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Bachelor In Paradise 5 Spoilers

The “Bachelorette” Becca – Episode 8 Recap, (EXCLUSIVE) Bachelor in Paradise Ending Spoilers, Episode 2 of the “He Said, She Said” Podcast w/ Ashley Spivey, & Men Tell All Tapes This Friday

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-It’s Colton’s time in Parker, CO and there isn’t a whole hell of a lot to discuss in terms of what actually happened on the hometown date. They went to the Children’s Hospital of Colorado so Colton could show off his charitable side, and as I’ve said all season, I respect Colton’s charity work. Good for him. But I’m also able to separate his charity work, from how he’s acted all season (and before the season) behind the scenes. He was seeing Tia pre-show and ended things, then a month later appeared on Becca’s season. We’ll never know because Tia never became the “Bachelorette,” but my guess is Colton still would’ve been on this show no matter WHO the “Bachelorette” was, which proves he was just looking to be on TV and increase his brand notoriety. Which is something that pretty much everyone does, so it’s not like this makes him any worse than the others. But this façade he’s putting up that he was all about Becca I’ve just never bought and neither should anyone else. Doesn’t make him a horrible human being. Just makes him full of sh**.

-I just find him hard to take seriously in this whole journey from the second we knew he was interested in Tia pre-show and would’ve most likely done the show if Tia was “Bachelorette.” Colton’s dad ends up giving Becca the out she needed to end this relationship when he told her during their time together that “As much as I want happiness for him, unless you truly can see it with him, I don’t want you to pick him.” I think the second Becca heard that, she knew what her decision was and she knew she’d tell Colton that when she had her final conversation with him. Thanks a lot, pops. But then again, it’s clear her relationship with Blake and Garrett was much farther ahead of hers with Colton. We could all see that. This just gave her the out she needed without using the Tia narrative.

-And oh yeah, this narrative of telling Becca that he’s never brought a girl home seems to be another guy just saying sh** on TV to make himself look better. Sure looks to me like Aly Raisman met his family:

Moving on…

-As for the Tia/Becca talk once they got back to LA and spoke the day of the rose ceremony, honestly, I think Sharleen summed it up about as well as you could in her recap posted today. I fully expected social media to lash out at Tia for being “homewrecker” or whatever because it was so easy to do. Do I think Tia could’ve waited? Absolutely. Do I not understand why she’s so hung up on this guy and think Tia can find a guy much better suited for her than Colton? 1000%. Hell, even her best friend Raven thinks so:

I don’t get it and probably never will. Tia is college educated, employed, is very attractive, and seems to come from a good family. Why she keeps attracting herself to guys who don’t seem to do much for her is beyond me. With that said, we have to take it for what it is and it goes back to what Sharleen wrote. When Tia confronted Becca in episode 3 and told her it was ok, she probably thought Colton wasn’t gonna be around much longer and she couldn’t predict her feelings weren’t gonna go away. I thought Becca handled it about as well as she could when confronted with what Tia said, and unless Becca admits differently in some post-show interview, she did say Tia coming to her about her still feelings for Colton played no role in her decision. So either Becca is openly lying to us, or she’s sparing her friend the backlash, even though she’s getting crucified on social media anyway. Becca said it didn’t play a role yet people who don’t like Tia are basically saying it did and it was wrong of her. I guess if Becca didn’t think it was wrong, who are we to say? It didn’t happen to us. Then again, Colton and Tia are dunzo now and aren’t together, so this kinda all becomes a moot point in the grand scheme of things.

-Again, people can say what they want on social media with zero repercussions, and yes, maybe some of you have had it up to here with Tia, you can’t stand her, you can’t stand the way she talks, you can’t stand the way she looks, you can’t stand why she’s appeared on the last three seasons, whatever it may be. I get it. Plenty of you don’t like her. You’re allowed to not like her. I’m not saying that you aren’t. But just as with ANY contestant on this show, or ANY person in general you don’t like on social media, is it really necessary to bombard them and make your feelings known publicly? Like, let’s just for a minute say Tia makes your blood boil to a point where it couldn’t possibly boil any further. Granted, I can’t understand that for the life of me about how someone on a TV show could bring you to that breaking point, but for the sake of the argument, I’ll give you that Tia does that to you. Exactly what’s the point of making those feelings known whether it be on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, and bad mouthing her? If you DIDN’T say anything publicly about it, what would happen? Your head would explode and you’d die? Blood would come spurting out of your ears? I guess maybe I’m the wrong guy to talk about this since no one on this show (and no one ever in the history of the world) will work me up to a point where I will make it known publicly how much I hate them, call them names, post on their social media how much trash they are, on and on it goes. I just don’t get it and never will. Just take a step back and realize you’re not doing anything remotely productive by doing that. Calm down. It’s sickening some of the stuff I see out there. Whether it be Tia or anyone else in the franchise.

-Rose ceremony time. One of the more bizarre conversations took place beforehand as Colton, while walking up to Chris, asks him what’s expected of him in the fantasy suites should he go next week. Huh? Wha? Like, was he asking how do you do sex? Yes I know he’s a virgin, but does he know how babies are made? Does he really not know what to do when alone with a woman? What a bizarre conversation to have. Like I literally thought he was asking Chris, “What do you do if you have a woman in your bed with you and she has no clothes on?” Yikes.

Becca: “Pieces of you guys…how you were raised…makes tonight so difficult…hardest decision I had to make…but as hard as it is…have to follow my heart…and there will be absolutely no hardness with Colton and me for obvious reasons…”

Blake: Maybe on his overnight date, he’ll tell her another gut wrenching tragic story from his childhood to put her in the mood.
Jason: It’s official. We’ve never had anyone make the overnight date who wears this much product in their hair on a daily basis. Congrats.

“Becca, gentleman. It’s the final rose tonight. When you’re ready. There are literally four of you here and I came back after she gave out two roses. Do you laugh as hard as I do when exit stage left on these things?”

Garrett: He likey Becky.

I will update on Twitter as soon as I can anything I hear about the MTA taping this Friday. The two biggest things I’ll post first are if either Lincoln and/or Garrett are at the taping. I’d be shocked if either were. Until then, have a great one.

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  1. jlal

    July 17, 2018 at 10:21 AM

    Blake talking Becca to his HS was probably a ruse to see Betty Who in the auditorium. I really, really like Blake. Didn’t notice him too much before now. He should be the next bachelor, guy is too hot and nice. Also, kudos to Blakes’s parents for getting along after such a messy split.

    Becca was never picking Colton, so Tia telling her about her feelings didn’t stop anything. Also, I took the Colton Chris conversation as he asking Chris if sex is expected. However, it was a totally planted question, give me a break.

    I’m team Blake, unless he does something to blow it.

    Agree t

  2. lexie

    July 17, 2018 at 11:02 AM

    I’m really curious about Robby Hayes being on the show. He’s been dating Scheana Marie from Vanderpump Rules for at least THREE months. AFAIK, they are still together and tweeting each other. He helped her move into her new apartment last month. This makes no sense unless he snuck off to Mexico and didn’t tell her.

  3. corn29

    July 17, 2018 at 11:20 AM

    After seeing how unfairly Becca has treated Colton for 2 episodes straight now, I’m pretty disgusted with her.

    I guess Colton didn’t get the word about Becca requiring a coitus curriculum vitae before dating her given how many times Becca has fussed about his lack of “experience”.

    Seesh… and all Becca wanted was honesty.

    At this point, all I gotta say is #ArieWasRight

  4. jlal

    July 17, 2018 at 11:56 AM

    I believe Becca was referring to relationship experience, not sexual experience. Also, I don’t get how she treated him unfairly at all.

    It has already been established she didn’t just get up and leave after he told her; they edited in a restroom break for drama.

    If anything I have never gotten the impression that Colton was at all serious about Becca, but rather just playing along.

  5. adelina

    July 17, 2018 at 1:48 PM

    @corn29 — I think it’s understood when you come on this site that you have an understanding of how the show works and how it is edited to fit the plot narrative. My point is – you’re buying into the portrayal of Becca having a strong reaction or opinion to Colton’s lack of sexual experience.

    In other words, your reaction is inaccurate because it’s based on editing, not reality.

  6. upmyalley

    July 17, 2018 at 5:32 PM

    @jlal I have to agree with your perception that Becca has not treated Colton poorly. And the whole Tia thing, geez c’mon girl… two weeks ago you said it’s all good to Becca. Also, Tia and Colton spent a couple days together and Tia has feelies? I don’t buy it. Me thinks Tia is just plain ole jealous of Becca. Dizzy girl that Tia.

  7. corn29

    July 17, 2018 at 6:37 PM


    Thank you oh so very, very, very much for ‘splaining how The Bachelorette works.

    I cannot believe I’ve been getting it wrong for so long now.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you once again. From the bottom of my heart.

    Now run along little princess and do some research so in the future you’re just not parroting this site’s POV.

  8. wavecatchingmom

    July 17, 2018 at 7:19 PM

    Steve, I know the recaps are totally secondary for you now, but c’mon… Garrett lives in Reno, not Manteca. He’s a pharmaceutical rep, not in on the family farm. It is nothing like Chris Soules in bfe Idaho. Manteca has a Costco and a minor league baseball team and is 1 hour from Oakland international airport. I expect this level of ignorance from Ashley and Ben but not you. Sheesh. Make fun of Garrett for the fact that his tractor was being driven by… yet his IG likes are of … being tossed over the wall? Ahem

  9. bachfan2104

    July 17, 2018 at 11:33 PM

    Okay, so I have been lurking the site for years now, and today I went through the trouble of setting up this login, pw, everything to respond to the inane post that Steve made. I agree with wavecatchingmom about the errors, but here is what is bugging me:

    1. Steve telling everyone to not write/comment/react about what a contestant says or does from this show, because instead of saying something negative just let it go. I am sorry but where was this advice when he and AshleymilitantSpivey trashed Garrett? They took on their holier than thou position and lectured everyone about how horrible Garrett is. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not at all supporting any kind of hate-based memes or anything, all I am saying is that how does he and Ashley get to be the people to tell us what we can or cannot react to and how. I am not supporting bullying anyone on the Internet, but for God’s sake, if people question Tia’s intentions or friendship, it’s not that big of a stretch of imagination to see why. Besides, doesn’t Steve threaten all sorts of contestants from this franchise to expose them, what they messaged to other people, etc. and tweet about it day in and day out. When Corinne was on, he didn’t like what she was doing and he trashed her then too. He trashed Arie, Peter, and Nick as well. I am not saying that I love these contestants. I couldn’t care less. But the self-righteousness is absolutely nauseating.

    2. Ashley Spivey – WTF is wrong with this woman? Who made her the Bachelor/Bachelorette investigative journalist? Does she get paid to go dig up dirt on contestants? Is she trying to be a mini Steve? You look at her thread on Twitter, where people are engaging her in a civil manner and she is trashing them, left and right, especially if those people are raising decent points without namecallung or being mean. And then she virtue signals to everyone else saying they are bullies. Lady, you’re the bully when you go digging up dirt on people, plaster it all over the Internet, and then state that anyone who doesn’t agree with you is part of the problem and berate them. I mean I am politically on the left and even I get nauseated by how she goes at conservatives. Politics have become so divisive and we don’t listen to each other, and I fully admit 100% that people like Ashley are huge part of the problem. They think they have the right position and go lecturing others. I am sorry, but I doubt that any one polarized view, left or right has the whole picture. We have to talk and not see each other as enemies or think only our way of thinking and doing things is right. Its disgusting to me how she berates people. Her fragility is on high display when someone engages her politely, cogently, and holds their own with her.

    I cannot for the life of me see how she is capable of giving any decent advice when she is unable to consider anything else other than her own closed-minded thoughts.

    Both Steve and Ashley think that they have become huge celebrities because of the franchise and their role in it and treat so many of the viewers like crap. Its unnecessary. Their connection to this show’s contestants doesn’t make them special or in any way better or superior than anyone that they can feel legitimized for treating people with so much disrespect.

    That’s all. This rant was just bubbling up for a while and I had to put it out there.

  10. tinyred500

    July 18, 2018 at 2:18 AM

    I couldn’t agree more, and I could add more, but not today. 🙂

    Ashley S has the ‘c’ word in her Twitter profile thingy, that speaks oodles about her, and I’m not interested in that type of person in anyway.

  11. nitejen

    July 18, 2018 at 6:32 AM

    Agree with bachfan2014 and Tinyred. That is why I would never waste my time listening to any podcast of Steve’s with her in it, only Steve’s bachelor podcast. I would bet anything she was one of the bully mean girls in high school. I guess if she can judge other ppl then I can judge her. Way to set an example for her kids with that filthy mouth of hers.

  12. corn29

    July 18, 2018 at 6:43 AM


    > Steve telling everyone to not write/comment/react about what a contestant
    > says or does from this show, because instead of saying something negative
    > just let it go.

    Yep… sometimes it’s okay for one to have an opinion. And if that opinion goes against the grain, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s negative.

    While were on the topic of edits/portrayals, I get that this show prods contestants, that things are staged at times, that there are portions which are scripted. BUT, contestants have to own their behavior. No matter how much a producer was in Corinne’s ear for example, her slutty behavior is still her behavior; not ABC’s. Same with Ben or Juan Pablo. The other Ben — the one who proposed to Courtney. Ditto for Becca’s BS that she had to go “gather her thoughts” as some kind of code speak for having to use the toilet.

    > Ashley Spivey – WTF is wrong with this woman? Who made
    > her the Bachelor/Bachelorette investigative journalist?


    Plus, simply clicking the like button on something is not a -ist, -ism, -phobe, or bullying or shaming or hate act. The meme Garrett clicked for the difference between conservative and liberal women was actually kind of funny.

    Sometimes stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason… heck, it’s how most of the comedians and late night talk show hosts people worship so much make a living!

    THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IS, Ashley S didn’t personally agree with it. If Colbert did it, for example, she’d be re-tweeting it all over the place.

    MOREOVER, Ashley S needs to take a few law classes… when a defendant has an agreement in place in lieu of a sentence, it’s NOT going to show up in a standard background check. It will now for Lincoln though since he failed to meet the terms of the agreement.

  13. corn29

    July 18, 2018 at 6:45 AM


    > I believe Becca was referring to relationship experience, not sexual experience.

    You believe wrong then.

    Go back and re-watch the last two episodes. Sexual experience, in addition to dating experience, were specifically addressed.

  14. purplepat

    July 18, 2018 at 12:18 PM

    I didn’t remember hearing about the shooting at Blake’s school. Much worse than I imagined. I can’t even imagine this and how he seems to be so put together.

  15. barbararap

    July 18, 2018 at 1:39 PM

    Come on Steve – You don’t remember Roy Rogers and Dale Evans? The King of the Cowboys and his wife.

  16. jlal

    July 18, 2018 at 5:08 PM

    I am notfamiliar with Ashley’s rants, as I never heard her or read anything. But RS always slams people for buying the scripted and edited BS, then does it himself. I also think he is bored with his job. The Garrett mistake is a prime example. Also, how he goes onand on and on how he doesn’t care about anyone on the show. If he doesn’t why is he doing this?
    I also stand by my opinion that Becca’s response was edited, she probably didn’t even get up right after he told her. And, Tia and tBecca were playing into the drama.

  17. jlal

    July 18, 2018 at 5:19 PM

    If this shows twice sorry, but it did post the first time. I stand by my opinion that Becca didn’t even get up right after Colton told her. It was edited to look that way. I also don’t think she gave a rat’s a$$ whether he was a virgin or not, because she was no more into him than he was her.

    As for RS, he seems bored with his job. He goes on and on how he doesn’t care about anything with the show. He also slams people for buying into the edited drama, then does the same thing.

  18. davidrobinson

    September 26, 2018 at 3:35 AM

    Totally agree with jlal. RS doesn’t like the thing the does. His regular complaining about the show awakes the desire to knock him off. Why are you on the show, if you don`t like it? Stop complaining, dude!

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