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The Bachelor 19 - Chris

The “Bachelor” Chris Overnight Date Episode Recap Incl Chris on DWTS, Bachelorette Poll, and

-Time for Becca’s date and it seems to have a theme about it that I can’t quite put my finger on. Is it that she sweats a lot when she’s in a hot, humid place? No, that’s not it. Is it that she wouldn’t dare leave her chiropractic assistant job to move to Middle of Nowhere, IA? Nope. Hmmmmm, maybe it’ll come to me. Oh wait, I know! She’s a virgin. Becca: “I’m waiting til marriage to have sex.” Well thank you for that. I was confused on what one was. If you were following Twitter last night, Olivia actually started getting mad that she didn’t know what it was. At first I told her it was a drink without alcohol. Then I told her after the suggestion of some people on Twitter, that it was someone who’s never been in love before. Her response: “So? Why’s that such a big deal she keeps telling him?” Ummmm, yeah. So that didn’t go over well. Good thing she started nodding off at this point in the show or else this could’ve gone on all night. I’m pretty sure by this morning she’ll completely forget what she watched. However, if Olivia ends up traumatized by this whole experience, I’m blaming Becca. Just for the fact that she had to mention she was a virgin 1,484 times last night.

-What’s with this episode and temples. I mean, I get that they’re in Bali and everything, but nothing about temples screams sexy. Do they not realize this? Chris is still worried that Becca has never been in love and Becca is talking about, well, her virginity. “It would be devastating if my virginity is a deal breaker.” Well, prepare to be devastated. Look, Chris can beat around the bush all he wants and say everything BUT that, but it obviously plays a role. He’s a 33 year old man with needs, a guy that has been known to have a wild side, and a guy that was quite the womanizer in college. Not to mention Chris Harrison has specifically mentioned in his blogs more than once that Becca is “less experienced” than others and has even compared it to high school stuff. A virgin is just never going to win the “Bachelor” period. Lets stop pretending like it’s gonna happen. 29 seasons of this show and there’s yet to be a virgin winner. I think that’s a strong enough sample size, no? Becca has every right to make the decision she has about sex. No one’s taking that away from her. But it’s so far opposite of what this show is about, and what Chris is about, that it’s just not happening for her. I told you 3 months who he picks, so nothing I say at this point will convince anyone who isn’t convinced already, so I guess you’ll just have to wait 13 more days to get your “official” confirmation.

-While in the temple, these two talk to some 183 year old dude who apparently knows things. They get to ask him questions, and since he’s known them for a whole 12 seconds, he can give an answer about their future. Becca asks, “Will he be a good dad one day?” Old dude says yes. I think. Couldn’t understand him but he alluded to it. Chris asked, “What’s her biggest weakness?” Old dude says “Hard to control.” Well certainly not in bed. Chris says they have a big night ahead. Any advice? “Make love.” I mean, is this actor on ABC’s payroll or something? Geez. Stop making it so obvious. How about the ol’ wise one actually tells them the truth, which is, “You two will talk until the wee hours of the morning, he’ll spare you another few days on this journey before unceremoniously dumping you on your butt in freezing Iowa.” Lets be real, oldie. That’s what these people came to you for. Your vast knowledge of all things related to people you have no clue about. Soooooo, yeah. Thanks for being a phony liar. We appreciate it. ABC’s check is in the mail.

-At dinner time, all we get is voiceovers of Becca telling us how nervous she is about the overnight dates because, you know, she’s a virgin and all. And if you’re a virgin, and there’s a date card which suggests later on that night when the cameras and mic packs are off, that you need to take off your clothes and do dirty things, well, that makes Becca nervous. So the date card arrives. “Chris and Becca, welcome to the beautiful island of Bali. I hope you’re enjoying your stay. If you choose to forgo your individual rooms, please use this key to stay together as a couple in our fantasy suite. We’ve provided an extra strength chastity belt and any booby traps you may want to place down there Becca in case Chris tries to get frisky with you. Signed, Chris Harrison (aka, the dude who’ll be logging some closet time while you two are heavy petting). Becca’s response: “I would love to spend time with you alone.” Chris: “This is a big week…big deal…big day for us.” At this moment, I wish they would’ve just used a cut in of a balloon being inflated with air. Would’ve been the most appropriate visual to go along with Chris’ reaction to Becca saying she’d love to spend time with him alone.”

-So once they’re inside the fantasy suite, Becca decides to THEN tell Chris she’s saving herself for marriage. “I know I shared about never having been in love before or taken anyone home to meet my family…I need you to be very honest with your feelings about it…it’s a very big deal…but I’m a virgin.” At this point, it would’ve then been most appropriate to show that balloon with the air being spilled out of it. Regardless of if Chris really wasn’t surprised by her admission or not, he’s got an attractive girl alone in an overnight date and now he finds out he’ll basically get to second base if he’s lucky. Maybe. Possibly. We don’t know with her. She doesn’t strike me as someone who will go do everything BUT. Not quite. But Chris has to think on the spot and he comes up with this: “I’m glad that you…not very easy to respond to…respect that in a lot of ways…surprised me some…says a lot about who you are…trying to figure out if this is gonna work.” Translation: “DAMMMMMMMMMMNNNNNNN IT!!!!!!!!”

-From this point until the show ended, the show preyed on the unspoiled and their whole goal was to make you think that Becca was going home. Chris waking up the next morning saying that his date with all three girls went great, but Becca had reservations about her feelings for him (didn’t tell him she loved him) and also wasn’t 100% sold on Iowa, yeah, they were really driving it home to people who have been living under a rock for 3 months that Becca’s lack of experience in dating would ultimately be the end of her by the end of the episode. They show Chris sitting at the edge of the pool with his feet dangling in the water “struggling” with his decision, which if you read either of the Chris’ blogs this morning on page 1, he never really struggled with at all. He always knew he was sending Kaitlyn home. They just needed to drum up something dramatic to kill the next 45 minutes. Yes, that’s right. Becca’s overnight date ended 1 hr and 15 minutes into the show, so we still had another 45 minutes left and all that needed to be done was for Chris to have his fireside chat with Host Chris and a rose ceremony where 2 roses were given away. I think this was the point where Olivia started to doze off, and really, can you blame her?

-During his talk with Host Chris, Chris says he’s conflicted when in reality, according to Host Chris, he was just looking for confirmation from Becca and he didn’t necessarily get it the night before since, well, his penis didn’t go anywhere. He sees himself spending a life with all three, but Becca isn’t there yet, so he’s hedging. Or for the sake of the show, creating a storyline that really isn’t there. With that said, both Chris’ leave their talk and go to the dressing room so they can put on their sarongs, or kimono’s or whatever that ridiculous garb was that everyone had to wear to the rose ceremony because it was in, you guessed it, another “sacred temple” where they had to respect the wishes of the locals. I have a request. NO MORE F***ING TEMPLES. They are lame, they are outdated, they don’t translate to American custom, and they make people look like they’re about to enter a karate tournament or take my order at Benihana’s. For the “Bachelor?” No. Lets get rid of them please. Never go back to Bali and this will be a much better show.

-Rose ceremony time. Chris begins to talk to the women after advancing to the semifinals off a couple sweet roundhouse kicks. “Ladies…you all look beautiful as usual…I’ll have the Benihana Trio with fried rice please…lucky to be able to be here…week was great…most heart wrenching position I’ve ever been in…decision about to make is nothing but excruciating…Becca, can I speak to you for a second?…we still have 20 minutes left in the show and we need to drag this out a little longer…”

-They show Chris and Becca talking about stuff from their overnight date, neither could stop thinking of the other one, but Becca didn’t want to possibly leave without getting it off her chest that she is all in on Arlington (even though she obviously isn’t), and that she wants him to know everything’s all good with her. I guess this is what Chris needed to hear, or what producers needed to fill an extra 10 minutes. I guess it also could’ve been used as a way to build Kaitlyn for the “Bachelorette” since the second he pulled Becca away, Kaitlyn got a grin on her face thinking Becca was gonzo. When Chris returned with Becca, Kaitlyn’s face turned to shock and she released an “Oh shoot!” So yeah, it builds her heartbreak for possibly next season. I mean, can’t you all see the promos now, “She was blindsided when Bachelor Chris sent her home. Now she’s back looking for love…” I mean, really no different than any of the last 13 storylines they’ve used for recycled contestants, but yeah, it’s looking more and more like it could be Kaitlyn. I’m sorry Britt. I did my best all season but alas, it may all be for naught. I won’t technically wave the white flag until it’s “official,” but what I didn’t see back in January I’m beginning to see now.

-Chris returns to the rose ceremony much to the dismay of Kaitlyn. “Ladies…I apologize for the wait…I needed to collect my thoughts…and give production more footage to kill 2 hours…hope you understand you’re all a pawn in this game of reality TV…I just do what I’m told, that’s all…”

Whitney: I think this is the third consecutive rose ceremony Whitney has gotten the first rose. That and $5 will get you a cup of coffee from Starbucks, but I just wanted to point it out.
Becca: Thank you for drawing that out an extra 30 minutes for us only to tell us in your blog this morning you knew what your decision was that day. Appreciate it.

-Not sure why he had to whisper everything to Kaitlyn when he dumped her. Oh yeah I do. F***ING TEMPLES. “Excruciating week…no idea it’d be this hard…moment in my life where I have to make a decision makes no sense (yeah neither did that sentence)…no absolute right decisions…following my heart…think the absolute world of you…there’s no right decision…” So yeah, basically what most have said when they let the final 3 girl go. Kaitlyn was so rattled by his decision that she struggled putting her seatbelt on in the car. Have we ever seen that before? “Most humiliating moment of my freakin’ life…really confused with how I feel right now…really blows my mind…whole reason of putting my guard up was to deflect the feeling I feel right now…” So the girl who put her guard up only to have it torn down gets a second chance at love. Yeah, this is becoming clearer and clearer. Britt, looks like you’ll be stuck making bad indie short films and being a Hollywood waitress a little while longer.

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  1. missannmcd

    February 24, 2015 at 10:34 AM

    Yay Kaitlin! You go be the bach/ette girl!

  2. punk

    February 24, 2015 at 11:06 AM

    If either of those girls are willing to move to Arlington and be a housewife, Chris needs to put a ring on it, and then make them happy.

    Arlington might be a great place filled with wonderful people, but going to a town with 400 people vs. Chicago or San Diego is a monumental step in lifestyle change.

    I like both the girls. They seem genuine. Hope Chris chooses correctly, because this is definitely different than the normal Bach situation. Small Town America, or Dallas/Bay Area. etc. Changes the equation for sure.

  3. coffeeinchicago

    February 24, 2015 at 11:39 AM

    I saw an interview with Sharleen from JP’s season where she talks about how they whisper because the cameras are so close to their face, and even though you’re mic’ed, in that situation it creates a false sense of intimacy. Guessing that’s why Chris whisper-dumped Kaitlyn.

    As a fellow Chicagoan, I can’t imagine commuting to Highland Park from the city. You’re looking at 90 minutes to two hours one way, either on a Metra train or sitting in horrendous traffic on 90/94. Unless she lives in the suburbs, it makes me think maybe Whitney took a job where she could telecommute…

  4. shouldbeworking

    February 24, 2015 at 11:45 AM

    I thought it interesting that in the moment of heartbreak, Kaitlyn thought to put her seat belt on while being whisked away. Safety first ! I have never seen that before in the hundred or so rejected finalists. Makes me question how much she really was wanting to be with Chris. Who would even think of that at that moment of rejection?

  5. imweezie1

    February 24, 2015 at 12:34 PM

    can’t find the link right now but one article shows Chris and Whitney on her home town. The scrubs she’s wearing say the name of the new job, not the old. she must have been there for a little while at least

  6. rob22

    February 24, 2015 at 12:54 PM

    From the Arlington article where they complain the town was wrongly portrayed. “We have a library, a bank and a medical clinic”. And?…. So, yeah cool. Those are the places I want to go hang out. A library (who needs the internet, anyway. Libraries are just so cool). A bank. Yeah, people won’t draw down on me if I try to hang out there. Medical clinic. I guess I could keep going in for colonoscopies, but wouldn’t they get wise to that after a while? Yeah, you’re right. Arlington got screwed on the portrayal!

    I do think it’s funny, though, that the Arlington stuff was just closed for the day & The Bachelor portrayed it like they were all permanently closed. As if it wasn’t bad enough.

  7. bachfann

    February 24, 2015 at 12:58 PM

    If you go back and watch Whitney’s hometown date, she is wearing scrubs from aParent, which is the place she apparently just started working at this month… interesting.

  8. peepsforpeace

    February 24, 2015 at 1:00 PM

    Steve, your comment about Kaitlin’s hair being ‘disgusting’ cause it was ‘nappy’ was RUDE. Thanks for insulting every black woman out there. Ugh.

  9. karynr

    February 24, 2015 at 1:13 PM

    My thoughts exactly…..possibly telecommuting with the new job. It would make sense for that type of position.

    I’ll be glad if it’s Katilyn. Britt got on my nerves after a while.

  10. gemsnob

    February 24, 2015 at 1:18 PM

    Steve went overboard once again with comments about Whitney. Remember they supposedly got engaged in Nov. The show is not over so they haven’t been seen in public. Even if Whitney took a different job it makes sense. It could be a year or more before any wedding. Is Chris going to support her while he is on DWTS? For God’s sake they haven’t spent one minute in public and Steve is already bashing them. I applaud Whitney for looking after herself. Not everyone is like Catherine who up and quit her job to be Sean’s lap dog while he was on DWTS. She spent a wad getting her BSN degree so is she supposed to up and quit and do nothing “hoping” that her & Chris actually make it? She is doing the smart thing and looking after herself for now. Stop hating on her judging her for taking a new job!

  11. missannmcd

    February 24, 2015 at 1:43 PM

    A new man is easier to find than a great job!

  12. betsy602

    February 24, 2015 at 2:20 PM

    If he knew Whitney was “the one” then why all the drama over Becca and Kaitlyn? I think it is all build up to Kaitlyn being the Bachelorette. He wasn’t really that in to Kaitlyn other than buddy status. Then he surprisingly gave her the group rose in the last episode. My thought is that she was promoted to build her story. Then, I think Chris H. and the producers took Chris aside and said they wanted him to send Kaitlyn home for the drama as a lead up to her being the Bachelorette.

    Whitney strikes me as there to win, playing the game to perfection. She’s watched all the shows and read the playbook and doesn’t miss a move.

    We’ll see!

  13. rob22

    February 24, 2015 at 2:33 PM

    I see why people people are getting on Whitney for “playing the game”. I mean, it’s pretty far fetched, before all the particulars, to fall in love with some random guy over six weeks, and agree to marry them. But, when that “random guy” is a farmer with a borderline stutter & permanent dumb look on his face, who lives in a God forsaken hell hole where he insists on living…. and it include the requirement that you quit your dream job, marry said doofus farmer & move to Bumphuck, Egypt…. it’s just too much to take. Plus you have RS egging everyone on. But, it could happen. What’s the Bachelor track record so far? 3% end in marriage? So…. that says it’s not impossible, right? Whitney could have found her soul mate & live happily ever after. Hey, it could happen.

  14. elizabeth82

    February 24, 2015 at 4:21 PM

    My fav part of this recap: “Ladies…you all look beautiful as usual…I’ll have the Benihana Trio with fried rice please…”

    rob22, can you not bash libraries? They’re not obsolete solely because of the advent of the internet. Thanks 🙂

    Seems Steve is in the extreme minority wanting Britt to be Bachelorette. Britt was ACTING, and she also came across as very self-centered.

    Not sure why Steve is convinced Chris wasn’t interested in finding a wife. Is he just jaded about this show (which makes sense) or is there something he knows about Chris that we don’t?

  15. dixiedeltadeb

    February 24, 2015 at 4:28 PM

    2 quick comments – Britt wears FAR too much makeup and would make the show seem even more fake when you comes out of a swim or hottub and makeup is unaffected. Also, I hope that Chris and Whitney don’t have kids – can you imagine what those two voices and laughs would be like?

  16. gailer

    February 24, 2015 at 4:34 PM

    Steve’s recap of Whitney had me LOL literally. I’m starting to be scared of her. she is after her prey, but it’s interesting that Steve says Chris is a player too and not out to get married anyway. I certainly hope so, not sure who is scarier. I can see Chris being there only to have sex and meet girls. How can he meet any in that god forsaken town?

    Rob22, you made me LOL too!

  17. hattiebloom

    February 24, 2015 at 5:09 PM

    NEWS FLASH…..this just in!!!!!!

    Becca is a lesbian.

    Whitney really is a guy AND battery operated.

    That cockle doodle doo you heard in the background as Chris dumped Kaitlyn was actually Chris throwing his voice. He’s multi-talented.

    YOU ROCK KAITLYN. BE THE ‘ETTE…..please!!!!

  18. kellygirl

    February 24, 2015 at 6:56 PM

    Sorry, but I don’t buy the idea that Chris came on this show to find a wife. He reportedly was in a seven year relationship, got engaged then got cold feet and called it off. Does anyone believe he would get married to someone he met on this show after very little time together, a few dates here and there and then trip down the aisle? About as probable as the producers portraying him as wanting to be “down on the farm” the rest of his life. Not happening. Just not happening! I give it six months and the “engagement” will blow up.

  19. willstone

    February 24, 2015 at 9:21 PM

    I generally like Steve, but his sniping at Whitney – and some of the mocking comments, too – just make me sad. This is a woman who went into health care and has spent years helping people. Whatever’s in her secret heart, whatever motivated her to go on the show, we’ve seen nothing but niceness from her throughout the season. Every eliminated contestant says Whitney’s kind and genuine. What is she supposed to do at this point, cure cancer? Lay off the nice lady.

  20. andirojas09

    February 25, 2015 at 5:17 AM

    Hi!! thank you Steve. i was wondering.. Does anyone knows if it is true that chris broke his engagement up and went back with his ex Sheena?? Ive heard does rumors…

  21. rob22

    February 25, 2015 at 6:01 AM

    willstone: just to be clear. I think Whitney’s probably all that you say. I like her too. I think it’s more delusion than phoniness that causes her to be attracted to Old McDonald and his Siberian residence requirements. She’s going to wake up one day (hopefully soon) and say “Oh, My God! Who is the dumbass laying next to me & why am I living out the movie Frozen in this God-forsaken hell hole?” Also, “Prince Chris” seems to have an alcohol issue. You almost never see him without a full glass of whisky. (Not just two fingers, but a whole glass!!) I guess that answers the question about what people do in Arlington.

  22. serapa

    February 25, 2015 at 6:30 AM

    I was all Britt Britt Britt until last night honestly. After watching I’m now team Kaitlyn.

    They kept Kaitlyn hidden until the last 2 episodes. Before then, it was the Britt show. Britt really is beautiful, but she did not get a good edit. It’s obvious who the producers had chosen back in 2014 for the next Bachelorette.

    I didn’t see it in January either. I am in the same boat as RS.

  23. Sunnyside422

    February 25, 2015 at 8:08 AM

    Since I don’t watch every episode minute by minute, I have an opinion of Chris that might not jive with others.

    All these women yammer on and on and he sits there with this dumb ass look on his face and I want to smack him. Same expression for every occasion…happy, giddy, sad, bored, etc. He is totally expressionless. And God help this bumpkin, but can he string a few sentences together?

    Maybe living out in the wildes of Arlington has rendered him mute. How can any woman with any personality stomach him? This is not a guy who is gonna grab Whitney and throw her on his brass bed and have at her! Boring. At 33, I doubt he will ever change and maybe Whitney at 29 might feel her chances of finding someone are dimming. Sorry girl, I’d keep looking. He is no great catch.

    Good recap Steve, as always! Very funny.

  24. mariet

    February 25, 2015 at 8:11 AM

    Whitney going on this show is very puzzling indeed. She lives in a great area of the country, educated, has a great job that she loves, is very pretty, and seems nice. I’m sure she is not at a loss for dates and potential relationships. There is no way she went on this show to find a husband especially Chris. Was it on a dare?

  25. mariet

    February 25, 2015 at 8:11 AM

  26. coffeeinchicago

    February 25, 2015 at 8:42 AM

    mariet — Take a look at Whitney’s network and you will find your answer.

  27. carolina

    February 25, 2015 at 9:12 AM

    Not excited about Britt or Kaitlyn as next bachelorette. When I look at this group of girls, there isn’t anyone I find I would want to watch. Britt might be the most fun to watch and she might cause some drama, but honestly, there is something about her that she is not really hygenic, she seems to tell people what she thinks they want to hear and is trying way too hard, and has looks that 10 years or so from now will have her looking not that attractive. She will not age well is my opinion strange as that may sound. I think Kaitlyn is all over the place and needs to use some Visine or something. She may be allergic to her makeup or something. HELP!

  28. keddo

    February 25, 2015 at 10:06 AM

    I would say small town prairie life isn’t so bad; you can join a church, ride dirt bikes, quads, and sleds, shoot gophers in the summer, curl in the winter…wait a sec! Arlington doesn’t have a curling rink?! What kind of a farm town is this? He should sell his land and start farming in Saskatchewan, where they have curling rinks. If he’s gonna be in the middle of nowhere, he should at least be able to curl with his wife!

  29. mariet

    February 25, 2015 at 10:36 AM

    coffee– the answer to why she went on the show?

  30. nrgrier

    February 25, 2015 at 11:22 AM

    According to Kevin Murray’s article, ‘The time I was almost a contest on the Bachlorette’ the enitre process to get cast takes over a year. Kelsey’s husband died in May of 2013. If the casting timeframe is roughly the same for all contestants then she would have sought out being on the show (which began filming in the summer of 2014) within a few months of her husbands death. SMH…

  31. agatha bee

    February 25, 2015 at 11:44 AM

    As long as it’s not Britt.

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