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Hi Steve—

Big fan of the site for years; thank you for the work you do. Anyways, I’m new to your reader emails so forgive me if this has been asked before, but I noticed today (Tuesday after MDW) that both Hannah and Tyler have gone dark on social media. I know not to read too much into the “he liked, she liked,” if you will, but I know that this time period is a common one for couples to meet up. So my real question would be how do the happy couple weekends/safe-house-visits work? More specifically, how often do the couples meet? How long are the visits? How much of it is true alone time and how long are the producers there getting more footage of life post-show? These are just some questions that have crossed my mind that I thought you may have some info about.

Also, looks like Luke P. has already taken your advice (see: Luke P’s most recent IG post)!

Keep up the great work.

Comment: Varies from couple to couple. Most of them say it’s usually every other week for 3 or 4 days. And it’s all alone time other than production grabbing them groceries and what not. The last few seasons we have seen cameras there to to show the audience at ATFR, but that’s very new. I think Colton’s was the first season I remember them doing video. Others had some pictures here and there, but Colton and Becca (and then Lauren) were shooting cell phone videos. Some have accidentally spoiled their season because of it. Lets see if Hannah does at any point. I think they’re told to be extra careful after what’s happened the last few seasons, but, you just never know what someone might tweet or IG story on that gives it away.

Hi Steve-I’ve watched every season of The Bachelorette but I’m finding this one to be completely unwatchable. Why are they making this season so completely and totally boring? There had to have been more interesting women than Hannah. Also: do you think they will ever have a black Bachelor?

Comment: It’s why the show is successful. You hate it, others love it. Just read some of the emails today. It’s totally subjective. Just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean everyone does. Millions still watch.

I don’t think we’ll have a black Bachelor anytime in the next 3-5 seasons. That’s just a guess.


Thank you so much for all of your hard work – I thoroughly enjoy your recaps and podcasts!

Do we know what episode Hannah breaks down at what looks like a cocktail party and is seen crying about how the guys don’t know her? I can’t seem to figure it out. Not sure on that.

Do you think they will have Luke P. go on BIP? He would bring drama to the show, but since they aren’t concerned about spoilers on BIP it would give some things away. I’d be surprised if he were there. Really surprised.

Side note on Luke P. After your recap was posted with the advice you gave him, he posted what was basically an apology instagram. Probably just a coincidence but I thought the timing was interesting.

Comment: Yeah, maybe it was in response, maybe it wasn’t. I don’t know.

Hi Steve,

With all the stories that you will be reporting about Hannah’s guys, including I’m sure the winner, I’m reminded of everything you reported about Jordan before Jojo’s season started airing. I know it’s possible that he just actually found the person he wanted to be with and it made him change his ways, but I’m just curious as to what your thoughts on the situation is? Hard to say since I know nothing about their relationship and how it works. Three years and they’re still together, that’s about 2 years and 9 months more than I thought they’d last, so they got me there.

P.S. I could say the same thing about Arie, but I don’t think I will ever buy that he’s actually a changed man no matter how long he stays married to Lauren.

Thanks for the great work Steve, you make watching this ridiculous show more fun!

Comment: Another one whose relationship I don’t follow. Their baby has to due soon, no?

Hi Steve!

Never have written to you before.

I have two thoughts I’d like to share with you…

1. Is it just me or do you feel like Hannah’s last 2 guys are sort of like Brandon (Jed) vs. Dylan (Tyler)? I see a resemblance! Not bad. Could you imagine if Hannah would’ve not only ended the season dumping both of them, but did it by saying, “I choose me?” My head would explode.

2. Hannah’s nose has been red since Colton’s season….. never could figure out why 🙂

Thanks for the many years of great reading material, especially on Tuesday’s!

Happy birthday as well!

Comment: Was it this bad on Colton’s season? I don’t remember it being as prominent then, but man, I notice it every time now.

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  1. tinyred500

    May 29, 2019 at 9:26 AM

    Regarding the reader email about recent suicides of contestants appearing on reality programmes in the UK (and Australia). Sadly, this is horribly true. There was a documentary on a few nights ago about them. It delved into the truly horrid practices and techniques used behind the scenes on contestants during filming (some of which aren’t too dissimilar to those used within the Bachelor franchise). It also mentioned the lack of dutiful before/after care and assistance offered to those contestants. I have no idea how (legally) these creators and producers get away with it. 🙁

  2. meredith1972

    May 29, 2019 at 9:39 AM

    I think Luke’s psychological testing – given to all contestants – revealed the trait of possessiveness which the producers manipulated to the hilt by suggesting that he say and do certain things. Editing tricks added resulted in bizarre behavior which I think is most probably not really the way he is in life.
    Contestants who see how they have been edited and shown, and then begin to apologize instead of retaliating offensively cause me to surely believe the things we have heard about reality shows are mostly true.

  3. corn29

    May 29, 2019 at 11:46 AM

    > I think is most probably not really the way he is in life

    Curious; how so?

    Let’s just say Luke is getting a “bad edit”… did the producers make Luke say “I’m letting you develop other relationships”? Did the producers make Luke say, “let me walk you to your dressing room”?

    Edit or not, Luke isn’t doing himself any favors with the words which are coming out of his own mouth.

  4. tinyred500

    May 29, 2019 at 12:57 PM

    @corn29, This is where it gets tricky to explain or show/prove. I think in each series there are contestants who are easily manipulated into showing their worst side or their weaknesses and worst traits. So, it could be said, yes they did say it and this who they are as people in real life as well. However, put in an environment without family, friends, and generally normal things, coupled with sleep deprivation and booze, brings out their worst traits and their weaknesses as individuals. Some contestants are simply very vulnerable, again, they are an easy target for the producers to manipulate. If you look over each series you can generally tell who these contestants are. Each season there are stand out (a mixture of contestants, e.g., vulnerable and ones with more deep rooted issues), and I’m not talking about the ones who go in with a plan on how they want to represent themselves either, e.g Demi and Corrine. A lot of the stand out (for the wrong reasons) contestants have no clue how they are coming across or how they will be edited. I’m sure some lack self-awareness and/or have a low emotional intelligence, it makes them ripe for producers to work with. These contestants are picked for specific characters (as it were) sometimes. So Luke is likely to be such an individual who this relates to this series.

  5. Nahu

    May 29, 2019 at 5:46 PM

    @corn29 No. He never said he was letting HANNAH develop other relationships. He said:
    “And here I am, letting OTHER GUYS develop a stronger connection, a stronger relationship with you.”

    My interpretation of what he said: I feel like we don’t have the strongest relationship anymore and it bothers me because I think we’re perfect for each other.

  6. corn29

    May 30, 2019 at 11:42 AM

    > And here I am, letting OTHER GUYS develop a stronger connection

    Regardless if Luke said “I’m letting you…” *or* “I’m letting other guys…”

    Who the heck does Luke think he is ahem, “let” other people do stuff?

    Hint: it’s not up to Luke… but that’s what people with personality disorders do — they are controlling, they make it all about themselves without regard to others.

  7. mariet

    June 1, 2019 at 6:14 PM

    Joey, Ashley, Melanie. Really Steve? Who cares? No one except you for whatever reason. Good Lord!

  8. tinyred500

    June 2, 2019 at 6:33 AM

    I agree. Although I’m not condoning their behaviour (and I’m sure there’s always been contestants who have done this), this just seems like muckraking etc., to me.

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