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I read your column today and was disappointed with the way Ashley and Ben handled your interview last week. It’s kind of silly that Ashley lauds her journalism degree over the public when she’s trying to legitimize herself, but won’t even cite her source for the interview they’re mentioning. I think that says a lot right there….

Anyways, I really enjoyed the podcast and commend both women for putting their stories out there. I appreciated your treatment of both women and reminding people to be respectful when it comes to what they think they’re entitled to say to someone they don’t know on social media. I think the fact that they probably could’ve sold their stories to another site rather than giving a free interview speaks a lot to the legitimacy and intentions they have in just speaking their truths.

As always, I loved how you gave an unedited and unbiased version of their interviews, and it’s one of the reasons I’ll continue to listen. I know you get a lot of shade being in this line of work, just wanted to thank you for the treatment of your guests and quality of information that you put out there. And kudos to both women for telling their stories, especially Brittany. That can’t be easy, especially with the trolls out there.


Comment: Thanks. I appreciate it. Both girls were well aware of what Arie and Peter fans were going to say to them, yet they still felt it was necessary to speak out. As I always say, just because you like someone, doesn’t mean that negative things said about them aren’t true. There are those in this franchise, some of which have been on the podcast, who I consider a friend/acquaintance that I can acknowledge have not had the greatest behavior or made poor decisions. That’s called being objective. You just lose a lot of that when you deal with the fan girls/guys in this franchise.

Hi Steve –

Loooooong time Bachelor/Bachelorette watcher here….my first episode I saw was the Season One finale, when Michael sent Trista home. I was hooked.

OK, so I know that Sharleen/Andi/Kelley T had a super-close friendship. They were always posting pics, trips, visits to each other, etc. Was there a falling out? It’s been pretty much radio silence on IG between those three. I noticed they (Andi & Sharleen) both congratulated Kelly on her pregnancy, but never saw pics of Andi at Sharleen’s wedding. She never said a word on her IG about it, either. Hmmmmm. Just my observation. Seems Andi is on the outs, but I could be wrong. Andi was at Sharleen’s wedding and so was Kelly. So you must’ve missed that. And I know Sharleen was at Kelly’s wedding. Wasn’t Andi too? So I think you may be reading too much into it.

Love the podcast, but think you need to have a super-fan on it. Someone like ME who can dish about Bachelor/Bachelorette people from the way past (whatever happened to Trista’s castoff Charlie, anyway?). It would be fun.

Comment: I don’t see myself ever having a reader/fan on the podcast as a co-host for an episode.

1. Is Jef Holm bitter and jealous Arie got the bachelor gig after so long while he’s been blackballed from the show or did something happen between them that you know of? I wonder how credible he’d be if he spilled the stories “he knows.” He suggested to Chris Harrison months ago about a double bachelor thing on twitter so I sense jealously but maybe something did happen? They both suck, though. I mean, he’s living with Robby, no? Jef is trying way too hard to stay relevant in this franchise and has been begging to be on BIP for the last few seasons. The fact he’s never been cast shows you what they think of him.

2. Is Winter Games going to be a bust, a one season thing, or are you hearing things that will make it a standard bachelor show for the average viewer to enjoy? Considering they’re running it opposite the real Winter Olympics, and it’s kind of just this short, 2 week, 4 episode show, I don’t see the need to bring that back every year. But that’s just me. Nothing has been announced by them, but I’d be pretty surprised if it was more than every 4 years.

3. I know you’ve said you would like a bunch of people on your podcast, but specifically would you entertain the idea with Emily Maynard? I think she’s far enough removed that she’ll provide great information and would have some juicy gossip and how her life has drastically changed from when she was on it. 4 kids and married! I think it’ll be a great listen… just don’t know if she’s one of the ones who don’t care about saying anything against the show! I’ve asked a lot of people to be on the podcast. Some have said yes. Some have said no. Some never responded. That’s the best answer I can give.

4. Thank you for this season! As a fellow Challenge watcher, curious about your thoughts on this season. What do you think about them bringing on all these new people from different MTV shows? Also, do you read spoilers for the show? I think I’m fine with it after 2 episodes so far. It definitely adds to the mix even though I don’t know these people or their backstories. I’m sure it’ll get more interesting the further they last. And no, I don’t read spoilers on it nor do I want to know anything.

Hi Steve,

First of all, I love your channel and posts. I always look forward to your spoilers and new podcasts- but I also still watch the show to enjoy watching everything unfold. My question for you is, do you have any clue what has changed Kaitlyn Bristowe’s mindset towards the franchise, and especially Mike Fleiss as of very recently? I know that ever since her season, up until the past three months, she would publicly bash Fleiss and the whole franchise especially when asked about why she didn’t get a televised wedding- but recently she has been promoting Elian’s book on Instagram, tweeting about #TheBachelor, and continuing to live tweet every week during Arie’s season. Obviously, something changed because for the past couple of years, she would publicly say she didn’t ever want to watch the show again (Instagram and interviews). Do you think this is for publicity for her own podcast (potential guests) or for a wedding? Anyway, I know you can’t read minds (although sometimes I feel as though you can) but just wanted to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks Steve!

Comment: I didn’t realize she was doing that so this is the first I’ve heard of it. The best answer I can give is that I’ve heard a ton of people in the past trash the franchise privately (and publicly) but continue doing things within the franchise, so there’s really no way to understand what their motivation is. Yes, she’s been highly critical of the show ever since her season ended. But like you said, now she’s doing all this stuff show related, it does make you wonder. I really don’t know. I don’t think it has to do with getting a wedding from them though. That time has passed I would think.

So I asked this question about the cease & desist a while ago, but I’ll ask it again.

Nothing after 5 years and now they threaten you?

Best guest (and this is still prob a big stretch): They’re insecure about their choice of a lead and feel this is their best way of protecting this season..

Comment: But what are they protecting since it’s already been spoiled? Right now the only things you don’t have in regards to the spoilers are the eliminations and a couple of the dates in episodes 4 through 7. Everything else you have. Even spoiled their big “reveal” at the end with the ex who comes back and gave you all the details behind that. I don’t know why they do what they do sometimes. I’m just gonna keep chugging along and do what I do.

Hey Steve! Longtime reader and huge fan of your site. I usually spend a few episodes pretending I’m not going to look at your spoilers and then I cave and look. Anyway, was hoping to stay unspoiled for a little while but you said the spoiler in the podcast with Brittney/Sydney! Am I crazy or did you say at some point that you would try to keep spoilers out of your podcasts unless it was literally a spoiler podcast? I’m not mad since I’m a big fan of your site and probably would have only made it another episode or two before I looked, but just curious/wondering if I’m crazy. Thanks!

Comment: Well, there is that big SPOILERS in all caps at the beginning of every episode description whether you’re listening through desktop or on the Apple Podcast app. All 59 episodes have had it. Have I talked about spoilers in every episode? No. Not even close. But some people don’t just consider the ending/winner a spoiler, so it’s impossible sometimes to remember exactly if I said anything that could be considered a spoiler during the podcast, hence the reason SPOILER is at the beginning of each one just in case.

Hi Steve,

1) I’m curious about something, but I’m not too sure if you may know this. I’m aware that going on the bachelor/Bachelorette gives you a free “vacation” granted you make it far. My question is, do the contestants have to file it as part of their taxes that they received something for free? I highly doubt it.

2) Do you think Rachel was scouted to be on the bachelor because she doesn’t seem like someone who would need a show to grow their career. Sometimes I think they scouted her and told her if she came on the show, then they would have her be The Bachelorette. Rachel just seems like she has too much going for her to ever need that show. What are your thoughts? A lot of contestants are scouted, so that wouldn’t make her any different. However, I do think once they cast her and saw her story, she was certainly on their radar as a “Bachelorette” possibility.

Also, this isn’t a question, but a comment. I met Sean and Catherine and they were the nicest people i ever met. If they were mean, then that would have been a huge letdown.

Comment: Glad you experienced that with them. I’ve only met them for about :20 seconds at a Mavericks game a few years ago. Seemed nice to me.

Krystal = smiler from the emoji movie
Kendall = Ashley Salter/Brannen

Comment: I’ve never seen the Emoji movie, but Kendall does look like Mesa Verde.

Hi Steve,

I’ve been a great fan of your site for awhile now. This is my first time writing in. As you typically give us your thoughts early on as to who you think will be the next bachelorette, I wanted to ask you about this season.

1. Who do you want to be the next bachelorette?
2. Who do you think will be the next bachelorette based on your sources, and insight?

Comment: Its too early but my guess is it’ll be one of the three in the final four who didn’t win: Tia, Kendall, or Lauren B. Who do I want out of those 3? I need to watch more episodes. Of those three, Kendall has gotten the most screen time in the first two episodes, however, I’d say she’s the least likely to get the gig just because of her quirkiness. Maybe I’m looking at it all wrong and they WOULD cast her because she’s a tad different. We don’t know yet. No one knows. Let it play out over the next couple months and see how certain edits come across.

Hi Steve:

Have you heard anything about how Becca has been doing since she got engaged to Arie, given everything you’ve reported on him? I can’t imagine any of it sits well with her, but as we’ve seen in the past, they usually aren’t expressing that outright at this point.

Maybe she’ll make for the most dramatic After the Final Rose EVER, dump Arie, and get back together w/ her ex. I hear things every season. This season is no different. I kinda touched on this with Sydney, but there is no woman, regardless of if they were engaged or not and feel super secure in their relationship, that wouldn’t be bothered by Arie’s relationship with Courtney. How could you not? I’m sure she tells him she’s fine with it, but she’s a woman. And she’s aware of their past. It can’t NOT bother her. And if she swears up and down it doesn’t, well, I think she’s lying to herself.

With that said, do I think she’d dump him to go back to her ex? No.

PS – I thought this was kind of funny so I had to share. Since Kaitlyn’s season of the Bachelorette where she spoiled her ending on Snapchat, I’ve always followed the Bachelor(ette) on Snapchat. I followed Arie and within a couple of days, he followed me back. I don’t use Snapchat much, let alone follow many people outside of my friend group – but I still thought this was weird. Why is he interested in my snaps?!?

Thanks for all that you do!

Comment: Can’t answer that. I have no idea. Are you an attractive girl 10 or more years younger than him? That could be your answer.

Reality Steve good afternoon!

I was wondering if you had any insider info on who the final four would be for this season. Some women I work with started a fantasy league and since we always make them participate in the sports fantasy leagues I joined this with them. There is one particular annoying person I work with that I would love to beat just for fun.
Thanks so much!

Comment: Tia, Kendall, Lauren B, and Becca are the final four. Kendall, Lauren B., and Becca are the final 3. Lauren B. and Becca are the final 2. He’s engaged to Becca. There. You are now the envy of your office and can rub it in that one woman’s face. I hope you boast about it.

Hi Steve,

Who would you consider the most successful post show contestant? I saw today that Amanda Stanton has a clothing line coming out, good for her! I would have to say Amanda, Ali F….

Comment: I’d have to think about this longer. And it’s subjective because I don’t know what you mean by “successful.” Is that just who’s made the most money? Who’s gotten the best job? Who’s used their time on the show for something influential? A lot factors at work here. But those two you mentioned would not be the first that come to mind, for me, as most successful post show.

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  1. 27shay

    January 10, 2018 at 9:51 PM

    1. I believe I speak for a lot of your readers when I say that your dislike for Arie is driving us all a bit crazy. Just say exactly why he is a bad person or stop dogging him already! What happened at Sean’s wedding!? Why can’t you spill the beans on Arie and/or Jef? Speaking from personal opinion, him sleeping around with young girls doesn’t bother me so I don’t get that angle.
    2. You’ve stated a few times here that Arie didn’t purchase the “Pretty Woman” dresses or any of the things from Becca’s date. Why have Bachelor fans heard otherwise? I heard from 3 different sources that he did buy her all of those dresses and, I believe, the earrings.

  2. littlelil

    January 10, 2018 at 10:09 PM

    If you’re not going to believe Steve, then why do you come to his site for spoilers? He can’t give up sources or certain pieces of information. It’s been like that from the beginning. If Steve says someone is questionable and has reasons to back that up that he can’t necessarily share with us, I believe him. Steve seems like a really stand-up, genuine guy. Stop hating on him please.

  3. 27shay

    January 11, 2018 at 5:22 AM

    I’m not hating. I obviously come here for the spoilers. You misunderstood what u had to say.
    My point is he usually has zero problems for telling things like it is, which I respect. But why is he leaving us in the dark about Arie and Jef? Makes no sense to me and I’ve been a long time reader.

  4. shenanigans

    January 11, 2018 at 7:17 AM

    To me, the answer to Shay’s question is obvious. Steve’s business is built on the information he receives from anonymous sources. Clearly, the people who gave him this information don’t want to be revealed – and the details are probably so specific that if he spilled them, the source would be obvious.

    As far as the three people saying something else online, ask them what their sources are. See how reliable that information really is. I suspect that you won’t be able to trace that back to an actual source, either.

  5. rob22

    January 11, 2018 at 8:33 AM

    I’ll agree that RS is a bit over the top on Arie. But I don’t think it’s his hating Arie, it’s just that Arie, like Nick, are pretty cynical choices. There is absolutely no way that either of them were interested in a marrying a girl from the show. It isn’t even plausible, at all. To me, that doesn’t make Nick or Arie bad people. It makes them opportunists. Of course, it’s getting to the point where nearly everyone on the show is an opportunist who is building their brand.

    The premise of the show has always been ridiculous, that two people could meet, date 3-4 times and live happily ever after. But with the advent of social media and brand building, it’s now impossibly stupid. By casting Nick and Arie, the show is signaling that they really don’t care to put together a believable show. Or, at least, they believe that by having the leads read a script with key phrases like “I’m looking for a wife”, or “I’m ready to settle down” or whatever, they will convince enough people to carry on with watching the show. I believe this cynicism is impacting their ratings, btw. Slowly, but visibly when you look at the slide over the last five years.

    But, I do agree that RS could tone down a bit on Arie and still make his points. And I also agree that whenever he says he has dirt on someone that he can’t reveal, it’s at best irritating. It comes across as part threat, part tease and part BS. I can live without it.

  6. wavecatchingmom

    January 11, 2018 at 10:59 AM

    I have some experience with ex athlete playboys, yachtboys, etc… in that privileged culture it is common that at a certain age the boymen marry. Does that mean they leave the playboy ways behind? No, they usually just convert to more covert ways, strippers, prostitutes, and eventually mistresses as they move up in age and status. So Arie may indeed want a wife, that may or may not mean he will change his ways (assuming the dirt RS has on him is real). The resemblance of Krystal to Arie’s mother was the best and most cringeworthy part of the episode. Can you put last names in please when dishing on who people are dating? Txs

  7. taxionna

    January 11, 2018 at 3:10 PM

    “Speaking from personal opinion, him sleeping around with young girls doesn’t bother me so I don’t get that angle.”

    Not a good look, tbh.

  8. 27shay

    January 11, 2018 at 3:35 PM

    Rachel Zoe herself said that he bought 5 of those dresses for Becca. How more reputable of a source can their be?

  9. 27shay

    January 11, 2018 at 3:39 PM

    Lol OKKKK. It isn’t disgusting when a man in his early 30s chases a girl in her early 20s. Let’s say the chick was 19. I still wouldn’t be angry with the dude.

  10. tinyred500

    January 11, 2018 at 3:53 PM

    I’ve commented before about RS’s apparent dislike of Arie. It’s getting very tiring and monotonous now, for there are, I’m sure far worse men in the franchise then Arie. What man of 36 doesn’t have a past? Well not if he hasn’t lived and besides it takes two to tango. RS did say in his podcast (with Brittany and Sydney) that he didn’t actually dislike Arie and that he’s never met him…if that’s the case, he should tone down his constant jabs and stop sounding like it’s personal.

    I’ve just watched the 1st episode of Arie’s season, I enjoyed it and I liked a lot of the girls, and they are by far the best looking group for as long as I’ve been watching…I thought Sean had the worst group of girls to choose from. I loved Bekah and found her kinda fresh and different from the usual crop of girls……her whole look reminded me of Betty Boop! Some commenters here have said they thought Arie was leering, I only thought he did it a couple of times.

  11. shenanigans

    January 11, 2018 at 5:05 PM

    Shay, did Rachel Zoe note where the money for the dresses came from? My guess is that the show picked up the tab, rather than Arie himself. That’s the distinction that Steve seems to be making – that it is ABC’s money, rather than a personal gift that Arie actually paid for.

  12. tinyred500

    January 12, 2018 at 1:31 AM

    I agree, although Arie is reportedly a multi millionaire. Unless there’s a statement issued by the franchise or by Arie himself…I’m pretty sure he didn’t pay for the dress(es), The show has paid for rings and dresses and for the previous Cinderella date stuff…why would etc this be the exception.

  13. 27shay

    January 12, 2018 at 6:15 AM

    @tinyred500 @shenanigans I’ve seen the Bachelor enough times to know how it works and that the women receive nice things at times. BUT Arie did buy those 5 dresses for Becca. It’s not usual for the show to purchase 5 at one time, each retailing at over $1,000 and for a first date?? That’s not happening.
    Not to mention, Roses & Rosé host was there in Miami for that date and spoke with Rachel Zoe who said, “Those dresses that Becca got to keep of her’s, Arie paid for those himself.” I DON’T KNOW, I DON’T KNOW but maybe Steve can be wrong at times, no? It’s happened before. Lol.

  14. tinyred500

    January 12, 2018 at 8:07 AM

    I do believe RS can be wrong at times. I was going on what the franchise ‘usually’ does. Arie could easily afford the dresses, just like when Lorenzo Borghese said he purchased the engagement ring….so yes it does happen, but rarely. If Arie did buy those dresses, I might simply question why Arie would spend at least $5k on a female he’s only just met. 😉

  15. 27shay

    January 12, 2018 at 9:32 AM

    @tinyred500 Maybe Arie is trying to show off and be well-liked?

  16. tinyred500

    January 12, 2018 at 10:27 AM

    Well yes, there is alway’s that. Lol 🙂

  17. trainwrecktv

    January 12, 2018 at 9:40 PM

    I would guess that in lieu of a private jet like Krystal had, ABC gave Arie a stipend for Becca’s date to buy her stuff. Then they get the legitimacy of him “personally” buying her things and establishing what a catch he is while it was actually funded by ABC. I have a hard time believing that anyone (rich or not) would spend that much personal money on a person they literally just met. He doesn’t need to try that hard – they are already fighting over him.

  18. tryinghere

    January 16, 2018 at 5:45 AM

    Some people here asked what Arie has done as to why RS doesn’t speak well of him. Personally I like Arie but Steve has reported in the past that Arie cheats quite a bit. For example, per Steve’s report years ago, right before leaving for Emily’s season, Arie had a girlfriend but was cheating on her with a couple other women including his business partner’s girlfriend. Others have reported that he cheats on girlfriends quite a bit as well. and tends to go after very young women. So I guess there is a question about his character, at least in regard to fidelity in intimate relationships.

  19. tryinghere

    January 16, 2018 at 5:47 AM

    I agree that Arie was probably given a budget for the dates and bought Becca’s dresses with that money.

  20. jessie

    January 16, 2018 at 10:11 AM

    lol. Man some people take this stuff so seriously. Arie seems like quite a dork – I can’t imagine why people feel they need to defend him so much. Cracks me up.

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