I finally feel like I’ve settled back in and things are back on schedule. I usually am never away for that long, but with my actual birthday and my Vegas party on separate weekends, it didn’t make sense to make two different trips, so I was in CA from May 29th-June 4th, in Vegas the 4th-7th, flew back to CA on the 7th, then came home Monday the 8th. Now you might ask why didn’t I just do 3 one-way flights: DFW to OC, OC to Vegas, Vegas back to Dallas. Because for whatever reason, booking 3 one-way flights was twice as much as buying a round trip from Dallas to OC, then booking a round trip from OC to Vegas within that initial flight. Not sure why, but it was. But regardless, I’m back home for at least another 6 weeks before, you guessed it, another Vegas trip for my friend’s wife’s 40th birthday in July. I think 6 weeks is enough recovery time. Hell, I was wishing it was sooner since the tables were hot this past weekend. Had a good run at craps. Couldn’t win at blackjack to save my life, so I spent a majority of the time winning off other people rolling. My rolls weren’t great. Anyway, back with the live video chat tonight at 9:00pm EST/6:00pm PST.
In case you missed my tweets yesterday, let me update you on our farm boy, Chris Soules. You know, the ol’ “Golly gee, I’m just a farmer. That’s all I know. Poor me. I don’t meet anyone out here on the farm with ma’ and pa’. I’m real scared someone won’t want to come live with me out here in the middle of nowhere, but I ain’t leavin. I love me some farmin'” guy. Yeah, ummmm, that guy who’s been on 3 reality shows in the last 20 months or so has now added yet ANOTHER reality show to his list. Uh huh. Suuuuuuure, he wants to be farming. Yet again, everything I was told about this guy from the time he was on Andi’s season is turning out to be true. Absolutely out for himself, had zero intention of finding a wife, and was looking to expand his brand. It’s fine if that’s what you want to do, but when all you do is tell people you’re a farmer and that’s your life, yet you’ve barely done it for 2 years while you’ve been on now 4 reality shows, it kinda goes in one ear and out the other.
Not to mention coming up in August, Chris and Witney will be making an appearance together at Mohegan Sun! No, not THAT Whitney. The OTHER Witney. Being billed as the “dynamic duo,” they will be doing an appearance and Q&A for fans where, 4 months after they were partners, I guess people still want to see them together. And I’m sure Chris wants to see them together as well. If it wasn’t evident before to everyone, it should be by now. The guy was bitten by the Hollywood bug and is now seriously infected. I’m not sure if there’s a cure.
Of course with Nick joining the show this past Monday, the tabloids will be in a frenzy every Wednesday (the day mags hit the stands) from now until the end of the season with all their salacious headlines about the “Bachelorette” trying to draw in readers of stories loaded with “sources say,” “a source close to the situation” and all the other bogus things they throw in there since they can’t get anything on record. Well, it started yesterday with the story of Nick and Whitney on a date this past weekend watching the Blackhawks/Lightning game at a bar. Yes, they were both there. Yes, someone who took a picture of them sold it to a tabloid. No, they weren’t on a date. Trust me I’d be the first guy to jump all over this if it was true, but it isn’t. Nick lives in Chicago, Whitney lives in Chicago, they have mutual friends (one even being former contestant Jaclyn Swartz), they all met up, and that was that. Any allusion to it being a date and they were touchy feely and blah blah blah is just tabloids running with a story based on a picture they got. So it isn’t true. Plus, do you honestly think that with Whitney and Kaitlyn being such close friends still, she would just start hooking up with a guy fresh off her season? Didn’t happen, not going to happen, nice try.
Unfortunately when I was away last weekend, any “Dr. Reality Steve” emails I got I wasn’t paying attention to and accidentally deleted them. So if you sent one anytime between Thursday and Sunday of last week, please resend and they will be in next week’s column, I promise. For this week, just this one:
Dear Dr. Reality Steve,
First off, happy belated birthday!
I am 28 and my boyfriend is 32. We have been dating for almost 8 months. We are pretty serious and have talked about marriage, buying a house, the whole nine yards. Everything is going well- our families and friends get along, etc. However, an issue has seemed to present itself and I would like to get your take on it.
A few months ago, I noticed that the same girl I have never heard him mention was texting him a bit frequently. I just know from her name popping up on his phone, I didn’t look through his phone! I let it go but after a few more times it was bothering me so I asked him about it. He said he met her and her sister when he was with his friend at a networking function. This function was several months prior to this so I asked have you seen her since (as it seems weird to still be texting someone you met once a few months ago and haven’t seen since). He said yes, apparently he went to brunch with her, her sister, and his friend who he met them with one time a few months before. I told him that it was kind of weird he didn’t tell me about this. He said they were all just friends (his friend is gay so he isn’t interested in either of them) and that the next time I should come along. I said fine and forgot about it.
However, over the past few months, I have noticed this girl keeps texting him. Also, maybe it was my imagination, but it seemed like he would sometimes be somewhat protective of his phone when answering a message. I felt ridiculous as this seems like something that happened when I was in college. A few days ago, I had had enough and finally confronted him about it. I said I thought it was weird that a girl I have never met and that he supposedly has only seen him twice has been texting him for months, asked if he told her that he has a girlfriend, etc. He responded that these were all fair questions, that sure he has told her that he has a girlfriend, that they only text randomly like what are you up to, they don’t talk on the phone or anything like that, that he was hoping that they could all be friends but that he didn’t think that it was going to turn out like that now. I pretty much said it needs to stop because, rational or not, it was bothering me. He said ok. I asked him if he wants to be with someone else and he said no, of course not. I asked him do you think she likes you, and he said yeah maybe she does- it appears that way. A few minutes after we have this conversation, she texts him again. The first line of the text comes up on the phone and it says something to the effect of “To say I’m disappointed would be an understatement.” This may be important, but he hadn’t used his phone between our conversation and her texting him so it’s not like he had texted her after our conversation something to warrant this response. Whatever he had texted her that “disappointed” her was before our conversation.
Do you think that something was going on? Would it be naïve to believe this was all innocent? I guess it is good our conversation went well and he seems to have put an end to whatever “it” was. However, I would appreciate any insight you have. Thanks!
Irritated in Indiana
Comment: First off, thank you for the alliteration. It never sucks to see those at the end of an email.
And secondly, I applaud you for how you handled it. It seems like he actually handled it somewhat respectably as well. Didn’t get defensive, didn’t immediately make it your fault, and seemed to take what you said to heart. I’m not sure what prompted her to text “To say I’m disappointed is an understatement.” Could’ve been a myriad of things. The good thing is, it seems like their contact is over now. If it definitely is over, and as far as you know this girl isn’t contacting him anymore, I wouldn’t sit around worrying about the contexts of her texts. It bothered you, you confronted him on it, he seems to have ended contact with her like you wanted – I’d just let it go now.
However if for some reason it’s not over, then you’d have a right to be upset and call him out on it. His initial meeting with her, and brunch, and not telling you about her definitely is a bit fishy, but the fact that he didn’t put up much of a fight to keep talking to her once you told him it bothered you, makes me think it wasn’t something that was that important to him. If he’s done with, then you should be done with the situation and don’t let it affect your relationship.
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