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Do you know when exactly Des and Chris are getting married? Chris Harrison didnt specify and just said in a couple weeks. And did you buy them a wedding gift since they ‘made’ it?

Comment: Yes, Chris Harrison on Monday did say a couple weeks. So if he’s accurate, I’m guessing it’s Jan. 17th.

Thank you for emailing me that. I had totally forgotten, but once I read your email, I did a little search, found where they were registered, and bought their gift(s) last night. It’ll be arriving in 3-6 days according to the shipping email I received. I’m a man of my word.

Hi Steve,

So glad you’re back to cover the new season! I have a few questions:

1. Some time ago, you said that the lead is asked to pick the Final Four during the first week so that the crew can build the storyline. But how set in stone is the Final Four? What if the lead changes his mind? What if one of the Final Four decides to leave (which I’m guessing is what happened with Sharlene on JP’s season)? And is the Final Four entirely decided by the lead, or do the producers have a say? I never said the lead is asked to pick his final four on the first night. I said the lead pretty much knows who they like after the first night and who’s gonna go far. Can things change? Sure. But they rarely do.

2. In your last column, you basically said that there are some girls who are there for filler who the lead doesn’t have a chance to talk to, even if he wants to. For reals? What if the lead really likes one of these girls? Do these girls know they are the filler? And are they dumped into the filler category because they’re not seen as “good TV”? The lead can’t possibly like all 25 people. Doesn’t happen. Casting knows pretty well when they select these people who’s going to last long and who isn’t.

3. What DOES the lead get to decide, anyways — versus what the producers get to decide?

Comment: Not a whole hell of a lot. They don’t decide on dates and locations, that’s for sure. They tell producers things they like to do and places they like to go, & then producers plan accordingly. They’ll even ask the lead, “Who do you know you want to send home” and that person might end up on a 1-on-1 where they leave, or even a 2-on-1. Nothing spontaneous really happens on this show. Producers pretty much know what’s going to happen at all times. Did they know Juan Pablo was going to dump Clare and pick Nikki? Absolutely. Did they know exactly what was gonna come spewing out of Clare’s mouth once she was dumped? Not really. But they knew she’d be upset.

Hey Steve,

A couples questions:

What was up with Michelle Money’s comment about hearing that Britt doesn’t shower? I love Michelle and am a huge fan, but it just seemed to fall a bit flat if it was a joke. Michelle has addressed this on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. Apparently this is a running joke in the house and we will see it in the next few episodes. Britt is very well aware of it and even took to her Instagram account (brittkarolina) to acknowledge it.

Did you see Chris Bukowski’s tweet about Sarah Herron being the next Bachelorette? I love Britt so far and believe it will be her, but was wondering if this was anything like the Arie situation this past year.

Thanks so much and keep writing!

Comment: Sarah Herron is not going to be the “Bachelorette.”

Hey Steve,

I record the Bachelor and watch it later to skip the many commercials. Does recording the show count in the ratings? Everyone I know does this. I’m sure it’s a common practice.

Comment: In the ratings that come out the very next day that I put in my column? No. But there are DVR +3 and DVR +7 ratings breakdowns that advertisers look into. As long as a show is watched within 7 days of being recorded, it counts. But since we’re a need-our-info-now society, people aren’t going to wait a week to get the true ratings of a show. So they have the overnights, which come out mid-morning the next day, and then those are adjusted accordingly throughout the week when DVR playback is measured in.

Just some random thoughts. No reply necessary.

Is Chris Harrison’s nose getting more crooked as he gets older? His nose looks different that in photos that I could find from 2006. He could be a convincing Witch next Halloween.

If you go back to Nikki’s interview, check out Zak in the background. He turns his head several times to look at Nikki. He either wanted to “hit” that or he couldn’t take his eyes off of her new boobs (…or to make sure he was still in the shot). The way Courtney Robinson was touching Zak, to have him follow her, I think he ended up “hitting” that one. Zak just got engaged over Xmas break, so I wouldn’t think he’d try and hit either of those that night.

Britt is attractive, but wouldn’t ABC want someone with a more appealing job to be the next Bachelorette. What guy (who wants to be on television) is going to say, “Yeah, I’m wanna marry a WAITRESS!” I know Chris is a farmer, but he’s a MILLIONAIRE farmer. Haven’t the Leads had pretty successful jobs? (Well, except Emily, but she has inherited NASCAR money.) It’s a fair point. But did Ali really have a job? She’d left hers.

Saw Lesley Murphy in the background. Either ABC flew her in from South America or she stayed over from visiting her family for the holidays. If the former, nice show budget. (Lesley’s sister still lives in LA so she had a place to stay.)

Guess those women from The Bachelor’s hometown couldn’t drive an hour to Waterloo, IA to spruce up for TV. Bad haircuts and unfashionable statement necklaces from Wal-Mart (guessing). The woman who was a few years behind Chris in school looked 10 years older than him. (I’m from a small town too, but I would drive 45 minutes to Tulsa to shop for clothes and have a cut/color appointment with someone who has an actual cosmotology degree.)

Did you notice that Erica Rose has gained weight? (insert moment of schadenfraude here)

Thanks for reading!

Is there a reason Des and Chris’s wedding is not airing on TV? I find it odd that they wouldn’t want to if ABC offered it – and If ABC didn’t offer it, that’s even more odd since they’ve done a special for every other lead that’s got married.

Comment: I don’t think ABC is going to be airing any more weddings, no matter who the couple is. I think they realize there’s only so much you can do with a 2 hour wedding episode, and they basically end up all being the same. A lot of work to put in for very little payoff. They’ve done 4 of them now, they’re all pretty much the same thing, and I think they just have no interest anymore.

Any idea what the tattoo says on taras back? Thanks. Keep up great work.

Comment: I don’t have 100% confirmation on this, but I think it says “Drink like a fish. I do. On national TV.”

First of all, maybe you can refer to Chris Harrison as CH? Just a thought. Or just Host Chris as I’ve done in the past.

Next, I somehow was totally oblivious to Nikki and tuned her out. Can you post a before and after pic? I did in Tuesday’s column. Here it is again:

Finally, and most importantly, to help me keep track, would you consider posting the group photo and X’ing out their faces as the weeks progress? There are too damn many women and many of them look alike. Whitney and Britt were the only ones I could keep straight: annoying voice and the pretty one.

That’s all. Enjoy your column and listening to you on the KKMS.

Comment: I’ve never done the group photo thing. Not seeing the benefit of it. I think once the numbers start dwindling down, you’ll start to catch on. Yes, 22 women (Or 23 since Kimberly comes back next episode) is hard to do, but just realize, pretty much most of them are irrelevant. Whitney, Kaitlyn, Becca, Carly, Jade, Britt, Kelsey, and Ashley I. are probably your most important girls this season to keep an eye on. Crazy Ashley S. and Tara are the “early season” train wrecks as well. Not too many other make much of an impression.

Any chance you think they might consider Nikki as the next bachelorette? She’s irritating, but they sure did play her up for a while on that pre-show segment… Granted it was just to get her to talk sh*t about JP, but her nice new boobs would look great on America’s screens, right?
Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re excellent.

Comment: Could they consider her? Sure. I’m sure they consider a lot of things. But will she get it? I highly doubt it.

This email was sent yesterday morning…


I have been a fan for years! You’re the best!

I am missing your weekly updates for the bachelor. Hope you can update us soon

Comment: Ummmm….

Hi Steve,

My question for you is regarding Andi and Josh….. Something about the two of them when they are on camera is just off. They both are trying to hard to look happy, and in love. In the past you had alluded to the fact that neither of them made mention of Josh’s brothers engagement. Do you know if there was any drama with Andi and the Murray family behind the scenes? For a while, on her twitter or Instagram, all you saw was pictures with her family, yet just recently some with the Murrays have started to pop up. Just seems odd, especially because of the way Josh had described his relationship with his brother while on the show. Keep up the great work, love the site.

Comment: There’s a better than great chance those two are never getting married.

One of my questions from watching the premiere is where were des and chris? I know they mentioned them getting married but it surprises me that they wouldn’t be there. I know abc is not televising the wedding but has there been a falling out between the two sides?

Comment: Des & Chris were part of the New Year’s Day float. Also, them along with Jason & Molly are hosting viewing parties at a restaurant in Seattle every Monday night. So that pretty much nixed any chance of the four of them being in LA Monday night.

Hey RS…love the site. I emailed you a few times last year to fill you in on what a message board was saying about Andi & Josh (remember I told you someone had listed like 60 reasons why Andi was with Nick? Haha that one). Well there back again, and already questioning you. A few on there think you’re wrong about Whitney and Chris is with Becca. Here’s something they wrote (I think it was the same person as last season!):

Becca is especially interesting… and mysterious. We are informed by the popcorn gallery that he is “looking her over from head to toe”.

… She gets a ton of commentary by others, but hardly speaks on screen herself, unless responding to others in conversation or joining the Greek Chorus detailing Tara’s drunk fest.

Whitney seems particularly bothered by her (in the way they edit her comments over Becca’s face) because she is personally “nervous about all of the beautiful women here” and obviously senses Chris is smitten by her appearance. This is despite the fact that we don’t see them together at all in this episode past the limo arrival and have no clue of what they talked about or did when together.
… last season, Chris and Andi discussed with the older couple in Santa Anita that “sometimes you just kinda know”. During the ceremony, Chris fusses about making the mistake of sending somebody home that he should keep, but over footage of Becca, he says “some people you kinda know”. This clearly works in her favor as a frontrunner. He also says over Becca, either positively or negatively (depending how you interpret such baffling lines): “I want to make sure I get this as right a possible”.

I know you’ll dismiss it because you say he’s engaged to Whitney, but just wanted to show you how these people have no lives and will dissect anything to try and prove you wrong. All they do is talk about you and what you write, it’s crazy I tell ya’! Looking forward to you proving them wrong.

Comment: Awesome. Let them think he picks Becca. They’ll be wrong. Again. They don’t know what I know and how I know it. Let them dissect whatever they want til they’re blue in the face. I don’t care. Chris is engaged to Whitney.

Hey Steve,

Love your site! I love your sense of sarcasm!

Quick question, I just read that Cody and Michelle Money split, what happened? Do you know the inside scoop? They looked like such a great, happy couple…


From a loyal fan!

Comment: They looked like such a great, happy couple because why? She tweeted and Instagrammed it for what seemed like every day once “Bachelor in Paradise” was over? Don’t read so much into social media sometimes. Stuff like that means nothing. In fact, as I’ve always said, the more a couple has to tweet and post photos of how in love they are, the more I tend not to believe them and they’re just trying to convince everyone they are. ESPECIALLY couples from this franchise. We’ve seen it time and time and time again.

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  1. angelfish

    January 8, 2015 at 11:57 AM

    Whitney’s tweet is cute. Proves she either has a decent sense of humor, or a little snark in her soul. Good for her either way.

    I’m a little confused on how Chris’ sisters would have gotten the “Jade is a Playboy-posing skank” info to him, unless they learned it from her during the makeover. Or did they just not like her & tell him to ditch her?

    Too cold here in Florida to make sense of it, my brain is freezing…*LOL*

  2. lcs85

    January 8, 2015 at 12:02 PM

    Just went and looked at episode one exit interviews from seasons 14-Current. Season 14 was the only other season where it was light outside during the exit interviews. Season 15 looked like the sun was just about to come out and 16-18 it was still dark out.

    So no Steve, your readers don’t have short term memories. It is not like that every season.

  3. rob22

    January 8, 2015 at 1:38 PM

    angelfish: yeah, I’m not sure either. The F4 Rose Ceremony is right after home towns. So, Chris would have been in THEIR home towns and wouldn’t have seen his family, right? I’m a little unclear whether The Bachelor is kept in total radio silence during the process (no cell phones, or at least monitored conversations), or whether (if there is radio silence) that eases for the F4/F3 as everyone is back state side. So, I gather what RS is saying is that a family member/friend could have called Chris after RS published the Jade pics/vids and told him that Jade is twirling her landing strip on camera…. and presumably that convo caused Chris to dump her.

  4. kokopuff2144

    January 8, 2015 at 2:21 PM

    Oh Steve, either you knew this was coming or you called it exactly right: Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray have split. Saw it coming, especially Monday night when she was groping all over him and his body language wanted out of there ASAP. Good call!

  5. angelfish

    January 8, 2015 at 2:55 PM

    And all the Nick Viall fans are dancing in the streets!

  6. bazooka

    January 8, 2015 at 3:44 PM

    Thank you @lcs85

  7. juicylipz29

    January 8, 2015 at 4:14 PM

    I knew they were not gonna last …and that interview they did on the red carpet had so many red flags. Next please

  8. missannmcd

    January 8, 2015 at 5:16 PM

    I had a look at some of Jade’s photos and is it me or does anyone else think her vajay jay looks well used and even saggy? lol I’m over 50 and mine looks a lot prettier than that! rofl!

  9. lcs85

    January 8, 2015 at 7:25 PM

    @Missannmcd Not all vulvas look alike. Some labia minoras are longer then the labia majoria. It has nothing to do with the amount of sex you’ve had. If that was the case I would think most 50 year olds would Be saggy.

    Although I would think most 50 year olds are mature enough to use correct terminology for their body parts

  10. Dianne

    January 9, 2015 at 10:23 AM’s official. Andi and Josh are done, done and done. Amazing how they kept it looking all hunky-dory on Monday, then 3 days later..boom!

  11. keddo

    January 9, 2015 at 10:51 AM

    Last (3rd) Dr. Reality Steve letter writer:

    Your request for complete honesty at all costs, including his thoughts about his romantic interest in other women was a completely bad idea. A much better request to make is that he never lie to you and that he never intentionally misleads you. If the two of you attend a Bible-preaching church, you know that all of us are by nature sinners and the only way for an otherwise mentally healthy Christian to make significant progress in fighting that is to regularly be in His Word and in prayer. THAT is the place for us to confess our temptations, especially if they don’t lead to an outward expression. It may also help for us to talk to a mature fellow Christian (of a gender that we are not romantically/sexually attracted to) to help us deal with this.

    People who have been happily married for years or even decades still find themselves attracted to people other than their spouses. This is completely natural and is not in and of itself sinful. Sometimes this is fleeting, and sometimes it can be an attraction to a particular person that lasts for years. The key to dealing with this while remaining faithful is to NOT dwell on these thoughts when they happen, and to NEVER let these thoughts lead to an external expression that either the spouse or the object of attraction are aware of. To do otherwise at best leads to the kind of angst that you are experiencing, and at worst leads to infidelity and everything that flows out of that. By asking him about his attractions, you are forcing him to remember those feelings and to dwell on them, and are placing a stumbling block in front of his feet.

  12. rob22

    January 9, 2015 at 12:22 PM

    Agree with all on Andi and Josh. Josh is not a very good actor. He was clearly uncomfortable and wanted to be somewhere else. While Andi, who also knew they were already done, was able to fake it up big, just like she did in her season. Boy, she really turned out to be a manipulative phony. It made for good TV during her season, but I’ll bet Josh had more than enough of it. Off camera I imagine she’d be intolerable. A phony, lawyer, wanna be celeb. If that not the holy trinity of awfulness, I don’t know what is.

  13. rob22

    January 9, 2015 at 12:27 PM

    As for Chris, I think he’s a decent guy, but just because he Has money, that doesn’t mean he’s super sharp. He looked completely befuddled repeatedly on night one. I suspect this will be a theme throughout the show. He’s in way over his head. I don’t really mean this in a bad way. To really own the moment you have to be a straight up phony like Andi. He’s not that. I think he really believes he’ll find a wife and I hope he and Whitney will be very happy together.

  14. missannmcd

    January 9, 2015 at 7:32 PM

    cs85 All I can say is ROFL! Yeah, like I’m gonna go around saying “labia minora” and “labia majoria”! Bwahahaha! Well, the proper naming for

  15. lcs85

    January 9, 2015 at 8:16 PM

    @Missannmcd I was commenting on the fact that you needed to call it a “Vajay jay”. Seems like something a teenager who can’t say the proper name without giggling would say.

    But then I also wouldn’t think a 50 year old would be slut shaming someone over something they can’t control. By 50 you probably have had enough sex to realize that your “vajay jay” doesn’t get saggy and stretched out from.

  16. cjscjs711

    January 9, 2015 at 8:43 PM

    Looking at those pictures of Jade makes me feel sad for her that she did this. I think it’s going to close more doors for her than it will open because I don’t think she’s very good at this. Granted, the photographer may not be the best, not very good, but she herself is not sexy at all in most of them. Looks very posed, forced, and canned.

  17. Sunnyside422

    January 11, 2015 at 8:42 AM

    Bet despite his adoration of Andi, bet Josh and and his family just could not get passed her “test driving” Nick as well as Josh. Not a supporter of all three of them, so not surprised they failed…and even sooner than those media hounds Juanny and his now former big boobed idiot girlfriend!

    Agree that even though Chris may be wealthy, his family has the money also so he may not be the sharpest knife in the box. Definitely picked the most unattractive girl out of all he had to choose from.

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