As for the proposal day, this is where you kinda have to take off your blinders and remember this is a TV show. Yes, on Chris’ season Kaitlyn got very upset with Chris about how he didn’t give her the respect by letting her go early, yet that’s exactly what she did with Nick. I get it. It’s wrong. She shouldn’t have done it. And in most seasons 4 of the last 5 “Bachelorettes,” they have allowed the girl to let the #2 guy go early and save him the embarrassment (Andi, Des, Emily, and Ali all let their #2 guy go early. Only Ashley had Ben show up at the final rose ceremony only to dump him). But this wasn’t just any other season. And this wasn’t just any two random guys at the end. This was Nick and Shawn. Two guys that the entire season was built around starting in episode 4. They had a story to tell and be damned someone’s feelings getting spared. This is what Nick signed up for. If he didn’t want to risk the chance of getting dumped at the end, then don’t come on the show.
Could I understand his frustration when she was talking to him after stopping his proposal? Absolutely. Did I feel bad for the guy? Yes and no. Yes in the fact that no break up is ever fun. Ever. It just isn’t. And a break up on national television is that much worse. However, I say no because this is a show. He knew going in what this show is capable of and what could possibly happen to him. He just went through this a year ago. The second you sign on the dotted line (especially for a second time), you are at the mercy of the producers. You have no say in anything. They will tell the story they want to tell no matter how badly it might trample on somebody’s feelings or emotions. Nick was this season’s victim, plain and simple. Sure, he can ask Kaitlyn all he wants afterwards, “Well why didn’t you just spare me the embarrassment,” or “Why just not let me go early,” etc. I’m here to tell you it’s because that’s not a decision for her to make. Of course she rambled on and gave him some convoluted answer that he still probably doesn’t understand, but the real answer, the one that she couldn’t say, is “the producer’s made me.” Absolutely, 100% that speech by Nick and almost proposal was supposed to happen and Kaitlyn couldn’t do anything about it. I don’t think Kaitlyn is a mean, vindictive person, and yes, she obviously cared about Nick. So no one that cares about someone else would put them through that unless they were forced to. You are a pawn in their game. I guarantee she didn’t want to hear Nick make that speech and almost propose, but she had no choice. She just couldn’t tell him that on the ATFR.
Since the season was built around Nick and Shawn, and Chris Harrison had hinted a couple weeks ago in his weekly TVGuide.com interview that he wanted to have Nick and Shawn on the stage together last night, we can’t say we were shocked to see it. However, I think the desired effect they were looking for was missed completely. Guys are guys. We don’t hold grudges with other guys (especially over something so petty as a reality dating show) for more than about, oh I don’t know, 6 minutes. Nick and Shawn were arguing back in April and May. Do you really think either of them cared to address it last night? Of course not, but the show had built it up where they basically had to. And essentially if you read between the lines, Nick and Shawn both called the show out for focusing so much on their “feud,” when in reality, they have hours and hours and hours of footage to use, yet they chose to do that. What’d Shawn say? He maybe talked about Nick 3% of the time, yet, the show made it seem like that’s all he talked about. It’s why they keep people in ITM’s for hours. They need to weed through tons of footage to find what storyline they’ll eventually end up going with.
Do they like each other? No. Will they talk and keep in touch after this? No. But what did they actually expect them to do last night? Come to blows? Start screaming at each other? Hell they didn’t even address the biggest elephant in the room between the two and that’s the whole Eskimo Brothers comment. How can that be such a major thing all season and then it’s never really addressed when you have these two on a couch next to each other. Chris Harrison you could tell was trying to stir sh** up and basically neither of these guys were having any of it. They don’t like each other, but they both realized they weren’t going to get suckered in to a pissing match on national television 2.5 months after filming ended. How petty would that look? And the only reason why it happened during filming is because producers purposely put them in a position to do so, by making them have these bogus 1-on-1 “confrontations.” It’s hard to re-create that 2.5 months later when you’ve both moved on. What does Shawn care what Nick thinks at this point? He got the girl. And what does Nick care about Shawn now since he’s moved on as well. The whole thing was this giant buildup only to have the effect of air slowly getting let out of a balloon. As for his parents being there in the audience – I don’t know if that was their way to try and throw people off thinking that maybe she picked Nick, or what the whole point of that was, but it had zero effect. Why the parents would even agree to show up, and bring the two younger sisters, is beyond me. For support? Is it right to have your 11 year old daughter and sister constantly being dragged into this so she can cry on TV? I don’t get it.
As for Kaitlyn and Shawn together, I’m not one of these people that studies body language, or how they look at each other, or how they touch each other, or any of that nonsense. Basically every final couple that has sat on that couch on the ATFR for almost 30 seasons have said how happy and in love they are. And four got married. Shawn and Kaitlyn are no different to me. Last season I had people swearing up and down that Josh and Andi made the cutest couple, they were so in love, they’d last forever – and they didn’t last 9 months. Then you had Chris and Whitney saying all the right things just 3 months ago, and they couldn’t even make it through the summer. Every couple gets a People mag cover story and all say the SAME EXACT THING. And four marriages. So you do the math. Offer still stands that if they do get married, by all means, I get them a gift. Despite Kailtyn’s comments towards me, it’s not about that. My job isn’t to make these people like me. I don’t care. I’ll stand by what I say every season and if they get married, I’ll get them a gift. Will they? No. But hey, I’ll get them one by random chance they do. I know that statement will come with the inevitable, “So are you saying they won’t get married because you know something, or, just that the odds aren’t in their favor?” I’m saying that I don’t think Shawn and Kaitlyn will ever get married. Take it for whatever it’s worth.