-Ben’s time was used to tell Tayshia about his past. He tells her he’s feeling a connections he’s never felt in his life before and it scares him. With the life he’s lived, he thinks it’s different than what Tayshia assumed it was. He had an eating disorder for 15 years. He thought girls didn’t like the fat kids, so he lost over 80 lbs, suffered from bulimia for 10 years. Him disrobing was him showing her all of himself. He cares but says it’s hard for him to let out. Tayshia steals a line from Clare saying Ben “showed up for her” tonight and gave him the rose. I’m beginning to think that unless you have some sort of awful, tragic backstory, you basically can’t win on this show anymore. It never used to be that way, but seemingly, if you’re just a regular guy or girl, had a normal upbringing, no real tragedies in your life, you’re happy and content with everything currently happening, you almost come across as uninteresting. Why is that so? Look, we know they LOVE exploiting people with tragic backstories. But after a while, it gets to be a bit much. Props to Ben and Zac for overcoming what they did. This isn’t about them individually. Just collectively as a show, this gets tiresome that it seems they love to exploit storylines like this. While it’s ultimately on each guy to share, we all know they were coached into doing so.
-After Tayshia gives the group date rose to Ben, she addressed Bennett and Noah specifically saying, “Something is going on, and I’m gonna get to the bottom of it.” Wonderful. Can’t wait. Bennett and Noah’s “feud” couldn’t be any more tame if they tried. You put guys, or girls, in the same location for x amount of weeks fighting over one person, of course not everyone is gonna get along, personalities are gonna clash, etc. We’ve seen this numerous times over past seasons. While I think Bennett and Noah are at two different places in their lives and maybe wouldn’t necessarily be BFF’s outside of this show, they’re making this out to be so much more than it really is. And we’ll see that once their impromptu 2-on-1 date begins.
-Well, what happened next. Oh yeah, Eazy had a 1-on-1. Tayshia sent him home. The End.
-Now onto to more important things, which is the cocktail party before the rose ceremony. Wait, first JoJo addresses the guys that morning saying Tayshia will still be holding a cocktail party, but not right away, she sees tension between Bennett and Noah and would like to see both of them together during the cocktail party where one will get a rose a one won’t. Bennett doesn’t seem the least bit worried and is confident he’ll get the rose, which ultimately means he won’t. In Bennett’s words: “I crush life under pressure.” Look, this show has made it pretty clear what Bennett thinks of himself. Who knows if he’s really like this in real life, BUT, from just the edit we are seeing of him, Bennett comes across as a narcissistic, self-absorbed, pompous asshole. Great, you think he’s hot. His personality, at least on this show, is nauseating.
-Clearly production got inside Bennett’s head, because I don’t know any guy in their right mind, when being put on a 2-on-1 date, would sit there and bring a “gift” for the other guy, basically explaining how much better he thinks he is than him. Nothing about that scene of Bennett giving Noah his gift made him look the least bit likable. Sorry. Giving him a book on emotional intelligence and saying he’s deficient in 3 of the 4 traits. First off, emotional intelligence I thought had 5 traits to it – Self awareness, self regulation, Empathy, Social Skills, and Motivation? Unless I read that wrong on the internet which, I guess, is entirely possible. But if it’s correct, doesn’t that make Bennett more of a boob as he’s talking down to a guy, yet, isn’t even correct in what he’s talking down to him for? And then to say, “I’m not trying to belittle you, I’m trying to love you up.” Ummmm, everything about giving him that gift and telling him you think he’s deficient in 3 of the 4 emotional intelligence traits is belittling. If anything, BENNETT is the one that has zero self awareness right now. He looks like a buffoon during this whole scene.
-When you really break it down, what exactly has Noah even done to warrant this type of response from Bennett? Jumped the fence on the wrestling date, when ANYONE could have? That’s not his fault. Telling Tayshia the guys ganged up on him after that, I mean, they did. I think Noah’s biggest mistake was last week when he insinuated that Tayshia gave him the rose to stir things up, which then led to her outburst at the rose ceremony. Definitely a mistake on his part. But that was never part of Bennett’s argument last night. I don’t remember it being brought up once. Bennett is older and went to Harvard. He sees a guy 11 years younger than her getting attention and he feels threatened. There’s your easy answer. And considering Bennett even used the 11 year age difference IN his argument with Noah kinda shows where his head is at. No, a 36 year old arguing with a 25 year old isn’t even close to the same as a 25 year old arguing with a 14 year old. Seriously? A Harvard grad thinks those are equal? The polished, calm, slow talking demeanor is offset by the stupidity that seems to consistently be coming out of his mouth.
Next week, we’ll get the resolution to this nonsense, but you’ve seen my spoiler by now I’m sure. She gives Noah the rose over Bennett. And then seemingly eliminates 3 more guys at the rose ceremony judging by that picture on page 1. So we’ll have 7 guys left after the next rose ceremony if that picture includes everyone. 5 episodes left total with 7 guys. Now the math is starting to add up this season, when for the longest time, it didn’t. Adding those two Monday shows on the 14th and 21st changed everything.
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idontcare
December 2, 2020 at 2:36 PM
Steve, maybe you should get rid of that dinosaur direct tv and change to cable. Really, ppl still have Direct TV?
Nahu
December 2, 2020 at 2:45 PM
You’re such a hater, Steve. Bennett clearly knows what he’s doing. He’s getting more screentime than 90% of the guys, even some guys that get 1-on-1 dates, every weak; he has more followers on Instagram than any other contestant this season. You can take him too seriously. You should know better than anyone that the way people appear on the show doesn’t reflect who they are IRL.
lydjo20
December 3, 2020 at 3:48 PM
Tayshia should dial it back. She is black. Be black. The black contestants don’t have a chance. She is just patronizing the black guys. Her kiss is tongue deep with white guys but surface and quick with black guys.
She obviously tries really hard to be white. As a black woman, it is sad to see the black contestants compete for her. When she knows and most know she only wants someone white. it’s boring seeing another black bachelorette who only wants white. I hope Matt Jones gives everyone a chance!!!
jmanpugh24
December 3, 2020 at 8:24 PM
lydjo20,
Will you say it louder for those in the back??? I completely agree with you 110%!!!! When I originally heard she was taking over for Clare, the first thing I said was, “But Tayshia is only attracted to white men!” The way she did Easy was brutal….but it was expected and I swear I nailed her exit line to him before she even said it. You’re spot on!!!
lydjo20
December 4, 2020 at 2:30 PM
And what is so sad is in anybody’s world she’s a black woman.
I don’t care how she considers herself mixed It just hurts my heart to see how those black men actually believe they’re falling in love with her and she is not giving them a flying flip. She ’s just following the ABC process in hopes that it will take her further than what she is was as a phlebotomist. Now she considers herself a TV personality but it’s really really sad that people are still like this in the world. Lost Identity Syndrome (LIS). My acronym.
I truly hope another twist will be the remaining black men will catch on if they have not already and see she very seldom gives roses to black men and all of them walk off.
The ones who are lighter skin are tolerable to her but still not white. Just pleasing the black audience but her history and ex husband are white. All the men in Bachelor in Paradise were white!
I have no problem as a black women with interracial dating but Ann a firm believer you don’t have to lose your identity to do so!!!
When Ivan the mixed Filipino guy started crying and tearing up about George Floyd and Black Lives Matter she said nothing because she either she can’t relate or she doesn’t want to show the viewers who she is or not. I am glad they gave her some class in her attire this time. Her chest was always out in BIP and the Bachelor. It looks like she was leading with her chest.
Just overall a sad and disappointing season.
p.s. I heard she protested with BLM. But it may be her white friends did it so she followed suit.
One thing I can say is they must take acting classes in order for her to pretend and make the black men think that she likes them look closely at the way she kisses them and hug them as a passing friends not someone she’s interested in marrying. But as we can see the selection of me and they’ve given her have lots of baggage from the past and in a black dating scenario she would dismiss the man immediately.
ladyjane747
December 7, 2020 at 4:05 PM
Still not sure I understand all the upset about Eazy. A woman accused him of sexual assault, he denied it, no investigation was conducted, no charges were pressed, no conviction. Is he supposed to be shunned the rest of his life? A guy in my son’s fraternity was accused of rape at a party, and he claimed it was consensual. Turns out the woman was just telling a story because her boyfriend found out she slept with this other guy. She did come forward and retract the accusation, but what if she hadn’t? False accusations DO happen, maybe not the greater percentage of accusations are false, but they do happen. If we’re supposed to believe all women, all the time, then we are about to have (another) rapist in the White House, as Tara Reade accused Hiden’ Biden of rape. He denies it, he was never charged, there was no investigation and most people are perfectly happy to accept that.
dbla31
December 8, 2020 at 11:27 AM
ladyjane, I totally agree with you about Eazy and can’t believe Steve won’t let this go. IF this accusation came about for something he supposedly did on the show then yes it would be ABC’s responsibility to get the the bottom of it, like they did that BIP season when a girl was possibly taken advantage of while inebriated. They shut filming down. But this was before the show, had nothing to do with the show, and should have been reported to the police, not ABC. This accuser is taking the easy way out (no pun intended) and trying to get Eazy crucified in the court of public opinion, and that’s not cool.
I do however agree with him about Bennett. The guy is an immature douche. Given his poor spelling skills I have to believe his parents bought his Harvard degree, or had some other influence there. So glad she kept cute, young Noah.