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Dr. Reality Steve

“Reader Emails,”& “Dr. Reality Steve”

Hi Steve! Did the producers ship Chris’ Harley all the way to California, or did they provide another one for him in LA?

Also, Whitney’s voice isn’t as bad as you warned us, but thanks for the heads-up!

Comment: I have no idea.

And yes it is.

Hey Steve,

Looking forward to reading your recaps this season!

Any word on why they require a paid TV subscription to watch the episode prior to 8 days after? I know they changed it a year or two ago but it doesn’t make sense why they do that when you can watch it for free on live TV. I haven’t noticed any of the other major networks doing this.


Comment: I can’t remember the reasoning, but a lot of the other major networks are doing it.

All I have to say is: …

Scratch that – I have numerous things to say now that I’ve watched the entire thing…

1. Nikki got a boob job, right? Yes.

2. First impression rose – it was so wilted and the petals were falling off! You’d think they would have taken care of that. At least pluck them off. Chris Harrison mentioned in his blog they replaced the one Britt was originally given by the time the rose ceremony rolled around.

3. The tears in the previews. ..oh the tears…make me smile…That’s what makes this show go.

4. In the previews, there was a shot where one of the girls (not sure who) was totally making out with Chris’ nose. It was awesome. I may have hit “rewind” a few times…I’d bet money that you did too.

Can’t wait for more regular posts from you. Thanks for the fun. 🙂

Comment: That was Ashley I., the virgin. Maybe that’s why it looks like she’s in 5th grade having her first make out session. The funny thing is as she’s eating his nose, she says “I could seriously kiss you all night.” I’m guessing Chris was thinking in his head, “Ummm, not like that you’re not.” That was bizarre.

Does Chris sleep with Kaitlyn after she enters the tent with him? The promo eluded to it.

Comment: The promos elude to a lot of things that never happen every single season. This one is no different. No, Chris didn’t sleep with Kaitlyn in the tent.

I saw Chris on Kimmel. He said within 24 hours, he was back on a combine. Why no time with the final lady? Or did she stay at the farm? He might’ve said it, but it doesn’t necessarily mean he meant it.

Also, I am positive Nick was invited by producers to come to the red carpet event, but Andi & Josh didn’t want him there….just a little FYI.

Looking forward to your blog today.

Comment: He was and they did.

Here’s a play on this year’s split entrance where the first 15 girls thought they were the only ones until the other group showed up.

Two separate houses, each holding 15 girls, neither house knowing anything about the other house until “the merge”. Final five girls in each house think they are it until… “the most dramatic episode ever” when they head off to a new location only to discover the other group! Holy fireworks and cat fights Batman!

Comment: Logistically it’d be impossible and there’s no way each group wouldn’t find out about the others. But it was a good effort.

Does Chris tell producers what he’s looking for or did producers have less to pick from because who would want to move to a farm in Iowa? The lead has zero say in the contestants chosen for them. They tell producers what they’re looking for in a woman, and then casting decides who will make the best television show. If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it 1,000 times: This show is not casting 25 (or in this case 30) of the most compatible people for the lead. They’re casting for a television show. Always remember that.

This is the worst batch of women I have seen since Ben’s season. Not that we’re talking about a bunch of Einsteins who sign up for the show, but they all seem dumber than rocks and they all speak with the same annoying speech pattern Desiree has–what we used to call the “Valley Girl”. And Chris is excited about the “beautiful, intelligent women” he gets to pick from this season? Really?!? If this is what Chris is looking for he’s definitely not the catch the last season made him out to be. He’s gone down several notches in my book. What a trashy group of women. This is the second season after Ben’s I will not watch. YUCK!

Comment: Funny you say that. Before I went on the air Tuesday morning with the Kidd Kraddick Morning Show talking with producers. One of the people who worked on the show specifically told me, “I think this is the hottest group of women this show has ever had.” And not two seconds later, another one said, “No way. I think two girls are good looking.” See what I mean? Everyone has their preferences. You might think they’re all ugly and the worst cast ever, yet 7.7 million people didn’t seem to mind on Monday night. So unfortunately, because you’re not gonna tune in for the next 10 Monday’s, they don’t care. Millions of others will.

Hey Steve,

How does Chris (or any bachelor/bachelorette) remember the 20-some names during the rose ceremony the very first night?

Is there a list he’s reading off of that we don’t see or does he have to memorize it before they film? I can’t imagine he remembers all their names.

Thanks – love your site!

Comment: Oh boy. Dontcha’ love “Reader Emails” being back so we can start back with questions like these that have been answered a billion times before?

The lead does 3 or 4 names at a time, then leaves to go back to talk to production, then comes out again and does another 3 to 4 names. Of course no one can remember that many names on the first night, hence the reason they take breaks in between.


I’m very happy that you’re back. You have the best site out there. I have a question about Jade. I assumed that Chris’ sisters read your site, and warned Chris about Jade’s past, but you said the other day that his sisters actually choose Jade for the Cinderella date. My question is how and when does Chris find out what Jade has done in the past, and is that the reason why he’s going to send her home?

Comment: Good question. The Jade date happens in the first four episodes, which would’ve been in the beginning of October in real time. I didn’t report and post the pictures of Jade in Playboy until the Wednesday, Nov. 5th column, which happened to be one day before the final four rose ceremony when she was eliminated. Coincidence? I don’t know.

Hey RS,

Couple questions for you:

1. Why are Sean and Jason the only former Bachelors that come back to these events like last night? I understand why not Juan Pablo, but I’m just curious why the others really don’t come back. Jason and Sean are the only Bachelors in their franchise’s history that married someone from the show. Could have something to do with it.

2. Which girls would you predict from Chris go on Bachelor in Paradise? Geez. I need more time on this one. But off the top of my head, I could see Jade, Kaitlyn, Carly, Ashley S., Nikki, and a few others being on it. If BIP is gonna keep the same format and have 30 or so contestants showing up, then basically anyone from Chris’ season is fair game and has a shot. Remember, Lacy got eliminated night 1 of Juan Pablo’s season and got cast on BIP, so anyone can basically make it.

3. Do you think there’s a possibility that they pull an Emily and have Clare be the next Bachelorette? They just seem to be promoting her still.

Comment: No.


You missed the most entertaining part of last nights show. When Chris H was interviewing Lacy and Marcus he asked them about a wedding date and Lacys answer was that they were 80/40 on the date. WHAT??? We had to rewind the DVR to make sure we heard right. I knew she was an airhead but 80/40? Seriously? My husband and I laughed our asses off and all decisions made today have been answered using the 80/40 system. HA!

Comment: Lacy did that on purpose. She said 80/40 on “Bachelor in Paradise” and Twitter just about exploded on her before. She’s referenced it since then on Twitter so she’s basically just making fun of herself.

Hi Steve,

I was hoping you would address today the stuff shown in the promo last night. They made it seem like some real frisky stuff was going on in that tent between Kaitlyn and Chris. It seemed like the girls confronted him about it and that he felt bad, etc. I doubt Chris would go that far on camera and be openly disrespectful to the other girls. So what really did happen there?

Comment: I don’t know what happened. Don’t have that spoiler yet. But whatever it is, I can guarantee you it’s not nearly as big a deal as the promo is making it out to be. That’s what promos are for. To get people talking. They always over deliver and under perform. It’s never NOT been the case.

Hey Steve- long time reader, first time to email with a question!

In one of your earlier posts you said that you were double checking on a few other reasons production might be after Britt for the next Bachelorette. I was just wondering if you had heard anything more about these and if it is too early to share these with readers? I realize it’s soon but it is interesting since she seems to be everyone’s favorite girl (at least for the time being). Thanks for the great posts- the show wouldn’t be the same without you!

Comment: Thank you for remembering that. No, I haven’t been able to get confirmation of it. I think it’s true, but I don’t want to run with it yet until I know for sure. I need it double and triple sourced.

Hi Steve,

Happy New Year!

So excited that the new season is starting up – means me & my girlfriends get our regular wine night back! 🙂

Would love it if you had some info to clarify some of the things that we were all discussing while watching, mostly from the season previews:

1. Who got in the tent with Chris & what did they do? Kaitlyn is the one sneaking into the tent. I’m sure they just made out.

2. What happened to Kelsey – from the scene where she’s on the ground crying, with the medic? I don’t know.

3. What does Chris do that all the girls seem to have instances of being mad/needing to forgive him for?

Comment: I don’t know that either. I’ll try and find out. But like I said, I don’t think it’s nearly as big a deal as the show is making it.

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  1. angelfish

    January 8, 2015 at 11:57 AM

    Whitney’s tweet is cute. Proves she either has a decent sense of humor, or a little snark in her soul. Good for her either way.

    I’m a little confused on how Chris’ sisters would have gotten the “Jade is a Playboy-posing skank” info to him, unless they learned it from her during the makeover. Or did they just not like her & tell him to ditch her?

    Too cold here in Florida to make sense of it, my brain is freezing…*LOL*

  2. lcs85

    January 8, 2015 at 12:02 PM

    Just went and looked at episode one exit interviews from seasons 14-Current. Season 14 was the only other season where it was light outside during the exit interviews. Season 15 looked like the sun was just about to come out and 16-18 it was still dark out.

    So no Steve, your readers don’t have short term memories. It is not like that every season.

  3. rob22

    January 8, 2015 at 1:38 PM

    angelfish: yeah, I’m not sure either. The F4 Rose Ceremony is right after home towns. So, Chris would have been in THEIR home towns and wouldn’t have seen his family, right? I’m a little unclear whether The Bachelor is kept in total radio silence during the process (no cell phones, or at least monitored conversations), or whether (if there is radio silence) that eases for the F4/F3 as everyone is back state side. So, I gather what RS is saying is that a family member/friend could have called Chris after RS published the Jade pics/vids and told him that Jade is twirling her landing strip on camera…. and presumably that convo caused Chris to dump her.

  4. kokopuff2144

    January 8, 2015 at 2:21 PM

    Oh Steve, either you knew this was coming or you called it exactly right: Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray have split. Saw it coming, especially Monday night when she was groping all over him and his body language wanted out of there ASAP. Good call!

  5. angelfish

    January 8, 2015 at 2:55 PM

    And all the Nick Viall fans are dancing in the streets!

  6. bazooka

    January 8, 2015 at 3:44 PM

    Thank you @lcs85

  7. juicylipz29

    January 8, 2015 at 4:14 PM

    I knew they were not gonna last …and that interview they did on the red carpet had so many red flags. Next please

  8. missannmcd

    January 8, 2015 at 5:16 PM

    I had a look at some of Jade’s photos and is it me or does anyone else think her vajay jay looks well used and even saggy? lol I’m over 50 and mine looks a lot prettier than that! rofl!

  9. lcs85

    January 8, 2015 at 7:25 PM

    @Missannmcd Not all vulvas look alike. Some labia minoras are longer then the labia majoria. It has nothing to do with the amount of sex you’ve had. If that was the case I would think most 50 year olds would Be saggy.

    Although I would think most 50 year olds are mature enough to use correct terminology for their body parts

  10. Dianne

    January 9, 2015 at 10:23 AM’s official. Andi and Josh are done, done and done. Amazing how they kept it looking all hunky-dory on Monday, then 3 days later..boom!

  11. keddo

    January 9, 2015 at 10:51 AM

    Last (3rd) Dr. Reality Steve letter writer:

    Your request for complete honesty at all costs, including his thoughts about his romantic interest in other women was a completely bad idea. A much better request to make is that he never lie to you and that he never intentionally misleads you. If the two of you attend a Bible-preaching church, you know that all of us are by nature sinners and the only way for an otherwise mentally healthy Christian to make significant progress in fighting that is to regularly be in His Word and in prayer. THAT is the place for us to confess our temptations, especially if they don’t lead to an outward expression. It may also help for us to talk to a mature fellow Christian (of a gender that we are not romantically/sexually attracted to) to help us deal with this.

    People who have been happily married for years or even decades still find themselves attracted to people other than their spouses. This is completely natural and is not in and of itself sinful. Sometimes this is fleeting, and sometimes it can be an attraction to a particular person that lasts for years. The key to dealing with this while remaining faithful is to NOT dwell on these thoughts when they happen, and to NEVER let these thoughts lead to an external expression that either the spouse or the object of attraction are aware of. To do otherwise at best leads to the kind of angst that you are experiencing, and at worst leads to infidelity and everything that flows out of that. By asking him about his attractions, you are forcing him to remember those feelings and to dwell on them, and are placing a stumbling block in front of his feet.

  12. rob22

    January 9, 2015 at 12:22 PM

    Agree with all on Andi and Josh. Josh is not a very good actor. He was clearly uncomfortable and wanted to be somewhere else. While Andi, who also knew they were already done, was able to fake it up big, just like she did in her season. Boy, she really turned out to be a manipulative phony. It made for good TV during her season, but I’ll bet Josh had more than enough of it. Off camera I imagine she’d be intolerable. A phony, lawyer, wanna be celeb. If that not the holy trinity of awfulness, I don’t know what is.

  13. rob22

    January 9, 2015 at 12:27 PM

    As for Chris, I think he’s a decent guy, but just because he Has money, that doesn’t mean he’s super sharp. He looked completely befuddled repeatedly on night one. I suspect this will be a theme throughout the show. He’s in way over his head. I don’t really mean this in a bad way. To really own the moment you have to be a straight up phony like Andi. He’s not that. I think he really believes he’ll find a wife and I hope he and Whitney will be very happy together.

  14. missannmcd

    January 9, 2015 at 7:32 PM

    cs85 All I can say is ROFL! Yeah, like I’m gonna go around saying “labia minora” and “labia majoria”! Bwahahaha! Well, the proper naming for

  15. lcs85

    January 9, 2015 at 8:16 PM

    @Missannmcd I was commenting on the fact that you needed to call it a “Vajay jay”. Seems like something a teenager who can’t say the proper name without giggling would say.

    But then I also wouldn’t think a 50 year old would be slut shaming someone over something they can’t control. By 50 you probably have had enough sex to realize that your “vajay jay” doesn’t get saggy and stretched out from.

  16. cjscjs711

    January 9, 2015 at 8:43 PM

    Looking at those pictures of Jade makes me feel sad for her that she did this. I think it’s going to close more doors for her than it will open because I don’t think she’s very good at this. Granted, the photographer may not be the best, not very good, but she herself is not sexy at all in most of them. Looks very posed, forced, and canned.

  17. Sunnyside422

    January 11, 2015 at 8:42 AM

    Bet despite his adoration of Andi, bet Josh and and his family just could not get passed her “test driving” Nick as well as Josh. Not a supporter of all three of them, so not surprised they failed…and even sooner than those media hounds Juanny and his now former big boobed idiot girlfriend!

    Agree that even though Chris may be wealthy, his family has the money also so he may not be the sharpest knife in the box. Definitely picked the most unattractive girl out of all he had to choose from.

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