Reality Steve

Bachelorette Andi Spoilers

Andi in Connecticut, Two More Guys Revealed, “Bachelor/ette” News, & “Reader Emails”

I’m wondering if you are busier when the season is filming or if you are busier when it is airing? I sort of see you as a detective during the filming, which seems like a lot of work and would keep you busy. Do you then get to sit back and just watch it unfold during airing? Or are you equally busy when it airs?

Love reading the site! Thanks!

Comment: Writing-wise, I’m busier during the season. But right now while the show is filming, I’m constantly getting emails, texts, phone calls of what’s happening and they could seriously come at any time during the day. Got a text at 2:24 yesterday morning for example that had some information. Granted, I didn’t see it til I woke up, but still. When the show is filming, I consider myself on call because at any point I could get information regarding the show, whether it be big or small. Once it airs, with watching the show every Monday night, live tweeting, taking notes, writing the column Monday night/Tuesday morning, then taking emails all week to get ready for “Reader Emails” along with keeping up to date on any stories and links regarding the show plus my Thursday night live video chat, yes, I’ve been much busier during the season.

The offseason is more tedious work – putting all the pieces of the puzzle together, putting together the guy’s bios, checking on any and all information I get, etc. Certainly isn’t hard work, just constant and tedious.


I know you’re sick to death of JP and all things related, but I wonder why Claire’s video from her dad never got shown, considering she went as far as possible on this show without winning. Why not show it to him when she was supposedly in love with him, if she mentioned it the first time she ever met him? It’s just weird to me that they devoted precious screen time to it and then never showed it.

Do you think it’s possible the producers had a tiny moral moment and realized what an effed up thing it would be to have her waste that sacred video on this donkey on national TV? I’m glad she didn’t because I think she’s a decent human being and would have regretted it for the rest of her life, not to mention her future love would never find it as special.

Comment: I don’t think the producers had anything to do with it not being shown. My guess is it was more Clare. I’m sure producers wanted it to be shown, and the fact that it wasn’t makes me think that was her doing.

Hey Steve,

Thanks for another perfect season. You’re the best.

Since I never want to have to think about Juan Pablo or his season again, I’m gonna ask some general questions. Please feel free to mock me if these have been answered a thousand times before.

You’ve said several times that once they get down towards the end, the girls go out with their handlers shopping, going to the gym, etc. My question is, do the contestants bring money when they come on the show? Or does ABC pay for everything and then the contestants pay them back when they get home? No. The show pays for everything and the contestants don’t have to pay them back. Like for the plane flights and the hotel rooms and stuff? You think every contestant has to reimburse the show? No. All food, travel, and lodging is taken care of.

You’ve also talked about how the girls bring a bunch of dresses for the rose ceremonies and borrow dresses from the other girls. But what about the gowns for the final rose ceremony? Those tend to be much more formal and nothing you would wear for a regular rose ceremony. Does every girl bring a formal gown just in case or is this something they would buy on one of those aforementioned shopping trips? Final rose ceremony you have a stylist. Everything up to that point you’re on your own.

I know you did things like these for FNL and Lost, so here’s some questions for a fellow Nashville fan who doesn’t seriously analyze the show but enjoys the drama and soapiness:

Rank the following characters on where you would pick them if they were the women with you as the Bachelor (ignoring any relationships or marriages they may actually be in): Rayna, Juliette, Scarlett, Zoey, Tandy, Megan, Layla. If I was the Bachelor, and those were my final 7? Hmmmmm…in reverse order.

7) Layla. Blah.
6) Tandy. Can’t be trusted.
5) Megan. I liked her until she went and banged Teddy in the back of a car like she was in high school. I liked her better as Sonny Macier in “24.”
4) Zoey. Sneaky hot.
3) Juliette. Was never a huge Hayden fan until this show. I like her better now.
2) Scarlett. Like her much better with her real Australian accent, not the overly twangy one she has to use for this show.
1) Rayna. Connie Britton. C’mon. No brainer.

Rank these men on how they would do as the bachelor: Deacon, Avery, Teddy, Luke, Gunnar, Liam. Deacon, Luke and Teddy would never be the “Bachelor” cuz they’re too old. Liam is too much of a music snob and doesn’t have the look of being the Bachelor. Avery and Gunnar are your only choices and my guess is Gunnar would make the best “Bachelor.”

Thanks for answering these somewhat ridiculous questions!

I’m a health freak like that guy who burst your health bubble about Uncrustables. I look at you on your web cast and you look like you don’t eat and sleep well b/c your skin looks “off” and you look tired. Naughty naughty!!! At least you work out. Make sure you limit your daily sugar intake to NO MORE than 30 grams!!!! 3 Uncrustable sandwiches is your daily sugar limit…BE A GOOD BOY and your heart valves will thank you.

Love you Steve! I really do! haha

Comment: I don’t eat and sleep well? Ummmm thanks. Oh and my skin looks off. Ok, if you say so.

Hey Steve,

I searched to see if someone already asked this. I apologize if I skimmed over it and didn’t see.

What do you think Juan Pablo would’ve done had Des picked him and proposed? Do you think he would’ve changed his tune and said he loved her and accepted the proposal? Or do you think he would’ve said, “I like you a lot and I want to keep this private now. Once our 4 month hiding is over, then we can have our REAL relationship and our real romance will begin.”

Haha I mean, I think it would’ve been a bit different when Des was in the driver’s seat.

I just totally wish he would’ve been asked that question recently. I mean, what did he expect when he went on the Bachelorette? He knew what it was about regardless of if he watched the show before or not! Lol! I assume if asked recently, after the last ATFR show, he would’ve said, “I’m not sure what I would’ve done. I would’ve been very honest. I would’ve done what I was honestly feeling at that time, and if she didn’t like it then I would respect her and if she wanted to leave I would let her go.” Blah blah blah.

Honestly he’s just a typical narcissist.

Comment: Kinda hard to imagine that hypothetical since Juan Pablo was never getting picked by Des for any reason whatsoever.

Hey Steve! Prepare for some extremely retro questions – I can already feel you rolling your eyes as you skim through my questions but bare with me. I suddenly had the desire to rewatch all the seasons of bachelor pad (which is extremely ironic considering I had no idea about Bachelor in Paradise until 10 minutes ago) and some questions stirred up in my mind.

1. Did Krisily and Dave date after Bachelor Pad finale? and do you think Krisily was ever jealous of Natalie? It seems like Krisily was always throwing shade at Natalie throughout the season when her and Dave started to partner up. Also Krisily is a co-host for the Bachelor Pad aftershow on and there are a few episodes where she once again throws shade at Natalie, saying all she ever did on the show was drink and take her top off yada yada. I’m just curious. No, Krisily seems to prefer women over men in her bisexuality.

2. How do you feel about the Holly and Michael situation and is there any truth to Erica calling Michael a horrible man when she was eliminated. Are there any ties between the two? I don’t care for Holly in the least bit and thought it was pretty sh***y what she and Blake agreed to do for the sake of television. Not sure on the Erica stuff because, well, I don’t care for either and we all know why.

3. Did you like Jillian/Jillian’s season?? I think that was actually my favourite season of the franchise, so i’m just wondering if you agree or not. She was a little bit of a drunk mess on the show, but personality wise I think she carried the season well as opposed to Desiree and Emily. I honestly don’t remember many of the dates on Jillian’s season vividly at all. And the fact that she chose a guy who was emailing his slam back home about how much he didn’t want to be there, then came back on the show and she ended up picking him, then lived with him for a year before realizing he was a player was all just a waste of time.

Hey Steve,

Did you listen to the latest podcast with Jason and Chris? I thought it was interesting that Chris said if they had their way they would get married this Fall. This leads me to believe that they are waiting for a date from production to have it televised. What do you think? I mean why else wouldn’t they have their way?

Comment: It absolutely is going to be televised. They’re under contract.

Hey Steve!

I was so psyched to hear you are a Dawson’s Creek fan! I was a teen who grew up on Cape Cod, but my life wasn’t nearly as interesting as Dawson Leary and Co. I’ve loved being able to relive my teen years on Netflix! I have to ask: This show was soooo long ago, it’s hard to remember exact moments, but I’ll try.

1. favorite episode The finale.
2. favorite character Pacey.
3. least favorite character/ episode I don’t think there were any I didn’t like.
4. favorite season The first.
5. favorite storyline The Dawson/Pacey/Joey love triangle.
6. least favorite storyline Probably when Andy started going off her meds. Was a bit much.

Hi Steve,

I love your site. It’s the only reason to tune into the Bachelor. I’m wondering if you’ve seen I the MTV show “Are You the One?” It is ten girls and ten guys and they need to figure out who they are most compatible with in the group based on compatibility testing. I think it would be interesting if the Bachelor did this such that the audience knew who is most compatible with the Bachelor as the action was happening (but not reveal to the contestants until WTA or ATFR). What are your thoughts? It’s obvious that compatibility has nothing to do with casting, so I guess from the show’s perspective this is risky.

Keep up the great work!

Comment: Have not seen that show and doubt I ever will. Already with too many shows on my plate.

I was listening to Jason and Molly’s most recent podcast where Chris Siegfried filled in for Molly. He mentioned that while the show was airing, even the people who he told he won questioned him and said “Wait, isn’t she with Brooks?” I wonder where they got that from:) Just goes to show the extent of your following and it’s cool that they swore by you. I’m sure Chris knew very well they got that idea from you so why didn’t he say so?

Comment: He’s about to have a wedding televised by them. Maybe he’s just scared to mention me. Not really sure.

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  1. erin4

    March 27, 2014 at 10:37 AM

    damn is Ron some serious eye candy or what? I do hope he sticks around for a while. he is def a close second to Josh as being the best looking this season.

  2. angelfish

    March 27, 2014 at 1:33 PM

    Ron is definitely gorgeous….Just look at his dad!

    Cody looks like a ‘roided up Sean Lowe in those 3 profile photos. And those hipster glasses do NOT make him look intelligent. At all.

    The new version of Bachelor Pad is gonna be a hot, stinking pile of trashtastical goodness. I can’t wait!

  3. rob22

    March 27, 2014 at 3:11 PM

    Cody is more meathead Mikey. Another Jersey goombah. The Bachelor is now an old show and one of these days a girl is going to pick a black guy like Ron. However, Andi is from Atlanta. And while its not old South, it still is the South. Andi’s Dad isn’t having any of that brown sugar coming home with Andi… And she know it.

  4. amyrn22

    March 27, 2014 at 3:30 PM

    Angelfish, you are hilarious. Totally agree with you on all points!

    What is everyone’s thoughts on JP and Nikki’s relationship now? I’m reading that she’s pregnant (I don’t believe it). What was the deal with them talking to those marriage boot camp counselors? Just curious to everyone’s opinion on what’s going on or if anyone has heard anything credible. I’m sorry, but I just cannot stand the two of them and I hope they break up. I know that’s mean, but just..ewww.

  5. bigfatwoman

    March 27, 2014 at 3:37 PM

    I looked up the definition of ‘tool’ in the dictionary and there was a picture of Cody Sattler.

  6. angelfish

    March 27, 2014 at 5:20 PM

    I think JP and Nicki are just a few weeks away from a “shocking”, stunning”, “unforeseen” and “unexpected” breakup….

    Bigfatwoman….Totally agree. But only because next to the definition of “Douche” in the dictionary was already a picture of JP!

    And another agreement with Nicki never being able to take any Chocolate Thunder home to her daddy, Hy. Though I would LOVELOVELOVE to see it!

  7. karynr

    March 27, 2014 at 6:48 PM

    Ron is some SERIOUS eye candy. Wow. I haven’t looked at the other pictures yet, but it sounds like I need to check out Josh.
    I don’t find a physique like Cody’s attractive. It’s a little too much with the whole Alpha male, muscles bulging thing.
    I’d like to think Clare had some small nugget of common sense in regards to her dad’s video and realized, wrong man, wrong time.
    Congrats to Ashley and JP. I obviously don’t know them, but they seem like good people.
    More BachelorTrash this summer. Oh goody. I can spend one night a week watching a show that makes me feel dirty enough to jump in the shower when it’s over. I was really disappointed to see Chris B. on the list of possibilities. He might be almost as big a douche as JP, and that’s saying a lot. I can’t stand him.
    As I was reading the column tonight, I realized I probably wouldn’t even be watching the show anymore if it weren’t for RS. ABC/Fleiss should thank him for his own special brand of advertising!

    I wonder if the girls from JP’s season feel like they were cheated in some way? They got, possibly, the worst Bachelor ever in the history of the show!

  8. karynr

    March 27, 2014 at 6:50 PM

    My formatting is all f***** up! Does anyone else ever have a problem typing on this site? I have to type my comments somewhere else and cut and paste.

  9. bachchat

    March 27, 2014 at 6:52 PM

    Reality Steve, you may be right about a lot, but you’re wrong about Cody. He is not from Nebraska, but you’re close…try Kansas. And to you idiots commenting, he’s not “roided up”, he’s worked his ass off for years to look 20x better than what I’m sure any of you look like!

  10. angelfish

    March 27, 2014 at 7:58 PM

    Ooops!…Of course, I meant that Andi wouldn’t be taking any Chocolate Thunder home to dad.

    Karynr….I think a lot of the girls established friendships & enjoyed the travel enough to make up for a crappy bachelor.

    Bachchat…I’m sure your right.

  11. Caroll

    March 27, 2014 at 8:13 PM

    Lots of good Bachelor/ette news….thanks Steve!

  12. Athena

    March 27, 2014 at 8:47 PM


    FWIW, I never have any problem accessing the site or typing comments. The only thing that happens for me is that the site is slower to load than others I go to. Not a big deal, just a few second opportunity to practice patience when I come here.

    (I have a macbook pro, and use google. I don’t know if either of those makes any difference in terms of the issues you’re having.)

    I like your comments, so don’t give up.

  13. iheartvino

    March 28, 2014 at 8:56 AM

    karyn, I don’t have formatting issues on this site, but occasionally I still get the “oops, this is embarrassing isn’t t…” error message when I try to access the login screen. It’s very sporadic though. Same as Athena, I’ve noticed lately the site has been much slower to load. No biggie though.

    I agree with those that have said Cody has too much of a meathead look, and angelfish, I had the same thought at first- definitely looks like a much bulkier Sean Lowe. I wonder if Cody eat a dozen egg whites and a day too? haha

  14. Dianne

    March 28, 2014 at 9:45 AM

    well rob22, Ron is part Jewish (mother is from Israel), so you never know!

  15. rob22

    March 28, 2014 at 12:37 PM

    Funny comments on the JPah-Blow (definition of douche) and Cody (definition of tool). I had a rare laugh out loud outburst on those.

    Personally I don’t care if Cody came upon his physique naturally or with a needle. I’m a bit of a gym rat myself, but I’ve never been the guy that grunts and screams and really tries to get as big as possible. I can’t dismiss them, because most of them seem like nice guys when I talk with them. But it does seem rather self absorbed to be THAT into your own body. 2-3 hour chest workouts are a bit much for my taste. I’m more of a one hour+, get the work in and go home type guy. So, I can’t relate.

    Funny story. I had a guy working for me who was one of these guys. He was about 20 years younger than me. So, we decide to start going to he gym together. He goes over to the meathead part of the gym. I work out with him, well, in his vacinity for about 30 minutes of lifting. Then I ride the bike for 45 minutes. I check back with him and he’s still doing the same types of lifts as when we came. I ask him if he’s getting ready to leave. He says no, becase he still has a few more chest sets to do. That was all he was doing the entire time! Well, he had no family to go home to, so why not, I guess.

  16. rob22

    March 28, 2014 at 12:43 PM

    On the part about Ron’s Mom being Jewish…. to a Jew, the mother’s heritage is all that matters. So, he’d be considered a Jew by them. That would be awesome if that came up and Andi was into him enough to take him home to Hy. That would be worth the price (the boredom) of watching the season right there. Hy’s head might explode as a Southern Jew who’s daughter just brought home a Black Jew. Wow!
    I will say that interracial couples aren’t that unusual in Atlanta, it’s not like this is 1964, or anything. Still….. it would be amusing.

  17. karynr

    March 29, 2014 at 8:51 AM

    Thanks Athena. I’ve been commenting on this site for over 10 years, I think, and I won’t be stopping anytime soon! Sometimes when I come to the RS site, it’s like my computer has been taken over by aliens. It does some weird stuff.

    Rob, you’re exactly right. By law, if the mother is Jewish, the children are too. I think his dad looks a lot like Don Cheadle’s dad in House of Lies. They certainly are a beautiful family!

    I just read an US article about Nikki and JP, talking about how happy they are together, so far. It mentioned how his ex, Carla, likes how Nikki is with Camila, how Camila likes Nikki, and talks about how well she gets along with his family. Of course, US, is one step above the National Enquirer…..just packaged a little better! Is it all PR, or is there some truth in there? I guess only time will tell.

    Time to bring on Andi. I’m ready for the next season.

  18. Athena

    March 29, 2014 at 4:14 PM

    In some ways the DWTS denial may have helped JP and Nikki bond in an us against the world kind of way. If so, I hope it gives them a chance to grow some real roots to their relationship. (And, if not, well, we all know how folie au deux works out.)

  19. bigfatwoman

    March 30, 2014 at 8:50 AM

    @Athena, agree that JP and Nikki are together because of an “us against the world” mentality that will eventually go away when the attention dies down and a new season of Bach begins.

    I also find it hard to believe that any deep emotional connection could happen for someone like JP. That type of arrogance/narcissism only receives, it does not give unless for some underlying self serving purpose.

  20. luckylucy

    March 30, 2014 at 11:26 AM

    We should have a drinking game – one shot each time she says, “At the end of the day”. I heard it 4 times in 10 minutes during her announcement…

    Party on!!!

  21. vessel

    March 30, 2014 at 3:12 PM

    As to Andi not being allowed to bring home a black guy due to her Southern family it might be a little different since her family is Jewish. It’s been my experience that Jewish people are pretty tolerant about mixed race couples, which might supercede them being Southern with typical Southern values-now obviously I can’t speak for everyone and I have no idea Hy’s POV, or how much even his approval matters to Andi. If I wanted to marry a black guy and my father was anti that it wouldn’t have mattered one bit, I’d marry who I wanted and either come around and deal or lose a daughter-but hey, that’s me.

    My theory is that she keeps someone black around to final four and maybe he gets a shot at being the first black bachelor? I may be living in la la land about that and it’ll never happen,but I wish it would even if only to shut up people who endlessly complain about the racism of the producers.

  22. missannmcd

    March 30, 2014 at 10:47 PM

    vessel : I just had to reply to you. When I was a teen I was in foster with a single Jewish woman, She became a lifelong mother to me, so I’ve known her for about 45 years now. She had been married to a black man before I met her and she told me that dating/marrying a black man is the height of rebellion for a Jewish woman.

  23. vessel

    March 31, 2014 at 6:44 AM

    @Missannmcd, I think that ii very much depends on how religious you are, and to what degree you are practicing. I used to work for a Jewish Ob/Gyn in New York City and his practice was nearly 100% Jewish women and I saw many interracial couples in the years I worked there. In fact at the time I, myself was living with a black guy and it was definitely not okay with my parents, and I distinctly remember a convo I had with our Office manager in which I asked why it seemed to be so much more widely accepted in the Jewish community, and her response was that historically blacks and Jews as groups have been oppressed. How much credence I give that now, or back then, I’m not sure but it’s definitely been my experience that black/jewish is not an unusual match. But like I said, I think it depends a lot on how deeply held your faith is, meaning are you Jewish simply by birth but not necessarily a regularly practicing Jew, or is it an important part of who you are as a person. My husband’s ex wife is Jewish and is married to a black man, but she considers herself agnostic and Jewish only by birth and upbringing-IE: now she doesn’t observe the religion at all, so maybe that is more typical.

  24. angelfish

    March 31, 2014 at 7:05 AM

    The “Us Against The World” mindset of Nicki &
    JP is definitely a bond, and as BFW points out, probably dissolves as soon as the media gets bored. Look at how “successful” Ben & Courtney remained. I don’t think Courtney’s “modeling” career took off, and she’s a hell of a lot more commercial looking than Nicki.

    But sadly, the bills have to get paid and once the media opportunities are gone, harsh reality sets in.

  25. jacquibk

    April 3, 2014 at 2:01 PM

    Time for an update, Steve! Got anything new?

  26. guyliner

    April 10, 2014 at 5:16 PM

    I think we’ve been abandoned.

  27. rob22

    April 11, 2014 at 7:15 AM

    RS is back in vacation mode. If he doesn’t re-start the Daily Links, there will be lots of radio silence …. Occasional updates, then a big spoiler post, then pretty much nothing until the show starts up again.

  28. vessel

    April 11, 2014 at 7:42 AM

    I feel like this time last year when Desiree was filming there was a lot more info, and it was coming in weekly, pics of group dates, one on ones, behind the scenes tidbits, etc. Maybe he just doesn’t have as much info this season and he’s waiting until he has enough for a decent length blog post?

  29. iammesoucantbe

    April 11, 2014 at 8:02 AM

    Maybe something happened? I hope not obviously, but I don’t think Steve has ever gone this long without posting something.

  30. bears

    April 11, 2014 at 8:45 AM

    maybe the network kidnapped him so he couldn’t do the spoilers seriously, where the heck are ya

  31. Scout

    April 11, 2014 at 12:36 PM

    He just retweeted a girl that said she saw Andi filming in brussels. So he’s definitely still around. Just not enough info to fill a blog plog I think.

  32. jenny8675

    April 11, 2014 at 1:14 PM

    Steve…I need something to read while I soak in the rays!! I FF through 90% of the show…and only 90% b/c I enjoy reading your articles (and once I read, I like to know who’s who)! I’m enjoying everyone’s comments also!

    I plan to watch as much of Andi’s season as possible! I live 45 min from ATL, born and raised in small town, and my daughter is dating a black man…it’s never been an issue for anyone. I understand ATL is in the South, but we are also in the 21st century!!

    I apologize for any grammar errors.
    Mathematics Educator!! 🙂

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