-Aaaaahhhhh, we finally get to JoJo’s date. A little background here. It was filmed Sunday, Nov. 1st in Dallas. They were supposed to have their day portion of the date at Reunion Tower, but apparently bad weather nixed those plans. Hence the reason why this date started off completely different than most hometowns we’ve ever seen. JoJo arriving at her place waiting for Ben to show up? When has that ever happened? So maybe because of the weather killing the original plans for the date, they had to scramble to come up with something, so they did the whole ex-boyfriend angle. I don’t know. But it was obvious from the get go how forced and completely staged the whole flowers and card thing was by her ex. In case you don’t remember, back on Oct. 19th when I confirmed JoJo as a contestant, I told you all about her ex, Chad Rookstool, who owned a salon in Dallas. I told you he was watching her dog while she was away filming, so they were somewhat civil with each other to say the least. Would I have left my dog with an ex if I left for a while? Not a chance unless things were pretty good between us.
-I don’t know much about their relationship other than the dog watching (and what JoJo has shared with us on camera this season), but to see all this stupidity play out on TV last night was just dumb. I mentioned it briefly over the last few months, but at 12:44pm local time on Oct. 19th last year, I got an email from Chad. This was literally less than 2 hours after I’d posted the column, this was the email I received from him…
“Can you please take my name and my business off of your website. I’ve gotten multiple phone calls today and would appreciate it if you keep your focus on Joelle and me or our past.”
So the guy who didn’t want his name or business out there, then 13 days later (remember, her hometown was filmed on Nov. 1st) is sending letters and talking on the phone begging for her back knowing this would be shown on TV? Makes sense. Hell, I still really don’t even know what he’s even asking in that email. In the first sentence, he’s talking about not mentioning his name or his business because he’s been getting multiple calls. Ummmm, you’re welcome? You should be thanking me for even mentioning your name. Probably brought you more business. I’m guessing in the last 3 months, he’s gotten at least one extra client in there to get a blowout JUST BECAUSE he’s JoJo’s ex. And if he did, then mentioning him paid off. You can scratch me 10% any time you want. And by the way, if I didn’t report you were her ex, someone else would’ve. That’s part of what you get for having your ex go on this show. You didn’t want the attention, then either A) don’t break up with her in the first place B) don’t agree to send flowers a card, and have a phone conversation with her on national television begging for her back. This guy doesn’t seem like the sharpest knife in the drawer.
-Also, explain to me the last part of his email. “..would appreciate it if you keep your focus on Joelle and me or our past.” As mentioned before, sorry bud. No can do. And obviously you didn’t seem to mind considering you put it all out there for 8 million people to see last night. And then telling me you WANT me to keep my focus on Joelle and you and your past? Maybe you typed that wrong, but it certainly came out like you actually wanted me to continue talking about you, which was only further backed up by your ridiculous pleading on the show last night. I know the biggest question I’ll get regarding this whole situation is whether or not once JoJo got dumped if her and Chad got back together or hooked up since filming ended. I don’t know. Lets hope for her sake she didn’t. And if she did, then after everything she said about him on the show and what she told Ben, that would just make her a hypocrite. Yes, a lot of us have made the mistake of going back to an ex, but according to JoJo, she already went through that phase with Chad. A couple times. So if she did it again after the show was over, then that certainly doesn’t paint her in the greatest of lights.
-So now that you know the backstory, there really isn’t much to say about the day portion of their date. It was obviously all staged for dramatic effect and it may or may not have had to do with the weather not cooperating that day so they had to come up with something on the fly. By the time her conversation with Ben was over and she’d explained herself, it’s not like the Chad thing was even an issue anymore. Her brothers became the story at that point. Also mentioned the day I confirmed JoJo as a contestant was the fact that one of her brothers, Ben, was one of the bachelors on Eva Longoria’s dating show, “Ready for Love.” It was so craptastic that it only lasted 3 episodes on NBC before they moved it online. So if he looked familiar, that was him. Which made it all the more odd that he seemed to be doubting the whole process. Well of course he doubted it, he went through something similar to this before on his crappy show. Ok, I admit I never watched it, but considering it got relegated to internet status after three days, apparently no one else watched either.
-I don’t necessarily have a problem with what Ben was telling JoJo, because at least it made sense. It’s basically what I preach every season on this show in that you barely know this person, so people are more getting caught up in the process of it all than actually believing they’re really in love with that person. He’s right in that aspect. However, when he and his brother ganged up on her and basically gave a her tongue lashing for it to make her cry, that’s where they went about it all wrong. It was almost like he was putting himself above the show with his holier-than-thou, “I can’t believe you’re falling for this guy” routine when, even though I didn’t see it, I’m sure he did as well. His presentation sucked, and so did the other brother Matt’s.
-Ben tried to do what he could to salvage this situation, but it was like the brothers knew going in they had a role to play and they were going to make this as uncomfortable for Ben as possible, no matter what he said to them. Granted, their isn’t much Ben could’ve said at that point that could’ve changed their minds, since they seemed like
producers gave them their roles to play their minds were made up. What we did get to witness was the birth of JoJo’s mom, Soraya. What a gem she was. Not so much for any relationship knowledge that she passed along because she seemed to think Ben was great for her daughter, but more so as a shoulder to cry on for JoJo. JoJo: “I’m falling in love with him and I’m scared.” Ben even tells the mom that he’s “more myself around her than anyone else in my life,” a line we’ve heard countless times from Ben this season regarding JoJo. So Caila is the most real, JoJo is the one he’s most himself around and Lauren, well, she’s the one who’s had this in the bag for a while now. Are we sure Ben knows exactly what he wants here? He’s all over the place.
-When JoJo sits down with her brothers, they lay into her. JoJo: “I can see myself falling in love with him.” Brother Jerko: “You’ve only had 2 dates with him, how can you be falling in love with him?” Did you hear JoJo try and pretend that group dates and cocktail parties were “dates” with Ben. I mean, the Brothers Jerko do have a point here JoJo. You’re not in love with him. Nobody is in love with anyone while you’re filming this show. You just think you are. Unless of course you’re Olivia who somehow managed to fall in love with Ben without going on ANY 1-on-1 dates with him. Now THAT’S impressive. Big time. They tell her they think Ben isn’t nearly as emotionally invested in her as she is him. And they basically said it to his face, which was where the Brothers Jerko were at their best. I get that they’re skeptical, as any family should be at all this silliness, but you don’t need to call the guy out in front of the family and act the tough guy here because producers prodded you. I mean, mama Soraya was so bothered by the brothers being insensitive jagoffs that she started drinking – straight from the bottle. Highlight of the season. Maybe ever. Even her dad, the fake Andy Reid, had to step in and tell her to slow her roll. Mama Soraya likes her alcohol. So much so she practically stalked them from the door as they walked out to the car.
-Straight into the rose ceremony. No BS deliberations, no talks with Chris Harrison, no dilly dallying around. Lets do this. “Thought weeks were difficult…this week blew that away…met families and people that raised you…meant a lot to me…saw why you are who you are…thank you for letting me into your homes…means a lot…(you already said that pretty much)…JoJo, is your mom’s BAL lower than your age? Just checking because I care.”
Lauren B. I want more twerking videos from her. Preferably when she’s hammered at Coachella and police are taking her away.
Caila: Is she gonna bring her Rainbow Brite doll to Jamaica? Lets hope so.
“Ladies, Ben, this is the final rose tonight. When you’re ready. This is literally the first time you’ve seen me all episode. I’ve done nothing so far. And I’m getting paid thousands upon thousands of dollars per episode to do this. It’s laughable how untalented I am in relation to how much money I make. I think I’ll write another Nicholas Sparks rip off novel that no one reads.”
JoJo: Are your brothers gonna want to kick my ass at the ATFR because everything they predicted ended up coming true?
Amanda wasn’t too thrilled she got let go, but her reasoning was a bit off. She was bothered that if Ben knew after their date that he wasn’t gonna pick her, he should have just sent her home than send her back to LA only to get eliminated at a rose ceremony. Well, that’s kinda not how the show works. Find me a time in 31 seasons where the lead can just send someone home in the middle of hometown dates. It hasn’t happened and it won’t happen. But on the bright side, Amanda can go back to a life of having an ex-husband who will talk to every single tabloid that asks him so he can essentially beg to be a contestant on the “Bachelorette.” Of course he wants that.
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