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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” & “Bachelor in Paradise” News & Exclusive Picture

A LOT of stuff to get to today. Plenty. Like give yourself a good 30-45 minutes to get through all of this today since there’s over 50 “Reader Emails,” and as far as I can remember, the longest “Dr. Reality Steve” email I’ve ever been sent. Long may not even do it justice. Absurd is another word that could be used as well. Hell, I’m still debating if the email is even real. But since I don’t post names or email address of the people who send them in, I’m not sure who would take that amount of time to share a story like this just to say, “Oh, I got an email in to Dr. Reality Steve.” However once you read this thing, I think your head might hurt from banging it against the wall. Anyway, we’ve got “Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” a live video chat at 9:00pm EST/6:00pm PST, JJ backs up his story, and more “Bachelor in Paradise” news. Who is off the island, who has gone in, and an exclusive picture from one of the dates yesterday. Granted, it’s not the clearest of pictures and looks pretty tame, but, a picture nonetheless confirming who else is there. One I told you a while ago would be on, and the other I completely had forgotten about for some reason.

So on Monday’s episode, JJ was the one who came forward and said that during the first rose ceremony, when Andi was giving her rose to Ron, Andrew leaned in to him and said the thing he did about “blackies,” which could’ve been “black guys,” but he said something. Andrew of course denied it in the episode, but on Monday night, JJ tweeted out a picture from that first night rose ceremony, and sure enough, here is Andi giving Ron the rose with Andrew leaning in to say something to JJ:


I think this definitely lends credibility to JJ’s story, and makes things even worse for Andrew. Only those two will know what was said, but this certainly isn’t helping Andrew’s cause.

As for “Bachelor in Paradise” news, more news to report since Tuesday. Chris Bukowski and Elise are gone. Moving in have been Kalon, Christy Hansen, and I believe Lucy. How do I know Chris and Elise are gone? Well, they made sure Splash News photo ops were waiting for them at O’Hare airport when they arrived home. For those unaware of how this works, let me explain. The only reason why any paparazzi photo service would be taking pictures of Elise and Chris arriving home is if a publicist told them to. Paparazzi don’t just hang out places in HOPES that someone shows up they can take pictures of. They are tipped off on where to go, usually by friends or publicists. That’s exactly what happened here. We all know Elise has no problem staging photo ops since she did it 6 months ago at the beach. And whaddya’ know, Splash News took those pics as well. Elise is dying for attention and to be famous, which is why she ditched her teaching career in PA and moved to LA to do the “Bachelor” then become a cocktail waitress at a trendy LA club. Good luck Elise. Because if you’re looking to really settle down and find a man to be with from this franchise, Chris Bukowski is definitely the one you want. He’ll like you for AT LEAST two weeks. Maybe three. If you’re lucky, maybe you can be the flavor of the month before you’re yesterday’s news and he moves on to the next batch of girls come September when the “Bachelor” rolls around. Some people’s priorities on this show are so far out of whack, it’s unreal.

Also, Marquel and Danielle are both off the show. Moving in have been Kalon, Christy Hansen, and I think Lucy. Yesterday, a date took place down in Tulum between Cody (who I told you was waiting to get on), and a mystery girl. Here’s a picture from a distance:


There was a girl I was told was going to be on the show like a month ago, but because she was such a non factor on her season, I had completely forgot to mention her in any posts relating to “Bachelor in Paradise” when it came to casting. She slipped my mind every time, but after seeing this picture, now I remember. I’m pretty certain Cody is on a date with Jackie Parr in that picture. Jackie was the girl from Sean’s season who got sent home on the 2-on-1 date when he kept Tierra. She also was one of the three girls who visited Des during her season along with Catherine and Lesley Murphy. Pretty certain that’s her on that date, since she’s definitely on the show and even though the picture is blurry, it seems to match her description.

Here are your deleted scenes from Monday’s episode:

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  1. shouldbeworking

    June 19, 2014 at 11:17 AM

    To the young nieve girl that wrote the last two emails:
    .Stop sending naked pictures of yourself over the internet and have some self respect.
    There’s 20 minutes of my life I’ll never get back

  2. karynr

    June 19, 2014 at 3:03 PM

    shouldbeworking, great advice, if it’s not a joke. This chickie is naïve beyond belief.

    If it is real, I have one piece of advice. Watch the movie/read the book He’s Just Not That Into You. You are Gigi right now. You don’t want to be Gigi. I’m sure everyone has been a Gigi at some point in their lives, but it’s not attractive at all!

  3. amyrn22

    June 19, 2014 at 3:51 PM

    I agree with both of you, although I kinda think it’s real and not a joke. Who would take the time to write something THAT long and detailed not once, but twice? I think she’s just REALLY REALLY naive and clueless when it comes to men and social situations. If you’re reading this, emailer from California, this guy is just NOT interested in you. Sorry, but he’s not. I don’t mean to sound mean, but you wanted blunt, and that’s blunt. You shouldn’t have sent him the naked pictures– NEVER send naked pictures to anyone, especially someone you don’t really know– but from the moment he saw them, he wasn’t interested and I think he was meeting up with you to be nice or because he wanted to get laid, even though he wasn’t attracted. No, not every guy is attracted to a size 00, but this guy is, and he wasn’t attracted. He slept with you anyways, because he got drunk and guys will have sex with anyone, attracted or not. The turning out the lights, the fact that he never said a word to you after he saw the naked pictures, everything else he’s done and said.. he is not interested or attracted to you. Never call him or text him EVER again and just learn from this experience. You shouldn’t have kept asking him over and over if he was still attracted to you or not, even though you aren’t skinny. All you did by doing that was bring attention to the fact that you aren’t his type. He might have been able to overlook it slightly (probably not, but maybe) but the fact that you kept asking him and bringing it up, even when you were having sex, all you did by doing that was remind him that you weren’t his type. Maybe if you were just confident in yourself and never mentioned a thing about his type or what you look like, he might have started to become attracted to who you are, and not what he usually wants. You’ll never know now, but you’ll know for next time. I learned after many years of being together that I am not my husband’s “type”– he likes brunette and curvy, and I’m blonde, petite, and small-chested. I never asked him his type and we fell in love 14 years ago, and a day doesn’t go by where he doesn’t tell me how beautiful he thinks I am or how attracted he is to me. Never remind a guy of what they don’t have…. most guys don’t end up marrying their physical “type.” Be yourself and confident and proud of that, and that’s what they’ll usually end up attracted to. Also, screw this guy and never talk to him again, but as far as the next guy goes… let him come to you. Don’t call and text them all the time. Nothing is more unattractive than stalkerish behavior. That’s not to say you can’t ever call, but let him do the chasing. I hope you learned something from this jerk, now, don’t obsess over it for another second.. move on and you’ll meet someone who deserves you at whatever size you are. Hope we were able to help you a little and hope you weren’t offended by our blunt advice.

  4. amyrn22

    June 19, 2014 at 4:38 PM

    Also Andi’s fish mouth is sooo gross. Especially in the Cody deleted scene. I think she’s trying to make it look like her lips are bigger. Ew.

  5. bigfatwoman

    June 19, 2014 at 5:09 PM

    Damn, it never ceases to amaze me how naive and desperate women can be (myself included, past tense) when it comes to men treating them poorly or clearly showing a lack of interest.

    On another note, I think I like Andi yet I also think I’m with Eric. Who is she really? #ThinkLikeEric.

  6. rolltideroll

    June 19, 2014 at 6:18 PM

    California Girl,

    Let me start by saying we have all been in your shoes at one time or another – questioning ourselves, our choices, the man in our life, and what’s going on with him. When you are in the middle of that sort of situation, it’s easy to get caught up, obsess over every detail, and grasp for reasons why things are playing out the way they are. If you keep on, eventually you reach a point where you let it consume you, and that’s when it becomes unhealthy. It seems you have surpassed that point, which is why I hope you will read what I have to say and really take it to heart.

    To outsiders, it is very clear what is happening here. We have no emotional ties to the parties involved, so we can give you our unbiased opinions and advice. Anything that I say here is not intended to hurt you; rather, it is meant to help you move forward.

    To be blunt, physical attraction is very important to this man. He told you his “type” – which you yourself said you are not – and he asked you for photos on multiple occasions. When you finally sent some photos, he immediately withdrew from you. That was a clear sign that he was not physically attracted to you. Then, when he visited home on those two occasions and made no effort to see you, that further cemented the lack of attraction.

    On this visit, you said you set everything up – I assume you mean the time & place and just asked him to show up. My opinion is that because you two had spent 6-7 months talking and had established at least a friendship, he wanted to “hang out” to see if you could be “buddies” and/or he was looking for a hookup.

    So y’all met, got drunk, and did the deed. Now why you felt the need, in the middle of having sex, to stop and ask him if he was into you is beyond me. That would have freaked me out if a man had done that with me, and it probably freaked him out that you did that with him. That is just weird.

    Next morning y’all wake up and he’s ready to get back to the cars. At that point it’s clear he’s not into you. When he gives you the buddy pat on the back and takes off, that’s another clear sign. For you to then call him right away and start asking questions is where the “clingy” starts. I get that you were confused, hopeful that he liked you, wanted some answers, etc. But the answers were already there, you were just choosing to ignore them.

    So over the next few days you call and text him and get no response. You asked if he could be too busy to respond. The answer is no. If someone wants to respond to you, they will find a minute out of their day to send you a text. He is not responding because he is not interested. The more you chase him, the less interested he becomes.

    PLEASE get the idea out of your head that “maybe he has strong feelings and doesn’t know how to deal with them”. Honey, no. That’s not the real world and that’s not happening here. He’s not at home sitting on the couch in the dark, thinking about you and struggling with his emotions, trying to sort out his feelings, etc. Do not fool yourself.

    Simply put …. he is not physically attracted to you, the sex was a drunk hookup, you are now chasing him hard which is why he is avoiding you hard, and the best thing you can do is stop obsessing over this, do not contact him anymore, put it all out of your mind, learn some valuable lessons, and move on.

    Trust me, I speak from experience. I’m 37 and have had my fair share of these types. I don’t always pick the best men, so I know what I’m talking about. Move on.

  7. angelfish

    June 19, 2014 at 7:25 PM

    If a man wants to be with you, he will find a way. He won’t make excuses, he won’t avoid you, he won’t make you miserable, he won’t make you beg.

    If he wants to be with you, he won’t just tell you, he will show you. And if he doesn’t, then you were just a booty call.

    It could not be any simpler. Men are simple creatures. Really.

  8. rob22

    June 19, 2014 at 8:33 PM

    If this is what 26 year old girls are like these days, our country is in trouble. Are you sure she didn’t mean 16? Boy did she line herself up for a one night stand! And then afterwards she blows up his phone. Hasn’t this girl ever heard of taking her time… Playing it a little cool…. Or even just not looking like a desperate b**** in heat? Wow. Just wow. I really hope the email was fake, but I just don’t think you could make up a story like that.

  9. rolltideroll

    June 19, 2014 at 8:50 PM

    Looking back, the true irony in California Girl’s story is that she mentions having a degree in Sociology; yet, she is clueless at understanding the basics of human behavior or comprehending interactions of a social nature.

    I do not disbelieve this story, but it does not read like something coming from a well educated, 26-year old woman. Rather, it seems much more juvenile considering the way it was presented.

    I question the true age of the original writer, and if she really is 26, I then question her emotional maturity.

  10. ladyluck

    June 19, 2014 at 11:58 PM

    What everyone else said. And also this: you need both an emotional and physical connection to have a real relationship. An emotional connection with no physical connection is called friendship. You guys definitely had the emotional connection, but as everyone has explained, the physical part just wasn’t there. It sounds like you two could have remained friends because he obviously cared about you as a person, but you drove him away by trying to force a physical connection that was never there. (That’s not entirely your fault; he should have been mature about it and told you he only sees you as a friend.)

    When a guy is attracted to you, he will do things to make you feel beautiful, no matter what you look like. That is how you know there’s a physical connection.

  11. ladyluck

    June 20, 2014 at 12:09 AM

    Also – read the book “He’s Just Not That Into You”. It’s even better than the movie at explaining the “signs” that a guy isn’t interested in a relationship.

  12. Dianne

    June 20, 2014 at 7:51 AM

    Wow..just wow regarding the book e-mails. I honestly have a hard time believing these came from a 26 year old. I agree with rob22 saying they’re from a 16 year old. And a very, very insecure 16 year old at that. I dunno…I think someone is pulling Steve’s frank..just to see what his reaction would be.

  13. angelfish

    June 20, 2014 at 8:09 AM

    Steve’s reaction would be the same, no matter the age of the writer. 26 or 56, it all comes down to a very simple fact.

    She was ultimately just a piece of ass to him. No more, no less.

    Doesn’t matter how you mix and match the details, they are immaterial. She wanted him but he didn’t want her.

  14. jacquibk

    June 20, 2014 at 3:36 PM

    I know about Josh’s tattoo’s.

  15. mariet

    June 20, 2014 at 4:57 PM

    I thought they are just his mom and dad’s initials. So?

  16. jacquibk

    June 20, 2014 at 6:37 PM

    So, RS didn’t know and one of the people who wrote in did not know, and now everyone knows thanks to you! A round of applause to you.

  17. angelfish

    June 20, 2014 at 7:06 PM

    Actually, Josh’s mom posted an explanation of his tattoos on her Facebook page, back on June 1st. Since then it’s made the rounds of lots of Bachelorette forums.

    If Steve didn’t know, it’s because he doesn’t care. I’m sure if he did care, he could have found out easily.

  18. jacquibk

    June 21, 2014 at 3:59 AM

    Do I know you angelfish?

  19. baltimoreblues

    June 23, 2014 at 2:24 PM

    I believe the naïve woman. I have met many immature people, many will tell themselves they have a chance at love when they really should move on. I made some stupid mistakes too in my 20’s, nothing like giving a nude photo to a stranger, but some dumb stuff in hopes of having a real relationship. Now that I am 31 I have figured out a few things and finally know what a stable relationship feels like. Hopefully this woman will meet someone that treats her better and she will wise up.

    Also, you do not need to look like a movie star to attract a man. I am a plus-sized woman and have easily found men that are attracted to me. Being confident goes a long way!

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