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“Reader Emails,” “Dr. Reality Steve,” and Courtney’s Book


I have a few questions for you about Bachelor in Paradise

1. That Jesse guy you mentioned whose season is he from? Jillian’s. He finished 4th. And was on the first season of “Bachelor Pad” teaming up with Elizabeth Kitt and essentially treating her like dirt the whole time.

2. Is Clare off the show and did she ever couple up? Yeah, Clare’s been off for the last week. I know she went on dates with Robert and Zack, but I don’t think anything came of it.

Oh this is continued from the last email.

I know it’s only been two guys, but are the guys saying that they’re falling in love a bit early this season, I mean there’s always that one person that throws that out there a tiny bit earlier than everyone else. But first there was Marcus and now there’s Nick, two guys in the final 4.

So is it just me or are they saying it early this season?

Or do the guys just say it earlier than the girls? The girls seem to say it close to the finale. As I saw that with Seans girls, and I think the earliest who even confessed it was Lesley in a confessional at the final 6/5.

Comment: I couldn’t possibly remember even in recent seasons who said it and when. They all kinda run together for me.

This about sums it up, short and sweet. I like the spoilers because I don’t like people yanking my chain. Don’t make me out to be a fool (period). Thanks for opening our eyes to the manipulation of “reality tv”. It’s all just a drinking game now. Maddie’s precious, and you’re not bad yourself, haha.

Comment: Thanks.

Why don’t they eat the food on the date? it looked like delicious pasta in front of them on Nick and andi date they didn’t touch it. come on its Italian in Italy!! ok rant over.

Comment: Because people don’t want to watch other people eat food on television. These contestants eat. Every day. They just don’t show it, nor should they.

Hi Steve,

Love your blog, been reading it for years. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I find it interesting that casting for the next season of The Bachelor are taking place in central states.

Missouri, Illinois, Oklahoma, Ohio, Michigan, and Texas are all in reasonable proximity to Iowa. I don’t remember them casting in the Midwest as much as they are for the upcoming season.

I hope Chris is the next bachelor, seems like a really nice guy.


Comment: I’ve never really kept up with what locations they’re holding casting calls in past seasons. Maybe this is the norm, maybe it isn’t. They’re gonna cast who they want regardless of where the casting calls are. So I don’t think it matters too much.

Hi Steve! I am a teacher with children ages 2, 3, & 4 years old. I started watching the franchise during Ashley’s season after my first child was born for a “mental break.” (It should be noted that I read your blog for a few weeks before even watching the show because of all the Bentley stuff that I saw while waiting in line at Target. Add me to the list of people who you added to the numbers.) I’ve continued because I enjoy having something mindless that is all my own.

You’ve done a great job of laying out what you know about BiP in a way that is understandable. It seems like such a crap shoot currently, but it’s been fun to see you put together what you know and how that might play out in the series.

Also, I feel like we’ve started to see Chis’s Bachelor edit in today’s episode- his boldness and some personality. Way to call it, sir.

Finally, I’m pretty sure Romeo was 14 and totally snotty. Cody would snap him in the blink of an eye.

PS – I just googled the Romeo thing… it’s never specified. Most people speculate that he was between 16 and 18. Juliet was a few weeks shy of her 14th birthday.

Comment: You mean the fake, made up characters in Romeo and Juliet that people write letters to? Got it.


Was just fast-forwarding my way through the Marseilles episode. Was there a few months ago and wanted to see what local venues & hotspots they would feature (producers missed quite a few good ones).

Started to play in real-time just long enough to hear Josh and Andi discussing his whole “athlete” lifestyle. The way she was talking about his baseball career and how he was subtly puffing himself up during the dinner would make one think this guy was one step away from being a Hall of Famer. Is there any truth to his baseball skill or was this purely discussed on the show to make him look a lot more legit than he actually is?

My first reaction was #NotImpressed and the fast-forwarding began again..

Comment: I don’t think he was necessarily playing up his baseball skills, just more of the lifestyle that players lead. Because any quick Google search about Josh’s previous baseball career will tell you that he wasn’t really close to ever making the big leagues.


You’ve said that “The Bachelor” is Chris’ role if he wants it. Am I the only person that feels he would be a terrible bachelor? Don’t get me wrong, he seems like a great guy and a fan favorite, but he doesn’t seem strong enough to carry the show himself. That being said, if he were to decline the role, who do you think is their backup? I know you’ve said that it won’t be Nick or Marcus. This season just doesn’t seem to have any great candidates for “The Bachelor.” Marquel would be great, but that’s not happening. JJ would be good if it weren’t for his stupid pants. Just looking for who you think would be the best Bachelor. Thanks.

Comment: If we’re going through the top 6 finishers in Andi’s season (and lets face it, that’s pretty much always where the lead comes from), there really isn’t anyone it could be besides Chris:

Josh – taken by Andi
Nick – not happening. Too many viewers see him as a villain, regardless of it it’s warranted. Nor do I think he’d do it anyway.
Marcus – he’s attached to Lacy’s hip now
Dylan – not nearly excitable enough, on BIP, and just hasn’t resonated with the audience
Brian – Bahahahahahahahahahaha. No.

So now you tell me? You think they’re really gonna dip deeper past the final 6, or take the guy who finished 3rd, who has a career, who’s successful, and has “Middle America” written all over him? I will stand by what I said May 13th. It’s going to be Chris. I’ve heard nothing different since then.

(Insert I love our blog, you are so funny blah blah blah)

I wanted to see what you thought of this article. I think there are definitely some elements of truth to it.

Also, it looks like the show is totally editing towards Nick being the winner (although we know he is not). Do you think the producer/editors are doing the same thing with Josh that they did with Catherine by hiding the relationship a little? Or just taking advantage of how Nick is rubbing everyone the wrong way in the house for drama. I just really don’t see the “connection” between Josh and Andi that the winner would have already. It seems with Josh and Andi there is always some kind of exaggerated drama on their one on one and all that lie detector drama. I think Josh was being totally silly about that test. I think it was all just a joke all along and was just for fun but he was getting all butt hurt about it for whatever reason. He was probably the liar.

Also, so funny how they edited that rose ceremony last night trying to make everyone think she might be sending Josh home when Brian hadn’t gotten his rose yet in the background.

Comment: Every Monday night, everyone is watching the exact same episode all around the United States, yet people see what they want to see. Your email states you think the edit is totally making it look like Nick is the final 1 and they are hiding Josh. Yet you’ve read plenty of emails here over the weeks that say it’s so obvious it’s Josh, and Nick is being made to be a villain.
It’s why this show works, it’s why it draws the audience it does, it’s why it’s always one of the top trending words on Monday nights, and it’s why it’s not going anywhere anytime soon. Which is good for me since it pays my bills. No complaints here.


I’m sure you’ve heard this from other readers before but does it seem like Andi is the most drunken bachelorette we’ve seen in a while? I realize they all drink to some extent but homegirl is a wreck like 85-90% of the show and starts making a weird duck face when she’s really had too much. Her eyes get all glassy and half-open and she just seems a little ridiculous sometimes. Just something I noticed and was wondering if you noticed it as well.

Comment: She definitely drinks. Most do (Well, except Juan Pablo). But I’m still convinced the most drunk we’ve seen Andi this season was the night of the Eric confrontation, which played a huge role in her overreaction to him.

Hey Steve! Been reading your site for quite some time… even before you started spoiling I just happened upon it and loved your humorous recaps. We may have even been friends on Myspace… if that’s any indication to how long I’ve been scoping out your site. So keep up the good work old friend J

So I was wondering… with all your intel, were you able to find out who lied about what on the detector tests? Not that it matters really, most of the questions were pretty lame, I’m just curious. I have a feeling Josh was the “three lies” guy since he seemed weirdly paranoid and angry about it. Speaking of Josh, is it just me or is he totally unappealing? I honestly don’t get what Andi sees in him. Every time he talks he sounds… hmm… I’m not sure how to word it… stupid? Maybe? Not to mention, he never actually gave her an answer when she kept pushing for “well what do you like? Specifically why do you like me?” He totally beat around the bush on that one. Maybe it’s just me. What do you think about him thus far? I don’t know anything about the lie detector results. As for Josh being unappealing, to me he’s just another guy on this show. It’s whatever with me. They all kind of run together.

Also, random comment / question: Comment: I truly feel that Andi has been the most boring Bachelorette we’ve ever seen. She comes across insincere, bored/boring and personally, I don’t find her that attractive in the face (perhaps that’s why the twins are always on display… to distract). BUT then again I’m a girl… so what do I know about attractive girls. Which leads to my question: Putting personalities aside (since that can certainly change the way you look at a person) who would you say has been the most physically attractive Bachelorette? I’m definitely going with DeAnna.


Comment: Most physically attractive “Bachelorette?” So subjective. I’ve actually found all of them attractive in some way. Never thought any of them were flat out ugly and couldn’t see how they could get cast. They definitely have their type that they like for the lead. Cute, but not over-the-top sex pot. Emily was the closest to that but didn’t seem to have the personality to match. Honestly, I don’t even know who I’d say is the most physically attractive. Plus, it’s impossible for me to give an answer and not take their personalities into account.

Hi Steve,

Just need to start by saying I have been reading your column since the Matt Grant season. You are the only reason I keep watching this tired, train wreck of a show. Your recaps are consistently spot on and hilarious. I would have stopped watching years ago if it weren’t for your column. Also, I watched Friday Night Lights because of your strong recommendation and absolutely LOVED it. It’s on my list of best TV series ever. So thank you for what you do.

I had to respond to your question this week about what the hell happened to Julia Stiles. Last thing I saw her in was playing one of Dexter’s love interests on Showtime’s, DEXTER (2010). Such an awesome series, until Julia Stiles stunk up season 5 as the tortured and mysterious character, Lumen Pierce. Check out seasons 1-4. Michael C Hall is brilliant as the lovable serial killer, Dexter. Also, I saw an ad on HULU for the web series, Blue, starring Julia Stiles. I think her character is a mother by day, call girl by night. So like you said, no more mainstream, cookie cutter roles for this former it girl.

Hope you don’t get too many of the, “What the hell happened to Julia Stiles” emails.

Thanks again Steve!

Comment: So many people in recent weeks have been telling me I turned them on to Friday Night Lights and they’ve all loved it. Every single one of them good. I’d never steer you wrong. It’s one of the top 5 network drama’s we’ve seen in the last 20 years, and I dare you to find a more realistic husband/wife TV relationship than Coach Taylor and his wife. You can’t do it.

Thanks for the note on Julia. I guess I’ll continue to not watch anything she’s in.

Just an FYI, Julia Stiles stars on Parenthood..

Comment: Actually, that’s not accurate. I went to her IMDB page, and “Parenthood” isn’t listed anywhere on there. Here’s the “Parenthood” cast. Maybe you’re mixing her up with Erika Christensen, who plays a “Julia” on the show. They do kinda look a like.

Question for Thursday:

Is Josh really as “perfect” as he seems on the outside? I’ll give it to him, he’s pretty hot. In my experience, guys that look THAT good turn out to be douchebags. Since you have the inside scoop, is there ANYTHING that could come out that would end their relationship? I just don’t buy his act. I know the episodes are spliced together, but I haven’t heard Josh tell Andi one “deep” thing about himself, his values, his beliefs, etc. Likewise with her. He literally just says “I like you”, “I like everything about you”. She’s even asked him what he likes about her, and he can’t give any answer other than “everything”. It’s so pathetic, I feel like I’m watching a college, frat-boy, athlete making the moves to get into a girls pants. And we both know how that will play out in a few weeks…

Also, random, but Josh looks like Jeremy Cade. Has anyone mentioned that?


Comment: I don’t know much about Josh. Well, other than he’s engaged to Andi.

Yeah, he definitely kinda looks like Jeremy no doubt.

Hi Steve! You’re amazing!

I just had to note the fact that everyone acted like they were surprised that Nick got the first one-on-one in Venice (what was Chris Harrison so busy doing that he couldn’t greet the guys and Andi had to do it herself?) but he was the only one who was dressed as if he was going on a date. Every other guy was in shorts, a v-neck and sweatshirt… obviously not a date outfit!

Just had to point that out 🙂

Have a great week!

Comment: That he did.

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  1. Dianne

    June 26, 2014 at 10:40 AM

    Regarding the “Blind Items” from Courtney’s book, I, without a doubt, would say Bachelor #2 would be Bob Gainey. He was that sleezy that I could totally see that being him.

  2. shouldbeworking

    June 26, 2014 at 11:06 AM

    I read the book and I liked it. I think it took me about 3 hours to read.
    Dianne…totally who I thought of first for Bachelor #2.

  3. kaybaby

    June 26, 2014 at 11:15 AM

    For the woman whose Husband wants permission to have sex with another woman while she is away, the correct answer is “You’ll have to decide that on your own. You’ve already done damage and created doubt to our marriage by asking me.”

  4. arco5986

    June 26, 2014 at 11:16 AM

    Just wanted to mention that in the extra scenes after the episodes, Brian didn’t say f*ck in public, he said fart in public. That’s why the boys were all giggling like little girls while they answered the question. I have to admit, I was giggling pretty hard too. Re-watch the scene if you haven’t, best extra scene they’ve had in awhile.

  5. JovisMom

    June 26, 2014 at 1:18 PM

    How many pages is Courtney’s book?

  6. angelfish

    June 26, 2014 at 1:29 PM

    According to Amazon, Courtney’s book is 272 pages. Most of the customer reviews thus far say it’s very entertaining.

  7. addicted2rs

    June 26, 2014 at 1:44 PM

    I bought Courtney’s book and am about half way through it. I’m pleasantly surprised by how detailed she is about what casting was like, her experience during the Bachelor, her sex life. She is not vague. 🙂 I almost feel sorry for Jesse Metcalf etc… who are probably pretty mortified.

  8. bigfatwoman

    June 26, 2014 at 6:31 PM

    I’m sure Courtney’s book is entertaining but it would be hard for me to give my money to someone who seems to clearly be desperate for attention.

    From the ridiculous way she acted on Bach to over sharing in a book, I think this woman has a personality disorder and is nothing more than a pretty face.

    Sharleen’s blog is wonderful. I wasn’t much of a fan of her deer in the headlights persona with Juan Pebbles….but I thoroughly enjoy her witty blog.

  9. shouldbeworking

    June 27, 2014 at 7:01 AM

    I think I got my 12 bucks worth of entertainment from Courtneys book. I really wanted to know how the whole process works first hand. Steve calls her stories of touching herself exhilarating….I call it TMI. That didn’t need to be in the book. I know there are two sides to every story, but the way Ben acted in their relationship made me like him even less. I didn’t like him as the Bachelor, and she confirmed to me how he really is. Again, I know there are two sides to every story. I’m sure she’s no angel either.

  10. amyrn22

    June 27, 2014 at 7:17 AM

    No offense to Steve at all, but does anyone else think it’s weird how many women write in the reader emails or in the video blog about how good-looking Steve is or how “hot he looks tonight” in the live chat? It seems like it’s more and more women writing in and mentioning that every week, and there’s always 3 or 4 people who mention his looks on the video blog. He’s not ugly, but I’d say he’s completely average (not my type AT ALL). The way women fawn over him sometimes makes me think either there are some desperate women on this site or women just looking for attention from him. Like they want “unattainable reality steve” to like them. He seems really, really uncomfortable whenever he reads a comment like that- at least on the video blog. Maybe he’s flattered when he reads the emails alone but I always find it so awkward when someone comments about his looks or why doesn’t he have a girlfriend, etc. Am I missing something or do you guys see something in him I don’t?

  11. Dianne

    June 27, 2014 at 7:19 AM

    Oh, come on BFW! Give the girl a break. She was a victim to very bad editing on the producer’s part. I don’t believe for one second she’s “desperate” for attention. She had the opportunity to put it all out there with her book..and she did, and power to her. Nobody else has ever done this in the history of I give her credit where credit is due. So, tell me, BFW, if you were given such a bad rap, wouldn’t you want to do something to prove it’s not all true? Given the opportunity, I know I would.

  12. rob22

    June 27, 2014 at 8:19 AM

    Courtney wrote the book for money and attention. I’m sure the opportunity to put her own spin on things was a nice side benefit too. Bad edit or no bad edit, who knows? But remember, it was Ben Flatdicks season. He chose Courtney, otherwise she wouldn’t have had the opportunity to be the villain and make money on a book. I wouldn’t pity her too much. In TV Land the only bad publicity is no publicity. The media and fan “hate” only fueled her notriety. Otherwise, no attention, no book, no money. Most of the lunatics that appear on this show have early exits and are never heard from again. Courtney is fully captializing on her 15 minutes.

  13. karynr

    June 27, 2014 at 8:19 AM

    I just finished the book and also feel like I got my money’s worth. It was entertaining and a very quick read. I was never a fan of Ben, but now know for a fact that he’s just a d***. I was never a fan of Courtney either, but really felt for her while reading the book. It’s so easy for all of us to sit behind our technology and say terrible things. When you read firsthand how it affects someone, it kind of makes you feel bad about being one of many judging someone I don’t know so harshly.

  14. karynr

    June 27, 2014 at 8:20 AM

    Grammar police….I know that last sentence is awful!

  15. strick432

    June 27, 2014 at 8:22 AM

    anybody that has the book wanna mail it to me and let me read it and I’ll mail it back? I don’t wanna buy it. I’m cheap.

  16. Dianne

    June 27, 2014 at 8:42 AM

    oh, I dunno rob22..I say that even if Ben hadn’t chosen Courtney, she still would have been give the opportunity to put it all in writing. She was pegged the villain from day one.

  17. grace6

    June 27, 2014 at 9:34 AM

    I don’t think Chris is the winner this season, but don’t dismiss that “idiot” JBF quite so quickly. You have to stop relying only of your “sources. Why was Chris S. handing out roses in Seattle weeks before the finale of Des’s season? Because there are now foilers! JBF had Chris as Des’s pick for most of the season! You were mocking the long list of clues/hints on that website during her season. You were wrong. They were right! Perhaps you should tone down your arrogance after that failure.

  18. karynr

    June 27, 2014 at 9:53 AM

    strick…I only have the Kindle edition or else I’d mail it to you.

  19. strick432

    June 27, 2014 at 10:48 AM

    Thanks karyn. I thought about asking Steve, but didn’t want to get my feelings hurt when he got mean with me and said no. I just can’t see buying it. My Kindle is broken. Any other takers wanna mail me the book?

  20. rob22

    June 27, 2014 at 11:52 AM

    Dianne, oh maybe, but her profile was raised significantly (and not in a positive way) when that idiot Ben Flatdick picked her. Remember the outrage and seeminingly weeks of tabloid and blog publicity that followed? Even people who never watched the show knew who Courtney was. I’m not sure someone like Tiarra would write a book and generate any interest. Maybe, but probably not.

  21. karynr

    June 28, 2014 at 6:28 AM

    It’s been bugging me all season, but I just realized who Nick resembles…IMO. I think he strongly resembles Peter MacNichol from Ally McBeal!

  22. sandy

    June 28, 2014 at 10:25 AM

    Well that didn’t take long. Rumor has it, that Andi and Josh will be competing against each other on next seasons Dancing with the Stars. Don’t they always plug a Bachette contestant each season.

    If so, then RS assumption that they are both hungry to stay in the media world would be correct.

  23. purplesunsets

    June 29, 2014 at 12:52 AM

    @karynr I see the resemblance! I loved that show.

    Ive read a rumor its The view is considering Andi after the two girls left. Its from a gossip sight though.

    Does anyone follow the other remaining guys from this season? I see their posts on IG popular page and it seems there’s a rivalry/sides of sorts going on? Like my bros and genuine people I love these guys but exclude certain people obviously in the picture. Well I see its mostly Nick, JJ and Brian who does it. Just found it weird

  24. andismouth

    June 29, 2014 at 7:03 AM

    To the reader who wrote that Andi’s mouth should have a Twitter account— it’s been actively yapping since the end of JuPa’s season.

  25. Sunnyside422

    June 29, 2014 at 10:13 AM

    Don’t intent to actually purchase Courtney’s book but if my local library can get it, I will read it that way. She deftly is over sharing her life…sad that she needs to basically trash herself and everyone in her life.

    Since Ben is butt ugly, he should have been very grateful that someone like her wanted to be with him! Always thought he was a twit and nothing he says or does now changes my opinion.

    Notice how he so wants to distance himself from Courtney and trashes her…hey stupid, you picked her so live with your huge mistake and shut up! I hope they both slither under those rocks they emerged from all those months ago.

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