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The Bachelor 19 - Chris

The “Bachelor” Chris Episode 5 Recap Including the “Women Tell All” Taping & When Does the “Bachelorette” Begin Filming

-Britt’s date starts with Chris walking into her room at 4:30 in the morning and waking her up. In his blog this morning he said what they didn’t show was that Chris woke all the girls up that morning, not just Britt. Britt is in full makeup and Carly lets us know that Britt sleeps in full makeup every night. Chris Harrison even stated this as well in his blog today. While it’s definitely weird, I can see why a woman would do that on this show. Maybe she’s just very vain and doesn’t want to look like walking death in case cameras wake her up early in the morning. It worked to her advantage that morning. I’m guessing she did it while she was just on the show, because from what I hear, there’s no way you could do that every day of your life and still have skin like that. So she did it for a couple weeks in the event that she wouldn’t get caught on camera looking horrid. Granted, no one else did it that we can remember, but another thing that seems to be being made a bigger deal out of than it should be. Once again, Chris didn’t seem to have a problem being around her as they sucked face all day long.

-How come when Carly and Britt were reading her date card, she was joking about how Britt needed to shower and shave for her date? But when Britt was woken up by Chris, Carly took it out on Britt and all the sudden it wasn’t so funny she slept in makeup? Why would Carly even be mad at Britt for that? Shouldn’t her attention be to Chris and it being rude of him to wake up Britt and kiss her in front of the others? Nothing against Carly, but since the response after episode 1 was so positive towards Britt and now after an episode where they make jokes about her showering habits and makeup issues, everyone seems to be Team Carly. Yet the Team Carly people aren’t saying how bitchy that was for her to take it out on Britt when clearly, she can’t control Chris coming to wake her up. Anyone can make any argument for any girl they like and point out things in others they don’t. Just be objective about it. Andi was the “Bachelorette” and PLENTY of people thought she came across as a giant bitch when she confronted Juan Pablo the morning after the overnight dates. Didn’t ruin her chances. But a joke about Britt’s showering habits which are obviously being exaggerated and all the sudden there’s no way they could put her as the lead? Not making much sense. But hey, still a few weeks to go. We’ll see.

-Britt and Chris begin their day and he takes her to a hot air balloon ride. I’m not afraid of heights so I’m not sure how this works, but, the day before Britt started crying just at the thought of having to be up somewhere high, but at no point did she look scared or nervous about the hot air balloon ride. Seems to me that’d be about heights, but maybe since there’s more of a security involved with it, it makes it easier. Hell if I know. Can you be afraid of heights yet be excited about a hot air balloon ride? Or did she just suck it up for the date because it was with Chris and was really up there pissing her pants? What I do know is that when I was watching this date, I didn’t know what I was more mortified of: Britt sleeping in makeup, or, Chris’ giant runaway zit on his temple. That thing had it’s own zip code if I’m not mistaken. Hey, maybe Chris slept in his makeup last night too.

-While Chris and Britt are hot air ballooning, the girls back at the hotel are gossiping about her. Ashley said that Britt told them that she loved being single and that she wasn’t in any rush to get married or have kids.” A conversation that we never heard so we don’t know if it was actually said, but hey, lets consider the source. Ashley makes drama out of everything. Britt did take to Instagram last night to address it, and judging from her post, it certainly looks like Ashley made it up or heard wrong:


So there’s both sides of it. Ashley says she said it. She responded last night basically insinuating she didn’t. Jade chimed in “I think she’s just telling him what he wants to hear.” Now that is probably true. Why? Because EVERY person who goes on this show is basically telling the lead what they want to hear every episode. If you don’t, you go home. That’s how the show works.

-After the hot air balloon, Britt got to go back to Chris’ room to talk about life stuff and make out on the bed. And oh yeah, she wants 100 kids. 100. The little old lady who lived in the shoe and the Duggar family thinks that might be a bit much, Britt. So does your uterus. But hey you wanna pop out one hundo, be my guest. These two have basically been making out all day and that was in a cramped, uncomfortable hot air balloon shared with some other dude right next to them. Now they are by themselves on a bed. I’m guessing they did a little more of it. Now of course, I got plenty of emails last night asking if Chris slept with her in the room because we see him closing the double doors. But nothing in that shot showed Britt actually still in the room when he did that. She could’ve been long gone. But since this show is draped in sexual innuendo, of course they’re gonna show you Chris’ closing the bedroom doors right after a scene of them making out on the bed. But there was no evidence she was actually still in the room, and my guess is she wasn’t. Just a shot to get so that people will just assume some freaky deeky was going on in there.

-When Britt returned after her date, she immediately started talking about it. “We ordered room service, dessert, drank some coffee, then took a nap. We were in there for a couple hours.” No harm, no foul. We’ve heard worse from girls that came back from their date in the past and started blabbing. Hell, Mackenzie told everyone how many times she kissed Chris during their alone time. What Britt said seemed pretty harmless. But, since all of America has apparently turned on Britt now, every sentence out of her mouth is something that’ll be dissected to be negative. Comes with the territory. Whatever she said immediately set Kelsey off and now she’s starting to go into full on creeper mode. “Britt’s date diminished the importance of my relationship with him.” Wait, huh? The relationship that basically none of us have seen? The relationship that’s constituted you only being on group dates thus far and being the only one left besides Samantha and Becca not to have kissed him yet? That relationship? Oh, gotcha. Makes total sense.

-Which then brings us to what everyone has been talking about since last night, and that’s Kelsey telling Chris the story of her husband who died. The particular comment that has everyone talking is after she tells Chris her story, we see her in an ITM saying, “Isn’t my story amazing. Tragic, but amazing. I love my story.” Which of course has everyone as Kelsey as the conductor on the Cray Crazy Train right now. And rightfully so. Now, by no means am I defending Kelsey because she chose to go on the show and open herself up to all the comments being flung her way on social media now, BUT, read this email I got this morning from a reader giving a different perspective on what Kelsey said last night:

“Hi Steve,

Love your work! I’m thrilled that you separated Reader Emails and Dr. Reality Steve AND have now added a Monday preview because it gives us two more days a week to look forward to your writing and opinions.

My qualm this week, as I’m sure it is for many others, is about Kelsey. Something seems off about the way they have edited her, and as we know, people hardly come off as authentic on the show as they are in real life. Perhaps I just cannot accept that someone would so boldly use their story to their advantage and make it that obvious. Rather, I choose to believe an alternative perspective:

Last week, I was surprised but also pleased with some of Kelsey’s comments on the group date. That lake really wasn’t the most impressive body of water they could have gone to (prompting Kelsey’s “hellhole”) remark, and truth be told, many would feel as if they are not the “luckiest girls in the world” to have to vie for the same man in front of millions of people. To me, Kelsey seemed as if she just didn’t want to put on the rose-coloured glasses that the other contestants unquestioningly wear, and she spoke some truths.

This week, I feel like the producers got those comments out of her by egging her on to tell her story. They could have been telling her that she has a really great story, and that if she doesn’t tell Chris now, she may get eliminated. What if she had resisted their initial prodding but finally snapped? Her remarks about “isn’t my story amazing? It’s tragic, but amazing” and talking about herself from a third-person perspective as a “broken girl who picks up the pieces on the show” had a tinge of sarcasm to her voice. She could have been mocking what the producers wanted of her, and of all the contestants really, in order to build a drama-filled show. Sure she followed their direction, but she may have been exposing the whole idea behind putting girls with devastating backstories on a show to rouse sympathy. I bet this is not the only season where girls felt as if their stories were “competing” with one another, but this is the only season to directly address the issue. The producers, instead of editing out Kelsey’s seething sarcasm about this process, used it to their advantage to portray her as this crazy monster who makes such cold and calculating remarks. The panic attack as well could have just been her last straw and she’s demonstrating/mocking techniques other girls have used in the past when things don’t go their way (but of course on TV, this just looks like Kelsey’s crazy and begging for attention).

It’s a cynical perspective, and I can see where this hypothesis is flawed, but I’m trying to think critically and not buy what the producers are trying to sell me. Also, even if this hypothesis were true (or half true), I still think she is a little warped. I’d love to hear your take on it, because you have a better understanding of what the producers and editors of the show are capable of.

It’s a very interesting theory and certainly not above the producers to completely edit exactly how she was saying what she did. What this emailer said is perfectly logical. Is that the way it really happened? I don’t know. But it’s so hard to take anything you see on this show at face value, just re-read that email and realize that’s easily what could’ve happened. I’m glad that people are starting to think outside the box when it comes to this show and not just believing every single thing they see on screen. Very good email. I guess we’ll never know if it’s accurate or not, but just like Britt, Kelsey will no doubt have her time on the hot seat at the WTA to explain herself. We’ll get a better idea then.

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  1. caffeinequeen

    February 3, 2015 at 11:50 AM

    Hmmm. A few (unrelated) comments–
    Jade – I don’t know if that’s a legitimate “condition,” but I experience that too in moderately cold conditions. She might have poor circulation or Reynaud’s syndrome. It makes your feet and hands ache when it occurs, and it’s pretty uncomfortable. I assume that in Nebraska she’d be wearing gloves and boots. She didn’t have any protection from the cold in the raft.

    That Carly/Chris date. Jesus. That defines awkward. I actually like her and her sense of humor. I wouldn’t mind seeing her as the bachelorette. I feel like Britt is looking for career advancement more than a husband. Nothing wrong with that, but it doesn’t make her a great potential bachelorette when it seems so obvious.

    Kelsey. She seemed pretty detached, not sarcastic, as the person who emailed suggested. It didn’t seem like great timing to be snogging with Chris after sharing that sobering story…nd then to talk about herself and her amazing story that “she loves,” she comes across as extremely self-involved. That whole ITM was cringe-worthy. The panic attack might be legit, but I just feel like this woman needs to get some counseling.

  2. enndea

    February 3, 2015 at 12:11 PM

    I think the email about producer manipulation is a good one, but I don’t entirely buy it, and here’s why–Kelsey was on Twitter last night basically saying the exact same thing. (“Sander’s death was absolutely devastating, but my finding a way to live through it and my strength to survive is amazing.”) Perhaps she was implying the “amazing” thing about her story is her own strength–but it still is a very odd thing to say about your husbands passing. Especially when followed by “I love my story.” I think there are things you can love about what you learn from an experience like that…..but wow. It seemed cold and a little crazy to me.

  3. nora j

    February 3, 2015 at 1:28 PM

    Maybe the next Bachelorette won’t be from this season? After last night I hope it’s not Britt. Sorry but who wears all that make up to bed? Doesn’t the bright pink lipstick just end up all over her pillow. It’s so weird. She just seems way too immature to be The Bachelorette. And she’s a waitress? Her credentials don’t seem that great.

  4. fcew

    February 3, 2015 at 1:47 PM

    Just an FYI, as a person from New Mexico, I cannot tell you how many times I have been asked the most ignorant questions about New Mexico. “But you’re so white?” (Yup, blonde and blue eyed too!) “Your English is really good!” (Mmmmhmmmm. First language.) “I can’t take a Mexican ID.” (REALLY?! That one was at a mortgage company! In CALIFORNIA.) “Did you have to get a passport to come here?” (I was in Illinois!) “What’s the weather like? You have palm trees right?” (No, New Mexico doesn’t have palm trees, at least as far as I’ve seen. Maybe way down south. And New Mexico experiences all 4 seasons. There are mountains and even SNOW.) Sadly, this behavior from Megan is actually quite typical, and while I laughed as I watched her, I cringed inside. Because stuff like that has happened to me more times than I can count. Whenever people from New Mexico leave the state, it’s expected that people will ask questions or make statements like the ones I described above. Depressingly, in my experience, its people from Texas, Colorado and Arizona that know New Mexico is a state, and it’s people from the Mid West that are really the worst offenders.

    So my go to line has become “It’s a STATE. In the UNITED STATES.” I don’t care if I sound rude. If I have to whip that line out, it’s because you sound uneducated! Go back to third grade!

  5. rob22

    February 3, 2015 at 2:35 PM

    You can say that Britt is getting a bad edit and won’t be the Bachelorette. But, remember Ali? She was edited as the wicked b*tch of the west & bloggers, including RS, were commenting on what an ice queen she was. But, they gave her time on WTA to rehabilitate her image then, voila! She’s the Bachelorette…. and a pretty popular Bachelorette, at that. Andi wasn’t that far off from that & a lawyer to boot (insert lawyer joke here). If you buy what RS is selling…. that the Bachelorette will be someone from the final four & it can’t be Becca (F2 timing & believability issues) or Whitney (F1, taken) & it absolutely won’t be Jade (self promoting nude model/aka not believable as the Bachelorette)…. well, do the math. The WTA will have her rescuing puppies, feeding starving kids and showing off her gourmet cooking skills while showing off the bod that God…. and (mostly) her personal trainer…. gave her. She’ll be fine.

  6. yankees4life

    February 3, 2015 at 2:52 PM

    If Jade has Raynaud’s she was definitely not faking! I have it and my fingers get numb sometimes when it’s 70 degrees out, so falling in ice cold water would definitely do it!

  7. auntiecairo

    February 3, 2015 at 3:30 PM

    The interesting (or disturbing) part about Kelsey’s “amazing” story – is that she makes it about herself. How she’s dealt with it. Everyone deals with grief in a different way — but this woman seems in need of serious counseling — her demeanor was kinda creepy — if it was 48 Hours she’d be a suspect in her husband’s death. At the very least – going on a reality show 18 months after the death of the alleged love of your life – is suspect. Was equally interesting seeing the non-reaction from the other women when Kelsey had her attack. Starting to think this Bachelor would have been better off on …

  8. kims123

    February 3, 2015 at 4:16 PM

    As fcew mentioned earlier, it is not sadly common for people not to know New Mexico is a state. However, I am surprised that RS doesn’t realize that Santa Fe is a world class destination. It is constantly rated one of the top destination cities and the most romantic cities to visit. He has clearly never been there.

  9. arod

    February 3, 2015 at 5:23 PM

    I am very surprised by people hating on Britt. The whole time all I could think was: “there is no way her hair looks that good and people are always hugging her if she doesn’t shower”

    Kelsey… I don’t know. I really want to think editing made her look that way but it just seems her behavior is odd.

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  10. hattiebloom

    February 3, 2015 at 5:55 PM

    Regardless of editing, I decided last night that I don’t want Britt as Bachelorette. I don’t care if she showers once a year, she’s a total phony baloney. I don’t think I could stomach her “who……me???” personality for an entire season.

    Kelsey is a sociopath.

    The End.

  11. gemsnob

    February 3, 2015 at 7:29 PM

    This is in response to Nora from comments above. Don’t you remember Ali Fedowsky? She quit her job and moved out of her apartment to be the bachelorette. I think Britt being a “waitress” trumps “jobless” and homeless”!

  12. elizabeth82

    February 3, 2015 at 7:39 PM

    hattiebloom, I agree.

    Kinda surprised Steve thinks Britt’s “bad edit” only has to do with the stupid showering joke. I guess he really wants her to be The Bachelorette! The real problem with her is that she comes across like she might be acting and just not the most genuine.

  13. myrtlebeachbabe

    February 3, 2015 at 8:49 PM

    There are so many issues with these girls, what a train wreck. Kelsey is a sociopath, her next husband should be worried. Jade is lost, disgustingly fake and has no morals. Ashley I is superficial, immature, and insecure, and lose those lashes, it’s not a good look on you. MacKenzie(?)-21 yr old with son who believes in Aliens, way too immature for Chris, sweet, just too young. You could go on and on with the whole bunch, what a joke. So many cringe worthy moments Chris has to watch unfold. WTA will be a riot to watch. It will be interesting to see who will be the next Bach and who will be in BIP2, more train wrecks coming down the tracks. Such a guilty pleasure watching this scripted show but the manipulation of the girls for ratings is shameful, but as RS states, they signed up for it… It’s a true narcissistic group

  14. bianca

    February 3, 2015 at 9:50 PM

    There’s something off about Brit and I can’t quite figure it out, but it’s clear Steve is all about her cuz he keeps trying to find ways to justify her questionable edit (lol). I was also enamored with her when the season started, but again, as it progresses, I feel there is something not quite right about her. It remains to be seen I suppose…

    As for Kelsey’s ex – I agree with the poster above! Her reaction almost seems fodder for an episode of 48 hours, and I almost wonder if the cause of her husband’s death really might be worth investigating further!

  15. ladyjane747

    February 3, 2015 at 11:33 PM

    Britt is so fake and she ridiculously overreacts to everything. How big can she make her mouth when she’s trying to act surprised or excited? And I’ll bet she has hair extensions. LOL I don’t care if she’s the Bachelorette or not; I don’t have to like the lead (I usually don’t) to be entertained by the show; in fact, it’s almost better if I dislike the lead – more to make fun of!

  16. hattiebloom

    February 4, 2015 at 4:12 AM


    I clicked the link to your blog.

    A). It’s written in the exact same format and feel as Sharleen Joynt’s blog.

    B). Pretty tacky to come on another blogger’s site to promote your own.

  17. melbel1811

    February 4, 2015 at 10:44 AM

    My sister used to work with Kelsey….
    my sis said she’s fake/not genuine. What you saw of her on this episode is her true self!!! NOT AN EDIT. She really is this way in real life!!!!

  18. kbray06

    February 4, 2015 at 11:00 AM

    They ended the episode before the rose ceremony on Bachelor in Paradise just this past summer. Maybe it got them a ratings spike so they figured they would try it again.

  19. ksrsfan

    February 4, 2015 at 11:05 AM

    Oh my gosh, I can’t believe the weirdos they casted this season! I think they are all fakes, seriously, can Megan be THAT stupid??? Ashley (or as someone else called her, “Kardashley”) telling Carly that Chris wants a “real” woman while wearing way too much makeup and huge fake eyelashes! Are we sure she is not related to Erica Rose, for all her entitlement attitude??? ie: the Cinderella date was supposed to be mine!!

    And did anyone else notice that when Carly was talking with Chris after their date, she said “like” at LEAST 30 times? True, I re-watched it and counted!

    I wonder if Britt uses some sort of lotion or water-less bath product if she doesn’t shower and still smells good? You really cannot cover up weeks of BO with perfume.

    And the icing on the cake, well since the other Ashley got booted anyway, is Kelsey! I do not believe the producers had to encourage or fake her edit at all, she was LOVING having a “tragic but amazing” story to tell Chris to try to stay around! Then, when he cancelled the cocktail party, she surely realized that the reason he was upset was because he was planning on sending her home after just hearing her story, and he knew that would hurt her. So she had to try another ploy to get to stay…….Oh my! I am having a panic attack!!! BS!! I have seen panic attacks and the person is not laughing soon afterward! And I would be embarrassed and not want Chris to see me, not ask for him! I agree, they need to look into her husband’s death, if he was truly that amazing, and she was so devastated by his death, how could she even think of being on this show!

  20. super1

    February 4, 2015 at 12:01 PM

    In the last episode, Kelsey mentioned something about, not understanding the timing of it all regarding her spouse’s passing. Well, according to his obituary which RS posted a link to: Kelsey graduated college with her Master’s degree on May 18, 2013. Her spouse passed away within less than a week after that. (obit posted May 23 and services May 24). That had to be the hardest thing on earth for her to deal with. I am giving Kelsey a break. She probably isn’t done mourning her spouse. In hindsight, this show wasn’t a good idea for her.

  21. rosenfie

    February 4, 2015 at 12:33 PM

    Hi Steve,
    First time writing in!
    I have a couple comments on some of your thoughts about this week’s episode.

    Regarding Jade’s “circulation condition”, it sounds like she has Renaud’s Disease where your fingers, toes, etc go white and numb with the slightest chill. I have this “condition” (which isn’t at all serious), but it can be a total pain in the ass. I’ve walked around in flip flops in 80 degree weather and as soon as I go inside somewhere, my toes are white and numb. Truly uncomfortable and annoying. Or she could be full of $hit.

    Also, I don’t think Kelsey’s panic attack is real. When I saw her building up to it (it was very obvious what she was attempting to do), I turned to my husband and said “Uh oh – fake panic attack!”. And voila, there it was. I’ve had personal experience and can spot a good or bad act. There are many people out there who have a lot of anxiety, but there’s a difference between heightened anxiety and a full-blown panic attack.


  22. robsbitch

    February 4, 2015 at 1:09 PM

    Finally they moved the show out of the country for an episode this season!

    Just kidding :p

    Really though, I never realized how much I watched this show for the travel until it was gone. Charlie O’Connell had the personality to carry a show in one location (wasn’t he in Tijuana the whole season – in actual Mexico?) Farmer Chris does not have the charisma to pull this off without the locale changes . I hope this isn’t a trend…

    And for the love of grammar Steve, it’s “all of a sudden”. Please let someone proof your blog – it’s painful.

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