As mentioned on the previous page, plenty of those in Bachelor Nation were not happy with what was shown last night, and rightfully so. We saw Bekah’s tweet of what she thought of Arie and there were plenty others. There were tons of other responses with how Arie handled things. And this is coming from people who are puppets for the franchise. Contestants who love all the producers, will jump at any chance to go on another show, and usually stay out of commenting about any production things they see which could be cast in a negative light. You know what that’s called? Being objective. You can still love being in Bachelor Nation and hob knobbing with producers and go to all the reunion shows and what not, but also in the same breath call them out for shady sh**. I appreciate those who spoke out last night who didn’t care about their public image or always kissing production’s ass. Objectivity is something the Arie sheep refuse to partake in. Everything they say slants ALL the blame to production and makes excuses for Arie at every turn.
They’ve even turned to victim shaming on Twitter last night. Oh yeah, this was Becca’s fault. She should’ve seen the warning signs and it’s her fault for not getting out of the relationship first. Not to mention, this notion that she should’ve known things were up when they were filming Happy Couple visits. Usually those aren’t filmed (at least that we’ve seen), but since last night showed us at least three occasions where Arie and Becca were happy and together and production cameras were there, Becca apparently should’ve been more aware. That’s another ignorant comment from people who will do anything to defend the guy. So to shed a little light on this, I asked a former “winner” of this show (a female) last night what she thought. She’ll remain nameless because who she is isn’t as important as to what she said. My question was, “If they came and filmed one of your Happy Couple visits, would you think something was weird or something was up? Her response:
“Ummm, no. I didn’t trust anyone at that point BUT I don’t think I would’ve been ‘alarmed.’ I definitely would have had many questions but I’m sure the producers would have an answer for me that would make me think it’s not weird.”
When I mentioned that they clearly showed us last night they’d filmed previous times Arie & Becca were together and everything was fine, she replied:
“Yeah exactly. At that point you just trust the person you’re with. If you said yes to an engagement, you trust them. You wouldn’t think they would do that to you…at the end of the day, Arie didn’t have to film that. He seems easily swayed in general.”
So this notion that Becca should’ve seen this coming once the cameras were filming her Happy Couple, and it’s her fault for not recognizing this sooner is such garbage and just a narrative for people trying to defend Arie. Get over yourselves. Seriously? It’s BECCA’S fault? How ignorant are you?
Becca is not expected to know the inner workings of production and when and where things are or aren’t supposed to be filmed. She gets engaged in November, they see each other at least 3-4 times from that point until the break up, from what we saw last night almost all those trips seemed to have a camera crew filming them happy together, but now all the sudden on the last one she’s expected to know a break up is coming? How ridiculous. You know, the one question I’ve been asked the most since last night has been, “Did Arie ask producers to film it or did production make him?” Huh? Does that even matter? The whole point is Becca DIDN’T know that a break up was about to be filmed. Arie and production are both to blame. Like Becca said in her interview with People, while she doesn’t think he purposely set out to hurt her, he could’ve handled it better. He wasn’t thinking. He didn’t have to do it on camera. There was a more tactful way to do it, and the way he handled it was basically a slap in the face.
Anyone blaming Becca for her role in all of this, and it’s her fault for not seeing the signs of Arie telling her he was struggling with his decision, and it’s her fault for not getting out early is clearly living on another planet. And that would be Planet Arie. It’s so obvious who’s behind comments like that. Why is it so hard to admit that everything I’ve said about the guy, which has subsequently played out over the last 6 months, is right? Is it THAT hard to admit you bought into it? Trust me, you’ll be a better person for it once you realize this guy isn’t everything you made him out to be. And it’s not, “He has to follow his heart. We all make mistakes.” I’m not talking about the break up. Sh**, even his ex told you that was coming before he was even announced as the “Bachelor,” remember?
The show would be perfect for @ariejr up until it comes to choosing just one ?
— Sydney Stempfley (@sydneystempfley) September 4, 2017
What more do you need? The guy told Chris Harrison he was gonna break up with Becca before he even told Becca. On what planet is that the right thing to do? On what planet was that handled correctly? Arie/producers/Chris Harrison, you can lump them all in together. What they did they knew would make for great television but was incredibly sh***y to do to Becca. There’s no other way around it.
March 7, 2018 at 8:32 AM
Yep, I agree with you. I don’t think it was concocted by the producers because of low ratings either. Arie just changed his mind…end of, so then they had to work around that. It happens I personally don’t see that’s the issue, just the whole filming of the break up etc.
March 7, 2018 at 8:38 AM
Yep, I agree with you. I don’t think it was concocted by the producers because of low ratings either. Arie just changed his mind…end of, so then they had to work around that. It happens, and I personally don’t see that’s the issue, just the whole filming of the break up etc., is the issue with me.
March 7, 2018 at 8:42 AM
This reply is for …..katieottawa! I wondered where my comment went! Lol
March 8, 2018 at 5:55 AM
Wow, Steve, you sound like an ABC lackey. How can you NOT believe all that garbage wasn’t scripted? Are you so scared of being sued (again) that you have climbed into bed with them?
March 8, 2018 at 6:03 AM
Or I should have said “how can you believe all that garbage wasn’t scripted”? The biggest farce is Becca…… she’s so distraught over breaking up with that turd she instantly jumps at the chance to be the next lead? Bull.
Everything on the show is scripted bull poo, and you know it. Or at least you used to think that way before something (money?) convinced you to change your mind and start believing otherwise. The truth is ABC is probably the one giving you the “spoilers”, and your columns have become part of the lure for viewership.
March 8, 2018 at 10:38 AM
The breakup happened in January, so I don’t think Becca signing up for the Bachelorette is too soon. She barely knew the guy she got engaged to, and she’s had plenty of time to move on since January. She doesn’t need to grieve for a year over something that was very short-lived. She seems like a smart, sensible girl, so I think she will be fine as the bachelorette. Also, when people say she shouldn’t do it because of the way ABC treated her, just remember that she is going to be the lead, and the guys who sign up to meet her are the ones who open themselves up to being manipulated.
March 12, 2018 at 10:05 PM
I’m from Minnesota, too, and Becca is SO Minnesotan. So many ways. Like, the parents are really old school and repressed, and so the kids are very open with their feelings and thoughts.
The scripting was probably the producers pushing Arie to choose Becca, knowing he really wanted Lauren, but being weak as he is he went along and chose Becca. Then were perfectly amenable to a break up.
If the Washington Post said they were contractually obligated to allow the cameras, more than likely they researched it and that was the fact. If they didn’t, journalistic standards would be to say, “probably” or “perhaps” etc.
These are not professional actors. The producers know this. So, to get a reaction of “surprise,” they have to literally surprise the person, etc.
Her reactions were very similar to mine, having been in – well, situation similar in some ways.
First, not in any way expecting it -> shock.
When she looks down she almost laughs. Perhaps thinking, “Three minutes ago, I was madly in love with this guy. Now I see he’s just a complete asshole”
If so, she’s correct there. Unfortunately, those insights are temporary.
To those who say she didn’t cry. She does. She goes into the bathroom to cry. She says several times it’s all embarassing.
I’m sure that having cameras follow you 24/7 you come to ignore them; especially know so much will be cut – which the producers might even reassure, like, “Don’t worry, we’ll cut that type of scene.”
What I don’t believe is that it was all unedited. It looked more like it took place over a much longer period of time and they cut a bunch.
Yes she should do Bachelorette. By the time it airs, the douchebag will probably have realized Lauren’s not The One either and want Becca back or something. Let him be miserable. His turn.
Not necessarily a healthy thing to do, but after a break up where you have lifelong expectations – rebounding is common. Don’t think the producers don’t know this. Those intense feelings just ripe to be transferred to the next romantic date.
And honestly, my gaydar was pinging constantly watching that guy. Lauren seems as shallow or conflicted as he is, maybe even in the closet like he is and that’s the kinship he feels for her. Closeted gayness.
That’s my take on it.