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Bachelor in Paradise 2

“Reader Emails” & Taylor Swift Last Night


I know that this may be hard to believe but having Nick sitting on the couch having a talk about “are you over Andi and Katelyn” crap and then sending him away has to be one of the stupidest things the Bachelor has ever come up with. They literally wasted 2 minutes of my time. I mean if I’m honest, BIP and after Paradise is all a complete waste of my time. But really? Then Chris Harrison wants to say “I think we just broke twitter” No you didn’t Chris! How stupid. Sorry rant over. Can’t wait for spoilers from Ben!

Comment: Chris is hyping the show because that’s what he’s paid to do. But a little extreme to think your little 2 minutes of fun with Nick that you played on the audience was nearly as big a deal as he made it out to be.

Hi Steve,

When Nick is first talking to Samantha on August 24th, he calls her a “good conversator”. Now do you think he meant “conversationalist”, or the real latin word conversator, meaning companion? I think it was Justin that said “conversator” but I could be wrong. Either way, yeah, not a good choice of words.
And what’s with Carly’s friggin’ and Ashley S’s literally?
It’s literally driving me insane.

Keep up the good work! Can’t wait for Ben H. to get the RS treatment.

Comment: I don’t think these people are getting cast because they are masters of the English language.

Not sure what the RS treatment is, but thanks. I’m just gonna continue to do what I do every season and have for over 10 years.

List the remaining women in terms of attractiveness (not taking into account personality). For me, Samantha, Jade, Ashley S, Tenley, Juelia, Ashley I, Carly, Amber. I’ll go with Jade, Ashley S, Samantha, Tenley, Ashley I, Amber, Juelia, Carly.

Now the hard one… You are stuck in an elevator for 4 hours. List the women in order of who you would prefer to be on that elevator with… I think I could handle Jade, Carly, Samantha, and maybe Tenley (but the voice would get to me), but after that, geez…

Comment: Same order, but maybe move Tenley down a couple spots because she might talk my ear off about going gluten free.

Hi Steve,

For some reason, I never made the connection that Ben H. was from my local area until I read an article on WANE news this morning. He was a high school quarterback for Warsaw. This is a link to their article which has some highlights of him playing football:

Hopefully it’s of some interest.

Comment: Aaron Rodgers he is not. But then again, not many are. Not bad, Ben.

Hi Steve

Did you notice how many times that lady from The View kept touching Joe’s leg when she was sitting next to him on the couch? It looked like he wanted to punch her every time she did it. If it was a man doing that to a female contestant, they could’ve been charged with sexual harassment.

Comment: Lets do away with these fringe celebrities on shows that have a niche following as the guests. I understand they’re basically saying, “Look everyone! Even actors and actresses are in BachelorNation!” but I don’t think anyone really cares.

Ok- been a viewer on your page since since it really took over. Loyal. Love ya. Think you literally make the show worth watching, my bf always jokes with me, bc no matter movie-TV show whatever it maybe I ALWAYS gotta know what happens before, and just to rehash and let you know from another fan, no one cares that you were a little late spoiling Kaytlin and Shawn, I actually (am 25 yrs old FYI) was on snapchat when she sent that out, and btw she didn’t send it to a producer, she sent it to her story!! And it was left on there – for 34 mins. I tweeted you as soon as it happened, and kept looking to see how long she would keep it up- old news I know, but kinda ties in to my question…how close are they to their producers really? Especially this season I have seen Ben H (can we officially drop the ‘H’ now or no?) , Shawn, Tanner, Jared, JJ and Kaytlin Instagram Pictures of them, from Ireland or whatever destination they were at, at the time with Producers besides Élan, both that I saw are girls one namEd Jessica Florence and another named Melissa -can’t find her last name on Instagram when I went back to look before I started this email- but Im getting of track, and I really want you to reply and after almost 6 years im finally sending an email in, and really wanna actually see my emial on Readers Email blog really bad! So go ahead and cut some of my rambling out if need be. But what I’m getting at, is are they usually that close to producers? It reminds me of unreal w Rachel and Adam sans the sex.. Kaitlyn meant to send her snap to producers but accidentally sent it out on her stories. As for the producers, the leads are the ones that are usually the closest because they spend all day every day with them. As for the others, it’s hit and miss.

Also, why do you think they didn’t do Nick and Ben H and let the woman choose like they did with Britt and Kaytlin lol

Comment: Because Nick was never going to be any part of the “Bachelor.”


I’m sure this is no new information for you but I’ve lately been finding myself yelling at a TV in an empty room or with my husband around who could care less. First, thanks for cluing me into Sharleen’s blog! I adore that girl.

I totally agree with opinion of Juelia being a single mom and having no more right to be in paradise. I find it funny that she has an opportunity of a lifetime to meet people who are part of the same franchise she’s already in, a franchise that seems to be the most incestuous franchise of all time. She’s got better dating odds at home than on this show. If a guy from another season wanted to meet her he would have done so already! The chances of THE ONE to come stumbling down those steps is pretty slim. I think that’s just what she’s saying publicly, when bottom line is, she just wants to be on TV.

On to the Samantha/Joe/Juelia debacle I think Joe is the real monster here which I’ll get to in a sec. Juelia was dumb for believing him after several people tried to clue her in. If he acts like a rat, he’s probably a rat! The Bachelor show loves to set up these surrounding stories to make reality seem much worse. Who knows HOW friendly Samantha and Juelia really were! If you look back on both IG accounts they have like 1 photo outside of the after show events which appears to be “the vacation they took together” which means NOTHING. Great, they happened to all book a trip together to Miami. Who knows, maybe Juelia or Samantha was THAT friend where it’s like “sh*t got to invite so and so or they’ll be mad.” Hell, maybe Sam was only invited to get them into clubs or something with her connections. So this surrounding BS about Sam being dismissive to Juelia, if I’m not that close with someone and they pulled me into some side action I’d probably have a similar attitude. Onto Joe, he was down right manipulative and stupid. He played Juelia like a fiddle to stick around and was an idiot to pick someone from Sam’s season who she might know.

Thanks keeping me entertained at work! 🙂

Comment: Joe has admitted to all of this, so it’s just a matter of whether you accept his apology or not. He admitted he was a horrible person during filming and was wrapped up in everything Samantha. But she’s definitely not innocent in all this.

Did u notice when Clare got sent home the spliced together line where she said if u were the bachelorette none of this would have happened or something like that was that really Clare saying that?

Comment: I’m sure she said it because we heard it. But in terms of what context, or how much of it was spliced together, we’ll never know.

1.) An article came out with Chris Harrison saying that quite a few former contestants have reached out, requesting to be on Ben’s upcoming season. I saw Becca tweet out something to the effect of Ben being the kind of guy she’s looking for, and she’s been crushing on him pretty hard on her periscopes. Have you heard anything about Becca, or any other former contestant pulling a Nick and returning for a second chance? Do you think it’s realistic that they’ll have a former contestant as the 26th girl? Anything’s possible. It’s all speculation at some point until the season starts and the cast shows up. When it does, I’m sure I’ll know and I’ll spoil it then. But until then, it does us no good to speculate about it since filming is a month away.

2.) With the new season of “Survivor” coming up, I think this might be one of the better casts that the show has ever had. Do you have any favorites that you would like to see win? I’m totally on Team Spencer. I like Spencer as well. Along with Terry, Ciera, and Jeremy to name a few others.

3.) Is the Bachelor secret Facebook group real? I’ve heard about it, but was never sure if it really existed or was just a rumor. I have a theory that this franchise is just one big massive orgy. Like, once your release the season breakdown for Ben’s season, a ton of former contestants will read your site and immediately reach out to the best-looking girls or the ones that make it really far with the hope of getting laid or becoming “friends” to extend their 15 minutes. And vice-versa when you spoil the “Bachelorette,” with girls reaching out to guys coming off of that season. Do I paint a correct picture? Yes, the FB group is real. And yes, that’s exactly what past contestants do once I start releasing the girls. Hell, I’ve even had some contact me and ask if I have any more info. I call them “fresh meat” every season, because the second I release them, I know former “Bachelorette” contestants begin a feeding frenzy to see who can hook up with who first.


This is the first time I’m reaching out so I first want to say I think you’re hilarious and I enjoy your site. I don’t know why I like watching this trainwreck of a show (even as a girl, my ESPN coworkers would definitely still give me a hard time if they knew) but I find it entertaining because it’s ridiculous.
I also hope you update us on your Fantasy Football team this year! If you had the first pick of your draft this year, who would it be? My draft is next Monday night, and we do an auction draft. And it’s a PPR league, so receivers are worth more. And QB’s as well. So it’s tough to say.

I downloaded Periscope and came across one of Jade’s broadcasts. I was surprised at one of her answers. Someone asked if they get paid to be on Bachelor In Paradise. She said yes they get paid. Thought that was interesting. I figured the Bachelor/ette lead gets paid but does this mean all contestants get paid in this franchise? If so, I finally understand why they go on this show!

Comment: Everyone on Paradise gets paid to come on. Contestants on the “Bachelor/ette” don’t get paid, only the lead does.

Hi Steve!

Being a huge Taylor Swift fan since her “Teardrops On My Guitar” days, I am so excited that you went to a Taylor Swift concert! I hope that you and Olivia had a great time! So I was wondering:
What was your favorite part of the concert?
What are your top 3 Taylor Swift songs of all time? (you can name any, even the ones that are not so popular)

Have a good day!

Comment: I liked the whole thing. Very entertaining from beginning to end.

Top 3 songs? “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together,” “Blank Space,” and “Bad Blood.” I like pretty much all of her popular songs, but I can’t say I’ve heard any of the way earlier stuff you’re talking about.

Hey Steve,

Were the super fans from bachelor pad 3 accepted into the bachelor/ette alumni fold (e.g. became members of the secret Facebook page, invited to reunions) or were they never considered to be part of the group?

Comment: I don’t see many pics with them still associating with the main group, so my guess would be no. Maybe some have still kept in touch off social media, but I’m not sure.

Hey Steve!

Your Jake Pavelka imitation “Stop Interrupting Me!” in your video chat was so freaking hilarious. The karate chop, the tone everything was perfect. Tears in my eyes laughing so hard. Then watching you finally clue in to Joe’s twitter name. Podcast gold.

Has Nick Peterson had work done? He looks soo different and much better. Maybe it’s just maturity and the beard. Oh and getting rid of the frosted tips. I have no idea. He is a personal trainer, so I think his weight fluctuates. I remember seeing he competed in a body building competition a little while back, so he was heavier then. He looks a lot more toned and leaner now.

So Holly is crowd funding a beauty pageant thingy. What? Doesn’t her dentist hubby make enough money? Not giving her enough spending money? How does she or Michael Stagliano have enough nerve to ask their fans to fund their hobbies or future money making opps? They freakin’ won $125,000 just 4 years ago!! Holly published her book, had a lavish wedding and built a house. Michael went on tour and also got married. Losers. I normally don’t care what these people do, but Michael and Holly can eff themselves.

Comment: I had no idea until someone brought that up to me last Thursday night. No idea what that’s all about. However, winning $125,000 4 years ago really isn’t all that much now in 2015 considering taxes and everything. Certainly not something they’re retiring off of.

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  1. cjscjs711

    August 26, 2015 at 9:51 AM

    I think the appearance by Nick as a next Bachelor teaser was obviously being playful with the audience and I didn’t see it as meaning to be hurtful to anyone. Nick was a good sport about losing again, even though that was all unspoken, the silly pretend indecision they’d been hawking about who to choose – Nick or Ben. I saw some humor in it, and was glad Harrison didn’t do to Nick what he did to Britt – make it seem like he was leading up to telling her she won only to tell her she lost. That would have been hurtful.

  2. kimmyfromdablock

    August 26, 2015 at 10:55 AM

    I like the reader mail about rating attractiveness on the women left on BIP. For me, the order would be:

    1). Jade
    2). Ashley I
    3). Juelia
    4). Ashley S.
    5). Samantha
    6). Tenley
    7). Amber
    8). Carly

    This is of course, not accounting for personality — strictly looks. Clearly I don’t see Samantha as a ‘smoke show’ but I understand the appeal of her look for men. She’s too Elvira/porn star look for me.

  3. elizabeth82

    August 26, 2015 at 11:19 AM

    rob22, was that you with the paragraph about how hot Samantha is?

    I agree with the person who said her hair is just way too long, especially ’cause she has such a small head (so does Nick, ha) and shorter hair would complement her features much better. I also don’t like her porn-star-looking nails. Of course she’s very pretty but her personality isn’t.

    Rankings are fun, so here’s mine:

    1. Jade
    2. Ashley S.
    3. Tenley
    4. Samantha
    5. Carly
    6. Ashley I.
    7. Amber
    8. Juelia

    Juelia would be a lot prettier if she lost the clumpy eyelash extensions, fake boobs, streaky hair color, and orange skin tone. I don’t care for Jade, but she has great natural beauty, I just wish she didn’t have the fake boobs too. Carly’s the only one whose personality I really like, so maybe that boosts her attractiveness to me. 🙂

  4. rob22

    August 26, 2015 at 1:03 PM

    elizabeth: No. I didn’t send the email about Samantha. I’ve emailed RS once, didn’t like the response, commented on it & have never done it again. And probably won’t in the future.

    But ironically, I WAS going to say that I would put Samantha #1 on my list. I’d never commented on her (certainly not about her looks), so some pretty good mind reading there in that I was going to agree with that email.

    I’m honestly not all that taken by Jade. I wonder if the fact that she did the nude video that probably most have seen, factors into their rankings? To me, she’s not incredibly awesome looking. I do think Ashley S is nice looking, so I’d put her at #2. The others, I mean they’re attractive (95% of the women on the show are attractive), but to me they’re not drop dead gorgeous or anything. They don’t stand out to me.

    Obviously Ashley S is a borderline mental patient and Samantha is manipulative and kind of a self-absorbed semi-sociopath. So, neither is remotely girlfriend material. But they are very nice looking.

  5. rob22

    August 26, 2015 at 1:08 PM

    Oh, and on Carly. Initially her bubbly personality made her seem attractive. But she’s one of those people who the more you see of them, the less attractive they seem. It’s not just the bad hair dye job. It’s her clingy and kind of stalkerish personality. You go out with Carly, and you’re going to have a heck of a time getting rid of her. And you’ll want to get rid of her fast. She was the one with all the snarky comments about Britt, among others. She’s not a very nice person. Very insecure & has a dead end job on some cruise ship. I’ve been cruising a bit, and a lot of their entertainers are big drinkers and live sad depressing lives…. and are not paid well unless they are headline acts. She’s one of those people that evokes a “Danger Will Robinson” warning. Stay away from that.

  6. elizabeth82

    August 26, 2015 at 8:59 PM

    @rob22: Aw that’s too bad you think so poorly of Carly. Britt deserved most of the comments Carly made about her; Britt’s phony and manipulative. I don’t get how Carly’s clingy either. A little insecurity comes through and her hair dye job is unfortunate, but I think she’s funny and likeable. Are you sure you’re not (as I think RS is) judging her mostly for the Britt comments?

    That’s funny you didn’t make the Samantha comment but agree. RS’s answers to e-mails leave much to be desired, as he doesn’t even answer many of the questions therein.

  7. kimmyfromdablock

    August 26, 2015 at 9:32 PM

    Interesting that a few find Ashley S so attractive. She’s definitely pretty and has a great body….but between her perma-startled expression and an overall look of a 35-year old suburban mom….she just doesn’t WOW me.

  8. braveo900

    August 27, 2015 at 1:20 AM

    Mine is: Ashley I/Samantha, Amber, Jade, Juelia, Tenley, Ashley S, Carly

    And Dan, Tanner, Jared, Joshua, Nick, Justin, Kirk, Mikey/Joe

    (Based on looks & voice)

  9. caffeinequeen

    August 27, 2015 at 2:06 AM

    I like rankings too–
    1. Ashley I.
    2. Tenley
    3. Ashley S.
    4. Juelia
    5. Jade
    6. Samantha
    7. Carly
    8. Amber

    Leaving Tenley’s voice aside, I think she’s really attractive in a wholesome sort of way. Juelia too, but use less mascara (or remove the lash extensions).
    I guess I see Samantha’s attraction, just doesn’t do it for me. If I had to be stuck in an elevator with any of them, Carly would be the most entertaining. 🙂

  10. Scout

    August 27, 2015 at 6:59 AM

    OO! I’ll rank too!

    Tenley, Jade, Ashley S, Ashley I, Carly, Samantha, Juelia, Amber

    And guys:
    Jared, Tanner, Dan, Kirk, Nick, Josh, Mikey, Joe, Justin

  11. helloday

    August 27, 2015 at 9:26 AM

    Wow. There are a bunch of racists here. There’s tons of variation in the rankings for the white girls, but the black girl is always last or second to last. She’s one of maybe two people who let their natural beauty shine through and don’t cake it on, but because she is black, it is deemed unattractive. This is why we will never have a minority bachelor/ette. You don’t even think about your racism. It’s just programmed into your mind that minorities are unattractive. Amber is up there with Jade when it comes to beauty. Open your racist eyes to see the truth.

  12. Bellatriks

    August 27, 2015 at 10:30 AM

    Since rankings are now a thing: 🙂

    1. Tenley
    2. Ashley S.
    3. Samantha
    4. Jade
    5. Ashley I.
    6. Amber
    7. Carly
    8. Juelia

  13. LynnS

    August 27, 2015 at 10:37 AM

    Regarding the above post: I am sick and tired of people thinking I am racist because I don’t happen to believe a woman of a different race is attractive.

    It is sickening to me that I “must” consider a woman beautiful just because she is a different race. Clear and simple, I don’t find Amber very attractive.

  14. rob22

    August 27, 2015 at 10:43 AM

    helloday: I do like Amber. Good looking and great personality. I forgot she was on the show. I’ll add her 3rd on my list. She not really a classic beauty, you’d really have to admit that. I see her as more of an attractive girl next door type. In a good way. I don’t think it’s fair to label people racists because some, not all, have her lower on the list. I mean, she’s on the list.

    elizabeth: probably I do have Carly lower because of the way she treated Britt. I’m still a little bitter about that. I would definitely have Britt up on my list. Maybe even #1. But I have to admit that Kaitlyn provided a grand train wreck and great entertainment, so she probably was the better choice. Britt might have been kind of boring. It was a pretty sad group of guys when Alf ends up being the winner. There wouldn’t have been much hope for that season unless Kaitlyn did all the stuff that she did.

  15. Scout

    August 27, 2015 at 10:46 AM

    LynnS: stole the words right out my mouth! I find Amber pretty…or cute. But as for who I (and only I) find attractive, she just wasn’t high on my list. There are plenty of women of colour that I find attractive – just like there are plenty of white women that I find unattractive.

  16. vessel

    August 27, 2015 at 10:56 AM

    I’m with you Elizabeth on the Carly thing. I’ve always liked her and found her witty. It is unfortunate about the hair/eyebrow combo, but that’s fixable. Also agree any snark she directed at Britt was totally earned. Britt’s snotty ‘me me me how dare you give others roses over me’ attitude and behavior, plus the over the top theatrics deserved probably even more snark than they showed us.

  17. purplerayne

    August 27, 2015 at 11:20 AM

    Naturally pretty girls:
    Ashley S

    Pretty girls that get help from their hair, styling:
    Ashley I.

    The average girls that makeup and extension cant help:

  18. purplerayne

    August 27, 2015 at 11:25 AM

    Carly is a giant red flag once you look at all of her offenses: her insecure cattiness, her “profession”, her constant admiration of Kirk when he’s given only 10% back, missing out her beloved brother’s wedding to be on television……individually these things might not be a big deal, but collectively they say a whole lot about Carly and it aint good.

  19. ladyjane747

    August 27, 2015 at 12:45 PM

    Ooh, I’ll play.
    1. Samantha
    2. Ashley S.
    3. Jade
    4. Ashley I.
    5. Amber
    7. Juelia
    8. Carly

    1. Dan
    2. Jared
    3. Nick
    4. Josh
    5. Tanner
    6. Kirk
    7. Mikey
    8. Justin
    9. Joe

  20. cjscjs711

    August 27, 2015 at 5:02 PM

    Well this is something new – looks like more fun than the betting ring on the Bachelor! I’ll play, but I can’t help but be influenced by my work. The types I’m used to working well with photographing and retouching.

    Amber far and away #1 (and no, it’s not race preferred, I’m white). Lovely skin, natural beauty, love her style, her warmth, her figure. I could see her beauty or editorial
    Ashley S. – Agree with the housewife comment, but those women make a lot of money doing lifestyle! She’s very commercial with her can’t miss features. I could see her doing some elegant ads, too. Not kooky crazy. No.
    Ashley I. – We already have one Kim Kardashian we don’t need another. Kind of curious about what’s under the makeup. She seems like she’d like seeing good pictures of herself, and I like working with people who like my work.

    That’s about it for me. Samantha – love her hair; Jade is adorable but they both still come across as a little too men’s mag for me. JMO

  21. kimmyfromdablock

    August 27, 2015 at 5:08 PM


    These rankings are fun and your post is depressing. I would bet that not one person ranked Amber low because of the color of her skin. Her skin color is actually quite beautiful, but I still don’t favor her looks overall.

    Don’t look for problems where they don’t exist.

  22. braveo900

    August 28, 2015 at 1:30 AM

    I don’t agree fully with helloday, but I think the sentiment they’re trying to convey is that in the first 5 rankings offered by commenters, 4 of them had Amber being either last or 2nd to last. I was surprised by it too. It’s just not proportional to what you’d expect. It could be a coincidence, or it could be that sometimes people have different standards/preferences for beauty for different races, even when they don’t realize it. This is what it usually is in real life, so I can see why helloday may take that frustration out here.

  23. flightgirl

    August 28, 2015 at 1:33 AM

    helloday— I agree with kimmyfromdablock, don’t look for problems where they don’t exsist.

    I also find women of color to be gorgeous. IMO, Amber just isn’t. But again, IMO, none of the other women are flat out gorgeous either. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I don’t find Samantha attractive, but many others here do. I think Ashley I is very pretty, but most here don’t.

    Enough of that. I also thought it was tacky and redundant to have Juelia on the after show still looking for sympathy. I do believe Joe was sincere with his apology. He was a complete dick on the show but he finally owned it.

    Nick does look much, much better too. I think Dan and Tanner are the most attractive guys. But again it is just my opinion.

  24. vessel

    August 28, 2015 at 10:29 AM

    I thought it was interesting the other night while I was watching BIP my husband looked up from whatever he was doing when it was mentioned by one of the guys for the 20th time how “gorgeous” Samantha is he goes “THAT is the girl they are all in a twist about??? Wow she’s definitely not all that” or something to that effect. She’s got a lot of hair and a great body for sure but I don’t find her face all that stunning. In fact if we’re getting picky she’s got a really weak chin, it’s almost non existent. IMO out of this group Jade is definitely the prettiest.

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