Well it’s back upon us. Season 6 of “Bachelor in Paradise.” And in case you missed the news yesterday, not that this should come as any surprise to anyone, but “Bachelor,” “Bachelorette,” and “Bachelor in Paradise,” have all been officially renewed for 2020. Of course they were. This show isn’t going anywhere. And hey, that means I basically just signed a Tom Brady-like deal. You know how Tom is basically on a year-to-year contract until he decides to call it quits? Basically every time this show gets renewed, that’s me getting a new one year deal – for myself. Because as long as this show is on the air, barring anything catastrophic, I’ll be here doing the same thing I’ve done for the last 10 years. So no worries. Rumors of my demise have been greatly exaggerated. Always wanted to say that line. Anyway, a few tweets and DM’s last night asking me when I’m gonna release the BIP spoilers. Sooooooo, yeah. Here they are. Again. In case you missed them the numerous times I’ve been giving them out over the last month. Your full BIP episode-by-episode spoilers. Click on it. Savor it. Love it. It’ll help you get through this shit show, I promise.
Get your “Reader Emails” in for tomorrow. We keep the same schedule during all of “Bachelor in Paradise” airing, although the BIP recaps are much, much shorter. I’ll have usually just 2-3 pages tops on a Tuesday recap. Wednesday’s “Reader Emails” usually will just have a one page summary of Tuesday’s BIP episode followed by the emails, then the podcast on Thursday. But needless to say we’ve got a few things to get to before recapping last night, don’t you think? Anything interesting happen these last few days while I was in Vegas? Oh yeah, did a quick 2 day trip this weekend. Had a great time, met some people, heard even more “Bachelor” gossip, but unfortunately can’t share that one. Promised I wouldn’t. Not terribly juicy, so it’s not like you’re missing out on something major. But definitely plays into BIP. Amazing how even on weekends away I still hear shit non stop about this show.
So lets go in order of events, and start out with the Jed Media Tour that took place towards the end of last week. Truth: I listened to the whole podcast with Ali and Rachel. I didn’t listen to him on Ben and Ashley’s. After the first one, I kinda figured I didn’t need to listen to the second one. Yes, I’ve received all your emails asking me my thoughts on it, especially Ali’s stance and how she conducted herself. I’m not gonna get into that part. You all heard it. And you all seem to feel the same way. Of course I have questions about what I heard from the hosts, but I don’t want to turn this into a critique of someone else’s podcast. I rarely listen to any to begin with, and frankly, now I know why. I’m too busy critiquing in my own head and thinking of questions and follow up questions I’d be asking and it’s too frustrating. And I’m sure people do that with me too. So I don’t wanna get into that part of it. It’s their show, they can ask (or not ask) whatever they want. I wanna deal with just Jed’s answers.
Plenty of you have asked if I’d put Jed on my podcast. And my answer is, it all depends on if he realizes what an interview with me would be like. It’d be very similar to the Paulie interview. Because based on what he told Ali & Rachel, if he gave me those same answers (and I’m assuming he would because if he doesn’t, he’d be called out for changing his story), my follow ups would be in depth and I think a lot of his answers would lead to me saying, “Jed, I don’t believe you” or “Jed, I guess we’ll just agree to disagree.” And then the whole interview just becomes this negative tone where I basically don’t buy anything he’s selling. Do people really want to hear that? I don’t know. I think even after a while, I’m sure a lot of you would even be saying, “Geez Steve, let it go.” But if the point of having him on is to call him out on some of the answers he’s given post show, then we have to dive into stuff I didn’t hear on that podcast. And there would absolutely be a lot of “that’s bullshit,” “I don’t buy it,” and “I don’t believe you” from me. Wouldn’t be a pleasant experience for him, but hey, if he’s willing to face the music and knows I’m not just going to accept his answers that he gives and move on to the next question, then sure, he can come on. I just don’t think he will.
But lets talk about a couple things that stood out to me in the Ali & Rachel podcast that he said. This answer about the likes on IG, I mean, whaaaaa? Huh? WTF? He says those likes came because he accidentally double clicked on the comment? Jed, when you double click on a PHOTO on IG, that’s how you like it. To like a comment you have to actually take your finger all the way to the right and push the heart. That answer made zero sense and I don’t buy it for a second. Double clicked the comment? Wrong and you’re dumb. Next. CORRECTION: You can like a comment by double tapping it. But I still don’t understand why he’d double click the comment if he wanted to see the replies. You’d hit the reply button. Is it possible? Yes. Just seems like a reach of an answer.
This story he told about how “at the dock” was a meditation phrase and didn’t literally mean he’d meet her at the dock? Ok fine. I’m even giving him the benefit of the doubt because that seems awfully ridiculous to make up. But because he didn’t mean he’d physically meet Haley at the dock when filming was over doesn’t change anything in the story to me. The texts and card clearly showed this was someone you were close with, were involved with much more serious than you led on, and you were absolutely planning on seeing when you got back from filming as long as you didn’t “win.” I don’t care if the dock was a meditation word or not, the context of what you were saying in the texts and card doesn’t change.
His big thing he stood behind was, “Well yeah, you saw the texts and card, but there were phone calls had where Haley absolutely was aware of where I stood.” See to me, that’s an easy out for him. Why? Because only those two know what was said on any phone calls between them. And I guarantee if I ask Haley about those phone calls, she’d say she never thought the way he did. So he’s hiding behind something that can never be proven. What can be proven are the texts and cards he sent her, things which he never denied he sent, and it’s just “I don’t know why I sent those,” which is kind of a dick move after the fact. Because I guarantee if Hannah didn’t pick him, he wouldn’t be saying that.
The guy tries to apologize and accept responsibility for what he did, but can’t keep his mouth shut and was still taking jabs at Haley saying she waited until he had 250k IG followers to tell her story. So is he accepting responsibility for what he did, or is he blaming Haley still? I think you’re diminishing your responsibility in this if you follow an apology up with a “b-b-b-b-but she waited to capitalize on it herself.” As we said at the time, Haley can’t help the fact she’s a singer. That’s her profession. Unless she just started taking up singing right when you left for the show, only THEN would I think you can accuse her to try and promote her career. She was singing long before she met you. If she was dentist and you did this to her, and she told the story to People.com and did my podcast, would people be saying she’s out promoting her dental career? No.
There were plenty of other things in that podcast that had me scratching my head listening to him, but honestly, I was in the car driving, and I wasn’t taking any notes. I’m just going off what I remember. The other stuff that stuck out to me was in regards to things Ali & Rachel said, but I don’t wanna get into that. What Jed said on stage last Tuesday night seemed to line up with what he told them. So it’s not like he’s changing his story. I just don’t think Jed really was able to grasp what he did, and honestly him acting shocked that Haley thought there was still hope for them when in his mind it was over, kinda speaks more to him, dating culture in 2019, and how things are with him. Yes, he admitted he was sleeping with other women while with Haley, so it couldn’t have been that serious. Great. That doesn’t make you a noble guy, Jed. It makes you a f***boy, because Haley had no clue you were. And neither did “Barbie,” who had no clue you were with Haley at the time you slept with her. That mindset is so backwards, I can’t believe he was basically building a case for himself around that.
And that’s why I’m not sure an interview with me would go anywhere. I truly think deep down, even though he’s saying he’s sorry and realizing now how much he hurt Haley, I truly don’t think this guy thinks he really did much wrong and that Haley is overreacting. And how do you reason with someone who is looking at the situation that way? You can’t, can you? Not to mention, he’s gonna keep throwing out there, “Hey, we had phone conversations where it was clear we weren’t exclusive.” Yeah, phone conversations none of us will ever hear so it’s an easy cop out. So those are my brief thoughts on his media tour. No need to fill me on what he said with Ben and Ashley. I’m sure it was a lot of the same stuff. I could barely tolerate listening to him on one podcast. I’m certainly not giving him more of my time on another one.
moenglish24
August 6, 2019 at 9:12 AM
You actually can double tap a comment to like it! You’re not quite in what I’d call the current “young” generation so can’t blame you for not knowing I guess………
wavie101
August 6, 2019 at 10:45 AM
I don’t understand why everyone is so obsessed with Tyler. He spent his entire on the show literally spouting crap about how he respects women so much. Sure that’s something great, but he knew what he was doing. He was literally building a brand. Now he’s going to be making money and connecting himself with famous women.
dogmomma
August 6, 2019 at 11:34 AM
I agree with the general idea Steve gave about Hannah & Tyler’s current relationship. I didn’t think they were trying to get back together because they never insinuated that anytime last week. I’m glad Hannah is going to enjoy being single because she’s pretty young and she probably got a lot of personal growth out of the season and hopefully she has learned some lessons about watching out for red flags when you date someone. When Tyler was on Ben & Ashley’s podcast, Ben told him to stay true to himself and not let the fame go to his head. That’s going to be hard to do since he has become so popular, and now he’s going out with a famous model. I’m sure we’ll see more of him in the tabloids. I ended up liking Hannah a lot more than I thought at the beginning of the season, so I hope she keeps her dating life more private.
ctrealitygirl
August 6, 2019 at 1:03 PM
I truly wish everyone would simmer down with all the attention they’re giving Tyler’s dates with Gigi Hadid. For crying out loud, he’s a hunk of a guy and an attractive famous model starts following him at the end of his stint on the Bachelorette, where he gets his heart broken. So, what if he had drinks with Hannah one night then dated someone else?? Watching AFTR I saw how he tensed up when Chris Harrison was nudging Hannah about her feelings for him, and I truly felt that, being the nice guy that he is, agreed to the drink invitation rather than shoot her down on national TV after everything else she’d been through, especially the disappointment in her final pick. I just wish ABC would relax and still give him a chance to be the next Bachelor. I found Chris Harrison’s recent statements about Tyler not being serious enough for the gig to be maddening. I have a hunch that they have someone else in mind and are looking to sabotage Tyler’s chances. And after watching BIP last night, I couldn’t help but wonder whether they might be looking at Clay Harbor for the role?? It would silence all the viewers criticizing ABC for not being racially diverse. And he’s a hunky football player ala Colton. Just sayin’
zombie_hands
August 6, 2019 at 1:32 PM
Steve I couldn’t even tell you the number of times I accidentally liked something! It can be done…I’m living proof! I believe him on that.
justsaying
August 6, 2019 at 1:51 PM
Predictable of Chris Harrison (a.k.a. Bachelor mouthpiece) is now smearing Tyler, just because he rejected Hannah and went with Gigi.
justsaying
August 6, 2019 at 1:58 PM
@zombie_hands It’s also very easy to unlike something once you’ve liked it
dogmomma
August 6, 2019 at 2:01 PM
But I wonder if Tyler would even want to be the Bachelor… There are usually only a handful of good contestants on the show, and he’s now gone out with a famous model. He can probably do way better on his own, and he doesn’t have to do a fake proposal after knowing someone for a month.
ctrealitygirl
August 6, 2019 at 2:31 PM
You nay be right dogmomma. I did read one interview with him (before his dates with Gigi Hadid), where he stated that he wasn’t sure he wanted it. He may just not be cut out for it. And, with his looks and being such a nice guy, he’ll do quite well on his own, like you said. I just hate that Chris Harrison is dissing him. Did he really think they could manipulate them to get together??
tinyred500
August 6, 2019 at 3:02 PM
I agree with so many of your points and dogmomma’s. Chris Harrison said it was all about ‘sincerity as to why Tyler might not get the Bachelor lead. Does he truly believe the leads and contestants alike are sincere in their quest!? Don’t most go on there for the platform now? The programme let sincerity fly out the window long ago…and it shows by the type of contestants they allow to participate! SMH What utter twaddle!
Hannah and Tyler are not an item, like so many have said previously, he was put on the spot at ATFR. I don’t care what Tyler does or doesn’t do, I just hope he doesn’t let fame go to his head.
adelina
August 6, 2019 at 4:37 PM
@waivie101….totally agree with you about Tyler saying all of the right things. I don’t know if I’d label it brand building, but he is well aware of his looks and well aware of how easily women swoon when someone so handsome also appears to have a heart. Sometimes I shake my head at the breadcrumbs women will settle for and then absolutely fall over when someone is simply kind. Something we should all expect at a minimum.
anita29
August 6, 2019 at 6:44 PM
For the people keeping count, Tyler just reached 2M followers on Instagram. I think he is number one on Bachelor Nation.
joanne
August 6, 2019 at 7:20 PM
I don’t think Chris Harrison smeared Tyler or said anything out of line. But the fact is, if Tyler is openly dating someone he’s not going to be picked. And for all we know, Tyler might not even want to be the Bachelor.
I’m not really sure what the big attraction is to him anyway, but that’s just me.
Tyler hasn’t done anything wrong, but if photos keep appearing on TMZ and other sites of him with Gigi or whoever, he’s won’t be ABC’s choice. They have to keep up the facade that people are going on the show to find “true love”.
dogmomma
August 7, 2019 at 10:21 AM
It will be interesting to see who is the next Bachelor. When Mike comes on Paradise next week, we’ll see how they portray him. They’ve already given Pilot Pete an edit that could put him in that spot. And as for Clay… I didn’t see much personality in him on Paradise so they would have to do something to make him stand out if they wanted to cast him. They started picking people off the radar lately… what if they chose Blake?? Now that would cause some drama!!!
justsaying
August 7, 2019 at 2:03 PM
@joanne Chris Harrison was comparing Tyler to Blake and went on and on about how Tyler’s bouncing around from girl to girl blah blah, and how Tyler’s was Hannah’s 2nd or 3rd choice at best. Alrighttyyyy, not dissing Tyler at all. Now Chris H isn’t onboard with Hannah and Tyler.. eyes roll.
Mike for bachelor, pleaseeee pretty pleaseeee with a cherry on top. Peter is phony baloney, I don’t find him hot or handsome what-so-ever.
rob22
August 8, 2019 at 9:45 AM
So if Tyler can get on with Gigi Hadad and gather 2M IG followers, what does he need The Bachelor for? He’s already accomplished what most Bachelors can only dream of. And certainly Tyler is already dating WAY above Hannah. So why would he need Hannah? The guy’s living the life. If The Bachelor wants Tyler, they’re going to have to cut a really big check. That may not even be enough.
carbha
August 8, 2019 at 7:23 PM
From that picture of Tyler on his phone leaving Hannah’s apartment; I don’t even think he was even interested in her. I think they got closure and that was the end. Tyler was rejected by Hannah over 2 months ago so he has moved on. If he has been texting Gigi for a while now and they can now go public then I don’t see that he is the bad guy that Chris Harrison is trying to make him out to be. Hannah screwed up when she didn’t choose him and that is all on her and her alone.
justsaying
August 9, 2019 at 1:41 PM
@carbha, I agree with your analysis about Tyler leaving Hannah’s apartment. He was busy with his phone and not smiling then, proceeded to just walk off.
Nick, on his podcast, brought up a great point. If the tabloids had photos of Hannah and Tyler hugging and kissing, they most certainly would have released it.