I just wanted to comment that I stopped watching the Bachelor after I discovered your site during Mesnick’s season. And I could care less what the outcomes are or even if your spoilers end up 100% accurate. I thoroughly enjoy your site for the entertainment value alone so Thank You!
But I did want to ask if you enjoy answering all the emails? I feel like over the years your responses have become less patient with your audience and like I can almost here you rolling your eyes as you give your responses. Hell, you could be rolling your eyes at me right now…
I know you’ve said you enjoy working your site full time but does it ever get to feel like a chore? Anyway, your hard work is very much appreciated, like I said I have zero desire to ever tune into the Bachelor, I enjoy it so much more through your perspective.
I do hope that you feel appreciated and continue to enjoy what you do!
Comment: A chore? No. A job? Yes. I mean, wouldn’t you roll your eyes when you get asked the same questions every week? Problem is, there’s really nothing I can do to fix it. Every single day there are probably hundreds, if not thousands of people coming to my site for the first time. So if they have a question, they’re gonna ask it. It is what it is. It gets repetitive, but, it’s nothing I can’t handle.
Regarding those couple of hateful “fan emails” you got earlier last week…
AAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Those were awesome! I’m guessing the guy who lectured you on “what people do in pubis” must also suffer from “hey-English-eeess-my-second-language” disorder as well.
What a great example of the dunderheads who even bother to defend this schmuck. Tell us the truth…did you check the guy’s IP address? Did the email originate from Miami? The writing sounds suspiciously like a Galavis family member! All that was missing was the “eeeessss okay”.
Comment: Emails like those are more fun because the email speaks for itself. These people essentially show their intelligence level when spewing garbage like that, so it’s fun to sit back and laugh.
1) I was just wondering if Sean and Catherine have actual jobs or if they’re just living off of money from their wedding and appearances? I follow them both on Twitter and I always see them posting stuff about having TV marathons, running errands, going to the gym, etc. in the middle of the workday. Plus Sean just was in that video and he mentioned a few failed business ventures and how he hated selling insurance so that made me curious as to what he’s actually doing now? I figured you might know being in the same area as them. Do they have 9-5 desk jobs? No. They are definitely living off money they’ve made through the franchise and what not. I would expect, and hope, they realize that’ll eventually run out and they need to get jobs.
2) I know you’re into Vegas so I was wondering what type of bets you would place on Emily Maynard’s most recent engagement? I haven’t dove into it much at all. I have no idea who this guy is or what it’s all about so I couldn’t even begin to guess.
By the way, my mom recently told me that she has a coworker who watches the Bachelor but refuses to read your site because she “hates spoilers.” My guess is that means she thinks the show is real and I am judging her for that.
Comment: Yes, that’s pretty much exactly what it means. I’ve come to realize that people who claim that they don’t want to know what happens at the end of this show are pretty much stuck in fantasy land, because they want to believe what they’re seeing is real.
I have a some of questions for you. Please forgive me if you have already answered them.
When the women have their home town dates, how long are they home? Just a day? longer? Are they whisked away to the next rose ceremony location? I understand that they do not see each other until theceremony, so does that place them in different hotels? They come home the night before, stay in a hotel, do their date, go back to their hotel, then are on a plane back to LA the next morning to head to their “waiting” hotel until it’s rose ceremony time.
Who pays for and cooks them meals that are with the hometown families. They are starting to look alike, perhaps ABC catering? I’ve heard some families have cooked, and some have it catered.
How the lead and contestant, who wish to sneak away for sex, do so without the cameras catching it? (Bob Gerney for example). Or do the cameras catch it and it is just not part of the show? They don’t sneak away for sex. I take it you liked Bob a lot, huh? Yeah, I was always kinda partial to Andrew Firehose. What’d you think of Jesse Pullman? Did you like Prince Lorenzo Borgata? I’d say since the show has really taken off the last few seasons, my favorite one has been Brad Woodpecker.
Okay so I know it is apparent, and you say it all the time that this show is not about actually finding real love for the most part. The leads and contestants come on for travel, friends, fame and a chance at being the following seasons lead. Everyone has different motives, and finding a husband/wife isn’t what seems to be the main one. So what is your genuine opinion when it comes to the special couples like Ashley and Jp Rosenbaum, Sean and Catherine, Trista and Ryan? These seem like very solid couples filled with love and real life connection. Do you think these are just flukes that somehow really did find their soul mates among the sea of crazy reality tv show life, or what? Do you agree that these couples seem actually in real life love? It’s confusing because so many faux relationships come out of this show, then there are a few that seem icnredibly solid!
Comment: They found someone on the show they wanted to continue to date and it worked.
I have two quick questions:
1) I do not see where you answered the question regarding the circumstances around Juan Pablo being cast on Des’ season. If he had never watched the show before, who sent in his name or was he recruited? I think he told this story in an old interview I saw, but someone sent his name in. Can’t remember who.
2) I have tried searching your website for the final word on the Jason/Melissa/Molly ATFR debacle. I’m not getting good hits for the information. I know you have acknowledged that Molly did not in fact have prior knowledge of what was going down that night. My impression was and still is that Melissa didn’t know what was going to happen even though she knew the relationship was ostensibly over. So, can you provide information as to whether Melissa knew and consented to acting out the breakup or was she the producers’ and Jason’s proverbial lamb for slaughter? Melissa and Jason were already broken up. They both knew it was over, and they were essentially coming on TV to make it “official.” Melissa didn’t know for sure about Jason’s feelings towards Molly, but she suspected it.
I know you have answered this question before, but at the time I didn’t watch the show and skipped over. I wouldn’t know where to find the answer now. I have recently watched Friday Night Lights on Netflix(twice), and absolutely LOVED it!! What was your favorite season and why?
Thanks and love your site! Long time loyal reader.
Comment: Tough call. Season 2 was my least favorite but that was because it got interrupted by the writers strike at the time and became a little disjointed because they had to wrap up storylines quicker than they wanted to. And oh yeah, the whole Landry-is-a-murderer thing didn’t work.
Other than that, I’d have to say season 1 because it was one of the best first seasons of a TV series I’ve ever seen.
When I was in college a few years ago uncrustables were one of my go to foods (along with top ramen and snickers bars) and I ate them all the time. Since then now that I’m married and have a “real” job (uhhh does making video games from home in your pajamas count as a real job? haha) I’ve been doing the adult thing and cooking. Then I kept seeing you mention uncrustables and just had to have one since it’s been so long, so I bought myself a small box at the grocery store which then led to buying a large costco box before that small box was even finished, and I’ve been eating them everyday. Thanks a lot Reality Steve!!
Comment: You’re welcome. Anything to help those in need. I ate another whole box of 10 last weekend. Bad boy. They are delicious.
Thanks for another seasons of spoilers, I enjoyed them, as always.
My personal take on some things: the most hated bachelor was Bob Guiney, he said he wanted to be on the show to promote his music, and also bragged he slept with 5 1/2 women. As soon as he left the show (without proposing to anyone) he got back together with and married/divorced the actress he was dating and put on “hold” to go on the show.
I think the reason they are now going with normal guys and not princes and heirs and actors is because who will ever really believe a prince or actor is looking for a wife, on a reality show no less? There has to be at least some level of credibility, and a normal guy who works long hours to make a living may not have the time or resources to take lots of girls on dates to find the best match, where as a wealthy or famous man who is chased by women for their fame/money don’t have to do all that footwork to find quality women.
I feel kind of bad for Juan Pablo, because I did see cultural differences, and I actually do believe he cared, but only as much as you can on this show when you have to divide your time and thoughts between so many strange women you just met, and the most important women in your life are elsewhere. If he wasn’t attracted to some of the women, why should he pretend to care what religion they are or what their hobbies are? And I think “It’s ok” translates into “That’s life, I’ll deal with it”, not “I don’t care”. Does Andy think JP is going to fall in love with her political views? They all first choose based on attraction and chemistry, and the details matter in the long term, but having the same religion or wanting the same number of kids isn’t going to make him more attracted to her than to Clare (and I get that he is supposed to pretend to care, but maybe he didn’t get too deep because he knew he was dumping them).
The girls were too hard on him on the GTA…Lucy walks down the street topless to get catcalled by cars driving by, but points a finger at JP just wanting attention? They all wanted it. It seems those he showed interest in were more forgiving (especially Sharleen) and those he clearly was less attracted to (and thus didn’t last on the show) were angry, but none were really a match for him at all, in any way, past Clare (I actually see them together). Since he wasn’t proposing, I’m glad he picked Nikki.
I’ve been reading for years and will for many more, I hope 🙂 Thanks!
Comment: A lot of stuff in here I disagree with that I’ve shared over the course of the last 4 months.
I don’t feel bad for him because he was the one who agreed to do the show. It’s not like a day before filming they said, “Hey, you’re our next Bachelor. Go!” If he didn’t understand what it entailed, or thought English was gonna be a huge barrier, then don’t sign up to do it. I think that’s what Catherine meant on Monday when she said not to bite the hand that feeds him. You can’t take the gig, and all the notoriety that comes with it, then turn around and bad mouth the process. I mean, you can do whatever you want which is exactly what he did, but doesn’t mean you don’t end up looking like a horse’s ass when it’s all said and done.
The girls didn’t like him because they pretty much saw right through him. As I’ve said before, go ask the 26 other women outside of Nikki on Twitter if they thought they got stuck with a great Bachelor this season who really seemed interested in the process and was definitely on there to find a wife. I’m guessing you’ll get 26 answers that are pretty similar.
Thanks for your spoilers and commentary. Your site is terrific!
1. Have you ever thought about doing podcasts? Or making podcasts out of your live video chats? I love listening to Jason and Molly on my commute, and would love to be able to listen to you as well. We’ve talked about it, but haven’t gone that route yet.
2. I know that ABC will never have a gay or lesbian Bachelor or Bachelorette, but I am curious what you think of the idea. I think it would be a fantastic idea in theory, but the logistics would be impossible. The men or women living in the mansion would probably have a much higher chance of getting to know each other and forming relationships, and would lost interest in the Bachelor/Bachelorette. You answered your own question. Plus, I just don’t think it could happen because gays are more pervert, you know?
3. Who was your favorite of all the contestants this season? If you were a producer, who would you have picked to be the Bachelorette? I know it is Andi, and I’m sure she’ll be fine, but I really loved Sharleen and wished ABC had offered the gig to her. In my opinion, she was the most interesting, honest, intelligent, beautiful and well-dressed contestant the show has had in a while. I liked Sharleen, Kelly, Kat, and Clare probably the best.
I just read your latest batch of emails. Just curious, you said he had to pick someone; hoe come they wouldn’t let him do a ‘Brad’??? Not unique enough? It seems to me you posted during the Des season that JP was a goofoff even back then. Which is why I was surprised they even picked him. Thanks fir all the great posts. Dealing with a major toothache, and your posts made me smile and take my mind off it since the dentist is closed.
Comment: This show is never gonna let the lead at the end dump both people. Just not gonna happen. I mean, Juan Pablo basically didn’t care to pick anyone and if they wouldn’t let him, they certainly wouldn’t let anyone else.
Hey Steve! Since you didn’t get to my question about where you think this season of Nashville is going until the end of the video blog, I was wondering if you could answer in the next batch of reader emails.
Comment: Breakups, drama, and hookups. That’s basically what it’s become. I still enjoy the hell out of it though. As far as breaking down where I think each character is headed, I’m not sure I care enough about this show to do that. I watch every week, but the second it’s over, I rarely ever think about it again til the following week.
I notice something really annoying about Juan Pablo. Obviously, his English is not good. When he speaks, he keeps repeating certain phrases over and over again, “at the end of the day”, “it’s okay”, “will you accept me and my daughter in your family”, “You’re so cute”, “I have a daughter”, “it’s gonna be tough”, “it’s being honest”, “I’d rather be honest”, “I’d rather be honest and not appreciated”, “It’s gonna hurt”, “They are my special ones”…
What I find annoying is his repetition of certain phrases seems to be covering up what he’s really thinking and feeling. He’s not saying any of these things because he actually cares about the women or what’s going on. It’s like some kind of weird defense where he doesn’t have to say what he’s thinking. It’s like he’s running on automatic. Reminds me of how certain people in certain job categories (e.g. politicians) keep repeating meaningless phrases over and over. Did you just come to realize this?
Also, when he doesn’t know what to say, he kisses the woman he is with. Also very annoying.
What an obnoxious A-hole. I think that the women should have noticed this, or maybe they all did? What do you think? Did they notice it and find it just as annoying as I do? If they noticed it, there is no way that any of them should have wanted to end up with this guy (even just pretending and knowing they would never marry him). They absolutely noticed. Did you see the WTA?
Do they (i.e. Nikki) absolutely have to go through with the secret meet-ups after the final rose, even if they dislike the guy? Why not refuse to go, since the public won’t know?
Comment: Who said Nikki disliked him? She doesn’t. She’s head-over-heels. You think Nikki’s disappointed she’s on the cover of “People” magazine this week? I’d say no. As for Juan Pablo, hey, he’s just playing this out for as long as he feels like, and she’ll be yesterday’s news when he feels like it. Unless she finally grows a pair and sees what everyone else is seeing and does it first. Nikki is that girl right now who has a new boyfriend who all her friends don’t like, they try to tell warn her, but she doesn’t want to listen because she’s still in the honeymoon phase.
I am probably one of many who are sending you emails telling you this. You work extremely hard to deliver something we all enjoy reading and fortunately there is always people who live to shit on it. I know you have a webmaster helping but I want you to know that the outlandish and ridiculous posts that have been allowed to show up on your site are disheartening and laughable. If this was suppose to be a joke on all of us, then, ok, I fell for it it…but if not, WTF!!!! We all want to enjoy the mindless entertainment reality TV provides AND YOUR WORDS as well. These people posting are total assholes and the thing that amazes me is that the length and detail of what they write makes me think they will not going away quietly. We don’t need to be discussing bible verses and their meanings do we? We don’t need to be attacking each other with he said she said blah blah blah. It is more stupid than the Bachelor, if that’s possible. I want to read Reality Steve and read what his readers have to say about what Reality Steve writes about. I don’t want Reality Random. They can go somewhere else. Thank you for all your work.
Comment: I’ve been alerted and they’ve been banned. If they keep trying, I’ll keep banning. Surely someone will eventually just get bored with creating new accounts and just give up, right?