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The Bachelorette 14 - Becca

The “Bachelorette” Becca – “Men Tell All” Recap, Podcast React, & “Bachelor” Casting

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Because I was getting a lot of react to the Holly Allen podcast last week, I asked Holly how the reaction has been for her. She’s overwhelmed by the amount of support she had, which was great to hear. Holly definitely was reluctant to come on at first. You saw that in her friend’s email. This wasn’t an easy decision for her and it basically took her a full month to come around. I’m glad she did. She said she received well over 100 messages either through email or Instagram DM from strangers who thanked her for the interview. I really can’t remember this much react from a podcast since I had Brittany and Sydney on. Wanted to share a few of those with you today that were sent to Holly:

Hii Holly! I rarely DM anyone but needed to after listening to your podcast episode with reality steve. First, thank you for being so authentic during the episode. I went through a very emotionally abusive relationship that finally ended a few months ago. So many things you said resonated with me and your words actually helped me to let go of so much resentment towards him and just learn to move forward. You’re an amazing strong, woman!!Keep killing it, you have a lot of people supporting you.

Hey lady. I saw reality Steve posted a new podcast and decided to listen even though I didn’t think it would interest me at all. I’m so glad I did. As a Christian, know that you did the right thing. You spoke with grace and facts, and you can feel the light of god through your empathy and optimism through the worst of situations. Even listening I was like “oh my god girl why didn’t you leave him when he did that!” 3x- it made me realize that damn, I can NEVER let someone treat me like that. And I’m sure it spoke to women who are going through emotional abuse themselves way more even. As a once luke fan, turned into not caring anymore and being unbiased- I can say that not one ounce of your words seem exaggerated or fabricated in any way. It all adds up together. It all is facts. There is truly nothing he can say that can make the overall message and purpose of this Podcast untrue- and that’s that women should never be treated that way no matter what the hell he could make up about your character or anything you did. There’s nothing you could have done to deserve any of it. I hope he doesn’t use god’s name to defend himself. Christians don’t need any more negative imagery/attention. Ugh. Hang in there ?? you did the right thing. Thank you ?? end novel.

Listening to podcast with Steve, just wanted to say how well you come across, as an amazingly strong woman. I never want to message people after podcasts etc and may have dismissed you as another Instagram girl but your honesty and character, including talking about your experiences about anxiety are what we all need – as someone who’s had similar stressful experiences, it’s inspiring and powerful, so thank you for speaking your truth. Wishing you all the best from the U.K.

I think it’s really cool what you did. I know you didn’t do it for followers but I’m following you now bc you’re a strong woman with a lot of confidence and young girls/women who need people like you. So thank you.

PS get the Lasik. It’s worth it.

I just wanted to say how brave I think you are for sharing your story! I think you were very well spoken & classy about it while still be honest about the facts. Coming out of an unhealthy relationship myself I hope girls here this & stick up for themselves more! You go girl! You’re beautiful!!

Just listened to your interview w Reality Steve. I’m sorry to say that I misjudged you based on your IG photos and my perception of you. You sound MAD COOL & smart & wise & TOTALLY down to earth. This has been a great lesson for me in not judging other women, especially beautiful women. So happy you are free of Luke! What a loser! He definitely did not deserve you!

Hey pretty girl! I just listened to the entire podcast of you talking to Reality Steve, and I just felt the need to reach out to you. I know you’ll get some backlash, but I have NOTHING negative to say to you…only positive ?. You seem so strong, independent, have great morals, and I’m so glad you spoke your truth! No guy should ever treat a girl how Luke treated you… there’s just no excuse. My ex literally sounds soo similar, so I feel your pain. Cheers to moving on to much better guys

I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your story with Reality Steve. It is truly terrible what Luke did to you, because it is clear you were nothing but supportive and kind. I mean this in the nicest way possible, but the whole time I just keep thinking, “gosh she is so just stupidly ignored so many red flags!!” But the truth is, I’ve been there. I’m coming out of a really bad situation and I’ve been hard on myself for it. But, hearing you share yours gives me solace. Thank you!!!

Love that you shared your story on the podcast!! The message you were giving was not just about some dumb guy but how women should stand up for themselves and I think that’s really important for all women to hear. Hope all you’re getting is a positive response. Wishing you the best!

I am so proud of you doing this podcast. I want to be honest. I followed Amanda before I started following you. I no longer follow her. For someone who tries to come across humble and Godly… I’m disgusted. I looked up to her for a lot of things but no more. Also. Luke is a fame hungry trash bag. So not worth your time. You are too much of a catch.

Just wanted to say I listened to your podcast episode on reality Steve and was struck by how well spoken and poised you were. You handled yourself with grace, humility and dignity. Best of luck to you in your future…you deserve it!

Holly! I’m sure this is a long shot, but I felt I had to reach out to you to say thank you. I just listened to your podcast with Reality Steve, and I’ve never resonated with someone so much as I did with you in this interview. I live in Nashville, and I was in a very similar relationship with a musician who was also a complete user, manipulater, who made me feel awful about myself for months. I just wanted to say thank you for being brave enough to speak up about how these people really are. I met Luke once. I too had no idea who he was when I met him, and he gave me major seedy vibes. He also gave me his phone number. You’re beyond gorgeous and I’m so glad you’re free of him and all of his fame whoring bullsh*t.

There were tons more, but reading responses like this, and seeing the outpouring of love for Holly, makes me know her message needed to be heard. Even if it reached one person, that would’ve been enough. I thank Holly again for sharing her story, and thank you all for listening. I see the number of downloads every podcast gets. And when someone who isn’t even in Bachelor Nation is outdrawing former contestants, it pretty much tells me all I need to know. This is the end of Luke, thank God. Lets hope he never appears on our television again.

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  1. jlal

    July 31, 2018 at 9:24 AM

    Few things about MTA –

    Agree with RS, that if Jordan was so confident he would not have to keep telling everyone how confident he is all the time. I was thinking last night how insecure he seemed, sad.

    Love Jason’s response. He is very well spoken, thoughtful, mature, and intelligent. I thought a side of him showed last night that we hadn’t really seen before and it was a good look.

    Love Grocery Joe and have no problem with him being quiet. I actually like the strong silent type; married one:). I’m most looking forward to BIP just to see how he comes across. I don’t agree at all with RS about Joe needing to go away; he can stay as long as he likes.

    Thought Becca handled herself well enough. There was one moment though I forget who it was with, when she got up and hugged a guy and you could tell by how quick she broke away, turned around, and walked back to the couch she was done. Not saying I blame her, if I had to kiss and hug so many guys I fake liked I’m be over it too. Just something that popped into my head when I saw it.

    As for Colton and Tia, who cares? Jordan kept on harping on it and RS too. Who cares what weekend they spent time together? Does it matter? They both have said it was only a few days, so what is the deal if he got the weekend date wrong? I don’t get the drama of it all. Becca was never going to pick Colton anyway, so move on. As for the virgin thing, for the love of God, quit making that a “thing” people. It is a personal choice for personal reasons and nobody’s business. I blame Colton for even bring it up and sharing it, his bad.

    One final thing – I love the bloopers. Some are better than others, but I look forward to them. Frankly, they’re the best part of the show.

  2. jlal

    July 31, 2018 at 9:29 AM

    Forgot to mention – I heard on the radio this morning that Luke Pell is going to be signing at the local zoo’s concert series. They were saying women could win a chance to spend “wink, wink” personal time with Luke. I wanted to gag. I guess I missed the part that he was a country singer.

  3. tinyred500

    July 31, 2018 at 10:36 AM

    I think the whole Colton and virgin thing is well overplayed too. I think it was probably brought up as an added extra to his two/three day fling-ett with Tia…it was backdrop drama for the season. No doubt a trusty producer probably persuaded him to mention it on air, instead of waiting till it was necessary to tell Becca (in private). If she was going to pick him, it wouldn’t have mattered one iota to her. It’s a very personal decision of his and he should be respected for his choice, and not have someone like Jean-Blanc to be rather crude and mock it. 🙁

    I might be the only one, but I liked Jordan he added likeable drama (without being the true villain) to this season, a complete show-off yes! However, him overstating how secure he is etc., usually denotes the opposite.

    Going back to the overnights episode, I noticed Becca gave a short spiel about Chiang Mai and they showed her and the men arriving at their hotel. I don’t remember seeing that since Ben F’s season. I liked it. 🙂

  4. ctrealitygirl

    July 31, 2018 at 10:37 AM

    Wow, jlal…you and I always seem to be on the same page! Great minds think alike, eh?? I, too, thought that Jason presented himself well. He was so damn likable last night and he appears to be genuine. Especially compared to the rest of the bozos! And I believe it was her hug with him (Jason) that you’re referring to, as I thought that hug he asked her for seemed rather cool and very brief…and Becca seemed uncomfortable doing it. Which seemed odd seeing that they had just screened that gut-wrenching scene where she was bawling after sending him home. It’s not been that long since filming ended, so for all her professing that she was falling for him, it seems she had quite a turn-around…but been noticing that with all the leads on the MTA and AFTR shows.I think the leads act that way to preserve their new relationship with the person they chose.
    I also wholly agree you about Grocery Joe. I loved that he was so shy…better that then a loud-mouth fame seeker like most of the people they cast. And RS should take into consideration that, unlike most the guys there, he had no virtually time before a camera, so it’s all very new to him…and especially being called up to the “hot seat” where the attention was on him. Of course he’d be uncomfortable. And that’s what makes him so endearing. I hope he has a good experience on BIP.

  5. tinyred500

    July 31, 2018 at 10:47 AM

    With the overnights, Becca goes on about well her and Blake are so well suited and how she’s liked him from the start, blah, blah, blah, and we know who she picks. It’s done to throw the viewer off tangent to who the lead does pick. They do it each season.

  6. jlal

    July 31, 2018 at 3:45 PM

    Tinyred I too kind of liked Jordan. Or at least found him humorous. I think David?, the guy who lied about him was way worse.

    Right now my top three for bachelor are Jason, Blake and Joe. Jason moved way up, so will see how Blake comes across next week.

  7. ctrealitygirl

    August 1, 2018 at 7:01 AM

    I’m with both of you! Next to Jason, I thought Jordan made the MTA show! And I liked that Jason jumped in and defended him, pointing out that Jordan was never the one provoking – he just reacted to comments made by others, namely David, who I’ve come to thoroughly dislike! I found Jordan quite entertaining!

  8. iris82

    August 5, 2018 at 6:00 AM

    I aggree with all of you about Joe. He seems a bit introverted and shy, but I found his answers endearing. He doesn’t seem fake and annoying like many of the others. Good luck in paradise Joe!

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