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Podcast #11 with Special Guest Courtney Robertson Along with “Dr. Reality Steve” Emails

If you have yourself a free hour and a half today, or maybe sometime this weekend, I suggest listening to today’s podcast. It’s a very open and candid interview with former “Bachelor” season 16 winner Courtney Robertson, and she doesn’t hold a lot back. The funny thing is with this podcast being the longest one I’ve done at just a tad under 90 minutes, when I was listening back to it last night, I found myself wanting to ask even more questions. At the time, going off Courtney’s answers, I always had more popping into my head, but knowing that another follow up question and then another could totally lead us off track, I had to restrain myself. But trust me, there was more I wanted to ask. Yet, Courtney had no problem talking about anything and everything I threw at her and I appreciate her candor on all subjects. It’s a really good listen coming from someone who experienced every high and low that this show has to offer. From a public engagement, to her post-show engagement, to her book she wrote – we cover it all. It’s a very fun, sometimes deep look into everything that went on in her life during that year she was engaged to Ben. I’m sure some of you have a preconceived notion of Courtney and what she’s about, but I think you’ll be a bit surprised by some of the things you hear from her. I know I was swayed when I read her book as I found her quite funny and more relatable than she was on the show. I think this interview shows even more than that. Enjoy…

You can listen to today’s podcast on a number of platforms, but you can also tune in by clicking the player below:

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Music written by Jimmer Podrasky
(B’Jingo Songs/Machia Music/Bug Music BMI)

(SPOILERS) We talk about how Courtney initially got cast, her wanting to leave Ben’s season early on (3:56), her sister “spoiling” her season to her because she read my site (5:53), being labeled as the villain and subsequent tension in the house (9:01), her engagement post-show and public relationship with Ben (18:17), her book “I Didn’t Come Here To Make Friends: Confessions of a Reality Show Villain” (27:38) including the tweet that made her decide to write the book (30:25), Ben’s reaction to the book (33:48), what she was approached to do after the show (38:55), her relationship with Arie that started 2 weeks after the engagement ended (40:35), her life now and staying away from reality TV (45:45), thoughts on Corinne and the villain role (49:40), Nick’s season (58:10), social media and dealing with it as a couple (1:02:30), and finally ending it with Rapid 10 (1:11:38).

Twitter: @bugrobertson
Instagram: bugrobertson “I Didn’t Come Here to Make Friends: Confessions of a Reality Show Villain”

“Dr. Reality Steve” emails on Page 2…

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  1. allaboutme

    February 9, 2017 at 10:06 AM

    I swear I thought that last email (with the boy/girl best friends) was going to go into a different direction …

  2. sochi

    February 9, 2017 at 5:54 PM

    What an incredible guest, Steve! I really like the perspective Courtney brings; very authentic. I personally didn’t cringe when she brought up how Ben & his mom treated her in the book, I thought it was entirely fair. This was a man she loved and supported; but because those two chose to believe a heavily produced TV show’s version of Courtney over the real Courtney, they felt justified in hurting and humiliating her when she had so few supporters in her corner. I’m sure they felt the consequences of those actions once people recognized that Courtney was well-meaning and misunderstood.
    Side note: As an Arizona native, I’m definitely a big fan of Jergens lotion, too. Haha
    Anyway Steve, I’ve really enjoyed each of your podcasts. You get a great dialogue going with each of your guests.

  3. phlacampbe

    February 9, 2017 at 7:56 PM

    Best podcast so far, and I have liked all of them! Seriously awesome guest and made me buy her book online. I actually always felt like she got a bad rap during her season, and know how producer driven the show is. Which is why I don’t fully believe all the stuff that Corrine is saying is actually what she is saying.
    Thank you for your site, always entertaining!

  4. tbta4

    February 10, 2017 at 6:20 AM

    What a great podcast. Courtney is so much more self aware than I expected. She is very likeable.

  5. paradi

    February 10, 2017 at 10:56 AM

    You slobbered over Courtney a bit (not that I blame you), but good interview overall.

  6. heehah

    February 10, 2017 at 12:48 PM

    Best podcast so far! Inloved Courtney’s honesty and her down to earth nature.

  7. yoyotono

    February 10, 2017 at 8:52 PM

    Looking forward to this podcast. Ben’s season was one of the ones I never watched, but only have seen a little here and there about Courtney. I’ve wanted to read her book for some time though. I wish you could get Tiara (Sean’s season), Jubilee, or Olivia on in the future. Is it weird though that no males from Bachelor franchise have come on your podcast?

  8. rozefly

    February 11, 2017 at 8:35 AM

    To the lady with baby number 3 on the way and the abusive husband. I don’t know if I would agree with Steve that you should wait until after your baby is born to make this decision. If he is already berating you for being ‘lazy’ then this isnt going to get any easier as the pregnancy progresses – in your email, you mention that friends and family have said to get away from him. Well – use those people. So many people in your situation don’t have that support network – but you do and you can change your situation if you choose to. You don’t need to leave him and call a solicitor right away (that can defo wait until after the baby is born, if that is what you want) But you can at least get yourself out of that environment with your girls. Stay with a friend, stay with your family. I don’t know this man or what his temper is like, but if you’re able to wait until he is out of the house and then collect your children and go somewhere else, then that might be the best option. Then you can leave a letter or call him/ meet with him to discuss your decision – away from your children. It made me so sad to hear that he is not only abusive towards you, but to them too. I am sure he loves them.. but this underlying dissatisfaction with his own life is leading him to take that out on you guys and that is NOT fair, and not something you should ever have to put up with.

    What is also concerning is that you say you’re already using his behaviour as an example to your eldest on what is NOT okay. But.. even though you are telling her that, you’re showing her the opposite by allowing it to continue. Many people stay in toxic relationships for the sake of the kids.. but kids are more resilient than people give them credit for. They will understand and adapt (and probably find it to be a fun adventure – staying with someone else for a while), and they will be away from an environment in which daddy yells at mommy and that’s just the norm.

    I don’t think you should wait until the baby arrives – even by writing this letter you have acknowledged there is a serious problem and taken that first step. You know what you SHOULD do – but its scary. When you start making steps to change your life, you will start feeling more in control.

    What’s more – you dont have to be the one to initiate a divorce if you don’t want to. You can leave and inform him that you want a bit of space from him, explain why but tell him you’ll be willing to work at it if he seriously considers his actions and vows to change his ways – then the divorce ball is in his court. If he is serious about no separation, then fine, let HIM be the one to make that decision. But something tells me, this man will quickly realise what he’s lost. Call his bluff – but get out of that house and try to enjoy the final months of your pregnancy in an environment free of abuse. Then, YOU can be the one to decide if your life is happier without him, or if you want to give it another shot.

    He’s your husband and is supposed to be your PARTNER in life, he’s mean to support you and you’re supposed to tackle tough times as a TEAM. If you are not getting that from this marriage, then you have to consider what it is you’re trying to hold onto and save.

  9. walker

    February 11, 2017 at 10:04 AM

    I believe that SADE is shah-day – beautiful artist.

  10. rob22

    February 13, 2017 at 7:17 AM

    I did want to comment on the woman with the abusive husband. You do sound mostly clear eyed here. You see the picture, and it’s grim. But let’s dispense with the job having anything to do with the problem. Lots of people work crappy jobs and don’t go home and berate their wives and kids. The issue is him. I think you see that, but don’t let him blame the job, or you not doing the dishes for HIS behavior. It’s also not very encouraging that he’s calling the counseling a waste of time. At least, he’s going, but it doesn’t sound like any progress is being made.

    Unfortunately it’s TERRIFYING to be abused, pregnant & looking at the prospect of being out on your own. So, the first thing you need is support. Do you have family or friends to help? Maybe someone who can take you in temporarily while you sort out your next steps? I’m not talking about living with Mom & Dad or friends long term. Just a couple of months so you can save up a deposit for an apartment & file for divorce or separation.

    If you don’t, start saving some money on the side so you can get prepared to make an exit, that I’m afraid is inevitable.

    BTW: the proper “good husband” route to take would be to try and help with the dishes & the household chores. Not berate you for not doing them. Yeah, sometimes couples bicker about the chores. But usually one puts that aside when the wife is pregnant. A real man would be trying to pick up the slack. That’s unfortunately not what you have. You have a little boy trying to act tough. Not to get too crazy here in analyzing facts not presented, but it sounds like your husband’s Dad did a terrible job of teaching him how to be a man. I’m guessing he was either not there or was abusive himself. Abusiveness like this rarely happens in a vacuum. It came from somewhere, someone. It didn’t come from his job.

  11. lacquerholic

    February 13, 2017 at 11:54 AM

    Are they announcing it now because it’s Black History Month? #sideeye

  12. lacquerholic

    February 13, 2017 at 11:56 AM

    I’m also guessing they hope that viewership goes up since his ratings have been lower than Ben’s season across the board. Plus it gets people talking about the show whether it is positive or negative.

  13. courtney6

    February 13, 2017 at 3:07 PM

    Oh my Steve you totally are in LOVE with Courtney! Can’t blame you, she’s funny and we share the same name :)! However….in her book she specifically says what a big fan of the bachelor/bacherolette she was and use to host parties with her friends (she also mentions watching it while getting through a break up) but in this podcast she say she wasn’t a huge follower and applied because her sister was such a huge fan….there is other things she said in this podcast that are completely the opposite to what she wrote in her book but I really don’t care enough to reference then all…I always like like d her, but I still feel she is using this franchise to her benefit and she isn’t being completely honest. I am still a fan but come on….

  14. courtney6

    February 13, 2017 at 3:16 PM

    Ps…please excuse my grammatical errors, your site does not run well on my iPhone!

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