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Bachelor In Paradise 5 Spoilers

The “Bachelorette” Becca – Episode 8 Recap, (EXCLUSIVE) Bachelor in Paradise Ending Spoilers, Episode 2 of the “He Said, She Said” Podcast w/ Ashley Spivey, & Men Tell All Tapes This Friday

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-The whole idea that they show the hometown dates out of the order that they’re filmed is always a head scratcher to me. I mean, I get that it’s all about storytelling, but in this particular instance, I don’t see how it changed anything. The order they were filmed were Jason, Blake, Colton, then Garrett. The order we saw it last night was Garrett, Jason, Blake, then Colton. I get that Colton had the most drama with the whole Tia stuff, but if they would’ve shown that third like it was filmed, I don’t see how that would’ve changed anything. We’ll get to Colton’s date later, but just seemed kinda stupid. And without going back through 36 different seasons, I don’t know how many are shown out of the order they’re filmed. It’s not a given that they do that every season. But the Colton/Tia stuff I guess is what led them to, but it didn’t have to be shown last to have the same effect.

-Becca meets Garrett in Manteca, CA and basically we are transported back to a few years ago on Chris Soules’ farm. It’s gonna be a tractor life for Becca. Hey ask Whitney Bischoff (now Angel) how appealing that seemed to her. Yeah, maybe for about 14 seconds after Chris proposed, then reality set in, and zero people wanted to live in Bumblef**k, Iowa. Remember how other girls on his season (yeah you know, even Ashley I.) were gushing about how where he lived was so cool and they could totally see themselves living there? Well, lets break down the 6 girls that he brought back to Iowa right before hometown dates and now see post-show if you honestly think they would’ve settled down there knowing more about them:

Jade: Bhahahahahahahahaha
Whitney: Bhahahahahahahaha
Britt: Bhahahahahahahahaha
Carly: Bhahahahahahahahahaha
Kaitlyn: Bhahahahahahahahahaha
Becca Tilley: Bahahahahahahahahaha

So there you go. I’m guessing Becca wants to be part of an agricultural family as much as those six did. But that’s just me.

-They start talking about meeting his family and Becca brings up the ex-wife. Because, you know, bringing up the ex-wife to Garrett is like winding up a Chatty Cathy doll. Just pull that string on Garrett’s back and let him go non-stop on and on and on about the ex-wife. He’ll spare no expense at telling everyone what a yeller and screamer she was an how emotionally abusive she was, and hey, maybe she totally was. Maybe she was the worst wife on the planet. There are rumors out there now saying she cheated. No idea if they’re true or not, but that would suck. Awful. No one wants to go through that. But still, does that make it completely necessary to talk about her negatively for the THIRD different time this season to Becca? I get she wants to know your past, and I get you have be open, honest, and vulnerable on this show, but for my liking, it’s too much. And I think a lot of other people agree. He didn’t have to continually go there. And he did. Then we meet the family, and, well…

-First off, is there a reason we didn’t get an intro to his family? Usually the contestant will say, “So-and-so is gonna meet…” then reel off everyone, their names, and their relation to him. Garrett never did that. Colton didn’t either, but then again, I believe Colton invited the whole city of Parker, CO to his hometown, so that might’ve taken three hours to introduce them all. There was certainly an overriding theme in every conversation Becca had with family members of Garrett’s and that was don’t hurt our boy. Yeah, we get it. He’s already told us this three different times, so hearing it from everyone else I have a feeling is going to get repetitive. Look, people break up. All the time. And you know what else? People get divorced all the time too. It’s part of his story, we know this. And I’m sure he was pretty devastated by this. But c’mon people, you’re bringing down the room with all this somber talk about his ex and how crappy she made him feel.

-Basically Garrett’s mom and dad said the exact same thing. He’s been hurt badly before, we saw him at his lowest, we’re very protective of him, and don’t put him through that again. Then the mom through this gem in. “From what we know about you, you come from a similar background.” Uhhhhh, are you sure about that? Maybe the whole huntin’ and fishin’ part, sure. But the part about how Becca is a very staunch liberal who loves Bernie Sanders, voted for Hillary, and went on women’s marches – yeah, from what WE can tell, that’s not your son’s background at all. In fact, he seems to be on the complete opposite end of that spectrum. As we’ve said since this story broke, this isn’t two people who just have different political views (there are marriages like that which can absolutely work), this is a matter of principle and human decency. Garrett apologized and seemed heartfelt. But my guess with Becca, it’s going to take more than and crafted apology. Words are words. It’s their relationship and his actions are what will dictate if they can make it. My hopes aren’t very high.

-And speaking of this hometown, obviously we as viewers never to get see EVERYTHING that these couples do during the day portion, but the fact that Garrett and Becca got a parade downtown and were given a key to the city and NONE of that was shown, a little odd no?

I know that the four hometowns only lasted 90 minutes and the last 30 minutes was dedicated to the Tia stuff/rose ceremony, so all the dates had to be cut a little shorter than normal. But that seemed like a pretty big segment to cut out. Especially when Garrett’s hometown was so sad and serious all the time. At least show the audience some happy time they spent together.

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  1. jlal

    July 17, 2018 at 10:21 AM

    Blake talking Becca to his HS was probably a ruse to see Betty Who in the auditorium. I really, really like Blake. Didn’t notice him too much before now. He should be the next bachelor, guy is too hot and nice. Also, kudos to Blakes’s parents for getting along after such a messy split.

    Becca was never picking Colton, so Tia telling her about her feelings didn’t stop anything. Also, I took the Colton Chris conversation as he asking Chris if sex is expected. However, it was a totally planted question, give me a break.

    I’m team Blake, unless he does something to blow it.

    Agree t

  2. lexie

    July 17, 2018 at 11:02 AM

    I’m really curious about Robby Hayes being on the show. He’s been dating Scheana Marie from Vanderpump Rules for at least THREE months. AFAIK, they are still together and tweeting each other. He helped her move into her new apartment last month. This makes no sense unless he snuck off to Mexico and didn’t tell her.

  3. corn29

    July 17, 2018 at 11:20 AM

    After seeing how unfairly Becca has treated Colton for 2 episodes straight now, I’m pretty disgusted with her.

    I guess Colton didn’t get the word about Becca requiring a coitus curriculum vitae before dating her given how many times Becca has fussed about his lack of “experience”.

    Seesh… and all Becca wanted was honesty.

    At this point, all I gotta say is #ArieWasRight

  4. jlal

    July 17, 2018 at 11:56 AM

    I believe Becca was referring to relationship experience, not sexual experience. Also, I don’t get how she treated him unfairly at all.

    It has already been established she didn’t just get up and leave after he told her; they edited in a restroom break for drama.

    If anything I have never gotten the impression that Colton was at all serious about Becca, but rather just playing along.

  5. adelina

    July 17, 2018 at 1:48 PM

    @corn29 — I think it’s understood when you come on this site that you have an understanding of how the show works and how it is edited to fit the plot narrative. My point is – you’re buying into the portrayal of Becca having a strong reaction or opinion to Colton’s lack of sexual experience.

    In other words, your reaction is inaccurate because it’s based on editing, not reality.

  6. upmyalley

    July 17, 2018 at 5:32 PM

    @jlal I have to agree with your perception that Becca has not treated Colton poorly. And the whole Tia thing, geez c’mon girl… two weeks ago you said it’s all good to Becca. Also, Tia and Colton spent a couple days together and Tia has feelies? I don’t buy it. Me thinks Tia is just plain ole jealous of Becca. Dizzy girl that Tia.

  7. corn29

    July 17, 2018 at 6:37 PM


    Thank you oh so very, very, very much for ‘splaining how The Bachelorette works.

    I cannot believe I’ve been getting it wrong for so long now.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you once again. From the bottom of my heart.

    Now run along little princess and do some research so in the future you’re just not parroting this site’s POV.

  8. wavecatchingmom

    July 17, 2018 at 7:19 PM

    Steve, I know the recaps are totally secondary for you now, but c’mon… Garrett lives in Reno, not Manteca. He’s a pharmaceutical rep, not in on the family farm. It is nothing like Chris Soules in bfe Idaho. Manteca has a Costco and a minor league baseball team and is 1 hour from Oakland international airport. I expect this level of ignorance from Ashley and Ben but not you. Sheesh. Make fun of Garrett for the fact that his tractor was being driven by… yet his IG likes are of … being tossed over the wall? Ahem

  9. bachfan2104

    July 17, 2018 at 11:33 PM

    Okay, so I have been lurking the site for years now, and today I went through the trouble of setting up this login, pw, everything to respond to the inane post that Steve made. I agree with wavecatchingmom about the errors, but here is what is bugging me:

    1. Steve telling everyone to not write/comment/react about what a contestant says or does from this show, because instead of saying something negative just let it go. I am sorry but where was this advice when he and AshleymilitantSpivey trashed Garrett? They took on their holier than thou position and lectured everyone about how horrible Garrett is. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not at all supporting any kind of hate-based memes or anything, all I am saying is that how does he and Ashley get to be the people to tell us what we can or cannot react to and how. I am not supporting bullying anyone on the Internet, but for God’s sake, if people question Tia’s intentions or friendship, it’s not that big of a stretch of imagination to see why. Besides, doesn’t Steve threaten all sorts of contestants from this franchise to expose them, what they messaged to other people, etc. and tweet about it day in and day out. When Corinne was on, he didn’t like what she was doing and he trashed her then too. He trashed Arie, Peter, and Nick as well. I am not saying that I love these contestants. I couldn’t care less. But the self-righteousness is absolutely nauseating.

    2. Ashley Spivey – WTF is wrong with this woman? Who made her the Bachelor/Bachelorette investigative journalist? Does she get paid to go dig up dirt on contestants? Is she trying to be a mini Steve? You look at her thread on Twitter, where people are engaging her in a civil manner and she is trashing them, left and right, especially if those people are raising decent points without namecallung or being mean. And then she virtue signals to everyone else saying they are bullies. Lady, you’re the bully when you go digging up dirt on people, plaster it all over the Internet, and then state that anyone who doesn’t agree with you is part of the problem and berate them. I mean I am politically on the left and even I get nauseated by how she goes at conservatives. Politics have become so divisive and we don’t listen to each other, and I fully admit 100% that people like Ashley are huge part of the problem. They think they have the right position and go lecturing others. I am sorry, but I doubt that any one polarized view, left or right has the whole picture. We have to talk and not see each other as enemies or think only our way of thinking and doing things is right. Its disgusting to me how she berates people. Her fragility is on high display when someone engages her politely, cogently, and holds their own with her.

    I cannot for the life of me see how she is capable of giving any decent advice when she is unable to consider anything else other than her own closed-minded thoughts.

    Both Steve and Ashley think that they have become huge celebrities because of the franchise and their role in it and treat so many of the viewers like crap. Its unnecessary. Their connection to this show’s contestants doesn’t make them special or in any way better or superior than anyone that they can feel legitimized for treating people with so much disrespect.

    That’s all. This rant was just bubbling up for a while and I had to put it out there.

  10. tinyred500

    July 18, 2018 at 2:18 AM

    I couldn’t agree more, and I could add more, but not today. 🙂

    Ashley S has the ‘c’ word in her Twitter profile thingy, that speaks oodles about her, and I’m not interested in that type of person in anyway.

  11. nitejen

    July 18, 2018 at 6:32 AM

    Agree with bachfan2014 and Tinyred. That is why I would never waste my time listening to any podcast of Steve’s with her in it, only Steve’s bachelor podcast. I would bet anything she was one of the bully mean girls in high school. I guess if she can judge other ppl then I can judge her. Way to set an example for her kids with that filthy mouth of hers.

  12. corn29

    July 18, 2018 at 6:43 AM


    > Steve telling everyone to not write/comment/react about what a contestant
    > says or does from this show, because instead of saying something negative
    > just let it go.

    Yep… sometimes it’s okay for one to have an opinion. And if that opinion goes against the grain, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s negative.

    While were on the topic of edits/portrayals, I get that this show prods contestants, that things are staged at times, that there are portions which are scripted. BUT, contestants have to own their behavior. No matter how much a producer was in Corinne’s ear for example, her slutty behavior is still her behavior; not ABC’s. Same with Ben or Juan Pablo. The other Ben — the one who proposed to Courtney. Ditto for Becca’s BS that she had to go “gather her thoughts” as some kind of code speak for having to use the toilet.

    > Ashley Spivey – WTF is wrong with this woman? Who made
    > her the Bachelor/Bachelorette investigative journalist?


    Plus, simply clicking the like button on something is not a -ist, -ism, -phobe, or bullying or shaming or hate act. The meme Garrett clicked for the difference between conservative and liberal women was actually kind of funny.

    Sometimes stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason… heck, it’s how most of the comedians and late night talk show hosts people worship so much make a living!

    THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IS, Ashley S didn’t personally agree with it. If Colbert did it, for example, she’d be re-tweeting it all over the place.

    MOREOVER, Ashley S needs to take a few law classes… when a defendant has an agreement in place in lieu of a sentence, it’s NOT going to show up in a standard background check. It will now for Lincoln though since he failed to meet the terms of the agreement.

  13. corn29

    July 18, 2018 at 6:45 AM


    > I believe Becca was referring to relationship experience, not sexual experience.

    You believe wrong then.

    Go back and re-watch the last two episodes. Sexual experience, in addition to dating experience, were specifically addressed.

  14. purplepat

    July 18, 2018 at 12:18 PM

    I didn’t remember hearing about the shooting at Blake’s school. Much worse than I imagined. I can’t even imagine this and how he seems to be so put together.

  15. barbararap

    July 18, 2018 at 1:39 PM

    Come on Steve – You don’t remember Roy Rogers and Dale Evans? The King of the Cowboys and his wife.

  16. jlal

    July 18, 2018 at 5:08 PM

    I am notfamiliar with Ashley’s rants, as I never heard her or read anything. But RS always slams people for buying the scripted and edited BS, then does it himself. I also think he is bored with his job. The Garrett mistake is a prime example. Also, how he goes onand on and on how he doesn’t care about anyone on the show. If he doesn’t why is he doing this?
    I also stand by my opinion that Becca’s response was edited, she probably didn’t even get up right after he told her. And, Tia and tBecca were playing into the drama.

  17. jlal

    July 18, 2018 at 5:19 PM

    If this shows twice sorry, but it did post the first time. I stand by my opinion that Becca didn’t even get up right after Colton told her. It was edited to look that way. I also don’t think she gave a rat’s a$$ whether he was a virgin or not, because she was no more into him than he was her.

    As for RS, he seems bored with his job. He goes on and on how he doesn’t care about anything with the show. He also slams people for buying into the edited drama, then does the same thing.

  18. davidrobinson

    September 26, 2018 at 3:35 AM

    Totally agree with jlal. RS doesn’t like the thing the does. His regular complaining about the show awakes the desire to knock him off. Why are you on the show, if you don`t like it? Stop complaining, dude!

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