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The Bachelorette 11 - Kaitlyn/Britt

The “Bachelorette” Kaitlyn Finale Recap Incl Twitter React, Ratings, & Tons of Other News & Notes

As for the proposal day, this is where you kinda have to take off your blinders and remember this is a TV show. Yes, on Chris’ season Kaitlyn got very upset with Chris about how he didn’t give her the respect by letting her go early, yet that’s exactly what she did with Nick. I get it. It’s wrong. She shouldn’t have done it. And in most seasons 4 of the last 5 “Bachelorettes,” they have allowed the girl to let the #2 guy go early and save him the embarrassment (Andi, Des, Emily, and Ali all let their #2 guy go early. Only Ashley had Ben show up at the final rose ceremony only to dump him). But this wasn’t just any other season. And this wasn’t just any two random guys at the end. This was Nick and Shawn. Two guys that the entire season was built around starting in episode 4. They had a story to tell and be damned someone’s feelings getting spared. This is what Nick signed up for. If he didn’t want to risk the chance of getting dumped at the end, then don’t come on the show.

Could I understand his frustration when she was talking to him after stopping his proposal? Absolutely. Did I feel bad for the guy? Yes and no. Yes in the fact that no break up is ever fun. Ever. It just isn’t. And a break up on national television is that much worse. However, I say no because this is a show. He knew going in what this show is capable of and what could possibly happen to him. He just went through this a year ago. The second you sign on the dotted line (especially for a second time), you are at the mercy of the producers. You have no say in anything. They will tell the story they want to tell no matter how badly it might trample on somebody’s feelings or emotions. Nick was this season’s victim, plain and simple. Sure, he can ask Kaitlyn all he wants afterwards, “Well why didn’t you just spare me the embarrassment,” or “Why just not let me go early,” etc. I’m here to tell you it’s because that’s not a decision for her to make. Of course she rambled on and gave him some convoluted answer that he still probably doesn’t understand, but the real answer, the one that she couldn’t say, is “the producer’s made me.” Absolutely, 100% that speech by Nick and almost proposal was supposed to happen and Kaitlyn couldn’t do anything about it. I don’t think Kaitlyn is a mean, vindictive person, and yes, she obviously cared about Nick. So no one that cares about someone else would put them through that unless they were forced to. You are a pawn in their game. I guarantee she didn’t want to hear Nick make that speech and almost propose, but she had no choice. She just couldn’t tell him that on the ATFR.

Since the season was built around Nick and Shawn, and Chris Harrison had hinted a couple weeks ago in his weekly interview that he wanted to have Nick and Shawn on the stage together last night, we can’t say we were shocked to see it. However, I think the desired effect they were looking for was missed completely. Guys are guys. We don’t hold grudges with other guys (especially over something so petty as a reality dating show) for more than about, oh I don’t know, 6 minutes. Nick and Shawn were arguing back in April and May. Do you really think either of them cared to address it last night? Of course not, but the show had built it up where they basically had to. And essentially if you read between the lines, Nick and Shawn both called the show out for focusing so much on their “feud,” when in reality, they have hours and hours and hours of footage to use, yet they chose to do that. What’d Shawn say? He maybe talked about Nick 3% of the time, yet, the show made it seem like that’s all he talked about. It’s why they keep people in ITM’s for hours. They need to weed through tons of footage to find what storyline they’ll eventually end up going with.

Do they like each other? No. Will they talk and keep in touch after this? No. But what did they actually expect them to do last night? Come to blows? Start screaming at each other? Hell they didn’t even address the biggest elephant in the room between the two and that’s the whole Eskimo Brothers comment. How can that be such a major thing all season and then it’s never really addressed when you have these two on a couch next to each other. Chris Harrison you could tell was trying to stir sh** up and basically neither of these guys were having any of it. They don’t like each other, but they both realized they weren’t going to get suckered in to a pissing match on national television 2.5 months after filming ended. How petty would that look? And the only reason why it happened during filming is because producers purposely put them in a position to do so, by making them have these bogus 1-on-1 “confrontations.” It’s hard to re-create that 2.5 months later when you’ve both moved on. What does Shawn care what Nick thinks at this point? He got the girl. And what does Nick care about Shawn now since he’s moved on as well. The whole thing was this giant buildup only to have the effect of air slowly getting let out of a balloon. As for his parents being there in the audience – I don’t know if that was their way to try and throw people off thinking that maybe she picked Nick, or what the whole point of that was, but it had zero effect. Why the parents would even agree to show up, and bring the two younger sisters, is beyond me. For support? Is it right to have your 11 year old daughter and sister constantly being dragged into this so she can cry on TV? I don’t get it.

As for Kaitlyn and Shawn together, I’m not one of these people that studies body language, or how they look at each other, or how they touch each other, or any of that nonsense. Basically every final couple that has sat on that couch on the ATFR for almost 30 seasons have said how happy and in love they are. And four got married. Shawn and Kaitlyn are no different to me. Last season I had people swearing up and down that Josh and Andi made the cutest couple, they were so in love, they’d last forever – and they didn’t last 9 months. Then you had Chris and Whitney saying all the right things just 3 months ago, and they couldn’t even make it through the summer. Every couple gets a People mag cover story and all say the SAME EXACT THING. And four marriages. So you do the math. Offer still stands that if they do get married, by all means, I get them a gift. Despite Kailtyn’s comments towards me, it’s not about that. My job isn’t to make these people like me. I don’t care. I’ll stand by what I say every season and if they get married, I’ll get them a gift. Will they? No. But hey, I’ll get them one by random chance they do. I know that statement will come with the inevitable, “So are you saying they won’t get married because you know something, or, just that the odds aren’t in their favor?” I’m saying that I don’t think Shawn and Kaitlyn will ever get married. Take it for whatever it’s worth.

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  1. soccertory

    July 28, 2015 at 10:51 AM

    I guess I don’t get the difference between posting anti-emails and reposting tweets. And ironically Steve called out Kaitlyn for reposting mean tweets and then does it himself. The whole self-congratulations thing he does at the end of each season is the most obnoxious thing about this site. And I couldn’t even read page 5. What was that word vomit that took up almost a whole page?

    And how insanely awkward it was to put Nick’s family in the front row?!? Tasteless and mean. For them and Kaitlyn who obviously saw them.
    The whole ATFR was horrible. The editing was choppy, Chris Harrison was Mr. Interrupter and didn’t let anyone actually say anything. Every time they would start to say something interesting, he would cut them off and ask a different version of the same question. I wanted to punch him in the the throat.
    It was boring. Can’t wait for some crazy BIP to make things funny again.

  2. carrins1

    July 28, 2015 at 10:56 AM

    Thank you Steve for another great season. Haven’t missed one with you for the past 5 years and will continue to follow for years to come. I appreciate your humor, humility and wit. I look forward to watching BIP with you!

  3. jessicat

    July 28, 2015 at 11:14 AM

    I agree, soccertory. Steve is so obnoxious when it turns out he was correct. Although this season, chances are he wouldn’t have been right if Kaitlyn hadn’t spoiled the season herself. It’s annoying that he’s still being cocky about it. I couldn’t even read the whole thing.

  4. Sunnyside422

    July 28, 2015 at 11:19 AM

    Also a very long time reader…before you even began spoiling this nutty show and as always appreciate all your efforts to entertain us with your wit.

    Nothing negative from me and I feel that if people find you are too :wordy” then continue to stop reading.

    I sincerely hope we have seen the very last of Nick. How many times can he make an ass of himself in front of millions of people? And how can his family continue to believe he is wonderful. I guess love is really blind.

    Love the Chris Bukowski reference…classic…but now Nick is rapidly turning into another Bukowski! Sad.

    Shawn and Kaitlyn…good luck to you both till one day you wake up next to each other and say…meh…enough, I’m done with you!

    Oh did everyone read that one of the biggest hounds, Ed Swiderski actually married someone? Ykees to the girl.

    Onward to Ben’s season. He will be very easy on the eyes for sure and a nice change from horse face and the other guy who always looks for cameras even while passionately kissing! Dumb ass.

  5. purplerayne

    July 28, 2015 at 11:52 AM

    Steve really is wordy…but I dont think us pointing it out will ever make a difference 🙂 So I just scan his posts to get to the good stuff and skip over the bs (like the re-tweets).

    I just feel bad for Nick’s family. That poor mom! I need to give her a hug.

  6. angelfish

    July 28, 2015 at 12:04 PM

    Horrible lead, horrible winner, horrible runner-up, horrible dates, horrible clothes and horrible drama.

    But thanks to Steve’s recaps, I’m still on board this crazy train and look forward to the next stop.

  7. shellylite

    July 28, 2015 at 1:20 PM

    From above comment on putting Nick’s family in the front row: “Tasteless and mean.” That describes this whole franchise. I have noticed that Bachelor in Paradise is more fun, because Chris Harrison basically stays out of the picture. He’s the one who is tasteless and mean. He tries to create animosity between the players, like when Sean “confronted” Nick last night. There was never going to be any fight, etc. but Chris tried to play that up. He chooses a villain every season, probably started the gay rumors between JJ and whoever it was, and tries to orchestrate the nastiest stuff on the show. Why can’t the Bachelor/Bachelorette be more fun without the nastiness? Sean even said that the show played up the animosity between him and Nick and that flew right over Chris’s head. He just ignored the comment completely.
    He’s an a$$ and I hope he leaves the show. He has an undercurrent of nastiness to his whole personality. Other than CH, I thought this was a better season than others,, because Kaitlyn is the kind of person who grows on you, and she seems rather normal compared to past contestants, and her sense of humor really helped. I also liked that she made mistakes and wasn’t perfect and had sex, which is what normal people do quite a bit of before they get engaged. Right??? I can’t believe Chris H. kept saying she was “controversial”. How was she controversial? This isn’t the 1950s.

  8. shellylite

    July 28, 2015 at 1:25 PM

    By the way you are right on the spoilers point… I could not care less if I know who “wins”. I turn it on anyway.
    Most of the show is filler fluff anyway so it’s an “on in the background” shows. There is no way an intelligent person can sit there and watch it and not be multitasking.

  9. yankeesgirl

    July 28, 2015 at 1:34 PM

    First and foremost, it seems as though you did something to your website to make it not crash my computer every time – and for that I am very grateful.

    Thanks for the reads – reading about this show is much less boring than watching it. For the love of language, can you please calm down on the apostrophes… not everything is possessive. You’re a writer, after all.


  10. cjscjs711

    July 28, 2015 at 2:07 PM

    Actually like Kaitlyn a lot better after seeing these two episodes – especially meeting her family again, in this context. I think not introducing the audience to ‘the whole of Kaitlyn’ (no pun, please) was the biggest mistake the franchise made. It made it so easy for people to distrust her, misread her, etc.

    Steve’s nyah-nyhah-n-nyah-nyah about the naysayers has never bothered me. I empathize knowing how frustrating it is to me to read comments about images or people Iv’e shot that are totally off the mark and not be able to say anything about it. Granted, these comments weren’t public until he made them so; but I understand the frustration and the relief he may feel from venting, which is what I think this is.

  11. vessel

    July 28, 2015 at 2:07 PM

    I wish they would have laid off a little on the Nick/Shawn drama on ATFR and let Kaitlyn and Shawn talk a little about how they plan to logistically make this work living in two different countries and all. Frankly that’s a lot more topical and interesting to me than the old news of manufactured conflicts between 2 guys a few months ago.

  12. Caroll

    July 28, 2015 at 4:07 PM

    How stupid was Chris Harrison’s comment to Shawn and Nick that they should “hug it out?”

  13. kata

    July 28, 2015 at 4:43 PM

    Ratings for the show last night have been upgraded. This season makes the top summer show that is not a special. I loved watching it because I like Kaitlyn. I loved her family. It’s refreshing seeing loving people who are not all uptight. Very happy these two ended up together and it’s clear Shawn was there for her. I have hope they will last. The cyber bullying, hatred and slut shaming thrown their way… made them stronger while making those doing it all that is wrong with the internet. Kaitlyn and Shawn will either decide to live in Nashville or Vancouver. I watched them on Jimmy Kimmel. They were great. 🙂

  14. whattamorondude

    July 28, 2015 at 4:56 PM

    I am glad this season is over for several reasons (and yes I like to look at a train wreck, but I do grow tired……)

    Kaitlyn’s cackle (nails on a chalkboard)

    Shawn’s Western gun man slinging walk and plastic hair.

    Nick’s slushy voice, shifty eyes, hands constantly on face, trying too hard beaded bracelets and overall smarm.

    And finally, Steve’s overly compensating blah blah blog posts.

    Until next season fellow readers!!!!!

  15. product19

    July 28, 2015 at 5:02 PM

    Does anyone else feel like Nick got exactly what he wanted to by getting sent home? Maybe he’s thinking, “Bring on the pity sex!”

    Anyone else spot his pre-mullet, too?

  16. brick

    July 28, 2015 at 6:07 PM

    Yes, thank you Steve for another great season. Had it not been for your blogs I’d never have gotten through this painfully bad season. I too, won’t miss her hyena cackle, forced as it was. Like nails on chalkboard.

  17. justforfun

    July 28, 2015 at 7:02 PM

    I think Nick acted like an as* when Kaitlyn let him go. He knows the games the producers play, so shouldn’t have blamed Kaitlyn for not letting him go early. What point was there to his arguing with her? To make her feel bad? Grow up, accept that she liked someone else better, and leave in a respectful manner. What a big baby, and no class at all!
    He even did the same thing to her that he did to Andi, except this time it was “why did you tell me that you love me?” Which was probably said in the heat of the moment. He needs to stay off TV, and far away from reality shows.

    I really think Kaitlyn was in this for the fame, but she seems to have found someone she likes, so who knows if they will last? Probably not, but I didn’t think Des & Chris would last either.

  18. auntpreppy

    July 28, 2015 at 7:04 PM

    Don’t think my friends and I would enjoy the season nearly as much without RS’s spoilers and recaps.

    I did like Shawn’s memory jar…a collection of mementos is always nice…but not as nice as an XBox, pair of shoes, or a mixed tape. But if the jar was big enough- he can just throw those things in too!

    Thanks for another great season RS!!

  19. wadagoducks

    July 28, 2015 at 7:33 PM

    I actually stopped watching when the show brought Nick on. To me, he’s trying way too hard to be a hipster, and we have enough genuine hipsters in Portland that I speak from experience. I find hipsters generally annoying, but someone who is actually failing at hipsterism is both annoying and clueless. My skin literally had a crawling feeling whenever Nick was on screen.

  20. chris0210

    July 28, 2015 at 7:59 PM

    Another great season! Right or wrong I love reading your recaps and every week you have made me laugh! Thanks!

  21. eden

    July 28, 2015 at 9:24 PM

    throne of lies heifer XD omg can’t breathe

  22. adrie

    July 28, 2015 at 11:06 PM

    I disliked this season immensely. The editing, the story line, the change in format, the drama, Kaitlyn herself, none of it worked for me. I really hope next season is better and I don’t feel so agitated after watching an episode.

  23. rigal

    July 28, 2015 at 11:58 PM

    I do not understand Kaitlyn’s iciness when talking to Nick on ATFR. His question was legit and he asked it without contempt. However, Kaitlyn first addressed it with her infamous eyeroll. Then compared her saying ‘I love you’ to Nick to feeling love toward Ben H. (like come on–totally different). She completely downplayed her pre- Bachelorette romance with Nick AFTER Nick told us how often they’d contact each other and explained there were def mutual feelings. She made a pretty mean joke saying she didnt mean for him to come mid-season. (this is def something they must have spoken about before so WHY bring it up again on TV, just to paint him in a worse light??). She FINALLY admitted she could have handled the breakup better but after 5 minutes of talking in a circle. And then Shawn, trying to intimidate Nick saying ‘is that your new nickname?’ [the other guy] was also immature–like really, you still need to take a shot, you already, ‘won’ the girl… Both Kaitlyn and Nick acted way more immature than I expected from two 30 years olds. I really hope she just stays in Canada and we dont see her on our screen again.

  24. duckquack

    July 29, 2015 at 1:44 AM

    Kaitlyn is immature, so is Shawn….reminds me of the time that Horse mouth Josh Murray made fun of Nick, and continued every chance he got to show his mug face on TV..

    Nick is Nick and a better man, searching for a woman he connects with, Kaitlyn is the one that opened her legs, just like Andi…I’m 100% sure Nick did not force either one to take their panies off… why trash the man who wants to find a woman, they all rushed to Reality TV, why should Nick be exempt….

    Shawn needs to get that nose shaved down quite a bit, and his possessive character will kill the relationship..Kaitlyn is smug, and after all who brought Nick back on the show?…the producers of course, to shake things up a bit, otherwise she could not have carried the show with her limited vocabulary and giggle giggles….Kaitlyn should join Jillian and the alcohol, they are 2 peas in a pod…Let’s paint the town red….

    Ben Zzzzzzzzzzzz, that’s a man….Clint and JJ better dudes than Kaitlyn could ever be…
    Oh if you read Jillian’s blog, she had to take a dig at Ed her ex, he just got married….Ed had a better job than anyone on her show, he was educated, where Jilly has herself an errand boy, Justin…dude has no job, let alone a career like Ed has….Jilly thought Ed would forever be a frat dude, WRONG Jillian and a cheap shot what you wrote…Take your little big nose Justin the errand boy to Starbucks, and you go get drunk.

    Ben Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz is the man, and I would take Nick any day before Shawn…Shawn doesn’t even have a career, what will you do but go watch The Grand old Opry….

  25. LynnS

    July 29, 2015 at 5:12 AM

    I watched Kaitlyn and Shawn on GMA. They are both incredibly immature. They said they laughed when they saw Nick throw his ring while in the limo. Whether you like Nick or not, he was hurting at that time – and they thought it was funny. Yeah, real mature.

  26. LynnS

    July 29, 2015 at 5:30 AM

    From a previous commenter: “For the love of language, can you please calm down on the apostrophes… not everything is possessive. You’re a writer, after all.”

    Another thing he consistently does is he writes “lets” when it should be “let’s” most of the time.

  27. brick

    July 29, 2015 at 6:21 AM

    I wish people would stop criticizing RS’ grammar, spelling, etc. Don’t confuse writers with editors. The writers I know all rely on an editor to catch the small stuff you’re obsessing over.

    I didn’t watch GMA and from the comments people are making I’m glad I didn’t. So Kaitlyn & Shawn found it funny when Nick threw away his ring right after being rejected? Yes, those two are right out of high school. If nothing else the two immature losers deserve each other. As others have said it was a bad season all around. Casting Kaitlyn didn’t help matters much but the changes in format were bad and I don’t buy into anything Chris Harrison says. Ever. He’s just too smarmy.

  28. jlyoung

    July 29, 2015 at 6:54 AM

    I literally disliked Shawn so much I fast forwarded through almost every segment he was in. Sometimes I tried to watch ATFR moments but it gets SO awkward its too hard to watch. Why should Shawn and Nick be anywhere near each other, let alone on the same couch? I would have NEVER given Shawn the dignity of addressing him, especially by name. Shawn is a desperate, pathetic, insecure man. I’m sure he looks in the mirror and sees something VERY different than what everyone else sees. If you don’t have the looks at least come through on personality, Shawn. I think that he and Kaitlyn definitely deserve each other and I hope their inevitable break up is as nasty as Shawn’s behavior towards Nick. That, I will enjoy. What a couple of losers. Stay gone!

  29. lovetheworld

    July 29, 2015 at 7:42 AM

    Nick is such a loser, attention seeker, and really a biggest joke in the world. He complained that Andi didn’t give him a closure last season so he must out their sex and this season he complained that Kaitlyn didn’t let him leave earlier. I can’t believe some people hope he is next bachelor. Most of the people loved to watch him get rejected not that they want to watch him find love.

  30. gromon85

    July 29, 2015 at 7:58 AM

    Everyone should also check out their ET interview. Kaitlyn is laughing about how awkward it was ” when someone wants to spend the rest of your life with you and you don´t” Shawn was laughing right with her. She seems like an insensitive, immature, cold-hearted b**** to me. I agree with the posters above that those two seem like the two mean kids in high school. Come on, they may not like Nick after the fact, but at least show some compassion. Jeeeeeez.

  31. LynnS

    July 29, 2015 at 8:57 AM

    Brick: With all due respect, I will criticize RS’ grammar if I wish. And I am not obsessing over it. I made only this one comment in all the years I’ve been following him. I would never say anything about mistakes we all make occasionally, but this is habitual. You may not find it annoying, but I do.

  32. Susan

    July 29, 2015 at 9:40 AM

    Yes, I was shocked also by Kaitlyn’s nastiness. The eye rolling was ridiculous. At least show a little respect. I agree though it’s like the two mean kids getting together, and I hope they ride off into the sunset until the eventual parting but still friends crap.

    I didn’t like her from day 1, the laugh was horrific. The smug expressions was like a smug child wanting to get her way. I would be so happy if we never have to see her again, but from what I’m hearing she is going to be on DWTS 🙁 🙁 🙁

  33. wiggy5

    July 29, 2015 at 11:09 AM

    Hi Steve~! love your column by the way!! I truly liked the analogy about ESPN; so true! This show is mindless entertainment for me; as an old married lady, I find it absolutely hilarious most of the time and look forward to your column and reviews. You nailed it again and congrats!! The haters will always be there…
    I do agree wholeheartedly regarding Nick’s family; what the hell? Subjecting young siblings to this stuff is ridiculous and borders on mental abuse. Is being on TV that important? why would they even want to come…why try to figure it out…
    As for your dream: “To have something stolen from you suggests you feel you have been robbed of something valuable to you such as your credibility. OR you may feel you aren’t getting the credit or recognition you deserve, that you have worked so hard for.”
    Pretty fitting I would say!
    Keep winning in Vegas!!

  34. ashleigh11

    July 29, 2015 at 12:25 PM

    I wasn’t a fan of Nick’s during Andi’s season and didn’t really like him through most of Kaitlyn’s until the last couple of episodes. I thought he came off extremely well, handled the family intros/meeting, breakup and ATFR with class and appeared quite genuine. Nick came off far better than Kaitlyn did during that whole thing. This season felt like far more of a real blindside to the #2 guy than any other that I can remember and I don’t think Kaitlyn was particularly sensitive in handling the situation. Nick should also definitely keep the beard – he looks 100% more attractive with it, than without.

    Anyway… I think Kaitlyn and Shawn will have a fun ride and then burn out fairly quickly. They have very different temperaments and while sometimes that can be complementary in a relationship, I just don’t see it here.

  35. yankeesgirl

    July 29, 2015 at 1:48 PM

    haha I am not obsessing over Steve’s errors in grammar or otherwise. We all make mistakes and it’s not a big deal. As someone that criticizes his own readers and the people he writes about, it seems as though he’d want his ducks in a row when it came to his own work product. But I’m not going to lose any sleep over it. I’m just happy there’s another person here that notices these errors!

  36. christine

    July 29, 2015 at 8:49 PM

    I’m glad to see other people point out Steve’s grammar and spelling issues as well. I get that back when this was just a fun, silly thing he did on the side, he wasn’t going to proofread or put much effort into making sure the posts are error-free. But now that this is his JOB and sole source of income, you’d think he would put a bit more effort in.

  37. brick

    July 30, 2015 at 7:32 AM

    The irony is Kaitlyn and her most ardent fans kept harping on how “honest” she supposedly is as though she’s some virtuous goddess. Yet she blindsided Nick more than most of the past bachelors/bachelorettes have when it came to the final 2nd as someone above aptly put it. I’ve seen her as more comfortable lying than most. Her lack of empathy has always been somewhat disturbing. If you know you’re hurting someone and doing it on national TV yet, and you’re getting what you wanted all along with someone else anyway, there’s no need to go there. Not if you’re a decent human being. We know she’s not very bright which isn’t a crime, but add in cruel and she’s just a female version of some of the slimy guys we’ve had on in past seasons.

    Kaitlyn is a narcissistic nut bar and Ms. Fruitloops and Shawn deserve each other. It’s a pity they rested this season on her sexual escapades because it detracted from who she is as a person and those flaws are extreme and unlikeable enough all on their own. Kaitlyn appears to think of herself as a great prize but I’m sure by now Nick, his family, and the other guys and their families are secretly relieved she went with Shawn or someone, anyone, else.

    Most of all I feel sorry for Kaitlyn’s future children, regardless of who the daddies turn out to be. They deserve better.

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