Reality Steve


Podcast #60 – Interview with Ashley Spivey

A very fun, and sometimes serious 90 minute conversation with Ashley Spivey this week. She’s someone to definitely follow on Twitter on Monday nights for some good humorous and insightful takes on the “Bachelor.” We had Ashley on last May in between Nick and Rachel’s season, so I wanted to bring her back on this season because she gives good insight to some of the things that maybe the average fan doesn’t she. She has some really interesting thoughts on Krystal, Bibiana, and Chelsea among others. We also spend a good 15 minutes diving into a Twitter beef she got into online with James Taylor recently which then spawned a discussion about the #MeToo movement which Ashley unfortunately is a part of. I really appreciate her opening up somewhat about the ramifications that the assault she went through had on her. A must listen if you ask me. As always, if you want to respond to the interview, please include Ashley’s Twitter handle (@AshleySpivey) in your replies so she can see them as well. Always one of my favorite people to talk to and honestly, I could’ve gone another hour with her. Love her candor and I hope you do too. Enjoy…

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(SPOILERS) Ashley joins me to talk about if she’s going spoiled or unspoiled this season, being critical of the current contestants as a former contestant (6:38), productions role in creating characters on the show (11:30), Krystal’s actions last episode (17:18), her opinion of Bibiana (21:08), her early favorites and what the first night of filming is like (23:44), the idea of interrupting conversations and how it works (31:06), Chelsea’s comment about giving up so much to be there (34:23), Arie & Courtney’s relationship (36:56), the Twitter beef she had with James Taylor recently (50:25), her being a bit candid about being a sexual assault victim in the past and the current #MeToo movement (56:32), her husband being a huge Eagles fan & them attending the game this Saturday (1:05:52), her new job & her book club on Facebook (1:08:52), and we end it with the Final 10 (1:15:19).

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  1. ladyjane747

    January 13, 2018 at 9:56 AM

    Ashley S. DOES have a baby voice! Don’t know what it is about her, but she annoys me. Maybe because she’s a tad…pretentious. And for Ashley and Steve to go on and on about how a woman would NEVER lie about being harassed or molested – Duke Lacrosse team, “mattress” girl from The Rolling Stone article, right here in L.A., a young man had his football career and life destroyed by a false rape claim. Heck, even one my son’s friends at his fraternity was falsely accused of rape. The girl drank too much, hooked up with the guy at a party, had some explaining to do when her boyfriend found out and then recanted her charge. Unfortunately, it DOES happen and to pretend it doesn’t is being disingenuous and/or naive.

  2. ladyjane747

    January 13, 2018 at 5:51 PM

    And another thing – LOL. She said she got out of the limo and grabbed Brad Womack’s ass. Why is that okay for her to do that to a man? If a man did that to a woman, she’d be #metoo-ing all over the place! Does she see the double standard?

  3. alba99

    January 14, 2018 at 12:05 PM

    Ashley Spivey is a hypocritical, unintelligent fool who doesn’t like her own gender very much. Ashley – you think the women on the bachelor are completely responsible for acting against their character at the threat of being sent home? So you must also think that if a young, talented female aspirating actor is told by a male director that she can either perform sexual acts on him and get a staring role, or return to waitressing – and she chooses the former.. it’s ENTITELY on her? Someone didn’t quite understand the #metoo movement it seems. There’s a power imbalance between the producers and the contestants. When producers use their power to pressure contestants into doing what they don’t really want to do – that is a problem and it’s shame on the producers. Its not free for all let’s attack the women time because they compromised their values to try to catch a break.

  4. rob22

    January 15, 2018 at 1:58 PM

    Look, let’s not compare being a Bachelor Contestant, or even the F1 in the Bachelor, with getting a starring role in a Harvey Weinstein movie. Or compare a Bachelor Producer with Weinstein. The power dynamics aren’t even close. Weinstein could set you up in a plum role that gets you award nominations, makes your career & makes you millions of dollars. That’s real power. And that’s why Weinstein was able to get away with what he was doing for so long. Nobody wanted to potentially sacrifice their lucrative careers. So they said and did nothing. For decades. Bachelor producers can set you up to sleep with Arie in the Fantasy Suite. Or not. If you’re giving into a Bachelor producer, you’re selling your soul for a very, very small payoff. (At least that’s what they say about Arie 🙂 ) So, I agree with Ashley Spivey. The contestants are responsible for their “acting against their character” if they give into a Bachelor Producer. Worst case, they catch an early plane home and cut five minutes off their 15 minutes of fame. Whereas with Weinstein, I can totally see where women were put into an impossible position. Give into the guy and make your career, becoming rich and famous. Or rebuff him and risk your career and reputation being ruined. I’m totally on board with the #MeToo movement and outing the things we’ve been hearing. But let’s not conflate those very serious issues with embarrassing oneself on The Bachelor.

  5. salsashoes

    January 18, 2018 at 11:46 PM

    Love the Podcast with Ashley Spivey!
    She’s totally matter of fact and tell it like it is!
    Comes across as someone you’d want to go get coffee with, super sweet and cool! I love her voice too, it adds to her overall charm!

    Hey Steve? Can you keep doing interviews with Bach contestants? There are so many people from past seasons you could interview…pleeeeasseeee????

    Thanks again for all the cool interviews!

  6. tinyred500

    January 20, 2018 at 4:15 AM

    I enjoyed the podcast and I totally agree with what rob22 says! Constants partaking in the bachelor franchise are nothing more than unpaid puppets, and thus it’s up to the individual whether they go along with ‘any’ request made by a producer. Though I might add, I doubt a much wanted participant by the lead would be threatened with ‘do this or no rose’. If that was the case, it would make the show even more contrived and fake than it is.

    As for Ashley having a baby voice, it sounds gravely to me, and the worse voice goes to Amanda Stanton IMO. We currently have Ben H season airing here, and I almost hit the mute button when she talks. 🙁

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