Well today will not be a full recap of last night’s episode due to the fact I’m on the road, in a hotel in NY where the people next to me have been loud as shit every night for the last 4 nights, and I’m ready to get out of here. I want to thank everyone who sent condolences to me these last few days due to my aunt’s passing last week. Been a rough couple days but I made it through, got to see all my relatives who live in NY (we were the only ones who moved west), got to see hundreds and hundreds of people flock to my aunt’s viewing and mass the last couple days, so I knew how much she meant to people. Just due to that, I really don’t feel like breaking down every scene from last night’s episode, but I do wanna touch on a few things for sure, because some things really did stick out to me last night. Kind of an infuriating episode if you ask me as I’ll explain later. Very, very bizarre happenings and tons of producer manipulation, per usual.
Don’t forget to get your “Reader Emails” in for this week as we’re pretty low right now. Granted, I don’t have as much time to put together tomorrow’s column, but it will be up and I’ll get in as many as I can. No worries. Next week we are back to normal since my next scheduled trip isn’t until first weekend of March Madness for my annual Vegas trip, and that’s the week the “Bachelor” ends and “Bachelorette” begins filming. Yup. 4 years in a row now I’ll be in Vegas for the first few nights of “Bachelorette” filming.
One thing I did do before leaving this past weekend was already record Thursday’s podcast guest. Another old schooler as Chelsea Wanstrath is my guest this week. Chelsea finished 2nd on Matt Grant’s season of the “Bachelor” back in 2008 to Shayne Llamas. This interview is literally 12 years in the making. Back in 2008, before my site had gotten as big as its gotten now, Chelsea was the first contestant I was ever gonna do an interview with. At the time, Matt picking Shayne Llamas was kind of a big deal. Not many understood it. Shayne was 22, an actress, and clearly might’ve been the first “not here for the right reasons” girl. Well, Chelsea was convinced she won. She shares some really good stories in regards to her final days in Barbados from overnights on. Stuff I don’t know if she’s ever told publicly before. And if she did, it was over 10 years ago. Can’t wait for you to hear some of the tea that she spills from her season, so check that out when Podcast #166 drops on Thursday. You’re gonna love Chelsea.
I guess I shouldn’t be the least bit surprised that they continued the ChampagneGate feud from last week into the beginning of the episode. Really accomplished nothing to be honest, although, we did get Hannah Ann creating a new word for the English language. Fiasco is now called a “fanasco” according to her, so there’s that. Hannah Ann says she’d never steal champagne, Kelsey tells her it wasn’t even about the champagne even though, well, that whole night she MADE IT about the champagne. But as I said last week, that whole convo was ridiculous because Kelsey was right. It wasn’t bullying. It was her being upset in the moment and calling Hannah Ann names she should’ve. If it was a champagne bottle that you allegedly didn’t care about, then calling someone a bitch and a princess over it was kind of an overreaction, don’t you think? They were both wrong for how they acted, and now hopefully we can put this stupid argument behind us. I know I’m ready for it. And I’m pretty sure they are too as they continue to poke fun at it on social media.
Victoria’s daytime portion of her date was about as generic as you could get. A whole bunch of nothing, not a whole hell of a lot of deep conversation, yet the person the date can’t stop gushing about how great the date is. Using phrases like “didn’t expect to feel this comfortable,” “best date ever,” etc. This coming from the same woman who told us already this season that A) a guy had never taken care of her before and B) had never bought her flowers before. Sooooo yeah, it doesn’t take much to knock Victoria off her feet at all. You could Combo Meal her at Taco Bell and she might fall in love with you judging from her past. My God, what if a guy, I don’t know, opened a door for her? Walked on the street part of the sidewalk as they held hands? Has she experienced ANY of this? Man, she really has had it rough in life, no?
The night portion of her date is where Victoria starts to get a bit more serious. She opens up to him about her past, how her mom succumbed to addiction, she and her sister lived in and out of foster homes, didn’t know where their next meal was coming from sometimes, etc. All very depressing to say the least. Look, it basically is a given that if you have a tragic backstory on this show, not only will you inevitably tell the lead about it, but you’ll do it and say you’ve never felt so close to someone to open up like that. At this point, it’s almost like if you DON’T open up about something tragic in your life, or some down periods that you overcame, it’s like you’re looked at as someone having no depth. It’s a highly unfair expectation to live up to on this show. And lets make no mistake about it: I don’t care how big of a secret past you have, how much you don’t feel like telling it, and how much you’d rather curl up in a ball to never have to tell it, this show will make you. And then you’ll be applauded for it in the end. Soooo, yay Victoria?

realitygirl1111
January 21, 2020 at 8:03 AM
Completely agree about how they have to open up with a tragic story right out the rip! Ugh. Best entertainment of the show was ALAYAH and even Demi acting all Air Raid Dazed and Confused was underwhelming. Sigh. Until next time! (And I still say Kelley looks like Gia!)
http://www.myrealitybit.com/2020/01/the-bachelor-season-24-episode-3-recap.html
jlal
January 21, 2020 at 9:23 AM
Does anyone else think Victoria looks like Demi? At least I think it is Victoria P., that every time the camera cut to her I thought it was Demi for a minute.
crushonspivey
January 21, 2020 at 9:34 AM
Last night was a crap show of contrived fights. All producer started. Man those producers hate the girls they supposedly handle. But in spite of all that, to me the worst part falls on Peter. Peter was a grade A jerk last night. Let me explain why.
After Sydney told him her opinions in private, he did the right thing to go to Alayah in private to talk about what he had heard. Makes sense. Chat it out. What didn’t make sense was for him to basically then throw Sydney under hte bus in front of all the girls and have her tell them all her opinion, basically putting Alayah on the spot like that in front of all the girls. So much cringe for both those girls, unfairly. HE did apologize hte next morning–in private–but it was too late. He put her on the spot in front of everyone. A private apology wasn’t good enough there. And yes, this was all producer driven, just seems Peter is easily manipulated here. And it is not a good look because he is dull as it is. But now he is dull and a chump and jerky to boot.
I think Alayah is a pageant girl and has just learned how to be “on”. I don’t think it makes her fake. I just think he means she needs to figure stuff out about herself more as a non-pageant girl and how to turn it off. She got a raw deal last night by an insecure girl. Happens. and this shows eats that crap up.
crushonspivey
January 21, 2020 at 9:41 AM
One other thing–no idea why he sent Sarah C home last night. Not enough drama from her I guess? She was he prettiest girl on this season. And there are many pretty girls this season. She was the standout.
elizabeth82
January 21, 2020 at 9:47 AM
Thanks for pointing out H.A.’s made-up word. Alayah made one up, too: “disgenuine.”
dogmomma
January 21, 2020 at 10:38 AM
There was also the made up word “ling-er-ee” by Kiarra. I guess she didn’t know how to pronounce “lingerie”. Last night was such a train wreck and not in a good way.
massgirl39
January 21, 2020 at 11:03 AM
I am so sorry to read about your aunt’s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
ctrealitygirl
January 21, 2020 at 12:30 PM
dogmomma…you and I always seem to be on the same page! Last night I busted a gut when Kiarra pronounced lingerie as ling-er-ee. I texted my niece immediately and she, too, thought it was hysterical. Had Kiarra never heard the word lingerie before?? I’m guessing she doesn’t make it much farther. I was alos flabbergasted at how the whole “Alayah acting fake” got blown out or proportion. Was she my favorite? No. But I’ve seen women act way more fake in past seasons, and every time someone went crying to the lead, he’d listen but not do anything about it. I had a hard time gauging Peter’s feelings for Alayah. When they had some 1-on-1 time he seemed very disinterested in everything she was saying. But she is gorgeous, so maybe he was just attracted to her. But I really didn’t see the chemistry between them. This morning I read an excerpt of a Juliette Littman’s podcast with Rachel Lindsay as a guest, and Rachel expressed that she was very annoyed with Peter’s behavior so far, and she pointed out that he seems to fall in love with almost every woman he kisses or spends 1-on-1 time with. And I have to agree with her on that. So far he’s gone over the moon about Madison, Hannah Ann, Kelley, Victoria P, Sydney and Victoria F…just to name a few. And, as Rachel commented, he’s only three weeks in! Peter also has a tendency to let all the drama get to him. If he doesn’t calm down, he’ll be a train wreck by the end of the season! He needs to settle down and focus on fewer women who he’s formed a good connection with, and not act like a kid in a candy store!
dogmomma
January 21, 2020 at 1:59 PM
Yeah, the whole Alayah drama got old so quickly. And I never really thought about it but Peter does have a tendency to fall for every girl he gets into a “deep” conversation with. I can see how this season is going to be messy and how he won’t end up engaged. He has already said in interviews that he made a lot of mistakes. Probably the biggest one was agreeing to be the Bachelor when he apparently wasn’t ready. He didn’t seem to be over Hannah B at first unless they edited the crap out of that whole meeting. Now that he’s suddenly over her, he is falling for lots of girls. This show has really changed. I miss the good old days when it wasn’t quite so fake and the contestants weren’t Instagram peddlers.
bach1234
January 21, 2020 at 8:37 PM
Why does Peter run away so much? I was barely on this episode.
atleast4characters
January 22, 2020 at 12:11 AM
Every season there’s some silly drama that prompts the question (yes, “prompts the question” not “begs the question” which means somethig completely different from the average idiot uses it when they really means “prompts”): don’t these girls learn from watching previous seasons? A perfect example from this episode is, if you can’t stand another contestant, just blab your mouth about it in your interviews to guarantee you get stuck on group dates with them.
And let me be the one to say it about Alayah: she has a decent body and nice hair, but her face is night and day when you see her without vs. with makeup.
dogmomma
January 22, 2020 at 5:51 AM
New season….. Same old crap. And you’d think that the contestants would learn from previous seasons what not to do, but it just keeps getting worse every season. Either they are casting more girls with lower intelligence or they are getting smarter producers that are masters of manipulation.
justsaying
January 22, 2020 at 7:45 AM
I personally wouldn’t hang out with someone who’s on-and-off just for a camera myself. But I’m so not-2020.. silly me.
Alayah wasn’t going to be Peter’s top pick. You can tell. So why bother being Peter’s number 15 or number 10 or even number 2. He doing her a favor for not wasting her time. But I’m not in my 20s. I like ripping bandaids.
lesscrying
January 22, 2020 at 8:57 AM
I’m glad you cover this show. I usually read your recaps and don’t watch the show until the final 4-6 contestants to save myself the drama. But I turned it on Monday, and it looked like at one point Peter had this hand-on-forehead, grimaced face that said, “If I have to listen to one more girl crying about her tragic back story or how people are mean to her, I am going to get in my plane and go find a sports bar. Preferably with hockey.” You can’t spare Peter the anguish of one more sob story, but thanks for sparing me.