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Whoa! Caroline the Eviscerator! I wonder if she gives tongue lashings to her clients when they decide to look for a ranch instead of a two story! Lets hope not.

Here’s what’s hard for me to figure out. You and your audience (myself included) agree this show is a crazy platform for finding a life mate. Limited candidates. Unrealistic dating situations. Glare of studio lighting. Lure of stardom. Pressure from production to create “romance.”

U.S. divorce rate hovers at 50%. People change their minds. Someone they chose under the best of circumstances isn’t right for them. We applaud those who go their separate ways instead of hanging on in a state of misery just for principle’s sake. Unless it’s Brad Womack Part 1, or Juan Pablo, or Jason Mesnick or (heaven forbid!) ARIE!!!! These guys had a grasp of the value of the rest of their lives, realized they weren’t on the right path, and acted on it – the show be damned! I’m sorry Becca was hurt and I hope she’ll be the bachelorette and find well deserved happiness. But to excoriate Arie for acknowledging his mistake is wrong! Come on, Steve. You’re a smart guy. Admit you agree with me!

Comment: I’m not blaming him for changing his mind. It happens. Although it is ironic that Sydney and other exes called this before the season even started. So when people who already know your character predict what you’re gonna do, and you go do that exact thing, kinda lends them a little credibility that apparently they were so lacking before, no?

He can break up with whoever he wants when he wants. He’s basically done it for the last 5 years of his life. It’s how he went about it that’s ridiculous. Admit you agree with me!

Hi Steve,

I’m just curious why you think Robert Mills made it seem as though there was some special specific reason as to why Women Tell All was on Sunday (see his tweet). Is it really just because of ABC scheduling and he was trying to hype it up? Or is there some actual reason? Not sure why he said that because they still could’ve shown the WTA in between overnights and the finale. I don’t think showing it before changes anything.

My other question is about the Women Tell All, it seemed like based on Chris Harrison’s interviewing on the stage that Seinne also potentially would be on the back-up bachelorette list should Becca not accept the role. Is that me reading too much into the words, or do you think there’s a chance Seinne could be ahead of Tia on the list should Becca say no? It’s just not going to happen.

My last question (and I know you’ve mentioned this in an older post but I just couldn’t find it so apologies), when does Bachelorette tape, and when would it air?

Comment: Filming has started mid-March for the last 6 or 7 years, finishes filming anywhere between May 8th-11th give or take one or two days, and usually begins the second to last Monday in May.

Hey Steve!

I love your spoilers, especially your prediction of Becca K. being the next Bachelorette after douche Arie leaves her for another blonde Lauren. It definitely makes a lot of sense. But what are your thoughts on the possibility of Kristina Schulman being the next Bachelorette? America undoubtedly feels bad for her with Nick and Dean, and she’s certainly beautiful! What do you think?

Comment: Kristina has zero chance to be the “Bachelorette.”

Dear Steve,

Thank you as always for giving us all of the details surrounding the show before they play out on television. It makes the show more fun to watch. I have a few questions.

1) I know that you got some information on Kevin from Canada about his intentions for fame and/or desire to become the next Bachelor Canada. Have you heard any negative things about Benoit from Canada? No.

2) Since the bachelor finale is a two night event, will the portions on the 6th be live and the first night ATFR will just be pretsped footage of the break up and asking Lauren for another chance? We don’t know yet and won’t until the finale airs.

3) On the Winter Games Tell All show, did they leave out footage of Benoit and Clare in Sacramento? You had mentioned that they showed that footage at the taping in your column, correct? Yes, it wasn’t shown on the show.

4) Since Yuki was a favorite on Winter Games,do you think that they would ever put her on BIP? I mean maybe, but it would be for pure comedic value. If the whole point of your BIP show is for people to meet, date, and eventually fall in love, putting Yuki on that show makes zero sense. With Winter Games, at least there was a game element to it where you could basically use that as your excuse for her to be there. But ultimately she was eliminated bc she hadn’t coupled up with anyone. And how is she supposed to date/couple up with anyone on BIP if she doesn’t know the language?

5) In regard to the next bachelorette, have you heard if Becca is willing to take the gig or if it will go to Tia? In case you couldn’t tell, this email was sent in before yesterday’s post.

6) I saw that Lesley was in Honduras with Ben Higgins. I couldn’t tell, did Dean tag along as well? I remember them saying that they had trips planned. Yes, Dean was with her.

7) What did you think of Rachel’s critiques of Dean and Lesley’s kissing on Winter Games? I think it was blown out of proportion how much hate she was getting on social media for it.

Comment: I agree. She has zero reason to be jealous or petty of a Dean and Lesley coupling that had been, what, 10 days? She’s been engaged to Bryan for almost a year now. I didn’t think there was any shade there. The only people who saw shade are people who didn’t like Rachel in the first place and will find fault with anything she does.

Hey Steve!

I want to be happy for Ashley I for finding “love” in the Winter Games but I feel like she is way more into Kevin then he is into her.

With that said, I was watching an extratv video the other day with Alexis, D-Lo and Raven and they mentioned Kevin sliding in the DMs of some of their friends. Have you heard this as well? If it is true, I wonder if it was before the Winter Games or after.

I really want to like Kevin but I feel like he might be using Ashley for her Bachelor following. Thoughts?

Comment: Another email that was sent in before yesterday’s post. But yes, I’ve heard the names. And know of one more. But be quiet. Lets not ruin Ashley’s fantasy that Kevin is all in on her and not her adoring fans or IG followers. Keep that on the downlow.

I know some of you basically find it impossible that people will date others in the franchise just for their IG followers. Trust me, I can’t tell you how many times it’s happened. It’s pretty pathetic actually.

I know you can’t read minds, but do you have ANY idea why Sean Lowe is being so quiet about Arie’s season? He tweeted during Nick’s and tweeted support for Arie and even mentioned his season was a long time coming…so why the radio silence?

Comment: Well, I was informed on Twitter yesterday he went on Ben & Ashley’s podcast and credited my spoiler. Nice. At least that’s one person who appears on that podcast who will reference my name.


Did you notice any differences in editing of the fantasy suite episode as it pertains to the finale? You might not know the timing on this- but would this episode have been edited prior to the Becca/Arie break-up or after? I’m not sure if they are editing differently or if I am watching differently knowing he ends up dumping Becca. I just feel like they are shoving he and Lauren’s relationship down our throats and I’m not sure if that’s intentional. Also- it’s wild how many times they have him on camera saying “my biggest fear is choosing the wrong person” and they are using it as foreshadowing- and not just in ITM’s that could have been filmed later but actually on site. Would love to know any thoughts. Thanks!

Comment: I thought they showed plenty of Becca and Arie together, not to mention the numerous “I love you’s” and “I’m in love with you” to make his choice of Becca make the most sense. If I watched the show unspoiled, I’d think he picked her based on what he was saying to her in the fantasy suite. I know he told Lauren that too, but just knowing how things are edited, in the past, Becca would be someone that the lead would choose based on how she’s coming across. Lauren would not be. And that’s exactly what happened. He just had a change of heart 2 months later.

Hi Steve,

I was wondering how often you think the lead bases decisions on interactions with the families at hometowns? I have no idea. I’d have to ask each and every one of them personally to have any clue. I’m sure getting along with their family plays a role, but not the ultimate decider.

Who are your predictions for Paradise? Personally I loved how Winter Games seemed so much classier but do you think the majority of fans prefer trashier?

Comment: Yes. I expect a majority of the cast to be Arie’s girls and Becca’s guys – like it is every season. You know, assuming this intel of Becca being the “Bachelorette” turns out to be true.

Hey Steve,

While watching the Women Tell All, did you notice the glares Tia was giving during Seinne’s interview? It seemed to me they were “testing” these two women for the position of the Bachelorette. My actual question is do you think the Bachelor/Bachelorette position is that coveted anymore? With the introduction and success of Bachelor in Paradise and now Winter Games, it seems that on these spinoffs that depending on what you are looking to get out of it you’d be more successful (whether that be love of more Instagram followers). For example, Ashley I now has multiple podcasts, makes appearances on Entertainment Tonight, and multiple Instagram sponsorships. Absolutely it’s still a coveted spot. But if you don’t get it, can you go on to do other things? Sure.

I’d also like to know your take on why the franchise never seems to involve Des and Chris? Is this the decision of the couple or production? They seem to be a more successful than most of their other more recent couples. With the release of Des’ bridal line, it would seem like that would be a natural choice to allow her to dress the couples like how Niel Lane blings them.

Thanks for your time!

Comment: I think it’s because they choose to stay out of it. She said as much on my podcast. They just like living their life up in Seattle and don’t really need to do anything with this show. Others do. Different strokes for different folks.

Hi Steve – i am new to your site and I have to say I find it AMAZING! Your insight is refreshing and cynical and don’t ever change. I have a few questions for you:

1) you have mentioned the change up for the WTA and how the timing worked in such a way that it was at the final three instead of the final two. I thought that had to do with the fact that the Oscars are next Sunday so they could not do the WTA against the Oscars? No, the WTA is usually on it’s own Monday in between Overnights and the Finale. I guess technically they could’ve aired it anytime this week to continue that, but it all comes down to scheduling. And yes, it couldn’t be on this Sunday because of the Oscars and both are on ABC. Not to mention, that would’ve been 7 hours of Bachelor programming over 3 consecutive days, coming off 6 hours of programming the last 2 weeks. Probably better they did it when they did.

2) I think you may be a little hard on the Bachelor Winter games performance. They never expect decent ratings for shows during the Olympics which is why everything else are reruns. I think the four episode arc is a good little filler to add something different in the schedule at low cost. But for this franchise, to do that every season? I don’t see the benefit. Not to mention finding 12-14 new international competitors every season? Just seems like a lot of work for very little payoff.

3) Do you think Arie’s décision to go back to Lauren was at all money-driven? Her family looks to be EXTREMELY well off and the time away from filming could have given him an opportunity to do some research.

Love the site! Keep up the great work!

Comment: That would be a horrible reason to make that switch. About as shallow as you can get. I don’t see why that’d factor in, no.

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  1. rob22

    February 28, 2018 at 8:12 AM

    I thought it was funny that RS thought Tia’s Dad was the most scary. The guy was basically a teddy bear trying to act tough for a minute, probably at the producers behest. I honestly thought the hype about the Dads was a little overblown. They each asked a couple of tough questions, then totally caved to Arie’s BS. The guy is an amazing BS artist. I kinda understand how women are fooled by his act. But when you see him saying essentially the same things to every single parent, you know it’s just a series of lines he’s put together for the occasion. I don’t think I remember a Bachelor doing that in previous seasons. It felt more organic in years past, instead of scripted. And, by scripted, I mean Arie scripted his responses to the various challenges and repeated them three times. He also told every single parent that he was falling for their daughter. That was his way of softening up their parents. If parents feel that someone truly cares about their daughter, they’re immediately going to start feeling better about the guy. Kinda gross when you think about it. Arie is fast becoming the worst Bachelor ever. He’s really challenging JPablo if you ask me.

  2. anita29

    February 28, 2018 at 9:06 AM

    I just read the Us Weekly article and the part that makes me crazy is when Arie says
    “…it’s going to be fun for me to watch back”…WTH!! If the spoilers are correct and
    he really ambushed Becca, he should a least acknowledge that it was painful to watch
    what happened at the end. I really don’t understand this stupid guy.

  3. tinyred500

    February 28, 2018 at 10:26 AM

    The stock lines and phrases are one of the most annoying things about the franchise! IMHO. Even I could rattle them off, I’ve heard them that many times! Argh!! All the leads use them and so do the contestants…that’s why so many peeps think it’s ‘scripted’. The stupid contrived ‘lines’ are just more noticeable this season. It just makes the season sound and look even more ‘produced’. At least neither Becca or Lauren will ask…’when did you know’? That has to be the phoniness question ever, when it’s answered, ‘the night before’! Lol lol SMH! 😀

  4. rob22

    February 28, 2018 at 10:52 AM

    @tinyred: There are stock lines like “I’m falling for you”, “You’re amazing”, etc. There are also Arie lines like when he responds to everything a woman tells him with “I love that”. Arie has added his stock lines into the mix.

  5. rob22

    February 28, 2018 at 10:57 AM

    I’m wondering how this whole thing is going to go down. Obviously the ambush aspect is really horrible. But you know Arie will have his own spin on it. That’s what I was trying to assess during overnights. What is going to cause him to pass over Lauren the first time around that’s going to change. When we had the first switcheroo with Meznick, the spin was that he chose Melissa because she was the safe choice because she better expressed her love for him. But he really wanted Molly the whole time, but was unsure of her love. We’re going to hear some rationalization. Perhaps it will be another version of what Meznick threw out there. I haven’t figured it out yet. But we’ll see.

  6. ctrealitygirl

    February 28, 2018 at 11:51 AM

    I, too, was appalled when I read that Arie had commented that it was going to “fun to watch” the finale. Really?? Then I was even more appalled when I read another online article (from someone who had apparently previewed the footage of the breakup with Becca), that said Arie acted very cold toward Becca when he told her and that he would not even look at her. How the hell is he going to spin that? Steve’s spoiler about the “switcheroo” itself did not bother me, as I truly believed that when Jason did it, he had good intentions, and watching that season I thought Molly was “the one” from the gitgo and was happy that he ultimately ended up with her. And look how well it worked out for them. But Arie going to a safe house to meet Becca, knowing he was going to blindside her with the break-up AND knowing that camera crews were following him to get it all on film, is just plain despicable. Me thinks he’ll be digging a hole/grave right next to Luke!
    With that said, the person I feel sorry for is not Becca but Lauren. Becca is going to be WAY better off as the Bachelorette than ending up with Arie. And Lauren has no idea what’s in store for her. Arie broke her heart once already and as Steve predicts, I’m betting he’ll break up with her again.

  7. tinyred500

    February 28, 2018 at 12:08 PM

    I do agree. It’s just cringe worthy, he’s just made it worse, maybe he’s just got bored with lying they have to do ..!

  8. rob22

    February 28, 2018 at 12:24 PM

    @ctrealitygirl: I agree about Jason & Molly…. however, that’s not how things went down at the time. Jason was called “the most hated man in America”. And they both took a lot of abuse for weeks. Melissa took her sympathy tour to Dancing with the Stars and to a few other media opportunities. That extended the cycle. As bad as it was, social media wasn’t what it is today. It’s going to be WAY worse for Arie and Lauren.

  9. tinyred500

    February 28, 2018 at 12:37 PM

    The whole filming of the break up with Becca is the thing that I find despicable too. No warning it was going to happen, and there she has the cameras in her face. This isn’t great television, this is sad, bad and reprehensible television. A new all time low for the bachelor franchise.

  10. rob22

    February 28, 2018 at 1:36 PM

    My understanding with Jason and Melissa is that they had essentially already broken up by the time ATFR aired. Or, at least Melissa knew the relationship was in bad shape & not going anywhere. So, the two of them were put on set and forced to deal with it. That’s way different, IMO, than having a film crew show up to a safe house visit to film their date & have it (surprise) turn into a dumping. Yeah, this is going to be a s*** show. I’m sure the show is really proud that they’re saving this ratings train wreck. But honestly, if you look at the ratings numbers RS poste, the trend has been down for the last several seasons. I don’t think you can blame it on Arie, I really don’t. Shows get old. People stop watching. And this show is generally pretty predictable & exists on solely on manufactured drama these days. I think it’s more that than who the leads have been.

  11. jlal

    February 28, 2018 at 4:27 PM

    I totally agree about the manufactured drama getting old. Like it way more in the old days before social media took over and they really upped the manufactured drama.

  12. ladyjane747

    February 28, 2018 at 10:13 PM

    Wow! Stassi is gorgeous without the overdone lip filler.

  13. ctrealitygirl

    March 1, 2018 at 9:14 AM

    AND, rob22…when Jason did it, he had not already started dating Molly – rather he asked her out on date on the show. In Arie’s case, not only did he immediately start dating Lauren (even though they had not even gotten to the AFTR yet)…but if Steve is right, he freaking proposed to Lauren already! That, to me, is the lowest of low.

  14. gagrlinpitt

    March 1, 2018 at 9:15 AM

    Any business that has been around for years has had to change with the times.. unfortunately the bachelor has become predictible and boring as of late. Unlesd they change the way they do things they will continue to lose viewers.

    With that being said, I’m with RS on not liking the way he handled things. Unfortunately he’s going to get raked through the coals and I don’t see him gaining any popularity in the racing circuit fromany of this. Him and Lauren will get to deal with the backlash and they can figure things out.. however if they got engaged last week I don’t feel sorry for her at all. I don’t care how in love you might be, he was just engaged to another women six weeks ago. Not to mention I still don’t understand how these women are ok knowing your “man” had sex with the other two ladies on the overnights.. just not ok by me.

  15. ctrealitygirl

    March 1, 2018 at 9:21 AM

    I meant to mention in one of my posts that yesterday I ready an excellent article/recap on Glamour Magazine online about Arie that was as good as any I’ve read by Sharleen Joynt, and that’s saying something because hers are the best. This article was so insightful and described Arie’s behavior to a tee – namely his lack of conversation skills and how he manages to pull the wool over the eyes of so many women and get them to believe he cares about them, when in fact he does not. Google it and read it!

  16. jessie

    March 1, 2018 at 10:46 AM

    Someone mentioned Arie challenging JPablo in jerkiness – but I have to say at least JP wasn’t telling these people he loved them and making them think he wanted to marry them. Anyone with a sense god gave a duck would release JP was just getting his jollies – and I say if you know what’s what going in – don’t be mad when you get what’s what! lol

  17. jessie

    March 1, 2018 at 10:47 AM

    realize not release. Opps.

  18. crushonspivey

    March 1, 2018 at 2:09 PM

    I have zero problem with Arie ending it with Becca, if it wasn’t working and he preferred Lauren. Happens all the time in real life, and this show needs more real life in it. What I would have a problem with is if he did dump her on camera with her having no notice of what was going down. That is garbage, and even though the contract they sign for this poopfest probably allowed it, still really poor form.

    As to Mesnick, that dude deserves praise. Yeah what he did back in the day was crazy for this show. But he made the right choice and is on the VERY shortlist of Bachelors now in a successful relationship with a woman from this series. And let’s be very clear on one thing: Arie is no Mesnick. I give Arie and Lauren til the end of their relationship contract. And yes, I think they signed one and get paid for it. Happens all the time. So 6 months. Then done and Arie is back to trolling for young 20s.

  19. tinyred500

    March 1, 2018 at 3:08 PM

    I said on a previous post that the break up should have been done off camera and in private. The fact it’s on camera and with no prior warning is so totally demeaning for Becca. I really don’t see how it can be a positive thing for the franchise overall, it’s a lousy cheap move and it appears to be a desperate bid to save the season.

    However, I don’t think their contracts state they have to stay together for a certain length of time or have paid relationship contracts (like some real celebrities do). Chris Soules barely made it to June with Whitney (one of the shortest relationship in the franchise), and so if Arie does propose to Lauren, I think they’ll be together for as long as it lasts. :/

  20. ladyjane747

    March 3, 2018 at 8:09 AM

    I’m surprised that Sharleen would say those things about Arie given her posts on ATPP. On her own blog, she often comments about Arie’s maturity and how he seems ready to settle down and that she has a mini crush on him and how similar he is to her husband. So, that’s odd. Maybe she finally found out the ending with everyone else, since the ending is now spoiled and splashed all over everything now.

  21. sumguy

    March 5, 2018 at 2:00 PM

    “This has nothing to do with sour grapes”…continues to write an essay about why he has sour grapes. Don’t get me wrong, IMO you have all the reason in the world to have sour grapes. Just don’t say that you don’t have sour grapes, and then write a 4 page essay of why you’re bugged about not getting credibility. Clearly you have sour grapes, and deservedly so.

  22. bonkers

    March 13, 2018 at 3:46 AM

    Have to say I’m a bit confused on why such sour grapes on the US Weekly thing… I wasn’t aware that it was a rule of reporting to have to mention anyone who has reported something previously? As a reader, I don’t believe I’ve ever seen any such thing happen in any type of media, be it newspaper, blog or tabloid.

    If you actually are their original source, sure, that makes sense and they should absolutely mention you. However, it doesn’t seem that crazy to me that US Weekly would have its own sources for this type of thing..? And if their actual source is not you, then why would they add a line crediting you for just for doing your job a bit faster than them?

    You say you always give them mention when due, but in your examples you specify giving them credit for things you *weren’t* already aware of.. i.e. didn’t have a previous source for, making them your source. So you should be crediting them, as your source.

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