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The “Bachelor” Chris Episode 8 Recap & Info On How You Can Be a Part of My 40th Birthday

Quite a few things to get to before today’s column begins as today I’m going to officially announce how all of you are invited to my birthday party in a few months. Before we get to that though, we’ve got ratings to discuss, the “Women Tell All” taping this weekend, Chris Harrison’s two blogs, Chris Soules’ blog, Nell Kalter’s Vanderpump Rules recap, production asking for help on the “Bachelorette,” and a poll for you to vote on Jade. Last night was a very interesting episode in that, we all knew what was coming. This was 3 ½ months in the making. We knew Jade was going to share her past with him, and by the previews, we knew she’d actually SHOW him a video of herself which was incredibly awkward. However, Jade is so innocent sounding, it’s almost like it doesn’t even seem like she could actually do that, does it? Maybe she put on a hell of an act this season, but she doesn’t come across as the loud, in your face, life of the party girl that I’m sure most of us expected. Sure, her Instagram proves otherwise, but on this show, she’s about as soft spoken as you can get.

So I ask you the readers, I’m curious to know your thoughts. Give me your reaction below:

I know which way I voted. How about you? Yesterday’s poll question that I put in a few hours after the column was posted asked you whether or not you thought Jade should’ve just told Chris about her past, just told the girls, or both? Overwhelmingly, a lot of you thought she should’ve just told Chris, which I agree with. Vote today and we’ll talk about where the results stand tomorrow.

Ratings from Sunday night are in, and as expected, they were way off due to the fact they were going head-to-head with the SNL 40 Year Anniversary special, which absolutely destroyed in the ratings. Brought in over 23 million viewers and a 7.5 in the 18-49. Boffo numbers. So naturally, the “Bachelor” drew it’s lowest numbers of the season Sunday night with only 5.9 million tuning in, and a 1.5 in the 18-49 demo. However, back in it’s original time, last night’s ratings drew its best overall audience of the season, as 8.8 million tuned in. Down to a 2.5 rating in the Adult demo from 2.7 last week, but when you’re in week 8 and pulling your best audience to date, things are good.

This weekend the “Women Tell All” tapes in LA. For those unfamiliar with how this works, the show is taping before next week’s overnight date episode airs. So what they do is show the audience the episode beforehand, then bring the girls out and tape the episode or else it wouldn’t make sense as to why Kaitlyn is there, since she’s the one that gets eliminated in Bali. But this should be one of the more interesting WTA’s this season as we’ll get to hear from Jade, you’ve got Ashley vs Kelsey, and now after last night Britt vs Carly. Not to mention, finding out which chicks hook up with which guys from past seasons who will no doubt crash the after party. Happens every season. I’m in CA this weekend, so I doubt I’m gonna have the WTA spoilers that night, but I will post them when I get them. Probably some time next week. Check these girls social media accounts Saturday night if you wanna see any late night shenanigans.

Here are your blogs for this week. Chris Harrison’s interview with is up, and it’s interesting how he specifically said he could see Britt as the “Bachelorette” and she’d give a good season, but never said the same for Carly. Exactly. Because Carly has zero chance. He did make it clear though that they’re waiting til the WTA to make a decision, which is pretty much what they do every season. Chris also says a lot of the same stuff on his blog for Yahoo . Chris Soules’ blog is lengthy and he lets us in a few things that weren’t shown in the hometown date episode, so check that out. Man, and I thought I was wordy. His ghost writer can write for days.

I know the producers, especially Mike Fleiss, love to go to Twitter the last couple weeks and say, “Let us know who you want as the Bachelorette!” It’s all crap. They don’t care who you want. They are going to pick who they are going to pick. You really think they’re sitting there tallying up every time someone retweets “#CarlyforBachelorette” or “#JadeforBachelorette?” Of course not. You know why? Because every single one of the girls in the running has a fan base. Plenty of people love Carly, plenty of people dislike Carly, plenty of people love Jade, plenty of people dislike Jade, etc. Your vote means nothing to them. They are going to choose who they think will bring them the best ratings. Period.

Nell Kalter’s Vanderpump Rules recap is now up so you can check that out as well.

Now, on to the big announcement I teased last night. I’ve never been a big birthday guy. Ever. It’s always been low key, maybe a BBQ at my sister’s house, or dinner at a restaurant with some of my closest friends. But being that this year is my 40th birthday, and the website is getting bigger and bigger every season thanks to you guys, I’ve decided that you are ALL invited to my 40th birthday bash this year in Las Vegas. I mean, c’mon. Where else was I gonna have it? Granted, most of you will not be able to attend and I understand that, but just know you’re invited. Here are the details:

-The party will be Friday night, June 5th, at the Mandalay Bay Hotel
-Party will begin roughly at 8:00pm
-There will be an open bar
-Since the party will be in my room, I’m looking at max of probably 55-60 people, give or take a few
-I do not want any gifts. If you took the time to come to Vegas for the weekend, that’s enough of a gift from you

So here’s where I’m at. I’m giving you over 3 months to fit this into your plans since not everyone can just make a Vegas jaunt on short notice. However, if you send an email saying you want to come, I will put you on the list. But because there’s a possibility more than 60 people might say they want in, just because you say in February you want to come, I know how plans can change and I can’t reserve a spot for someone or a group if they end up cancelling. I can’t confirm anyone until I see some sort of flight reservation (if you need to fly), or room reservation to know that you’ll be there. Only people who email me beforehand before I’ve reached my max, who I will then email back to confirm, are officially confirmed. By all means, if you can’t make Friday but will be there Saturday and Sunday, that’s fine as well. But for Friday’s party, I need a head count and need to know names of who exactly is coming so I can keep track. I can’t just let everyone in since it’ll turn into a fire hazard. The room is big, but it’s not gonna fit 80 or 100. So the first 60 or so who can confirm to me they’re in for Friday night, June 5th, you’re in. Anyone else interested in showing up Saturday wanting to hang out, let me know as well. Saturday there is not anything set in stone yet, but I’m guessing they’ll be dinner/drinks and/or a club appearance at Mix Lounge at the top of Mandalay.

I don’t expect anyone to book anything today. I get that. Just know that I really have no idea how fast it’ll fill up. So the quicker you book the better. If you are interested, email me whenever you can, mention “Vegas” somewhere in the subject line, and I will keep you in my folder as a possibility until something is booked. This will be a fun weekend, and I look forward to meeting a lot of you, which have made the success of the site possible. I’m excited for this party, and I think it’ll be a great time. Got a couple things planned for it that I don’t want to give away just yet. But really, how can you go wrong with a weekend in Vegas? That’s what I thought. I’ll be mentioning this party for the next 3 ½ months until it fills up, so first come, first serve. Look forward to seeing you there.

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  1. southerner747

    February 17, 2015 at 10:23 AM

    Reality Steve rocks!

    FYI…Chris did not tell Britt that Carly said anything to him.His exact words were “does it matter” when she asked who said something alluding to her intentions.If you read his Bachelor blog on he clearly explains all the girls said something at some point and they did not show that on TV. He was suspicious of her long before the hockey date.I think that if Britt were the Bachelorette,that would discredit his opinion.He is the lead and they based an entire show around him….Not going to happen.See you on Bachelor in paradise Britt.It would be awesome if they gave her and Kelsey no more airtime or attention at all,but obviously they will both be milking their 15 minutes of fame on WTA….

    I have no good guess as to who they will choose for Bachelorette….

  2. punk

    February 17, 2015 at 10:57 AM

    Carly was pretty likeable early in the show, but as it went on, her insecurities were on full display and she got catty. She probably thought she was being funny, but she just came across as mean at the end. Especially when she seemed more happy to have taken Britt down than anything else. Lots of smirks after Britt left. She wasted her time wit Chris to talk Britt far too often rather than to form an actual connection. Whitney, Becca and Clearly Canadian focused on Chris.

    Honestly, was happy to see Carly go and Britt had her nailed as being insecure and petty. She was.

    This show is a really good mirror for some of these girls if they will use .

  3. myrtlebeachbabe

    February 17, 2015 at 10:59 AM

    Chris Harrison states in one of his blogs today that in the past 10 seasons of Bach, the next Bach is from the last 4 girls. Which leads to Kaitlyn or Jade. Then there is Becca Chris H. shares he feels would be a good Bach. Two of the three here are from the LA area and wanna-be model/actress types. Reality Steve has Becca’s short film on his Chris Girls page showing Becca to be a model/actress, not a waitress. Jade is everywhere in social media and internet trying to be somebody. Don’t believe either of these girls are ready to find love and get married, just ready for more air time. Not sure what Kaitlyn does for a living but as a Canadian, she would have to get paperwork to work in the US right? And paperwork to move to the US if she were to marry someone from the US? Just too much paperwork for Kaitlyn to be the next Bach…maybe it is up to Jade and Becca who don’t seem to be in it for the right reasons but would make good TV. Looking forward to the next BIP antics and who hooks up and breaks up, great TV too.

    Whitney already quit her job…seems Reality Steve is right again, love it! Thanks RS, if it were not for your blog I would not be watching.

  4. myrtlebeachbabe

    February 17, 2015 at 11:00 AM

    Oops…for every Becca I typed, it was meant to be Britt instead, sorry.

  5. punk

    February 17, 2015 at 11:03 AM

    They already had a Canadian Bachette. Jillian. That is no hang up.

    Fleiss seems to love tweeting about how Bachelor history is being made every week now, so I think they go with Britt. More Bach history to promote.

  6. deedledee

    February 17, 2015 at 11:10 AM

    I honestly can’t see anyone but Britt getting Bachelorette. Mayyyyybe Kaitlyn, but that’s it. Carly. UGH. She’s honestly hard to watch, she’s so insecure. I can’t see her holding her own, basically holding court with 25-30 guys and not being entirely overwhelmed. Britt absolutely could. They could do the whole “she’s the hottest girl ever, bro!” thing that they do every season over Britt, where Carly is just not that girl. I actually kinda like Kaitlyn better than Britt, but I don’t think Britt has really done much to take herself out of it. She had a freak out moment with Chris and Carly decided to target her, but there’s not much that a guy watching the show would be turned off by in terms of wanting to date her on TV. So what, she didn’t like Iowa, who would??! Jade, with all her scandalous past, just seems too bland. Becca’s blandness barely needs mentioning. Who else could it be? Even if Whitney didn’t get picked by Chris, she’s not dream girl material. As far as I can see, there’s only one option.

  7. gamerbabe56

    February 17, 2015 at 11:38 AM

    I vote for Lillie the dog as next bachelorette 🙂

  8. dulcinea14

    February 17, 2015 at 11:39 AM

    Based on The Bachelorette Facebook page, fans hate Britt and do not want her as the next Bachelorette. The show listens to the fans when there is such an overwhelming opinion. She is ridiculously fake, completely transparent that she is just an actress, and the show doesn’t seem to want to make her look any better. Most people seem to want Carly right now.

  9. agatha bee

    February 17, 2015 at 12:14 PM

    Maybe after the Bali date Becca will be a front runner. I know the Bachelorette is about the guys…, but Britt is so hard to watch. Here’s hoping that Becca gets more into it and takes the spot.

  10. peepsforpeace

    February 17, 2015 at 12:18 PM

    So i wanted to pose a question for Reality Steve and every other reader out there. We can agree that most guys look at naked pics of women and watch porn frequently, if not often. And yet, when the woman behind the computer turns out to be a living person with a voice, she’s seen as a slut and not date-able.

    Seems like a double standard to me.

  11. lod2380

    February 17, 2015 at 12:21 PM

    RS – Whitney didn’t quit her job, she got promoted to a different role in the same organization. She gets to work more directly with patient education and advocacy. This is an opportunity to allow her to grow in her career. No matter what happens in her life, she would never quit a job that means so much to her and that she worked so hard to get! Not sure where you get your info but obviously not from a good source!

  12. dc61

    February 17, 2015 at 12:28 PM

    First about the poll, has your opinion about Jade changed options: Yes, No, Stayed the same. Aren’t those last two options the same? If my answer is no, my opinion didn’t change, doesn’t it follow that it stayed the same?

    Steve, it’s all producer driven, highly edited, scripted TV until YOU don’t like someone. I think YOU have the hard on for Britt. Like an actual physical hard on. maybe Carly was the only one who was not going to sit around acting like everything’s beautiful everything’s, nice, and was compelled to say “HEY EVERYONE! Would you look at the freaking elephant in this room?” There was not ONE tear shed over Britt’s departure, except those coming from Britt herself during her dramatic climax.

  13. arod

    February 17, 2015 at 1:19 PM

    Jade seems a lot more two-faced than Britt, yet no one had a problem with her… it just doesn’t make sense to me.
    Also, who are all these people that care enough to chastise you for getting semantics wrong or email you about who the winner is? That is so strange, I would know absolutely nothing about the spoilers if it wasn’t for your site!

  14. TeresaRenee

    February 17, 2015 at 1:52 PM

    Does anyone else think that Chris looks like a rooster?

  15. vessel

    February 17, 2015 at 2:10 PM

    Yes it is completely unfair for guys to be slut shaming Jade, (women too). I was appalled at what people have to say about her on social media, judgmental a$$holes claiming she isn’t ‘wife material’. What? No one who poses nude should be allowed to get married? Ugh.

    Agreed on the poll. ‘No’ and “didn’t change’ are exactly the same.

    If Whitney got promoted good for her, but how will she be able to move to Arlington if she’d never leave that job? Long distance engagement ’til they inevitable split up?

    I wouldn’t put much stock into what fans are posting today on the bachelor FB page. People ALWAYS are on there clamoring for the most recently cut person to be the next Bachelor/ette. Next week no one will even remember Carly’s name, and it will be the ‘Team Kaitlyn for Bachelorette!’ show.

  16. punk

    February 17, 2015 at 2:13 PM

    dulcinea14, Britt gets the nod for hte reasons you listed. She moves the meter with fans. they will turn in to hate on her as much to love her. See Emily Maynard. Same deal.

    As to Carly and fan love, dear lord, Carly as the Bachette would be awful. She would be the most plain and dull Bachette since Meredith.

  17. listorres13

    February 17, 2015 at 2:26 PM

    First Time I disagree with RS. I can’t stand Britt, she seems so fake. I honestly believe she only came on the show to become the next bachelorette. But if that’s who they pick. I guess we’ll just have to deal with it. Carly became one of my favorites. I think she knew she was going home.. for people saying “she should’ve focused on her relationship with chris” .. What relationship? She was cool but definetely not a real threat this season. Britt looked like an idiot that last episode she was on.. and I think it was the only time this whole season that she was being herself. The girl hates losing. Simple as that.

  18. LynnMJ

    February 17, 2015 at 2:30 PM

    @dc61- thanks, I was going to say the same thing about the poll. Maybe it should have been ‘opinion is higher’ vs. ‘opinion is lower’ vs. ‘stayed the same’, but the way it is now pretty much means there are only two options.

  19. TeresaRenee

    February 17, 2015 at 2:51 PM

    I wanna see Britt without all that damn makeup on.

  20. augustfiredog

    February 17, 2015 at 3:12 PM

    I picture Kaitlyn as a good potential Bachette. But she’ll have to settle down a bit.

    Becca might work out and do okay in small town of Arlington if she gets to visit her family a lot …. and that is if it works out in Chris’ bedroom?

  21. augustfiredog

    February 17, 2015 at 3:30 PM

    Oops … didn’t finish my post…
    My best bet for the engagement ring is Whitney. It would work if she could get a job in Des Moines, Iowa doing fertility work and be away from the home a few days a week. Chris is a busy guy and she would be a busy gal but being away from each other and each one having their own separate careers would be better for these two business professionals.
    See I have it all figured out for them.

  22. lcs85

    February 17, 2015 at 3:42 PM

    @Vessel at least I can kind of understand where the people saying Jade isn’t wife material are coming from, even if I don’t agree with them. Unlike Steve’s reasoning behind Kaitlyn not being wife material… because she would be fun to hang out with? Isn’t that what people want in a significant other?

    I think they should make Jade the Bachelorette. Her story would be about finding a guy who didn’t care about her wild past.

  23. cathygrace

    February 17, 2015 at 3:53 PM

    Britt didn’t go on The Bachelor because she wanted to marry Chris and move to Iowa. She is a total fake with all the makeup that she even sleeps in. This girl has dreams of becoming a big movie/TV star. She went on the show hoping to be discovered. If Chris had chosen her she would have broken his heart and ended the engagement after drawing the media attention.
    If she is the next bachelorette that will also be her objective and I won’t watch it. I’m not interested in seeing another “star search” audition.

  24. momma3j

    February 17, 2015 at 4:40 PM

    @LynnMJ I agree on how you suggested the poll should have been set up. My opinion of Jade has changed, but not necessarily for the worse which is what the poll implies. I started the season not really liking her very much because of the spoiler regarding her past. However, she has grown on me the last couple of weeks and I wasn’t “as bothered” by the Playboy thing during Monday’s episode. I think I was able to look passed it because 1. She said she regretted it; 2. while she was talking with her dad, she seemed sincerely worried about what Chris would say; and 3. I have made more than my fair share of dumb mistakes and none of us have the right to judge her (men nor women). Personally, I think the franchise could make her story on the Bachelorette work by doing a “bad girls gone good” type thing. LOL If not, I am guessing we will see her on BIP.
    My Top 3 choices for Bachelorette would be Kaitlyn, Becca, and Jade and not necessarily in that order. I would even rather see Carly as the lead vs Britt.

  25. hattiebloom

    February 17, 2015 at 5:26 PM

    @teresarenee…..I TOTALLY agree…..Chris looks like a rooster.

    If Britt gets Bach I would have to watch on an empty stomach to make sure I didn’t puke my dinner. She is a total fraud.

    Team Kaitlyn.

  26. justforfun

    February 17, 2015 at 6:21 PM

    Sadly I think the network will choose Britt for the Bachelorette gig. They have chosen fame whores in the past, Andi wasn’t looking for a husband. I can’t stand Britt, she is completely fake, but will probably bring in the ratings. That’s the only thing this franchise cares about.

    I am disgusted by all of judgment & shaming that is being directed at Jade. So what if she posed naked for a men’s magazine? Doesn’t make her a bad person. Plenty of celebrities have posed for playboy. I don’t think she was on the show to find a husband, but neither are most of the contestants.

  27. shirls429

    February 17, 2015 at 6:31 PM

    Team Britt for next Bachelorette and Carly ” Mean,Snarky and jealous!!

  28. justforfun

    February 17, 2015 at 6:37 PM

    I’m betting that Britt gets the Bachelorette gig. This franchise doesn’t care if she’s fake, and not really looking for a husband. They only care about ratings. Britt will put on a good show. Same as Andi. Yuck.
    It’s a shame that so many people are slut shaming Jade about the nude pics, RS included. So what? Doesn’t mean that she is morally bankrupt or sleeps around. Of course she was not looking to settle down with farmer bumpkin Chris. She was on the show seeking fame, same as Britt. And numerous others.

  29. momma3j

    February 17, 2015 at 7:05 PM

    Instead of asking “who encouraged Becca to go on this show?”, why not ask why Chris kept her until the final two? If her family really reacted so poorly to any PDA, then he should have let her go after hometowns instead of Jade IMO.

  30. pthepro49

    February 17, 2015 at 7:39 PM

    Poll makes absolutely no sense.

    Look for somebody outside this season of the Bachelor to be the next Bachelorette.

  31. cjscjs711

    February 17, 2015 at 9:36 PM

    Poll question not worded very well. Like others, I had a bad opinion of her before the show, but she started growing in me last few weeks. I’d actually like to see a season with her as Bachelorette. We saw both her and Britt acting but Britt was acting with real people in real life and Jade was acting – trying to act sexy – for a camera, no reality involved.

    To sit and watch Britt be all over-the-top, cutesy, pretending, then a wannabe actress to top it off – too much to bear on a full stomach. Although I guess we could sit back and laugh at the guys who fall for it.

    Steve you’re going to be 40? Then you must already be experiencing your Second Childhood with all the pathetic jokes about Jade. It’s like you’ve got some problem with nudity or what it does with regard to you. She was a pretty decent person on the show. She doesn’t like what the nudity did to her life. That’s really all she needs to say.

  32. augustfiredog

    February 17, 2015 at 10:23 PM

    Actually I think Jade was just too expressionless and quiet where Britt was too much the other way.

    And actually I believe being “approached” by Playboy to model would be an honor – I see nothing wrong with a pretty girl modeling for Playboy – but we don’t know what else Jade showed to Chris and what other stuff she had out there – we didn’t see the pics or the video – maybe they were “wild”. Jade’s reluctance and hesitance to tell Chris made me wonder why she was so ashamed of what she did. I think that maybe it might be hard to fully trust her because of that.

  33. lcs85

    February 17, 2015 at 11:08 PM

    @cjscjs711 Probably why Steve is still single and inviting strangers to hang out in a hotel room with him for his birthday.

  34. Penthe

    February 18, 2015 at 12:35 AM

    I remember when people HATED Ali as the next bachelorette and look, it still happened.

  35. thatguy181

    February 18, 2015 at 6:33 AM

    My opinion hasn’t changed… Which is also answered by the “No” response. Not sure how I’m suppose to have voted. That being said, my opinion has been she’s a good person and I still think she’s a good person. If someone wants to make money (and I’d imagine it’s decent money) by posing for Playboy, then so be it. They’re adults.

    Still vehemently against Britt as the next Bacholorette. I know my number won’t really impact the show but I simply will not watch the season if she is it. She’s a liar and just doesn’t appeal to me at all. She’s borderline psychotic in my opinion.

    I’m still positive the show will hold the number one rankings and all that fun stuff and hopefully I’ll be back for the next season of Bachelor. I’m just saying after what I’ve watched of her this season, I have zero desire to watch an entire season focused on her. Hoping for Kaitlyn to win that role.

  36. jakolean

    February 18, 2015 at 7:28 AM

    I don’t feel any sympathy for Jade, particularly if she is all about showing her assets all over Twitter, Instragram, and already put it out there for the worldwide net. Unfortunately there is a certain connotation to the nude industry, and although it is a double-standard, ask any man about who he wants to bring home to mama and papa, and you most likely won’t get a former playboy model. RS totally hit it on the head, though you can’t compare a playboy model to someone with a prison sentence, some people just can’t get over a past that is really dark. It just goes with the territory when someone does something as shock value as that, not everyone will like that, especially the insinuations, consequences, etc. I don’t blame Chris at all.

  37. anita29

    February 18, 2015 at 8:30 AM

    After watching Jade’s video, I think she had an abdominoplasty…obvious scar!!

  38. vessel

    February 18, 2015 at 8:34 AM


    Maybe you didn’t see the pics and video Jade showed, but Steve linked all of it here quite a while back, and I and many others actually DID see it. The video is of her stripping completely and rolling around on a bed, and the pics are of her entirely naked and, excuse the word, spread. they are pretty graphic.

    That said I agree with the person against all the slut shaming. Jade does not in any way deserve that. It’s like the slut shaming Andi had to deal with for having sex with 2 guys in the fantasy suites. Made me so angry. No one says a freaking peep when the bachelor does it.

  39. punk

    February 18, 2015 at 9:39 AM

    Jade is divisive for many reasons. Playboy model, DUI arrest, underage possession arrest, arrested for theft (though charges dropped). She likes to wear her Bad Idea jeans often.

  40. vessel

    February 18, 2015 at 11:39 AM

    Chris got a DUI, too. He did community service and a year’s probation, yet people seem to forget this and focus on Jade’s.

  41. diora

    February 18, 2015 at 4:08 PM

    I absolutely love Jade. She had the courage to take on LA and did what she had to. She is REAL and had such incredible composure throughout the show, unlike Britt. #teamjade

  42. augustfiredog

    February 18, 2015 at 8:49 PM

    @vessel on
    You are right I didn’t see them thanks for bringing it to my attention.
    Well what you described sounds like a little too much “wild” and not enough “classy”; also explains why Jade appeared ashamed and was so hesitant.

    I really like Whitney but am concerned about her career and having to drive to Des Moines, etc. for job; so am now rooting for Becca – that is if she works out in the bedroom (fantasy suite).

    Kaitlyn or somene else for bachette.

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