The guy has no interest in any of them, except for the physical side of things….Being Jewish myself, I was thinking about that part of Andi’s life.”

    And surely this came up during hometowns. Are we supposed to believe Hy and/or Andi never mentioned it ONCE? 99% doubtful. He just doesn’t care. I think we almost all agree its a given he has some pact with his baby momma that this is all a farce for him to get a model/acting career.

  10. jazzmine

    February 27, 2014 at 2:42 PM

    I will say the writer with the x-Argentinian boyfriend certainly gleaned a lot from only 4 months in a relationship. That is not a lot of time to assess how his culture handles relationships. I wonder if she visited Argentina and spent any amount of time there. I had an Ecuadorean boyfriend for 3 years and visited multiple times. I agree with some of what she said. The notion that they prefer “harmony” over expressing thoughts I don’t see eye to eye with. Many S.A. countries are very conservative (women don’t go to clubs alone or with other women/women only wear dresses and skirts), they are typically controlled by the men and don’t speak up. I wouldn’t say it’s because of “harmony.”
    I do agree with her about Andi standing up to JP. My boyfriend loved nothing more than a good debate and liked self confident smart women. When he would get controlling, I let him have it and he respected it. He actually did not want to live in Ecuador (and he doesn’t) because of how close-knit the families are and know everything about each other and all live together or live closely.

  11. mariafan

    February 27, 2014 at 3:54 PM

    I agree with jazzmine about the girl with an argentinian boyfriend that Steve posted. What can you learn about another culture from 1 guy in 4 months??!! Talk about stereotypes. I have lived on and off in the U.S. for approximately 15 years and I still don´t understand the american culture sometimes. This girl is talking about a guy that seemed introvert and did not like to share conversations with her. It had nothing to do with culture.

  12. seattleyaya

    February 27, 2014 at 7:04 PM

    Clare reminds me of Shelly Long -especially the way she holds her mouth.

  13. rob22

    February 27, 2014 at 8:01 PM

    Nora, of course many of us get our best info from Yahoo News posts. Where did I find out that info? The internet.

  14. kasey31

    February 28, 2014 at 12:37 AM

    Nora is a troll with nothing better to do with her time. Bye, Nora!

  15. Dianne

    February 28, 2014 at 6:51 AM

    nora, honey, Steve doesn’t NEED to get his info from you..he already had it all a long time ago. Now, go on..go play your silly games somewhere else.

  16. vessel

    February 28, 2014 at 8:08 AM

    Nora, could you PLEASE put your thoughts in an email to Steve so he can address it next week in his “Reader Emails” column? I would dearly LOVE to read his response to your accusations of him stealing his info from you!

  17. serapa

    February 28, 2014 at 8:14 AM

    Nora = troll

    delete acct.

  18. iheartvino

    February 28, 2014 at 8:51 AM

    I second that suggestion, vessel. Great idea.

  19. karynr

    February 28, 2014 at 1:59 PM

    Don’t forget Jen Frase and I Hate Green Beans.

  20. karynr

    February 28, 2014 at 2:02 PM

    I agree with iheart and vessel. Nora, you really need to ask Steve about that for his Reader emails column next week.

  21. guyliner

    March 1, 2014 at 2:02 PM

    Oh I really hope Steve reads the comments!! How else is he going to know about all the information he is stealing from yahoo news. This is too priceless. I can’t wait for next Thursday. Is it sad that Juan Pablo’s season is so boring, that the thing I’m looking forward to most is Reality Steve’s responce to Nora?

  22. Athena

    March 1, 2014 at 2:43 PM

    While it is true that you can’t stereotype an entire culture from a few month relationship with one representative of it, it is also true that there are cultural traits that are generally true for various cultures. I’m not any kind of expert on South American, or specifically Venezuela cultural values, but I’m certain there are some differences between mainstream American values, and I suspect the value of individualism vs community and future vs present time orientation are among them.

  23. vessel

    March 1, 2014 at 4:30 PM

    I emailed Steve about this Nora person and he said his moderator had already passed the comment on to him. He didn’t ban her since she wasn’t being malicious and he said “these are the fun ones” lol. Hope he chats about it next week.

  24. mariet

    March 1, 2014 at 5:19 PM

    To the emailer whose six questions RS refused to answer or even acknowledge — you are my hero! Loved it !!!

  25. mariet

    March 1, 2014 at 5:29 PM

    To the emailer who commented on grammatical errors in Juan Pablo’s blog– are you serious? Steve’s has tons every week! So painful to read. I just come here for the spoilers.

  26. rob22

    March 1, 2014 at 6:49 PM

    I’m not in favor of “banning” anyone unless they are just causing chaos with incendiary comments. If someone whines about some “meanie” and some idiot moderator decide to ban a person, it’s just stupid, and it solves nothing, since a new account can be created in about two minutes. The worst of the worst are never deterred by being banned anyway. Some sites have moved to an “anything goes” format. You can say literally anything…. and people definitely take full advantage of that. It’s definitely not for the feint of heart. The regulars can be brutal on newbies who don’t know what they’re talking about.

  27. carol

    March 2, 2014 at 7:00 AM

    “his moderator”

    Moderator, LOL. (Is that what he calls his package?) Anyone who thinks Steve has a moderator for comments probably thinks the show is real, too. He has far too much ego and paranoia to *not* read the comments. Trust me. He reads them.

  28. bigfatwoman

    March 2, 2014 at 8:20 AM

    @carol — I have always found it amusing that Steve claims to never read the comments on his site.

    In fact, there are times it is clear in his posts that he is using verbiage straight from our posts.

    It’s an odd claim as well as a little insight into a too proud ego. What writer wouldn’t read the comments? It’s too implausible to be believable.

    Hi Steve!!!

  29. vessel

    March 2, 2014 at 10:06 AM

    Jeeze, I just relayed Steve’s response to my email. Yeah he said “his moderator” relayed the comment to him. No, I do not think there is any reality in this ridiculous show, and I don’t give a crap if he has a moderator or not, nor do I care to speculate if he does or does not read his reader comments section, who gives a sh*t if he’s lying or not?. No need to be insulting because I repeated his email response, wow.

  30. rob22

    March 2, 2014 at 10:35 AM

    Whenever you hear anyone say they don’t read the comments, don’t pay attention to the press, etc. take it with a grain of salt. They only say that to appear disinterested in what’s being said about them and to avoid commenting on things said about them. But, they all read every word. A few bloggers throw caution to the wind and comment on their own blogs. Although doing so can be quite douchey, at least it’s honest doucheyness.

  31. adoptacat28

    March 2, 2014 at 1:35 PM

    I knew from the third episode this guy is a narcissistic jerk. ABC needs to do better homework on the bachelor’s they pick to be on the show. What a waste for these women whom gave up so much to find love.

  32. kasey31

    March 2, 2014 at 9:51 PM

    Vessel, don’t take it personally. You’re absolutely right about what you said, and you did nothing wrong.

  33. newmoonmg

    March 3, 2014 at 10:30 AM

    Completely agree w/Argentine ex email. This is the problem of the producers, for not fully vetting him, and fully understanding that his persona is going to be ruled by his culture. JP isn’t a Latino/American, he is Latino, period. His ambivalence and the way he shrugs off needy women is just part of who he is. I don’t necessarily find him fascinating, but I do think he is just being true to who HE is.

    Again, this is something the producers should have taken into account before casting him.

    AT the very least, they should have opened up casting of the women to be a bit more diverse than the one token dark skinned contestant. Had the panel of women been more diverse, i.e. Asian women, Latino women, Indian women, women are probably more exposed to JP’s cultural behavior through relatives etc., they would have been a more suitable fit.

  34. rob22

    March 3, 2014 at 4:48 PM

    If the producers picked Latinas to be on the show, wouldn’t it have been smarter to air it on Telemundo instead of ABC? You see, the producers were thinking they could get by with JP-Blow as a Latin lover. But they knew they couldn’t add more foreigners to the mix and still put it on American TV. Nobody would watch that.

  35. amyrn22

    March 3, 2014 at 7:55 PM

    Has anyone ever emailed Steve and not had their email posted? Before this week, I’ve always had my questions answered by Steve, but this week I emailed him a few questions about Friday Night Lights and my email isn’t on here….I’m not sure if he didn’t get it or if sometimes he just can’t answer them all– like if he gets too many or something. Maybe it was just a fluke that all my other questions have gotten answered on here. Not a big deal, but I actually had some good questions in there this week!

  36. amyrn22

    March 3, 2014 at 8:03 PM

    Nora, you are a complete idiot… Gosh, i hope Steve addresses that one this week!!! hahaha. Yeah, Nora, I’m sure Steve read your troll comments on Yahoo news and “stole” your thoughts to create spoilers. Do you have ANY idea how this website works at all? Let me guess… you also think Sean and Catherine are the best couple in the history of the world and you are “completely obsessed with them” and if anyone feels differently, they are “horrible, atrocious excuses for human beings that should be shot.” (Even though you have never met them) I actually saw someone post that on her instagram. No joke. Please, oh please, Steve, address this crazy person’s comments!!

  37. mush

    March 3, 2014 at 10:36 PM

    it is beyond me how a dad could even consider proposing to anyone (even in the ficticious world of tv) before the girlfriend even met, let alone,developed a relationship with his kid. why has this not been brought up? and, why would anyone woman consider marrying a man with a kid when she has never seen him with the kid? the kid could be a spoiled brat because the father doesn’t know what hes doing. a deal breaker for any new step coming in to the picture. uggg.

  38. abb2

    March 3, 2014 at 11:25 PM

    Andi was one of my favorites but not anymore. I think she was not happy he was going to dump her so she paid him back. Why does she put out the “dirty laundry”? Because she lacks class and I hope will not be the next bachelorette. I like Sharleen, and Kat!!

  39. texan

    March 4, 2014 at 8:42 AM

    Some of you need to learn the actual meaning of the word “introvert” before using it synonymously with “shy.” That just perpetuates a falsehood. For instance, I am a completely non-shy introvert, and one of my coworkers is a shy extrovert. Introvert/extrovert and shy/non-shy have nothing to do with each other. Educate yourselves, folks.

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