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“He Said, She Said” w/ Ashley Spivey – Episode 11, Colton Spoofs “40 Year Old Virgin”

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The “Bachelor” is doing “Bachelor” things again as we’re a little over a month away from Colton’s season premiering on Jan. 7th. As mentioned last week, I should have your episode-by-episode spoilers to you sometime in the next couple weeks, but I don’t have a specific because, well, it essentially all depends on when I get my lazy ass to the computer to put everything together. It’s all there in my notes. Just need to organize it, format it, and see if I can get any extra fill-in notes for you. What’s funny is I remember the days when I actually posted the episode-by-episode spoilers first, then waited for your final four breakdown and how the season ends. I don’t know how many consecutive seasons we’re on now, but it’s flipped to where I give you the ending first then fill the earlier stuff in later. Not sure when or why that changed, but the ending has been easier to get than the detailed info of all the dates. Anyway, look for that in the next couple of weeks. I’ll get around to it. Promise. In the meantime, another fun episode of the “He Said, She Said” podcast this week with Ashley Spivey. Probably our longest one yet as our callers, Megan in Massachusetts and Tina in Tennessee (yes, I love alliterations) really open up to us and fill us in on what’s going on in their lives. We even have an update on Megan’s call, as you’ll understand how once you listen.

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Music written by Kate Bass

In Episode 11, Ashley joins me and we begin by talking about last episodes Money Dance poll question that generated quite a bit of response. We also discuss this week’s poll question about dealing with in-laws. Then, our first caller Megan in Massachusetts joins us to talk about dealing with an abusive father years later (13:30). In a “He Said, She Said” first, Ashley and I give an update on Megan since her call was recorded last week and she had to confront her father this past weekend (58:10). Then Tina in Tennessee joins to tell us about her sister-in-law that has caused a lot of pain and anguish in her life (1:01:10). Tina’s call is what sparks this week’s poll question and we want to hear from anyone of you who’ve dealt with the same thing. Original theme music provided by Kate Bass and the song is titled “Blink.”

If you haven’t noticed already, ABC is shoving the “Colton is virgin” thing right down everyone’s pieholes. We saw it in the first promo for the season, and then yesterday they released another poster, which spoofs the “40 Year Old Virgin” poster from back in the day…

And of course because Colton is eating up every bit of attention he’s getting from this and obviously doesn’t care about the virgin stuff being flaunted, he HAD to respond to someone who questioned if this is what next season will be about:

You want a response from Colton on Twitter? I’d say just hit him up and tell him you don’t like him, or aren’t watching his season, or can’t stand they picked him over Jason or Blake. I’m sure he’ll get a notification and be sure to let you know how he feels. He’s as thirsty as they come everyone, and the show is still a month away from premiering. It’s only going to get worse.

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  1. greeniemichi

    December 4, 2018 at 6:33 PM

    My heart really goes out to Tina in the podcast! My sister in law is also toxic. Tina if you are reading this; at the end of the day, your sister in law is insecure with herself and very jealous of your relationship with her brother. She wishes she had the happiness you have with him. I learned to cope by realizing that my sister in law cannot take away the happiness I have with my husband. You always have to be positive. My sister in law is miserable with her marriage. Even though she puts me through a lot, I hope she can love herself so she can love others. You will always be strong!

  2. franks067

    December 5, 2018 at 8:21 AM

    For the first caller… why is this guy not already in jail? Apparently the police were involved when younger and didn’t want to cause issues yet he was kicked out then.. and might be doing the same thing now?

    Give the flash drive to the cops; and maybe DSS/CPA as well. Forget kicking him out of church this guy shouldnt be out on the street and if he is one day released should be on the register.

  3. rarroyo

    December 6, 2018 at 8:35 PM

    Hearing Tina was so heartbreaking and I truly believe the best advice is to stop trying to handle the situation on her own. It sounds like its gotten to the point where her husband needs to set his foot down and demand respect for her, as his wife, in front of his parents and her family the next time that she says something inappropriate to consciously make Tina feel bad. He has to give his sister an ultimatum- either she bites her tongue and stops treating his wife badly or they will have to stop coming around when she is there, that way it puts the ball in her court and his parents are in the know of why they are putting some distance if need be. And he should also make it clear to his sister that Tina is under no obligation to answer her phone calls or texts until she proves that she will change her attitude towards her. But that way it takes the blame/guilt off of Tina and it gives her sister in law no room to set Tina up as a bad person for not answering her calls/texts.
    I don’t think that there truly is an easy or stress free way of handling this situation, but sometimes you just have to accept that you’ve done all you can do and throw the ball in their court. Hope everything gets better and that this helps at least a little.

  4. tl55

    December 8, 2018 at 7:50 AM

    Thoughts on the Tina situation: the sister-in-law has gotten a pass on her behavior for at least 34 years. Her parents should have given her consequences all along the way, instead of just saying, “That’s the way she is, She won’t change, etc” They, along with Tina’s husband, should present a united front, clearly stating what will & wont be tolerated…and then it’s up to to the sister-in-law law to make changes or not. Just saying that they want all of their family to be together & “get along” is just unrealistic wishful thinking at this point. Bad behavior tolerated & excused just perpetuates into adulthood & beyond. Parenting well from the beginning makes a difference folks! Hang in there, Tina… refuse to accept abuse from anyone in any form!

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