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Bachelor In Paradise 5 Spoilers

The “Bachelorette” Becca – Episode 8 Recap, (EXCLUSIVE) Bachelor in Paradise Ending Spoilers, Episode 2 of the “He Said, She Said” Podcast w/ Ashley Spivey, & Men Tell All Tapes This Friday

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I’m sure a lot of you saw my tweets all last week promoting the upcoming season of “UnReal.” Well now I can tell you why. Two weeks ago, Hulu approached me about promoting the upcoming season because they were set to drop the full season yesterday on Hulu so people could binge watch. They asked me if I’d help promote it with tweets, pictures, audio, and video clips. Of course I agreed because it completely makes sense with my brand and what I do. I worked with them on past seasons, and this season was no different. Back in May they announced that Hulu was carrying the 4th season, but they never announced an air date. Yesterday, they did in addition to announcing this was the final season. So check that out on Hulu available now, and I want to thank Hulu for the partnership. I’m not sure why people were asking me on Twitter why I didn’t have #ad behind my tweets. I have an honest question for those that asked: Does it matter? Did it change anything? Why do you care so much? But to answer your question as to why I didn’t have it? Because they told me I didn’t need to until my final tweet yesterday. Hopefully that’s a good enough answer for those who asked. I thought it was pretty obvious I was working with them to help promote the season coming up. Not sure why people were clamoring for me to put #ad behind my tweets. It’s funny, because people rip contestants who post tons of ads and litter their social media page with ads. Anyone who’s followed me knows you can probably count on one hand how many times I’ve done it. Then I collaborate with Hulu to promote their show and people whine about me NOT putting #ad on my tweets. What do you even say to people who complained about it? Nothing good if I’m being honest. Can’t win for trying.

With this partnership though comes this week’s podcast guest. I’ve always wanted to get someone on my podcast from “UnReal,” and this week’s guest is none other than Shiri Appleby, who plays Rachel Goldberg. Had a great time talking to her overall about her career, her role as Rachel Goldberg, the impact it’s had on the women’s movement, her directing aspirations and more. Now when you’re dealing with actors and actresses (not reality TV contestants) their time is limited, so a bit of a shorter podcast this week as Shiri was gracious enough to give us 30 minutes of her time. It’ll be up Thursday and I hope you enjoy it. In the meantime, go binge watch the 4th and final season of “UnReal.” I plan on doing it sometime this week.

Nell Kalter’s “Floribama Shore” recap is now up. Read it if you want to laugh. This show is a bigger trainwreck than “Ex on the Beach,” and Nell lives for that sh**. Also, get your “Reader Emails” and “Dr. Reality Steve” emails in for this week. Because of the “He Said, She Said” podcast, a lot of you who HAVE ended up emailing me, ended up being on the show. But for those that are too nervous or don’t want to talk about it on a podcast, by all means, send your emails in and I will answer them.

The “Men Tell All” tapes this Friday in LA. The #1 question on people’s minds is whether or not Lincoln will be in attendance. I can’t imagine under any scenario in which he would be there, or what the point of him being there would be. If you listened to Juliet Litman’s “Bachelor Party” podcast last week with Robert Mills, I got the impression from him that this show wants nothing to do with Lincoln. However, we’ll get our answer for sure on Friday, and I’ll update people on Twitter the second I can confirm if he was there or not. In addition, on that same podcast when talking about the Garrett IG likes, Mills alluded to the fact that we’d hear from Garrett at the MTA. A few of you emailed about that, and here was my take: when I heard him say that, I honestly took it as him simply misspeaking and saying “Men Tell All” instead of “After the Final Rose.” Nothing more. He also in this same podcast said Becca’s girls came to see her in Buffalo on this episode. So yeah, I think sometimes he talks too fast and just screws up. Could Garrett be part of the MTA? I mean, I guess it’s possible. But only once has one of the final two ever showed up at the “Tell All” taping and that was Courtney during Ben’s season. Again, something we’ll find out for sure on Friday, but I thought Mills just misspoke when I first heard it. Of course, if he says, “Well, we’ll hear from Garrett at the ATFR,” then he’s giving away that Garrett made the final two, which he can’t do. So I wouldn’t read much into it.

Ashley Spivey provided an update on the Lincoln case in her Twitter feed on Saturday for those that missed it. Read the whole thread:

Based on what the spokesman for the DA’s office told her, sounds like this might have a chance of going to trial which, I assume, wouldn’t be good for Lincoln. Yet another reason why I can’t possibly see them making him part of the MTA taping this Friday.

Speaking of Ashley, I asked and you’ve responded. We’ve got a lot of people that want to be part of the “He Said, She Said” podcast, so we’ve already got episode 2 up and ready to go two weeks earlier than I thought we’d release it. If we keep getting people who want to be part of the show, then it looks like this show will be released twice a month instead of one. Keep it coming. To be part of the show, you just need to have Skype, let us know what time zone you’re in, and let us know the best times you’d be able to record and we’ll arrange it.

You can listen to today’s podcast on a number of platforms, but you can also tune in by clicking the player below:

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Music written by Jimmer Podrasky
(B’Jingo Songs/Machia Music/Bug Music BMI)

Ashley joins me to talk about how you handle keeping an ex’s pictures on your social media pages. Caller Jessica in Texas discusses a toxic friendship she’s currently having (17:35) and then Victoria in San Francisco talks about how she’s dealt with an emotionally abusive ex (42:04). Original theme music is provided by Kate Bass and the song is titled “Blink.”

Your “Bachelor in Paradise” season ending spoilers begin on Page 2…

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  1. jlal

    July 17, 2018 at 10:21 AM

    Blake talking Becca to his HS was probably a ruse to see Betty Who in the auditorium. I really, really like Blake. Didn’t notice him too much before now. He should be the next bachelor, guy is too hot and nice. Also, kudos to Blakes’s parents for getting along after such a messy split.

    Becca was never picking Colton, so Tia telling her about her feelings didn’t stop anything. Also, I took the Colton Chris conversation as he asking Chris if sex is expected. However, it was a totally planted question, give me a break.

    I’m team Blake, unless he does something to blow it.

    Agree t

  2. lexie

    July 17, 2018 at 11:02 AM

    I’m really curious about Robby Hayes being on the show. He’s been dating Scheana Marie from Vanderpump Rules for at least THREE months. AFAIK, they are still together and tweeting each other. He helped her move into her new apartment last month. This makes no sense unless he snuck off to Mexico and didn’t tell her.

  3. corn29

    July 17, 2018 at 11:20 AM

    After seeing how unfairly Becca has treated Colton for 2 episodes straight now, I’m pretty disgusted with her.

    I guess Colton didn’t get the word about Becca requiring a coitus curriculum vitae before dating her given how many times Becca has fussed about his lack of “experience”.

    Seesh… and all Becca wanted was honesty.

    At this point, all I gotta say is #ArieWasRight

  4. jlal

    July 17, 2018 at 11:56 AM

    I believe Becca was referring to relationship experience, not sexual experience. Also, I don’t get how she treated him unfairly at all.

    It has already been established she didn’t just get up and leave after he told her; they edited in a restroom break for drama.

    If anything I have never gotten the impression that Colton was at all serious about Becca, but rather just playing along.

  5. adelina

    July 17, 2018 at 1:48 PM

    @corn29 — I think it’s understood when you come on this site that you have an understanding of how the show works and how it is edited to fit the plot narrative. My point is – you’re buying into the portrayal of Becca having a strong reaction or opinion to Colton’s lack of sexual experience.

    In other words, your reaction is inaccurate because it’s based on editing, not reality.

  6. upmyalley

    July 17, 2018 at 5:32 PM

    @jlal I have to agree with your perception that Becca has not treated Colton poorly. And the whole Tia thing, geez c’mon girl… two weeks ago you said it’s all good to Becca. Also, Tia and Colton spent a couple days together and Tia has feelies? I don’t buy it. Me thinks Tia is just plain ole jealous of Becca. Dizzy girl that Tia.

  7. corn29

    July 17, 2018 at 6:37 PM


    Thank you oh so very, very, very much for ‘splaining how The Bachelorette works.

    I cannot believe I’ve been getting it wrong for so long now.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you once again. From the bottom of my heart.

    Now run along little princess and do some research so in the future you’re just not parroting this site’s POV.

  8. wavecatchingmom

    July 17, 2018 at 7:19 PM

    Steve, I know the recaps are totally secondary for you now, but c’mon… Garrett lives in Reno, not Manteca. He’s a pharmaceutical rep, not in on the family farm. It is nothing like Chris Soules in bfe Idaho. Manteca has a Costco and a minor league baseball team and is 1 hour from Oakland international airport. I expect this level of ignorance from Ashley and Ben but not you. Sheesh. Make fun of Garrett for the fact that his tractor was being driven by… yet his IG likes are of … being tossed over the wall? Ahem

  9. bachfan2104

    July 17, 2018 at 11:33 PM

    Okay, so I have been lurking the site for years now, and today I went through the trouble of setting up this login, pw, everything to respond to the inane post that Steve made. I agree with wavecatchingmom about the errors, but here is what is bugging me:

    1. Steve telling everyone to not write/comment/react about what a contestant says or does from this show, because instead of saying something negative just let it go. I am sorry but where was this advice when he and AshleymilitantSpivey trashed Garrett? They took on their holier than thou position and lectured everyone about how horrible Garrett is. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not at all supporting any kind of hate-based memes or anything, all I am saying is that how does he and Ashley get to be the people to tell us what we can or cannot react to and how. I am not supporting bullying anyone on the Internet, but for God’s sake, if people question Tia’s intentions or friendship, it’s not that big of a stretch of imagination to see why. Besides, doesn’t Steve threaten all sorts of contestants from this franchise to expose them, what they messaged to other people, etc. and tweet about it day in and day out. When Corinne was on, he didn’t like what she was doing and he trashed her then too. He trashed Arie, Peter, and Nick as well. I am not saying that I love these contestants. I couldn’t care less. But the self-righteousness is absolutely nauseating.

    2. Ashley Spivey – WTF is wrong with this woman? Who made her the Bachelor/Bachelorette investigative journalist? Does she get paid to go dig up dirt on contestants? Is she trying to be a mini Steve? You look at her thread on Twitter, where people are engaging her in a civil manner and she is trashing them, left and right, especially if those people are raising decent points without namecallung or being mean. And then she virtue signals to everyone else saying they are bullies. Lady, you’re the bully when you go digging up dirt on people, plaster it all over the Internet, and then state that anyone who doesn’t agree with you is part of the problem and berate them. I mean I am politically on the left and even I get nauseated by how she goes at conservatives. Politics have become so divisive and we don’t listen to each other, and I fully admit 100% that people like Ashley are huge part of the problem. They think they have the right position and go lecturing others. I am sorry, but I doubt that any one polarized view, left or right has the whole picture. We have to talk and not see each other as enemies or think only our way of thinking and doing things is right. Its disgusting to me how she berates people. Her fragility is on high display when someone engages her politely, cogently, and holds their own with her.

    I cannot for the life of me see how she is capable of giving any decent advice when she is unable to consider anything else other than her own closed-minded thoughts.

    Both Steve and Ashley think that they have become huge celebrities because of the franchise and their role in it and treat so many of the viewers like crap. Its unnecessary. Their connection to this show’s contestants doesn’t make them special or in any way better or superior than anyone that they can feel legitimized for treating people with so much disrespect.

    That’s all. This rant was just bubbling up for a while and I had to put it out there.

  10. tinyred500

    July 18, 2018 at 2:18 AM

    I couldn’t agree more, and I could add more, but not today. 🙂

    Ashley S has the ‘c’ word in her Twitter profile thingy, that speaks oodles about her, and I’m not interested in that type of person in anyway.

  11. nitejen

    July 18, 2018 at 6:32 AM

    Agree with bachfan2014 and Tinyred. That is why I would never waste my time listening to any podcast of Steve’s with her in it, only Steve’s bachelor podcast. I would bet anything she was one of the bully mean girls in high school. I guess if she can judge other ppl then I can judge her. Way to set an example for her kids with that filthy mouth of hers.

  12. corn29

    July 18, 2018 at 6:43 AM


    > Steve telling everyone to not write/comment/react about what a contestant
    > says or does from this show, because instead of saying something negative
    > just let it go.

    Yep… sometimes it’s okay for one to have an opinion. And if that opinion goes against the grain, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s negative.

    While were on the topic of edits/portrayals, I get that this show prods contestants, that things are staged at times, that there are portions which are scripted. BUT, contestants have to own their behavior. No matter how much a producer was in Corinne’s ear for example, her slutty behavior is still her behavior; not ABC’s. Same with Ben or Juan Pablo. The other Ben — the one who proposed to Courtney. Ditto for Becca’s BS that she had to go “gather her thoughts” as some kind of code speak for having to use the toilet.

    > Ashley Spivey – WTF is wrong with this woman? Who made
    > her the Bachelor/Bachelorette investigative journalist?


    Plus, simply clicking the like button on something is not a -ist, -ism, -phobe, or bullying or shaming or hate act. The meme Garrett clicked for the difference between conservative and liberal women was actually kind of funny.

    Sometimes stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason… heck, it’s how most of the comedians and late night talk show hosts people worship so much make a living!

    THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IS, Ashley S didn’t personally agree with it. If Colbert did it, for example, she’d be re-tweeting it all over the place.

    MOREOVER, Ashley S needs to take a few law classes… when a defendant has an agreement in place in lieu of a sentence, it’s NOT going to show up in a standard background check. It will now for Lincoln though since he failed to meet the terms of the agreement.

  13. corn29

    July 18, 2018 at 6:45 AM


    > I believe Becca was referring to relationship experience, not sexual experience.

    You believe wrong then.

    Go back and re-watch the last two episodes. Sexual experience, in addition to dating experience, were specifically addressed.

  14. purplepat

    July 18, 2018 at 12:18 PM

    I didn’t remember hearing about the shooting at Blake’s school. Much worse than I imagined. I can’t even imagine this and how he seems to be so put together.

  15. barbararap

    July 18, 2018 at 1:39 PM

    Come on Steve – You don’t remember Roy Rogers and Dale Evans? The King of the Cowboys and his wife.

  16. jlal

    July 18, 2018 at 5:08 PM

    I am notfamiliar with Ashley’s rants, as I never heard her or read anything. But RS always slams people for buying the scripted and edited BS, then does it himself. I also think he is bored with his job. The Garrett mistake is a prime example. Also, how he goes onand on and on how he doesn’t care about anyone on the show. If he doesn’t why is he doing this?
    I also stand by my opinion that Becca’s response was edited, she probably didn’t even get up right after he told her. And, Tia and tBecca were playing into the drama.

  17. jlal

    July 18, 2018 at 5:19 PM

    If this shows twice sorry, but it did post the first time. I stand by my opinion that Becca didn’t even get up right after Colton told her. It was edited to look that way. I also don’t think she gave a rat’s a$$ whether he was a virgin or not, because she was no more into him than he was her.

    As for RS, he seems bored with his job. He goes on and on how he doesn’t care about anything with the show. He also slams people for buying into the edited drama, then does the same thing.

  18. davidrobinson

    September 26, 2018 at 3:35 AM

    Totally agree with jlal. RS doesn’t like the thing the does. His regular complaining about the show awakes the desire to knock him off. Why are you on the show, if you don`t like it? Stop complaining, dude!

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