Just some notes here in regards to the Fan Appreciation Party, the podcast schedule the next couple weeks, and thoughts on the WTA last night:
-Get your “Reader Emails” in for tomorrow’s column. Barely have any right now, but I’m guessing you have a few questions/comments after reading today. Email me at steve@realitysteve.com and it’ll be in tomorrow’s column.
-We are about 40% filled for the Fan Appreciation Party June 3rd at Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas. So still spots open. If you’re interested in attending and you’re out of state, your flight itinerary is your admission into the party. If you’re driving, your hotel booking is your admission. If you’re local, you just have to promise me you won’t flake since I’m holding spots for you that could’ve gone to someone else. Only thing I need from anyone attending is a screen shot of your vaxx card, which I immediately delete. No mask mandate in Vegas right now, but just wanna take the extra precaution. If that doesn’t suit you, then that’s ok. You don’t need to attend. There will be an open beer and wine bar the whole night and food will be provided. Been two years since I’ve been able to hold this party due to COVID so it’ll be nice to finally start this yearly tradition back up again as a thank you to my readers/listeners for your support. Email me ASAP if you’re interested in attending as spots are filling up.
-The podcast schedule the next couple weeks will be a little different. This week’s podcast will drop on Friday morning since we will be talking “Joe Millionaire” finale, which airs on Thursday night. We will have someone from that finale on to discuss everything that went down. Then next week, the podcast will drop early Wednesday morning as I leave for Vegas that day as I have my annual March Madness trip. That’ll also be with a “Joe Millionaire” contestant I believe and, hopefully, someone else as well. So Friday and Wednesday will be the next two podcast releases.
-With me leaving next Wednesday, I know that’s gonna throw a complete wrench into things in regards to the “Bachelorette” and the probably release of the men on the season. I’m sure we’ll be getting the “official” announcement of our “Bachelorette” on next Tuesday’s finale episode, and a good chance she’ll meet 5 of her guys like they’ve done in the past. So my guess is the next morning (since it happened last year when I left on Wednesday for Vegas March Madness), is they will release the potential men for her season on their FB page. So I will have to tweet those out as the day goes on with their name, IG page, and any basic info I get on them. I hate the timing of this, but, it’s something that I realize I have to accept. I’ll always leave Wednesday of March Madness week, and that’s gonna be the day they release the guys.
-The WTA was just disturbing on a lot of levels. Not to mention highly edited. Two things I spoiled last week weren’t even shown. They never showed the segment of Salley up in the hot seat, nor did they show the video of Shanae calling Elizabeth a CU Next Tuesday. I guess they figured they had enough Shanae footage to last them a lifetime, no need to pour salt into the wound. The whole thing was a trainwreck. While I didn’t agree with some of the things the women said in their retaliation to Shanae, I don’t feel sorry for her one bit. She deserved everything she got. She had 3 months to sit on it and still did nothing to apologize or sound remotely remorseful for. That’s some serious personality issues there. So clearly she doesn’t care. And if she doesn’t care how she treats people, then we shouldn’t care how people treat her. As long as death threats aren’t involved or harsh name calling. Shanae called them every name in the book, so even that might be debatable.
-I can’t believe Shanae’s explanation for why she thought Genevieve was an actress. Because she hung out with Bachelor Nation post show, she automatically jumped to the conclusion that makes Genevieve an actress and she slept with Aaron? Are you kidding me? And people don’t think Shanae should get called out for that? Even if Genevieve DID bang Aaron after she got back from filming, which she says she didn’t…who cares? What does that have to do with anything? People are allowed to live their lives once they’re off this show. They don’t have to curl up in a ball and never have a social life until you say so, Shanae. What a delusional and unstable retaliation that was. Went to the slut shaming card just off an assumption with zero proof. Nice.
-The whole “who cried and when” angle with Sarah and Clayton is so tired and lame, it’s not even worth discussing.
-A few of you have asked me about Sierra and Teddi both saying stuff alluding to the ending of the show and how they know. I’m pretty sure producers planted in their ears to say something to give the audience a heads up for what’s to come. I honestly don’t think they know and what I posted today I’m pretty sure they’re hearing for the first time. I get the impression that a lot of them were pretty certain Clayton is single and based all opinions and assumptions off that.
So for those unaware, tonight is the overnight date episode, but we probably aren’t getting to the rose ceremony based on the promos they’re running. It’s most likely gonna end with that dinner convo I posted on page 1 of Clayton & Susie, her getting up a leaving, and Clayton melting down with producers. Then next Monday & Tuesday is the 2 night live finale where coming in and out of commercial breaks they’ll have live segments in the audience. Expect alumni to be there and they will definitely kill a few segments talking to the likes of Joe & Serena, and Becca and Thomas, etc. You know those people will be a part of it. Then you gotta figure the last 20-30 minutes or so of Tuesday’s episode will be the “official” announcement of our next “Bachelorette” (I hope to find out before then), a sit down with her, then probably the introduction of 5 of her guys like they did in the past with Rachel, Becca, and Hannah’s seasons.
Gonna be a hell of a day. Maybe I’ll go live later on IG to discuss this even further and answer any questions you may have, even though I gave you everything I know in this column. If I’m up to it, I’ll do it later today so keep an eye out for that on IG.
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justsaying
March 8, 2022 at 9:46 AM
I’m HAPPY to hear it’s not Rachel. I always felt she was the one initiating all her face-grabbing kisses or splaying her legs over Clayton. Her baby voice and her tears are all very annoying to me. I am VERY sure Clayton didn’t appreciate the alligator canoeing date.
I always thought Susie is frontrunner when she got the first date and the poshest date with the expensive shopping.
ctrealitygirl
March 8, 2022 at 10:39 AM
I, too, am not a big Rachel fan. I liked her in the beginning, but as time wore on she started to grate on my nerves. And it seemed that Clayton’s interest had waned some from earlier in the season. And, I too thought that Susie was the frontrunner. I think she’d make a good Bachelorette. I don’t see her running back to Clayton after he professed love for all three finalists and admitted sleeping with both Rachel and Gabby. I’m not surprised that Clayton ends up with no one. I don’t think he’s a bad guy, just think the whole Bachelor experience was overwhelming to him and he got too flustered with so many attractive women professing their love for him. I hope ABC learned a lesson about jumping to quickly to name someone as the next Bachelor. It’s going to be sad watching Susie refuse his proposal. That cannot be good for his ago, especially since it’s the first time anyone’s ever turned a bachelor down in the history of the show. I kind of felt a little bad for him watching the WTA last night. The women were brutal. And in my opinion, he didn’t do anything different than previous Bachelors as far as keeping villains around, even though they were warned. Have we all forgotten how long Sean Lowe kept Sierra around? They don’t see what the viewers see. And watching Clayton with Shanae, it was clear he was very attracted to her, and talk about acting – she played him but good!
rrozsa
March 8, 2022 at 10:44 AM
You know, I could swear I heard someone utter the phrase “see you next Tuesday” on the show last night, but I didn’t make the connection with the acronym Steve mentioned in the column. I may have to go back and watch it again.
rob22
March 8, 2022 at 11:14 AM
I’m pretty much in agreement with the above comments. Rachel got very annoying and Gabby… I’m sorry, she’s just weird. Although anything can happen, I always thought it would be Susie. I don’t know whether to feel sorry for Clayton, or not. Was Clayton to blame for everything that happened? There was a LOT going on in that house. It wasn’t just Shanae either. And even minor “violations” (OMG, did Clayton really cry?) were immediately jumped on by a lot of the women. Was Clayton really going to be able to clean that up? Look, the producers put that group of women in that house together. They knew the personalities. Then they stirred them up & prodded them to do and say things to the other women and in the ITMs. I really don’t think there was a clean way to get out of it for Clayton. He was doomed. Even with what happened at the end with the F3, most women these days, and for a long time, have accepted the fact that the lead will sleep with multiple women on the overnights. I’m not saying they should. But almost every woman in past seasons have accepted it. So, if the show suddenly ended up with three women at the end that didn’t accept it, how did that happen? Where did that come from? Clayton is a bit of a doof, but he was really setup by production as a patsy for the story line. He was doomed from the start. I’m not sure that this is a winning story line, where the Bachelor is the dumb f***, the show falls apart and they have to contrive a rejected proposal by Susie to have anything at all for the last show. What a s*** show! When the producers amp up the drama to 11, I guess this is what happens.
ctrealitygirl
March 8, 2022 at 11:51 AM
Your comments are spot-on, rob22! I’ve been waiting for someone else to describe Clayton as a bit of a doof! He had an exceptional group of women, and to be honest, I’m shocked at how many expressed being so attracted to him and falling for him. The women were all way more savvy then him. I’m especially surprised that Serene fell for him. She’s really got a lot going on and could do SO much better than Clayton. Her hometown date seemed the most awkward to me. Clayton SO did not fit in. I think you explained the producers choice in him as the lead – they wanted someone raw and naive that they could use as a patsy to set up more drama. Most of the leads have been around the franchise longer and know how to play the game. Clayton didn’t go that far in his season and, as such, no real experience with falling for someone on the show. I truly believe he was totally overwhelmed by it all. I was glad when Teddi told him at the end of the QTA that she hoped he was ok. I don’t think he ever meant to hurt anyone.
jlal
March 8, 2022 at 12:04 PM
Agreed Gabby is a tad strange. Her baby voice just drives me crazy. Just can’t believe she is an ICU nurse where I would think you would need to be pretty authoritative. Susie is painful to listen to because of all of the “likes”, it is over the top excessive. Rachel in my opinion was the least annoying of the three. However, I agree that Susie fits the bachelorette profile perfectly. Though I don’t think I can take listening to her “like” her way through an entire season.
Clayton is not the brightest bulb in the pack, sorry. Nice guy but either very, very naïve and unexperienced with women or just not that bright. I think he is emotionally immature and not ready for a committed relationship.
Production needs to get back to focusing more on the relationships and less on the manufactured drama. They have always kept the “villain” around longer than necessary but now it becomes the entire show.
justsaying
March 8, 2022 at 6:50 PM
Ok Team Sarah here. Why was it ok for Teddy or the top girls talk about how they are confident with their relationships with Clayton but not Sarah? Why didn’t anyone call out Mara for her attitude? Also why believe Clayton over Sarah that he supposedly didn’t cry?
kingenzo27
March 8, 2022 at 7:27 PM
Who said “I’ll see you next Tuesday” and what do you think it means?
memaflo
March 8, 2022 at 7:40 PM
Tonight’s performance of Clayton showed a disrespectful, blame shaming baby!! What a pouter! What man that is in “love” tries to make the women of his dreams feel “guilty” for her feelings. He instantly switched it up to be all of Susie’s fault!!! Then, then like a kid who got his toy taken away-go go then you should go if you can’t see things my way! Susie, you saved yourself attorney bills! He is such a manipulative person … Susie run don’t walk! You deserve so much better! Yikes
jlal
March 9, 2022 at 3:51 AM
memaflo, I’m on here first thing this morning to say the same thing. Wow, what a manipulator Clayton turned out to be. He is the one who had sex with two other people, told them he loved them, yet got mad when Susie is upset???? Granted she could have told him that would be a deal breaker for her. But, in her mind and frankly mine if he really loved her he wouldn’t want to have sex with those other two. Other leads have not had sex with others because they were already in love with someone else, so… I know when I have been in the first blush of love and crazy about another person, the last thing I want to do is be with someone else.
I think he doesn’t really “love” any of them or he wouldn’t have fallen for all. He literally said the exact same thing to all of them before professing his love. I swear it was like he was emotionlessly reading from a script. The only real emotion was when he reacted to Susie and that wasn’t a good look and very telling.
Run girls run.
jlal
March 9, 2022 at 3:55 AM
Also, forgot to say it saddened me to see Susie fall for his manipulation and start apologizing. But, she nailed it in the car when she said something to the effect of (paraphrasing here) if their emotions were real, then she was surprised it got so nasty.
Also, what is with this “See you Tuesday” thing? I haven’t heard anyone say that….
jlyoung
March 9, 2022 at 5:31 AM
Clayton may have done a few things wrong but I think the biggest mistake he made at the end was his honesty. I don’t actually think it should have been such a shock. Granted, his “love” confession was probably more of a strong like/lust feeling but what’s SO surprising about a normal guy, spending time in romantic, sometimes exotic locations with 3 absolutely gorgeous, adoring women when everyone’s on their best behavior….falling in love? Wouldn’t that be pretty easy and normal for any of us? They are young, good looking people placed in ideal settings so that people… fall in love. This is bachelor material in its purest form. Welcome to the franchise! Geesh.
jlal
March 9, 2022 at 6:08 AM
jlyoung, respectfully disagree. Sorry but being honest is expected and not something he should get points for. Clayton’s biggest mistake is villainizing Susie for having valid feelings. He may not have agreed with her position, but his angry reaction and trying to turn it around that she did something wrong and he was the victim was so out of line. As for it being the franchise, yes they are in a bubble, but like I mentioned others that have truly fallen in love didn’t have sex with others. I stand by my stance that he doesn’t really “love” any of them. And, if that is the case then he should have been honest about that fact and not attacked Susie for her honesty. If as you point out his love is more like and lust, then own it and be a grown assed man and call it what it is fboy behavior.
justsaying
March 9, 2022 at 6:26 AM
Rachel Lindsay slept with Peter before accepting a proposal from Bryan. They are happily married now.
I’m positive Arie slept with Becca when he’s in love with Lauren. Now, Arie and Lauren are happily married with kids.
Then Nick Viall claimed he only slept with his final pick, but they broke up.
So there’s no formula to this.
kingenzo27
March 9, 2022 at 7:17 AM
Because Sarah backtracked immediately after he stated he had not cried with her
jlal
March 9, 2022 at 7:47 AM
justsaying, I’m not saying other leads haven’t slept with multiples people, just that some haven’t when they knew they loved someone already. I did say she should have told him before that was her expectation. However, he was still wrong for making her the bad person in that whole thing. She was just stating her feelings which were hers and valid.
justsaying
March 9, 2022 at 8:08 AM
Clayton was hurt and heartbroken so he threw a hissy fit, alright. We have all been there. Give him a break.
I thought he only said he’s falling in love to Rachel and Gabby but with Susie, he said he’s fallen in love. Right?
shenanigans
March 9, 2022 at 8:16 AM
I totally understand Susie’s position. For her to move forward, she needed to be the only one he loved and slept with. However, she wasn’t going to tell him that upfront, which would come off as controlling and manipulative. Instead, she sat back and let him make his own decisions.
Once she knew that Clayton did in fact sleep with both other girls and tell them he loved them, she knew that they were NOT on the same page re/ what they had. She wasn’t as special to him as she had hoped to be. That’s a perfectly reasonable way to feel and I respect her for it.
ctrealitygirl
March 9, 2022 at 8:44 AM
Justsaying – Clayton told Rachel he was IN love with her when he was out in the street leaving their overnight. She called down that she loved him, and he yelled back, “I Love you too, Rachel.” With Gabby he only said “falling in love” and to me he didn’t seem as convincing as when he declared love for Rachel. I agree with what someone said on this thread – that Clayton was more in “lust” than in love with both of them. I think he did fall in love with Susie, and he must have realized that before fantasy suite dates. In my mind, he should not have slept with the other two. I know other leads have slept with more than one person, but in the past it was always kept secret. We viewers never knew whether they had sex in fantasy suites or not, until Nick Viall blurted his and Andi Dorfman’s secret at the AFTR show.
jlyoung
March 9, 2022 at 8:46 AM
jlal, I never suggested Clayton gets points for being honest. I was simply pointing out that he was being upfront in that particular moment. He had to know it would NOT go over well. I don’t bother to try and project what I would have done, or what he should have done. I’ve never been in that highly unusual, not normal position. Good, bad or otherwise it seemed like he put it all out there! Btw….I’ve made no comments on Susie and/or a reaction.
justsaying
March 9, 2022 at 9:06 AM
Thank you ctrealitygirl. Somehow I feel the way he yelled out “I love you too!!” doesn’t sound as intimate as the way he said to Susie I have fallen in love with you. Just my take.
strick3871
March 11, 2022 at 12:35 PM
For those of you who don’t know what see you next Tuesday means – it’s usually written as C U next Tuesday. If you take the first letter of each word you will come up a name that someone may call someone. You’re welcome.
ciamendoza05
March 14, 2022 at 6:31 AM
I honestly believe that Clayton is a straight up narcissist.. I loved him at first but the more I watched him the stronger the signs hit me.. Susie was always my front runner and I’m glad she don’t end up with him (hopefully). The way he tried to turn the tables on her and make her feel like she was ay fault in the end. Hearing her plead after that hurt my heart. It was typical mind manipulation and reverse psychology on his part. It disgusted me. I hope she is the next bachelorette! I think she is my favorite person to ever be on either bachelorette or the bachelor. I’m glad she stayed true to herself her beliefs and her morals. Who would want to be with him after watching the show seeing how his emotions were the exact same for all of them it was really weird. Normally you can see a different connection a guy has woth the girls verbal, emotional, sexual, but with Clayton he literally acted the same with all of them.