-Before the cocktail party, Andi gets a love letter sent to her room from a “secret admirer.” This is Chris. Not sure how many more letters she gets, when she gets them, if she figures it out on her own, or if Chris eventually ends up telling her, but it’s Chris. Told you this last week but since some of you took to Twitter last night to immediately tweet me, “Who wrote the letter,” I guess I have to address it again. The amazing thing about most of the questions sent to me on email and Twitter is probably 95% of them I’ve answered at some point. But since obviously there is a lot of “Bachelor/ette” content to sort through on my page, yes I understand that not everyone catches everything that I write, hence the reason I do have to repeat myself on occasion. But just know what you ask has probably been answered at some point. It’s in there. All of it. So I just suggest reading what I write instead of skimming, like I know a lot of people do. You’ll enjoy yourself immensely if you read the whole thing. I promise. I write twice a week, maybe three times. Is that really too much to devour?
-They show Andi’s time with Tasos and Brian, but c’mon, last night’s cocktail party centered around the confrontation with Eric and that’s all anyone is talking about today so let me give my thoughts as best as I can. I really don’t want to do pages and pages on this because this is something that is such a lightning rod with people based on last night’s reaction, it could go on forever. So let me break it down the way I see it and I’ll leave it at that.
1) This is not a black and white issue. I do not think you can definitively say one way or another how it was handled last night. Some people hated it, some people thought it was fine, some people thought it was perfect. The show has never had anything like this dropped in their lap before, and for me, they handled it about as well as they could. Do I wish we could’ve gotten a little more footage from the guys talking about Eric? Sure. But I think we’ll get that at the “Men Tell All” so I’m fine with it. I am glad that they showed all of Eric and Andi’s conversation because after seeing it, I don’t know how they could’ve played it out with him leaving and them not showing as to why. I don’t think they exploited him, I don’t think they did him a disservice, nor do I think this was callous or cold in any way. Eric agreed to sign up for a show where essentially everything he did would be filmed an open to be viewed. They showed us his whole journey on the show and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.
2) Lets separate Eric and Andi’s argument from his death. One has nothing to do with the other. Honestly, when I first started talking about this the day Eric died, I was unable to follow my own advice. Remember I kept saying I don’t know if they’re gonna show it or not. That’s because I wasn’t thinking clearly and wasn’t separating what happened on the show from his death. This show started filming March 13th. Eric and Andi’s confrontation in CT happened March 27th. He died April 23rd. Nothing that happened the night of March 27th had any bearing on what happened April 23rd. Andi is taking some serious undeserved criticism for things she had no control over. You want to argue her defensiveness, that’s fair game. I agree. But don’t take Eric’s death out on her, and I think a lot of people are. If Eric were alive today, I don’t think Andi would be attacked nearly as much as she was last night. So to see idiots on social media last night actually blaming Andi for his death is just asinine and those people should never be able to reproduce. It’s idiotic on so many levels, not worth getting into. What I’m saying is, of course they should’ve shown their argument. It’s part of who Eric was on the show. Editing it, or deleting the whole thing would’ve been disingenuous in my eyes. They had a clear misunderstanding of each other in March and he died a month later. One had nothing to do with the other.
3) I’ll remember Eric for much more than what he thought of a girl he knew for exactly 2 weeks. As much as people want to get riled up over all this, I just can’t. Could Eric have gone about approaching Andi differently? Yes. Could Andi have not overreacted and gotten so defensive? Absolutely. But there’s so much more to this conversation than that. It’s obvious Eric was feeling a certain way, and rather than go out with a whimper on a relationship he could clearly see wasn’t there, he got confrontational. He wanted reassurance from Andi that he saw she was giving to other guys and not to him, so he called her out on it. There’s nothing wrong with that. There’s also nothing wrong, per se, about how Andi reacted. You might not like it, you might’ve thought it was mean, and you might’ve thought it was hypocritical of her based on what she did last season and an overreaction. But there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s how she chose to deal with it. If that makes you like her less, so be it. But it’s not wrong. It’s just the way she chose to combat his accusation.
4. Remember the bigger picture. Of course it would’ve been nice if Eric went out in a better way than that. Of course we don’t want his lasting memory on this show to be of him making Andi cry. His sister even said he felt awful for doing that. And if he were alive, this I’m sure would’ve been smoothed over at the “Men Tell All” with no hard feelings. I just think people are letting his death cloud the actual argument. This argument was so tiny when you look at it from a far. None of us knew a thing about Eric before March 12th when I posted bios to her first 8 guys. But a quick Google search pretty much told you all you needed to know about him. Then he gets on and has a great first date telling the Syria story, and you realize this guy had lived more than probably 95% of the people watching this show. As I said on twitter last night, in the grand scheme of things Eric’s two week journey on this show was just a grain of sand on the beach that was his life. This show doesn’t define him. That argument doesn’t define him. Nor does it define Andi. They were two people on a TV show who saw things differently about how the other acted. They parted ways, and unfortunately, he died a month later. Lets not trivialize this and make it out to be more than that.
5. What happens from here? According to Chris Harrison’s blog today, the show still hasn’t decided if they’re gonna show Andi and her final four guys’ reaction when they were told about Eric’s death. Well, if they had no problem showing the whole conversation last night, I can’t imagine why they wouldn’t show us the aftermath of Andi and her final four finding out. Why hide that? You’ve said you’ve dedicated the season to him, so I would expect we’d see that since that’s part of Andi’s journey as well. As for not showing the rose ceremony last night and doing a sit down with Andi, I thought that was fine as well. Whatever they did wasn’t gonna please everyone. If you show the rose ceremony, people will scream that was inconsiderate. They cut off the rose ceremony, have Chris and Andi talk about Eric, and people are screaming about “Why do we care what she has to say?” You’re not gonna please everyone, but under the circumstances, I thought it was fine. We’ll hear the guys talk about Eric on the “Men Tell All” next month, and I’m sure we’ll get to see Andi’s reaction, as well as her final four, when they were told about it on the day of the final four rose ceremony back on April 23rd.
Lets not forget this is a TV show first and foremost. It would’ve been great if Eric had a better exit than that, but he didn’t. How were they possibly going to pass up that dramatic exit? They weren’t. They always knew they were running that, because in the first promo of the season, you see clips of Andi’s speech to the guys about being exhausted. So they never hid from it, and for that I applaud them. Eric wasn’t gonna throw himself at Andi like some of the other guys did, and Andi obviously likes that feedback from men. Because Eric didn’t oblige didn’t make it wrong for him to confront her. Eric seemed to take pride in being open, Andi took pride in being real. Two people that just weren’t compatible. Nothing wrong with that. It’s a reality show. Here today, gone tomorrow. It doesn’t rewrite Eric’s life or who he is. So lets all choose to remember the guy for who he was as a son, a brother, a friend, and a philanthropist and less about what happened back on March 27th.
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