One of the best parts of my job that I’ve talked about over the years has been the perks that come with it. I’m not necessarily a “product guy.” The perks I’ve always spoke about have been just being able to be my own boss, not answering to anyone, having the ability to come and go as I please, etc. That’s what I love about what I do. But every once in a while, a company will reach out to me and send me some free stuff. All the products you hear me talk about in the ads on my podcast I’ve been sent a sample of beforehand. So that’s been cool. But someone came to me last week completely out of the blue. And this wasn’t for payment, as of now they aren’t advertising anywhere on the site (they might end up on the podcast), and they specifically said this isn’t something I needed to talk about in return for receiving the product, but if I wanted to, I could. Well, I’m going to. You know who sent me product last week? Halo Top Ice Cream. Yes, the same Halo that Jed and Hannah mowed down during their date in Boston. I got sent 5 pints, all different flavors, and yeah, it’s been glorious. Thank you to Halo for doing that. Pretty cool of them to just offer it up for nothing in return. They just wanted me to have it. Let me just say it’s damn good, and I’ve only had 2 of the pints so far. If you wanna send another shipment or twenty my way, feel free. I won’t complain.
In case you missed my tweet yesterday, I was able to confirm that along with Demi getting engaged to her girlfriend Kristian Haggerty on the Paradise finale, there were two other engagements in the end:
Chris Bukowski and Katie Morton
Dylan Barbour and Hannah Godwin
So this matches the record for most engagements during “Bachelor in Paradise.” Season 3 also had 3 engagements with Grant/Lace, Josh/Amanda, & Evan/Carly. And just like only one of those engagements ended up in a marriage, I’m gonna guess that only one of these max ends up in a marriage as well. I don’t think for a second Demi and her gf are going to ever get married. I need to see more of this Chris/Katie relationship before I’m fully convinced that one will happen. So if any one of them actually has a shot, I guess I’ll go with Dylan and Hannah. They were paired up essentially since Day 1 on the show and I’m hearing they’re pretty inseparable so we’ll see. You already have your first two episode spoilers for BIP that I posted last week. I hope to have the rest for you by next week.
As mentioned last week, the “Men Tell All” tapes this Friday in LA. I’m guessing it will be very Luke-centric as the guys will all come gunning for him. There will be people there from Paradise in the audience per usual to hype the new season, as that’s where we usually get our first promo for “Paradise.” If I had to guess, I’d say the four guys that get called up to the hot seat are Cam, Mike, Luke, and maybe Garrett? If Peter attends, then definitely him. But as of now, there’s supposed to be a two night finale on the 29th & 30th, so I don’t know if Peter will be at the MTA. They might save him for the finale. I can’t really think of anyone else who would warrant getting called up in the hot seat since none of the remaining guys got enough air time. Cam, Mike, and Luke absolutely will be since of the guys that will be there, they had the most time on camera. Dylan? John Paul Jones? Kevin? Dustin? No, no, no, and no. The audience wasn’t invested in any of their journeys. So I’ll go with those three and maybe Garrett would be a possible 4th. Although, I could maybe see them bringing John Paul Jones up there strictly for comedic value.
Ok, lets get to the big news from yesterday which was Jed speaking out for the first time in regards to everything that’s been going on. Here’s what he wrote on IG:
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Hi ya’ll. Several of you have reached out with messages and questions. Please know I’m not able to answer right now, but as soon as I’m able to, I will. •Until then, I ask that you please understand how much the actions being taken towards myself, my family, the men on the show, and above all, Hannah, are affecting all of our mental and physical health. •It goes beyond what is said online. Threatening letters and phone calls have been sent to our homes. My parents and sister are being verbally attacked in public. I beg you to remember what seems like a harmless action is damaging to real people. •I want to thank all of you who have reached out or reserved judgement until I am able to speak openly and I can only ask for your patience and kindness until then.
Lets make one thing clear right off the bat. No contestant, or contestant family member, should be threatened or harassed in any way based on what you’ve seen on the show or read on this site or other media outlets. No matter how big of a douche you think Jed is, no matter how mad you are at him for doing this to Hannah, you’re a sick, sick individual and honestly need serious help if you’re taking time out of your day to threaten or harass Jed, his sister, his mom, his dog, whatever. Get a f***ing grip on yourself and your life for that matter if you’re that bothered by this. You’ve completely lost touch with reality. So for that part of Jed’s post, I’m with him. As everyone else should be. He and his family don’t deserve that. Moving on…
Now with that said, I know that really won’t change much. Why? Because we see this every season. What Jed is experiencing is no different than what Olivia received, or Corinne received, or Krystal during Arie’s season, or even Chris during Becca’s season. This is what happens and is one of the negative aspects of this show. I feel like I say this every season about people taking things way too far with that seasons “villain,” yet here we are again. And we’ll be there next season for whoever that villain is, I guarantee it. You can only do so much. It’s why if anyone ever asks me about going on this show, this is the stuff I focus on. This is the stuff I warn them about. Of course, they don’t listen because they don’t think any of that stuff will happen to them, but you have to go into this show 100% ready for an onslaught of negative feedback unlike anything you’ve ever seen in your life.
Outside of a few past contestants who were in the spotlight for something they did, most of these people cast are just every day people who’ve never been put under a microscope or had their life dissected before. There’s no way to prepare for it if you’ve never been there, and 95% of these contestants have no clue how to handle it. I hate to say it, but Jed brought this upon himself. He didn’t think he was because I don’t think for a second Jed ever thought that Haley would speak to the media and show receipts. Well, she did and now he must suffer the consequences. The consequences being a broken engagement and heavy media criticism. He doesn’t deserve threats or harassment, but he does deserve any criticism coming his way. People are allowed to have opinions when news like this breaks. They should keep it to just that, opinions, but we know others get carried away. Hell, telling trolls “stop threatening and harassing” is probably gonna make them do it more unfortunately. It’s the price you pay for going on this show and none of these people ever choose to look at it that way.
We get that Jed can’t address this now because he’s still on the show and anything he says publicly would be impossible to address without spoiling the show. However, I’m still trying to wrap my head around what this guy could possibly say in the finale when can speak for the first time on this that’s gonna make anyone do a 180 on him. If Haley never provided receipts, then sure, it’s a he said, she said and there would be people who’d take Jed’s side over her. But we saw what he wrote her. If he tries to downplay the relationship, the receipts prove otherwise. He could come out and say, “I broke up with her, we were over, she knew we were over and she’s lying,” but if that’s the case, then why are you telling her you love her before you get on the plane to go film and to wait for you? The guy just needs to own what he did, realize it cost him a relationship, grovel, beg, say you ruined the best thing you ever had with Hannah, and maybe maybe that’ll garner you some sympathy with the viewers. Other than that, I can’t think of anything this guy could say or do where everyone’s gonna do a 180 on the guy.
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July 9, 2019 at 9:42 AM
Jed’s family is getting a bad rap. I think they know he is immature and not ready. They said so, so is wasn’t about Hannah. She just happened to be the girl there that night. It was about Jed. And Jed’s parents were pretty honest about him. They know the dude is still a mess and not ready. Whether it was Hannah, Haley or any other girl. But Hannah ignores what they were putting down. They really tried to warn her about their boy. And many viewers did not like it. I found it refreshing. Honest hometowns are always the best hometowns.
July 9, 2019 at 11:47 AM
Also, can we address the little temper tantrum Jed threw at the rose ceremony!!!! Do you think the producers had any clue about Haley and knew the goldmine they hit with that little outburst?
July 9, 2019 at 1:19 PM
I was thinking the exact same thing last night, aflo78! Wondering if Jed cringed when he saw that back after all the bad publicity he’s gotten and is whining about. Like the old saying goes: “If you want to play, you have to pay.” Hilarious!
July 9, 2019 at 1:57 PM
“Seems like a low blow. YOU were the one that kept him around all season. If it was as bad as you’re saying it was, then you should’ve let him go early…..Going all in 4 times seems a bit excessive.”
Maybe we’ll understand it better–and the anger that drove those comments–after watching Luke try to shame her (or come over as superior to her, however you want to frame it) next week. Just a thought. Hell hath no fury like a bachelorette scorned, perhaps.
I’m pretty sure if I had given a problem boyfriend the benefit of the doubt multiple times, only to have him turn on me in the end and reject me because I was no longer “godly” enough for him, I’d be nursing a bit of a grudge. (I’m not saying that’s what happened, but it does kind of look like it, doesn’t it? I guess we’ll see.)
July 9, 2019 at 5:03 PM
So…he was in a “relationship ” with another girl for FOUR months, and now everyone is ready to crucify the guy? It might be a story if it were four YEARS. And I’m pretty sure he’s not the first contestant that went on the show purely for exposure. He probably had no idea he would end up actually falling for Hannah. Sorry Haley, but if he was that into you, he never would have went on the show.
July 9, 2019 at 5:34 PM
Why do so many people on this series have such a problem giving a toast? So often they say, “give a cheers to”, when they should actually “propose (or give) a toast to”, then say what they want to say about whatever, followed by, “to our future (or the most beautiful woman I’m with tonight, or whatever)”, followed by whoever agrees with the toast saying, “cheers”, or “to our future”, as they clink and drink.
TL;DR – It’s a toast, not a “cheers”.
July 9, 2019 at 11:15 PM
Bravo, Steve, on Jed’s career. As the saying goes, you can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear. Yes, he not only is not a good singer, he sounds like 8 million other guys who are not good singers and his songwriting is nothing to write home about either. And I can’t tell you how I wanted to shout at the TV, “Tune your damn guitar!” Can’t freaking stand out of tune string instruments.
Frankly, I’ve never thought Luke was so bad. Most of what he’s said so far sounds like he just wasn’t made for this kind of situation. Most guys, in the real world, who were getting set to marry a woman WOULD definitely get upset hearing she just went bungee jumping, naked, chest-to-chest, loin-to-loin with another guy. And in the real world, it would hurt to hear that other guy excitedly describing it. But this – that he signed up for – is not the real world.
It sounds like he got very right-wing Christian judgmental with her (After what he admitted he’d done? Much double standard?)
My guess is, as she said to him Week 3, he needed to stop “flaunting our relationship in front of the other guys” because it obviously just would get them worked up and jealous. Did producers keep encouraging him?
Steve, I think religion played a big part in it, with likely many deep religious conversations we were not privy to. But….. guy had a great body, enough to make the other guys jealous of that, too; and she admitted to Harrison that Luke was the best kisser, saying she could go on with him for hours. So, the physical attraction I think played a big role.
They needed a villain, they guys already were fomenting it – jealousy probably foremost – it was easiest for producers to just run with that one and amplify the dislike and hatred in whatever ways or hints they could.
Please do try to get an interview with Luke P. As for his slut-shaming Hannah, sometimes these ex-anythings are the worst. Ex-smokers – they are the worst to light up around. Ex-addicts, etc. Especially in the beginning, they have zero tolerance for being around their old vice. Hopefully, Luke’s attitude toward pre-marital sex will soften with age and reality and waking up to the 21st century. But if the up-coming scene is what it looks like, I can’t blame Hannah for being offended.
July 10, 2019 at 1:51 PM
OK, here goes on Luke. What I got from that hometown is that Luke is the Big Dog in his town, or at least with his group. As long as he’s the Big Dog and pretty much gets to dictate what happens, he’s fine. On The Bachelorette, he not only wasn’t the Big Dog and didn’t get to dictate terms, but his attempts to control everyone on the show turned everyone against him. He was a fish out of water at that point, so things just went from bad to worst. It would never work with him and Hannah, because as much of a mess that Hannah is, she’s not going to put up with a controlling guy. That’s been the basis of the arguments she’s had with him. Luke doesn’t get to dictate what she, or anyone else does on The Bachelorette. Drives him crazy. As far as his religion goes, Christianity really isn’t something that really “changes” someone outwardly instantaneously. I mean, they’re supposed to change, and as they grow and mature with their faith, they hopefully make positive changes and improve. But it’s not surprising that a relatively new Christian of his age, really doesn’t much understand his religion yet & comes across as a hypocrite. I give him somewhat of a pass because of his age. But he is still representing his religion poorly and he really needs to own it. I hope he comes out and falls on his sword and apologizes for his behavior on MTA. There’s really no place else to go with it. If he tries to justify it, blame others or claim that he was edited poorly, it’s not going to come across well. I think we’ll see very quickly if Luke has learned anything, because they’re going to come at him hard and he needs to just take it like a man. I’m guessing he starts by apologizing, but I bet he won’t stick to it when the guys bring the heat on him. He can’t handle that.
July 14, 2019 at 9:32 PM
Not considering what we know about Jed now — but if we didn’t know about Jed’s GF prior to the show, the reaction to the rose ceremony would have been different…
… I’m totally with Jed about saying WTF when he gets a rose after Luke.
Personally, I would have gone up to Hannah to say goodbye and excused myself from the running. There’s no way in hell, no matter how hot she is or the connection we supposedly have, that the woman for me has that bad of a decision making process.
July 14, 2019 at 9:34 PM
> Why do so many people on this series have such a problem giving a toast?
Because it’s not organic and completely manufactured.
You’re right, making a toast is easy. When it’s genuine that is. When you have to pull stuff out of your rear, because everything around you is manipulated, that’s when it gets hard I imagine.
July 15, 2019 at 10:38 AM
I felt like Luke’s family was trying to redeem his rep., but how would they know how bad he’s been? Hannah should sent him packing weeks ago. He is an insecure, immature, jealous, controller, who uses his religion as an excuse to be judgmental. No thanks!
Jed was so playing a game with Haley, Hannah and the show. I don’t think for a minute he was serious, just playing along.
I like Peter and had no issue with his calling his car baby. I’m a car nut and have always love cars. I get that to some (most of my family and friends) a car is just to get from point A to B, but to us car lovers they are much more. Also, had no issue with taking her for a flight. Pretty cool and something I’d have loved to do. Condoms in the console, I didn’t think good or bad. Just great he practices safe sex. I’m a women, but someone tell me is that bad like RS seems to think?
Tyler is and has always been my favorite.
July 15, 2019 at 3:11 PM
Late to the party, but what’s in it for Pilot Pete? I read he’s a pilot for Delta Airlines. He probably does regional flights as he’s a newbie. How did he get the time off to do this show (or does he not have a job anymore?)? If I were the Bachelorette, I’d be looking at why someone would come on the show and on that basis alone, I’d choose Peter. He has nothing to gain by being on the show other than to find someone. He’s not going to give up being a commercial pilot in order to become a model or sports commentator. He seems really nice and into her. His family seemed very nice. He has a good job and he doesn’t live in some hellacious town in the middle of nowhere. Maybe I am too rational, but I just don’t get why she’d go for Luke and his dodgy music career, especially since it’s obvious he has no talent. I am convinced that Luke was a producer pick and she was forced to keep him on to keep the drama going. Tyler is dullsville. I can’t take his monotone dude-alicious voice, but I suppose if he’s not talking, he’s easy on the eye. At least working for his father’s business he has a guaranteed paycheck coming in. Hannah just has bad taste in men. My picks: #1. Peter; #2. Tyler. No one else qualifies.