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The Bachelorette 14 - Becca

The “Bachelorette” Becca – Episode 9 Recap, (EXCLUSIVE) “Men Tell All” Spoilers, & an Editing Screw Job

A few things to get to today before we begin our shorter recap of last night’s Overnight Dates episode. Next “Bachelor” talk, Bad Chad is in the news, the hack editing job they did to fool the audience, and Des & Chris on “Celebrity Marriage Boot Camp.” I’m recording this week’s podcast today. I will tweet out later once we’re done who it is, but needless to say, there’s going to be some tea spilled this week I’m pretty sure. This is someone who has been mentioned on this site before, was in the news recently, and someone who wasn’t a big fan of mine in 2017. However, things change and, well, they will be on the podcast this week. Looking forward to getting the full story of their “experience.” All too familiar story. Don’t worry, you’ll have your answer later on today when I tweet it out. I just wanna make sure it’s in the can before I tell you who it is. We’ve already had to reschedule once due to scheduling conflicts. But we should be good to go today and it’ll be out this Thursday. So get your popcorn ready.

Our Nell Kalter has her “Floribama Shore” recap now up for your reading pleasure. Check it out. Once again, it’s one of the shows that even if you’re not watching, you will still get a kick out of her writing. Get your “Reader Emails” & “Dr. Reality Steve” emails in for this week. As of now, we’re running a tad low on both of them, so lets ramp those up.

One thing I’m sure even more of you will ask this week in some form or fashion is, “Who is the next Bachelor?” We’re still about 5 weeks out from that announcement and lets face it, none of us know. I’m not going to pretend I know where they’re leaning because what exactly does “leaning” mean? All the guys in Becca’s top 4 not named Garrett are in the running. Of course after last night, most people think it’s Jason. After last week, they thought it’d be Colton. And in two weeks, they’ll think it’s Blake. That’s how it works with the audience. The guy who’s most fresh in their head off his break up is the one most talk about as the next “Bachelor.” It certainly could be one of those guys. Or they could do what they did the last two seasons and pull a random old from a past season like Nick and Arie. I will say this til I’m blue in the face: Ben Higgins and Peter Kraus will ALWAYS be a possibility. I don’t care what Ben says in interviews, if they were 100% sold on having him do it again and offered it to him, he’d absolutely do it again. Peter I think is a much longer shot, but, just to appease the Peter crazies, I guess he’s someone they could go to at some point. The announcement won’t come until we get closer to the end of Paradise, so I’d say in a month or so. Until then, all we can do is wait.

One of the biggest editing fool jobs this season was done last night during the Jason elimination. At the beginning of the season after the first episode when they run the preview for the rest of the season, this is what they showed. I have it cued up to the point from last night when Becca is crying on the bed:

So in that season preview, she says “He literally just did what Arie did to me.” I remember getting bombarded with questions after week 1 wondering what that was all about. I didn’t know at the time, but on stuff in the season preview, you can never take what they show as honest. They’ll always have stuff in there that either:

A) Never ends up getting shown
B) Gets shown but not in the context it was presented in the preview
C) Completely edited to where it’s not at all what they said

And we got our answer last night, since we saw Becca never said “He literally just did what Arie did to me.” She said, “I literally just did what Arie did to me.” Kinda changes the whole narrative, doesn’t it? This happens every season. And every season after that first season preview airs, inevitably I will get asked questions about something they saw that might not have been in the spoilers, or something that didn’t make sense. And it’s impossible to answer because I know how spliced up those season previews are to make things more dramatic than they really are. Just keep that in mind for next “Bachelor” season. Or ANY season preview for that matter because they will screw with you. It’s happened time and time again.

Well this sure was an interesting story. Did you see last week where Bad Chad is suing a movie producer for a bunch of things, one of them being sexual harassment? That’s rich, Chad. Anyway, I don’t know the story, but based on what’s in that article, I don’t see where the “assault and battery” part comes in. Nothing in that story anywhere says this female producer was involved in any sort of assault and battery. Unfortunately Chad, I hope you’re not thinking you’re going to get the $11 million you’re looking for in this one. I’d be surprised if he saw $11 of that. A Hollywood producer promised someone a role then didn’t give it to them? No way! That never happens in Hollywood!

News came out late last week that Desiree and Chris are on the upcoming season of “Celebrity Marriage Boot Camp.” That was news to me but can’t say I’m surprised. That makes them now the 7th couple from this franchise that have gone on the show. Some have been married couples, some haven’t. However, what people are freaking out over is what they saw in the clip. I have it cued up close to the point where Desiree says something that has everyone up in arms:

The “I settled for Chris” line is clearly some creative editing. I haven’t seen the show obviously since it doesn’t air til September, but knowing how editing is done in season previews (as evidenced by how they did it with Becca on last night’s crying scene), I’m pretty sure Desiree is telling the person sitting next to her, “They were saying I settled for Chris,” (or something to that effect), but we only got the last half of the sentence in the clip. Not far fetched to think that’s how that goes. And considering the fact Des & Chris just announced they’re pregnant with baby #2 last week (kinda like how Ashley & JP got pregnant right around the time they filmed CMBC), obviously things are fine in their marriage.

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  1. rob22

    July 24, 2018 at 9:53 AM

    I thought the rafting scene on a Thai national holiday was funny because I once went tubing on Labor Day. It was the exact same thing here. A million people with the same idea. Wall to wall people the whole way. It’s not that great to be literally bumping into a lot of random people. Someone really messed up that idea. I know I’ll never repeat that mistake.

    Anyway, this was one of those seasons where there hasn’t really been anything interesting on the show. It’s been all off the show stuff, and not in a good way. I’m not blaming Becca for this at all…. it’s the guys that have been pretty weak. There’s no way someone like Jason should even be in the F3. There is literally nothing interesting about the guy… not that Blake & whathisname F2 are Mr. Excitements either. I spent most of this season playing on the phone while we ran through the recorded video of the show. My wife would ask questions about something, then we’d have to rewind because neither of us were paying attention. It is truly amazing that they can put out a product this bad & still we watch (sort of). Shame on us, I guess.

  2. adelina

    July 24, 2018 at 10:08 AM

    I am doing the math here and I done do reckon that our gal Becca is attracted to dumb guys.

    Thick neck football dude + Arie + Garrett = dumb dudes. Garrett may take the cake in this category.

  3. annem

    July 24, 2018 at 10:12 AM

    My understanding was that Arie’s “appearance” was the first one-on-one date with Blake when they literally trashed all signs of Arie, the engagement video footage, etc… I think it was just a ploy to get viewers to watch but he was never actually going to appear this season. I think Becca said as much on some talk show interview right before that episode aired. The interviewer said something like “so will you confront Arie?” and she nods knowingly and says something like, “he will make an appearance.” I don’t remember exactly.. it was a clip I saw on IG. I suppose we will see in the final episode, but I think if he was going to be on it there would be lots of hype at this point.

  4. lovebeingretired

    July 24, 2018 at 10:55 AM

    The obvious conclusion, Adelina, is that Becca is not the brightest bulb in the box. Probably a very nice girl, but not so bright.

  5. ctrealitygirl

    July 24, 2018 at 11:05 AM

    Well…Arie was posting to pix Instagram in early to mid May of he and Lauren in Bora Bora and then Hong Kong…so he was just a plane hop away from Thailand, where Becca was on overnight dates. And they were probably wrapping up around mid-May?? They could easily have filmed a scene with him there.
    And I agree with everyone about Garrett. I hadn’t noticed so much before last night’s episode how dumb he sounds. Yikes! Run Becca, run. But I’m also not digging Blake’s brooding either. In that rose ceremony scene where she gives Garrett the 1st rose, i also thought that Blake looked like he wanted to murder him! Scary. I’m pulling for Jason for Bachelor.

  6. jlal

    July 24, 2018 at 2:25 PM

    I too liked the rafting trip. Was impressed with how well Garrett did too. I missed the Garrett is dumb parts. I think he seems like one of the more mature ones. It is not like this show give them time or at least shows them having deep intellectual conversations. I don’t know how tell if anyone is smart or stupid. Unless they’re glaringly stupid which I don’t think he is. Becca does seem to like the manly men though. Seeing who she has liked, I can’t believe she ever liked/loved Arie.
    Think Blake is hotter than heck. As for Jason, I don’t want a man who uses more hair products than me. Still team Blake or grocery Joe for bachelor.

  7. tinyred500

    July 24, 2018 at 2:48 PM

    You beat me to it lovebeingretired and I totally agree. Although that said, we do only get an edited version of someone’s persona and we never see deep meaningful conversations; that what makes the show oh so cheesy!

  8. tinyred500

    July 24, 2018 at 3:01 PM

    RS comments about the morning after the overnight date. Both Kaitlyn ‘and’
    JoJo had breakfast in bed with their men. I find the whole concept of the fantasy suite thing quite ghastly and gross. It’s not something I’d ever do or could ever contemplate, I’d have to pass…and run away! Lol 😀 I’d always be wondering what the lead got up to with the other girls even if he said he only wanted to talk! Nothing could ever be proven either way. 🙁

  9. jlal

    July 24, 2018 at 4:53 PM

    I think the suite concept is sex and they play that up big time. However, that time can also be used to get to know each without the cameras and has been used that way too.

  10. corn29

    July 24, 2018 at 10:16 PM


    > I hadn’t noticed so much before last night’s episode how dumb he sounds.

    You so beat me to it. I was thinking the exact same thing. To say Garrett is dumber than a box of rocks is insulting to rocks.

  11. corn29

    July 24, 2018 at 10:17 PM

    So Becca has said she wants someone who is 50/50 her partner.

    So she boots Jason and keeps the two co-dependent guys.

    Ummmm yeah, that makes sense!

  12. tinyred500

    July 25, 2018 at 1:10 AM

    Sometimes it is played up for the cameras, but mostly it is what it is. The point is, there has never been alternative offered for those who just want to talk. The talking is always in a potentially salacious environment eg. The fantasy suite which involves an overnight stay in one bed. So it leads for both the contestants and viewers ‘wondering’. Personally I wouldn’t want to seen saying yes to that, even if all I was going to do was talk. I wouldn’t want those question marks above my head for ever more.

    I’m sure contestants signing up for this probably think they’ll be able to both emotionally and physiologically cope with the idea of other intimacies…but I’m sure post filming and when cold reality finally kicks in….it’s a different matter altogether. I’m sure that’s a contributing factor why so many Bachelor couples break up. The Bachelorette’s seem to flair better, maybe it’s the notion that it’s normally one other man involved, opposed to two other females still involved like The Bachelor always have to have.

  13. jlal

    July 25, 2018 at 3:51 AM

    You’re right that they don’t offer an alternative to the “fantasy suite”, but that is the point right? They don’t care and probably like it better if someone is uncomfortable, makes better TV. I don’t think the people wondering bothers anyone or at least it shouldn’t. They’re all adults and it is 2018, so there isn’t and shouldn’t be any shame involved.

    Other than the occasional virgin and a few Christian contestants that make it a point to say they were waiting for marriage, they are all experienced adults. It is a given they have had other intimacies, so I don’t think that plays too much. If someone starts dating an adult that has had other relationships and they obsess about past intimacies they have way more issues, i.e. insecurities, possessiveness, jealousy, etc. that need considered. I would break up with someone for those traits, not their past. I say all this though as a women who has never bought into the male/female stereotypes and double standards. Well, maybe back in my early teens when I was still being brain washed by Catholicism and guilt.

  14. tinyred500

    July 25, 2018 at 4:40 AM

    I wasn’t referring to previous intimacies/relationships prior to the show, that’s another thing entirely. I’m referring to what goes on during filming (and after), knowing there are others still around and then you get proposed to knowing the lead could have had sex with one or two others and then proposed to you. You can’t normalise what goes on in the show and compare it to real life whether it’s 2018 or not. The whole concept of the show is far from natural or normal, a person doesn’t normally have sex or intimacies with others just before they propose to another. So with all that, it can’t be easy for the chosen one to cope with post filming .

  15. tinyred500

    July 25, 2018 at 5:00 AM

    I would further add, the show probably doesn’t attract contestants who care what others think of them or their behaviour too much.

  16. jlal

    July 25, 2018 at 5:22 AM

    The thing that I couldn’t do is hug and kiss people I wasn’t interested in at all. I don’t know how they do that. Yuck! Sorry, but I couldn’t let all of those guys I was not attracted to kiss and hang all over me. Granted some contestants do that more than others, but all are pretty much required to suck face with people they’re not into.

  17. tinyred500

    July 25, 2018 at 5:35 AM

    Absolutely agree!! Yucky! Lol They have to pull off quite an act and appear interested when on dates they don’t want to have, and be able to kiss them. I’d be hopeless and feel nauseous about the whole thing! I give them credit for being able to pull it off and some do it soooo well. 😀

  18. ctrealitygirl

    July 25, 2018 at 6:49 AM

    jlal…re: Jason vs Blake as far as hotness goes, I do not know what it is about Jason that i like so much, maybe more his personality. I was not a big fan of his in the beginning but he grew on me. But I went back and re-watched parts of the episode as I had dozed off a few times…and I have to agree with you after re-watching the scene where a shirtless Blake walks Becca to the door to say good-bye…OMG…he is indeed quite hot, and I could sure get used to watching him for 8 weeks 😉

  19. jlal

    July 25, 2018 at 10:14 AM

    tinyred500- Totally get what you’re saying about the timing of it all. You’re right there is nothing normal about the process they go through.

    crealitygirl – I’m tell you, he is HOT. That shirtless scene was exactly the one I was thinking about too. Yikes, but I could look at that eye candy for a few weeks too. He also seems like a nice guy. A bit sensitive, but in real life sensitive guys are rare. I also think Jason has a sex appeal that I can’t define, he just has “it”, so there is that.

  20. tinyred500

    July 25, 2018 at 11:20 AM

    Out of Jason and Blake, I’d opt for Blake every time. We will find out sometime August or September! 😀

  21. jlal

    July 25, 2018 at 11:58 AM

    Me too tinyred500, I like me some Blake!

  22. ctrealitygirl

    July 26, 2018 at 11:40 AM

    I’d be over the moon if it was either Blake or Jason! And I’ll be royally pissed if they make Ben H the Bachelor! The last two bachelors were oldies they dredged up…we need new blood!

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